Sunday, November 18, 2012

Appearance Checklist - Part 2

It can be hard sometimes to translate paragraphs of advice into concrete (which often means quantified) goals, so here is a list of questions you can ask yourself the next time you get confused about why the guy you want likes your hotter friend. You probably don't need me to tell you that the answer to all of them should be "yes."
  1. Have I spent the time to find at least three makeup combinations that work well with my complexion - realizing that this includes trying out the ones that I think might be best a few times each?
  2. Have I evaluated my figure and learned with absolute certainty which clothes compliment my figure best? If I’ve gained or lost weight have I re-evaluated this? Have I had an expert confirm my conclusions?
  3. Have I thrown away all but one pair of sneakers, which I wear only for working out or exercising?
  4. Do I wear moisturizer with at least SPF 15 daily, so that I protect my skin in order to prevent the effects of aging?
  5. Do I drink a glass of water (or more) every night before I go to sleep in order to prevent dehydration and maintain healthy skin?
  6. Do I spend at least 20 minutes on my hair every day, even if I am not going anywhere special?
  7. Do I show (at least) some cleavage or legs regularly, without acting like a whore?
  8. Have I thrown away everything baggy from my wardrobe?
  9. Have I thought objectively about the whiteness of my teeth and acted accordingly?
  10. Am I in the habit of wearing matching underwear, even if I am not dating a guy and have no plans of hooking up with anyone?

37 comments:

  1. I read somewhere about some moisturizers with sun protection being less effective especially as the day progresses. My dermo recommended at least sun factor 30. I'm using this one at the moment: http://www.amazon.com/Roche-Posay-Anthelios-Melt-In-Cream/dp/B000XMIHGO ... it is reasonably priced and looks good under makeup.

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  2. hey andrew, the recent comments on the sidebar hasn't been working for a while. thought i would let you know.

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    1. I can see them fine - what browser are you using (I normally use Chrome)?

      Is anyone else having this problem? Please let me know.

      Thanks

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    2. I can't see them either, and it's been like that for a fire.
      Tried Safari and Firefox.

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  3. I fixed the comments. Let me know if the number of comments shown or number of words per preview needs adjusting.

    You can get the title of the post that the comment is from by hovering over the commenter's name with your mouse/pointer.

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  4. 1. I have maybe two makeup combinations that work well with my skin coloring. I may or may not take the time to develop a third.

    2. My clothes look great on me. I get alterations done when necessary to make sure that they do. And I receive compliments on my clothing very often.

    3. I haven't thrown away all of my sneakers, but then again, I only have three pair. They are rarely worn.

    4. I like Eucerin Sensitive Skin Everyday Protection Face Lotion. It has SPF30.

    5. I don't drink as much water as I should, but am working to increase my daily intake. Question, doesn't drinking water before bed mean that you will get up during the night to go to the bathroom?

    6. I don't need to spend 20 minutes a day on my hair.

    7. I wearing clothing that shows off my figure more often that I show legs or cleavage. And no, I don't act like a whore.

    8. I don't own baggy clothing and can't understand why anyone would.

    9. My teeth are naturally pretty white, although I have considered professional bleaching. That may be on my to-do list for 2013.

    10. Yes, I do wear matching underwear.

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    1. "Question, doesn't drinking water before bed mean that you will get up during the night to go to the bathroom?"

      Yes, normally. But it also keeps you hydrated.

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  5. Andrew, could you be gay?:) Not to mock you or anything but you're super aware of all womanly things for an average dude. I know, I'm talking from my own stereotypes and all, but the level of detail in your posts is unusual, that's for sure.

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    1. Through this blog you are only seeing a small portion of what I apply my observations to, so I can see how it seems that way. But no, I am not gay.

      I could just as easily have written a blog for men about how to improve their chances with women; but I didn't because there are hundreds if not thousands already.

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    1. Sometimes they can work with outfits but they are WAY too much of a fad in some places; in those places they just look bad because they are so unoriginal.

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    2. They're called Uggs for a reason-they are ugg-ly! It takes a helluva cute outfit to make them work.

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  7. Does "throw away all baggy" include big t-shirts to sleep? I thought a girl sleeping on a man's t-shirt was considered sexy!

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  8. Hey Andrew, I am curious as to what your opinion is on girls with a head scarf? I've had many men say they were intrigued by the hidden element of the hair. Can you still be thought of as attractive if you wear one (in a modest way?)
    http://fluxnewsonline.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/blogfashion-org.jpg
    http://www.newspakistan.pk/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/hijab-style-4-women.jpg
    http://scanfree.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/hijab-fashions-7.jpg

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  9. I miss match my underwear because I like it that way. The colors go together but different patterns and sometimes they clash based on my mood.

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  10. This is hilarious...who are you to dictate how much time a woman should spend doing her hair?! I don't know a single man who has such specific requirements for a woman. Extremely arrogant

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  11. If men want women to be almost perfect then they should try too...just saying. Don't want to be trying my best to look good if the guy won't. Great advice though.

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  12. No, I don't spend 20 minutes every day on my hair because it is healthy and shiny and I can make big Victorias Secret style waves, flat iron it sleek and straight or put it in a classy updo, all in less than 5 minutes. Same for all of my "hot friends". You know who spends 20 minutes or more on her hair every day? This woman:
    http://tlc.discovery.com/games/brackets/tlc-best-hair/images/TLC-hair-michelle-duggar-300x200.jpg

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    1. I can guarantee you it would look better if you spent more time.

      Most women need at least 20 minutes to make it look great. If you have thin hair, you need to spend time creating volume. If you have long and thick hair, it takes time to manage it.
      One example is that I can create waves in my long hair by just using a curling iron. But the best result comes from flat ironing it first and then curling it. So more effort = better result.
      I'd love to see a youtube video of how you get that hair ready, right after shower.

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    2. And I can guarantee you that your hair would look better if you spent 3 hours on it daily instead of 20 minutes, but what's the point of requiring some arbitrary number of styling minutes if someone can still look great in 1/4 the time?

      Besides, women don't always need to wash their hair every day, in fact many of the most coveted celebrity hairstyles are done on hair that hasn't been washed in 2+ days. Lots of styles will last more than one day and can just be touched up in 30 seconds in the morning and look amazing. A good hairdresser can show you how to do this.

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    3. Of course the more time spent, the better. So you need to find a middle ground. 5 minutes may be enough to look 'acceptable', but not attractive. I spend 30 - I have naturally full, long, healthy hair, and that's what I think it takes to look great, everyday. Point is - you spend 5 minutes because you can't be bothered to spend more, not because that's what it takes for your hair to look amazing.

      I don't wash my hair every day. 30 minutes is what I spend when I start styling/my hair is dry. I've never recommended women to wash their hair every day. Of course my hair will look 'ok' when I styled it the day before, but sleeping will affect your hair no matter what, and a 'natural' bed head is not a good look. Hair does require styling after you get out of bed, no matter how well you took care of it the day before.

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    4. Okay, that's ridiculous. I don't even brush my hair for my days. I said this once at a party, and this guy said, "You don't need to. Your hair is perfect." It's one of the things I'm known for, great hair. But, it's just genes. I have naturally beautiful hair, that still looks perfect when I wake up in the morning. It is long, voluminous, shiny, and gorgeous. Some people have to work harder at other parts of their looks, some don't. Sometimes, it just boils down to genetics.

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    5. I think you have to know yourself. I have ridiculously thick hair and it's naturally wavy. There are many styles I cannot do. At all. So, I keep my hair long and slightly layered at the ends to make it lighter and not so heavy. I add some gel to hold the curl together and my hair does the rest. I do deep conditioning with coconut oil so it's shiny, lustrous and strong. I could fight my hair, try to straighten it, but my hair won't hold it--it wants to bend. By working with my hair's texture, rather than against it, I don't have to use any heat processing or chemicals, so it stays healthy. Besides, I have gorgeous loose curls framing my face and cascading over my shoulders, back and breasts...in 5 minutes. Keep up the idea that you must spend significant time styling if you wish, I say know your hair.

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  13. And I can guarantee you that your hair would look better if you spent 3 hours on it daily instead of 20 minutes, but what's the point of requiring some arbitrary number of styling minutes if someone can still look great in 1/4 the time?

    Besides, women don't always need to wash their hair every day, in fact many of the most coveted celebrity hairstyles are done on hair that hasn't been washed in 2+ days. Lots of styles will last more than one day and can just be touched up in 30 seconds in the morning and look amazing. A good hairdresser can show you how to do this.

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  14. I'm sorry, but most men are average joes with average jobs. They're not going after beautiful women because they think she will leave him for someone else. They think the average looking woman has fewer options, thus she will be less likely to leave and have lower standards. It's not as simple as looking your best, smiling, and speaking well. The neat, average looking women have much better chances at true love, because the man can actually pay attention to what she says. I'm not saying this is true for everyone, but face it, most people are average. How many attractive people do you see on a regular basis?

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  15. Andrew!!

    Walked out the door this morning, hair down, lipstick on, pretty dress, elegant but showing a little leg, I thought I'll wear my high heels out to get my lunch instead of flats and I got a huge smile and flirt from a guy... A clear 7 too!!

    The first time a guy has expressed appreciation for a while and it felt fantastic!! Hooray!!

    Xx

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    1. Feels good, right? Just before I found this blog, I had made a conscience effort to put much more emphasis on my appearance and the feedback has been great! Keep it up!

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    2. It feels fantastic.. I'm really pleased and I'll definitely keep it up.



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  16. Regarding baggy clothes, I have to keep them from work. I was spoken to a few times for wearing form fitting clothes and how it's not appropriate for work. Since I wanted to keep my job, I have to keep loose clothes to conceal my shape. My female boss literally said, "you're pretty and your clothes are noticeable. If you weren't pretty, what you wear wouldn't matter.".

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    1. Wow. Your boss sounds incredibly jealous....

      I'd say wear your clothes as tight as you can without breaking the rules, or else quit.

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  18. I just started reading this blog and I have probably read at least 30 of them within the past couple of days. I usually read through the comments as well and I just want to say that what you're doing is really admirable. I imagine that answering the same things over and over can get annoying and monotonous. But it really is eye-opening because women (or at least me and a few others I can think of) don't really think about how the male brain works in comparison to ours, or what they're really looking for in our appearance. We tend to just assume that we know best. I am learning so much from this blog, so thank you, Andrew!

    I also have a question. I read all of the Appearance Checklist posts, so let me know if I'm wrong but I didn't see anything about perfume or scents in general. I'm just wondering if scent is important to men because I often wear perfume and find it one of my most important accessories. I also appreciate men who wear tasteful cologne or just smell good because of their aftershave and/or deodorant.

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    1. Some men like a scent on their woman. Some men don't like any scent on their woman. Really, it depends on the man.

      It's reputed that scents with vanilla tones are attractive to men because it reminds them of home.

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