tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post1081106054278959567..comments2024-03-18T05:54:22.734-07:00Comments on The Rules Revisited: Why You Can't Get the Men You WantAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comBlogger261125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-41274209397786098652017-11-21T00:59:42.631-08:002017-11-21T00:59:42.631-08:00Looking foward to ur Help Andrew!Looking foward to ur Help Andrew!Anonymous😊https://www.blogger.com/profile/17431949527576808383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-56744043778507387042017-11-21T00:54:17.807-08:002017-11-21T00:54:17.807-08:00Hi Andrew. Comforting responses right there. I hav...Hi Andrew. Comforting responses right there. I have a somewhat similiar situation here. My ex and I been together for 2 years. Well we really loved one another,i still really do. Well 2 months ago, he came clean to me that he cheatd with 3 girls(slept with 3 girls in month) during our 2nd month together which was last year. He was sencere when he came clean to me and said it was just sex, once whith each one of them. And thats it,it was just one night stands. Well it happens that i also cheated on him with one guy in Jauary this year and the second thing i did wrong was kiss my old friend and also allow a friend to sleep on my bed for a few hours of a night(and nothing happend between us). Well ja,i also ce clean. We agreed to move on and work our relationship out. Again one day wr had a bad argument and i ended up lying which i later after days admitted i lied and after days he broke up with me told me how i took him for a fool and all.(well he forgot that what he did to me) anyway, that was now 2 months ago when we broke up on a monday, i was devastated and hurt to i came across ur blog and i cut him off. 4 days later on a friday night he textd me saying he forgave me and well we agreed to work things out..so on my side,all was going fine i even helped him study for his exams and did the old things together..well justa week ago on tuesday, Novemeber 14th, he texted me in the morning after my morning text to him and he said " i feel we should really just end this becos if it didnt work out the first time ,what will make it work. I dont want to be with a girl i cheated on,nor be with a girl that cheated on me"<br />So i was like "u know cheating ended" and he said "yes cheating ended but it wont change the fact it happen. I judt cant bare the thought of you sleeping with another guy or allowing a guy to sleep in ur bed". I got so sad,i was devasted and cried my eyes out. I granted his wish. I didnt text him since last tuesday but i badly wantd to contact him today. But again i feel like he will only see me as a miserable ex that is so desperate. I love him alot and as bad as i want to tell him that, i dont want to be seen as needy or desperate. So Andrew, what is your say in this situation? Should i just cut him off?Anonymous😊https://www.blogger.com/profile/17431949527576808383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-74372342016472398432017-07-11T20:17:12.824-07:002017-07-11T20:17:12.824-07:00The guy who wrote that men don't care about he...The guy who wrote that men don't care about height is flat out wrong. I'm 5'9", and I've been rejected for my height more times than I can count. A lot of men actually want a shorter woman so that they can feel like the manly protector. You'll probably have more luck than I ever did. Short girls get short guy, short girls get tall guys, tall girls get cats. lol (Me, anyway)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05239852227393362673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-90656538519705823942016-02-06T10:01:27.765-08:002016-02-06T10:01:27.765-08:00Interesting information here in this blog. One of ...Interesting information here in this blog. One of the reasons I think this happens is because both men and women focus on traits that they think they like but are just temporary. A pretty woman with often get more attention from men. Men may feel they like her but the truth is what we like is just based many times on the looks. The same can be said for women who like men. What happens then is when this fades so does the attraction it is all just vain sometimes to based it upon these things. I appreciate Amanda honestly that yes finical security is what many ladies like. If we men like pretty ladies then one must have level of security to provide for them Jessiehttps://bluediamondhomecare.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-86577442682222568732015-12-06T12:19:51.933-08:002015-12-06T12:19:51.933-08:00Had a question. I made a final decision to break u...Had a question. I made a final decision to break up with a man that i love. I had no proof of cheating i was tired of feeling invisible and in subtle forms disrespected by him. He never hit me or spoke to me disrespectfully.... the disrespect was in other ways. Long story short he was busy and i knew face to face breakup wouldnt be an option so i messaged him a long note telling him i was sick and tired etc after he hit me up after not speaking with me for a month. I stated a lot of facts in the message. He never wrote back. I kind of expected this because he never liked to argue with me or get in to any confrontation. 8 months passed and i longed to hear from him. He finally sent me a message saying he hopes that im doing ok. This made me happy and angry at the same time. During the 8 months i developed a very severe case of UC... i was in and out of the hospital and i know this might be crazy but even though we were not speaking i knew that he knew. He never hit me up once... now after 8 months he hits me up. I must admit hes a very prideful person and i was so surprised to get a msg after all this time... i just don't understand what is going onAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-41037656164981649132015-11-26T05:40:10.312-08:002015-11-26T05:40:10.312-08:00Well with so many women nowadays that are very hig...Well with so many women nowadays that are very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, greedy, and very money hungry, would be an excellent reason why so many women Can't get a good man like us since so many of us are Scared off by these type of women today, and to think that Most of the women of years ago were Never like that at all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-65754273416351694742015-11-08T14:45:27.758-08:002015-11-08T14:45:27.758-08:00Your (author's) perspective about relationship...Your (author's) perspective about relationships seems boiled down to looks and attaining dates, sex, or spouses based completely on superficial characteristics. Do you like someone? Do they have a good character? Independent, yet open to partnership? Common interests, background? Sure, looks and efforts to make one's self attractive blend into all of this, but looks aren't everything! How much time did you waste creating that graph and crafting this execrable article?The twelve itch pianisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16352101038461009399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-33698177877723850132015-08-09T23:14:14.428-07:002015-08-09T23:14:14.428-07:00After the recent Ashely Madison fiasco, I figured ...After the recent Ashely Madison fiasco, I figured that this thread would be blowing up with new opinions about what men and women really expect from each other. <br /><br />Though I am older now as well as accomplished, it has taken many years to decipher my marriage, divorce and the men I deal with every day. I'm not a number: I'm have always been either A) too ugly or B) too sexy for them, which has no logic to it whatsoever.<br /><br />I have never been a mirror watcher but have noted my day-today confidence makes A move to B like a light switching on. Everyone notices: women hate it and men love it. I still cannot believe this supernatural effect because my world is based on math and science and I could give a rat's ass if you don't like me being myself.<br /><br />Note: When I'm thin, men stare me down and act crazy. When I'm fattened up, they ignore me completely. I once had a crappy nose job, and though it was faulty, it feminized my face enough so and men were instantly more receptive to me. At the time, I was suprised, but as the years pass it's all starting to make "better" sense.<br /><br />My husband was better looking than me. Big mistake there, girls: Don't do that. Apparently, the goal is to marry a marginal person and sleep around with anyone better and willing. The theory is that 'they will never leave you if you are the "better half".' Now that I'm [somewhat] better looking and have accrued more in life (money, a home, pension, etc.) the ex wants to get back together, of course. Yeah, right...<br /><br />I only wish I had learned that All Men Value Beauty Over All Else, no matter what their age, when I was younger. I could have saved myself so much grief over the years. In conclusion, my advice to women is to invest in your looks whenever you can because men are too shallow to get past it. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-66678700320148467512015-05-22T04:31:48.838-07:002015-05-22T04:31:48.838-07:00This is really well written,I woke up this morning...This is really well written,I woke up this morning with guy in my bed ,like Wtf!! I thought I could do better!Fuck now I have to spend all weekend with him.I really like this post,changing perceptions of yourself is always the go to advice.Thanks I'll keep re reading this .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-58866282967586087592015-03-25T10:03:56.760-07:002015-03-25T10:03:56.760-07:00Dear Andrew,
I hope your post is sill active! I l...Dear Andrew,<br /><br />I hope your post is sill active! I love it. I need advice. Ok so I was I. A relationship with this guy for a year and a half. We've known each other for 4/5 years and recently out of the blue he broke up with me. <br /><br />I guess we both played some part in the break up. Me I was demanding that he do more as a man, as my boyfriend and as the man I love and I did this over some period of time. This was because he is quite a laid back person so I had to tell him to do more things that benefit the both of us because we were in a long distance relationship/ anyways we had a really bad argument and I said something that I didn't mean and it was out of anger.. 4 weeks later he broke up with me.. I felt bad and ask him to see me (after countless attempt) he came.. Similarly to some of the post I've read in here.. We to kids and hugged. He told me how much he missed me, how much he loved me and so fourth. We were happy and everything was fine.. Days after I felt him drifting and then a week later he broke up with me. Bear in mind that this has happened twice already in the past since I've known him. So this would be the third time. He came back those other occasions but I'm not sure about this one.<br /><br />I didn't contact him at all.. He tried calling me I never answered until I was ready and when I did I gave him a blasting. I was angry hurt and upset.. Then he said he is done! He is done with all of this. Then we don't speak.. I called him 2 weeks after he said we can meet up and be cool and see each other.. I said I'm not doing that if your talking to someone, seeing someone.. He said no. I found out that he has recently got a girlfriends!<br /><br />I have no words.. Not eating not sleeping. I am broken right now. I didn't ever have sex with him during the time I was with him because I wanted to wait till marriage.. But we had amazing times! He loved me so much and did things to make me happen, disputed the difficulty of us my having sex. And then this.. This girl out of the blue and I spoke to her she just sounds like a downgrade. But maybe she's ny maybe she's just the person she's needed all this time. He said to me he is my coming back, I will find someone else. How can he do this.. after everything we have been through together. its so out of character for him to act, talk and behave this way! I don't know wether silence is either going to do anything.. Will it?<br /><br />I'm not your average girl. I'm such a beautiful person and despite my demands I was there fore himx I motivayed him and encouraged him to push himself. I wasn't the nice girl who did it all for him. I was a strong women who was loyal, faithful and loving. And he did this to me AGAIN. My mind is twisted. I don't understand who this person is or why. But I text him loads of the last couple of weeks and after I found about about the girl I haven't texted him. It's been 2 days and I want to know if he is going to come back? He would never treat me like this ever! I think he's basicay having sex with this girl and he td me he is happy and she maker her happy. But this happened. Less than a month after we broke up? How can yu be in love like that? <br />Will silence help?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-53492228484383885042015-02-09T14:37:16.753-08:002015-02-09T14:37:16.753-08:00I am not defined by circumstance . But this gener...I am not defined by circumstance . But this generic stereotype is for man, woman likekindAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-67355201754066553162015-01-09T09:22:37.944-08:002015-01-09T09:22:37.944-08:00remember, there are MANY gigolos out there. MANY m...remember, there are MANY gigolos out there. MANY men make themselves attractive (like women) to nab a rich girl. they just don't admit it and like to paint women as the "golddiggers."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-1859742706746381482014-11-13T05:05:05.194-08:002014-11-13T05:05:05.194-08:00Hi Andrew, thank u for ur lovely advises n comment...Hi Andrew, thank u for ur lovely advises n comments. My bf n i was in relation with 6 months then he broke up n found other girl then we were not in touch then aftr one long year he returned back and started texting me then we again staarted being in touch then we met he appologised then he suddenly stoped texting n kept his status like he was missing that othr girl then again after a month he text me... long story short he started to messaging me on my birthday and then he was regulary texting me and he remembers everything,everytime we spend togather and he even remembers things witch even i forgot he still cares alot for me n respect me alot and even said that he is missing me and he even said that he wants to talk to me and we even talk on phone then he was regularly messging me and was showing alot love and care he said that his family still loves me and respect me alot and still descuse good things about me and he is even being ppssessive somwtimes and ask me that whom i am chating with and then again after doing all this he changed his dp on watsapp and kept that other girls blur pic but after one day he changed it again he is single n that girl is gone from his life but he is still sometimes keep dp or status like this but then he even keep texting me n showing care n reminding me our old days so i am not getting him can u plss guide me wat to do to get him back as i love him alot stillangelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13286714185623658153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-82727660292212248362014-08-31T15:18:02.131-07:002014-08-31T15:18:02.131-07:00This is a very good article. I agree completely. ...This is a very good article. I agree completely. <br />I would also have to say, though, that I think men tend to be worse at this than women. I've met so many men who just don't understand why women aren't flocking to them, and then conclude that "women are crazy bitches" or "women just want guys who treat them badly." No, it's because you, in your current broke, bitter, couch potato state, are not good enough to get the kind of women you've set your sights on. When I tell them they need to make self-improvements they are almost surprised.<br />I think most women know when they need to make self-improvements, they just don't always have the necessary motivation (and time and money) to do it. But it's soooo important!Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05388507578461281703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-58650106585487356422014-07-16T16:25:06.742-07:002014-07-16T16:25:06.742-07:00WOW!!! This article/post was SUCH an eye-opener! ...WOW!!! This article/post was SUCH an eye-opener! Thank you! <br /><br />This definitely makes sense, and it now explains to me what I've been doing wrong for a long time. I have to admit, usually anytime I went out of my way to make SURE that I looked good and was a "perfect 10", and was showing my TRUE fun, bubbly and outgoing personality, usually I attracted quite a few guys. :) <br /><br />Now granted, they weren't guys who I "wanted" or at my "level", but still..... I definitely was attracting SOMETHING! <br /><br />Thanks for the advice! I'm going to continue to step up my game again from here on out! ^_^ Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-54074469889699099802014-06-26T09:47:16.556-07:002014-06-26T09:47:16.556-07:00I'm very well aware of what you describe. In f...I'm very well aware of what you describe. In fact I wrote a post about it titled "All Men have Different Taste." <br /><br />It's true that there is a wide variety among men's opinions but that's just another way of saying that there is also a lot of agreement. <br /><br />You need to understand the variety of personal tastes AND the "league" reality in order to properly understand the opposite sex's evaluation of you. Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-27292498611557053082014-06-26T09:04:01.087-07:002014-06-26T09:04:01.087-07:00The #1 thing I dislike about you advice is your us...The #1 thing I dislike about you advice is your use of #'s and "leagues". My friends and I when younger and more immature used to rank the girls we saw on a scale like this. The funny thing was the numbers were all over the place, a woman I would rank as an 8 my friend would rank as a 5 and another as a 2. And it varied who was giving the 8's and 2's so it wasn't totally based on how attractive we are in relation to the women. People's perceptions aren't nearly as standard as you may think. And when you start asking women to rank men as far as physical attractiveness the scale gets even more inconsistent than men ranking women. <br /><br />Given this, how on earth and anybody come to the conclusion they're a 5.5. Or any number for that matter. I agree in principle that if the person you're approaching thinks they're better than you that is bad. But man or woman to give yourself a hard number or anybody a hard number is ridiculous and going to really cause you to date down. I've dated plenty of women I considered to be better looking than myself. They didn't seem to see it that way. Shaun Poorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07888932873820143546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-24189489596573858032014-06-25T02:34:45.538-07:002014-06-25T02:34:45.538-07:00From my experience - I'm sure you have been wo...From my experience - I'm sure you have been wondering why you have put so much of afford chasing your dream guy, <br /><br />treating them so well but till to-date he's still not accepting you!?<br /><br />BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN DOING IT WRONG! You should make the guy DESIRE you, not you desire him! You know they say "Law <br /><br />of attraction"?<br /><br />Watch this video and you will know what it means,<br />For female to get male : http://l1nk.com/make-him-desire-you<br />For male to get female : http://l1nk.com/7-steps-to-have-any-women-you-wantAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00190169495962587651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-47607837001094914932013-12-24T03:29:51.521-08:002013-12-24T03:29:51.521-08:00As HanSolo pointed out I believe, men who are them...As HanSolo pointed out I believe, men who are themselves in the "professional class" may care and expect their wives to have a college degree and maybe some type of career (which could be nursing, teaching, and other traditional female professions).<br /><br />For certain men, yes, this will matter in terms of MMV. However, most men do not fall into the "professional class" and so women don't really need to worry about it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-88600099675140772732013-11-13T07:26:39.531-08:002013-11-13T07:26:39.531-08:00Girl age 16: “You’re such a nice guy.”
Translatio...Girl age 16: “You’re such a nice guy.”<br /><br />Translation: ” I don’t want to hurt your feelings, or come off as a bitch to my friends, but I’m really much more attracted to Bad Boys – outlaw bikers, the football team’s quarterback, basically any guy who appears dangerous and exciting. You’re Nice, nice and mundane”<br /><br />Girl age 22: “You’re such a nice guy.”<br /><br />Translation: “Thanks for listening on the phone to me cry, fall into verbal hysterics and drone on for hours about my Jerk BF (oh, and my little dog too). You’re really sweet, and deserve a girl (which isn’t me) who can appreciate how nice (i.e. mundane) you are.”<br /><br />Girl age 28: “You’re such a nice guy.”<br /><br />Translation: “I know you’ve always been (an) my emotional tampon, and thanks for sticking with it – any sane guy would’ve found a far better prospect by now. And while I’m beginning to see that guys like you are stable, dependable and tend to make a lot more money than the Jerks I’ve dated, I think I’m gonna hold out for a hotter guy than you while my looks still hold up”<br /><br />Woman age 32: “Why can’t I just find a nice guy?”<br /><br />Woman age 35+: “You’re such a nice guy.”<br /><br />Translation: “Oh, you’re a Nice Guy,..here, let me suck that for you. See? Being a Nice Guy does get you laid!,..thanks for being there for me when I needed you; my fatherless kids appreciate your generosity too. How chivalrous of you to forgive my past indiscretion and take us in, I wish there were more guys like you. I really pity the women who can’t appreciate your kind of dedication – you are so different from “other guys”".IMPERFEKThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08836604655331797247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-82611134962315868422013-10-22T16:23:20.728-07:002013-10-22T16:23:20.728-07:00Hello Andrew, .the " cut him off " exerc...Hello Andrew, .the " cut him off " exercise is really difficult for me. After my ex called it off, I've been calling and texting and apologising. the more I do that, the more he runs from me.I don't want to be a pest anymore.. I want him to come back naturally. I feel he still loves me and wanna try again. but he's not sure if I've changed cos the break up was totally my fault. bottom line is, am afraid he might move on without me, I don't wanna move on without him too.. either way, I want him back.. but cutting off is sooooo difficult. maybe because I messed up, I keep feeling its on me to make things right..please what do I do? I need him backAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17365580730657710148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-57574126286893278052013-09-02T02:35:48.067-07:002013-09-02T02:35:48.067-07:00Women like you like to portray men as the shallowe...Women like you like to portray men as the shallower sex. Yet in reality you are way more shallow in every way imaginable than most men can ever be. <br /><br />Its just that society rarely dares to call you out on your B.S.<br /><br />Despite being admittedly ugly you are banging hot guys. And that has warped your expectations of the hotness of the men you want for relationships. The irony is that you probably despise and look down upon men who are your EQUALS in looks - men who would be romantically interested in you; men who would open doors for you and court you (even though you don't deserve neither entitled to that). You sneer in disgust when a man who is your EQUAL in looks expresses interest in you. You are disgusted by their sexuality.<br /><br />The men who are your EQUALS have it worse than you in dating. They are the ones who really get treated like shit by women.<br /><br />Atleast you get to have sex and short term relationships with men (out of your league) An ugly or even an average looking man cannot even get sex with an obese granny. Because even obese grannies want hot studs. Talk about visual-ness !<br /><br />There really should be no empathy for women like you, if thats what you expect. I really hope you dont procreate and bring an unattractive male child into this world. Because unattractive men cannot survive in this harsh world of human mating.The Skeptichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16130484376614201968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-36097643910361878672013-09-02T02:20:53.399-07:002013-09-02T02:20:53.399-07:00The inconsistencies in your rant are hilarious.
Y...The inconsistencies in your rant are hilarious.<br /><br />You say men are visually driven and only give the time of day to (hot) women who make their dicks hard.<br /><br />Surely you must be making their dicks hard too, despite being admittedly <b>ugly</b>, or else why would they have sex with you !<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />The Skeptichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16130484376614201968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-63835729924997207782013-08-31T17:18:06.699-07:002013-08-31T17:18:06.699-07:00U don't know a thing about men even if u r one...U don't know a thing about men even if u r one. <br /><br />as an ugly woman myself it doesn't make sense to change for someone who doesn't even know u exist. <br /><br />men r visually driven. if a woman doesn't get a man's dicks hard then he's not gonna give her the time of day. <br /><br />if I had multiple men like me but they won't date me unless I change then that's wat I would've done. its called motivation and its human nature. if men dont motivate me to act like a woman, if men don't open doors for me, if men treated me like I was a human being and not like shit then I would be presentable and more feminine. but guess wat? It never happened so I see no reason to act like a lady if I don't get treated like one. <br /><br />fortunately I can always get some good, hot dick. other than that men don't do shit for me. <br /><br />oh and Andrew I think u and ur commenters should read an article called "the handsome man-ugly woman syndrome". its an article that explain wat a real man wants compared to this article about women wanting "the guy that they want". <br /><br />I am also baffled that u r less extreme as ur other fellow men on anti feminist websites and the others. maybe u should ask them to teach u about women instead of giving advices to women wen u don't even know about ur own gender. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15447884491556320748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-20334954163846711212013-08-06T03:06:40.371-07:002013-08-06T03:06:40.371-07:00I use 'nicely packaged' to mean 'looki...I use 'nicely packaged' to mean 'looking presentable, having a great personality, being humble, basically any qualities that are positive'! <br /><br />It is true that some men and women date down. But why do people date down?<br /><br />Well, people date down because:<br /><br />a) they are unable to obtain something (someone) similar or better in value - doesn't matter why.<br />b) they don't want to worry about maintenance. The lower the maintenance the better - less work for them.<br /><br />If you did find someone similar or better in value you wouldn't need to date down.<br /><br />Oh, and beauty isn't everything. It is just one important part of the whole package. In fact, beauty alone will only get you that far. <br /><br />Alas, always be the best you can possible be in every aspect!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com