tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post4251244056058350840..comments2024-03-28T01:29:54.776-07:00Comments on The Rules Revisited: Don't Let Pornography Become Your SubstituteAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-82111253496305357342021-08-30T08:34:43.527-07:002021-08-30T08:34:43.527-07:00I liked your work and, as a result, the manner you...I liked your work and, as a result, the manner you presented this content about <a href="https://aspirecounselingservice.com/mental-health/behavioral-health-services-fillmore-ca/" rel="nofollow">Mental health services in Fillmore, CA</a>.It is a valuable paper for us. Thank you for sharing this blog with us. Aspire Behavioral Healthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06046296770710832855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-33667120315911892462021-03-31T16:16:39.606-07:002021-03-31T16:16:39.606-07:00I just have to share my testimony on this Forum.. ...I just have to share my testimony on this Forum.. The feeling of being loved takes away so much burden from our shoulders. I had all this but I made a big mistake when I cheated on my wife with another woman and my wife left me for over 4 months after she found out.. I was lonely, sad and devastated. Luckily I was directed to a very powerful spell caster Dr Emu who helped me cast a spell of reconciliation on our Relationship and he brought back my wife and now she loves me far more than ever.. I'm so happy with life now. Thank you so much Dr Emu, kindly Contact Dr Emu Today and get any kind of help you want.. Via Email emutemple@gmail.com or Call/WhatsApp cell number +2347012841542 Website (https://emutemple.wordpress.com/)Jason Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16896927184869020575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-18643486725551228892015-09-22T01:42:10.285-07:002015-09-22T01:42:10.285-07:00I can't disagree with you more. Porn IS a prob...I can't disagree with you more. Porn IS a problem when in excess. Take for example;<br /><br />Its a tradition for a couple to have a glass of wine and spend 30minutes of down time together before bed. Suddenly the person who normally pours the drinks starts putting more in their own glass then their partners until gradually the partner has none and the other is drunk. Then that partner with the full glass starts spending those 30minutes with a picture frame instead of the real human.<br /><br />What does that leave the other person with but an empty glass. Porn itself wouldn't be the problem if the person who chooses it doesn't neglect their partner in the process. There needs to be an equal playing field with these type of things..if my partner wants to masterbate to porn twice a week that's fine...as long as he's willing to also have real sex with me for more then only twice a month...twice a month versus 2x4?? Seems a little selfish to me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01280957126199817463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-34333289956665343232015-09-22T00:41:14.050-07:002015-09-22T00:41:14.050-07:00I know exactly where your coming from! I've on...I know exactly where your coming from! I've only been with my s.o for 3yrs(him late 20's me mid 20's) and I knew he masturbated to porn in the past. To me its natural and I admit to taking a look myself once in awhile. But for the last year of our relationship I have been lucky to get sex 3 days a month whereas other times I'm rejected due to tiredness or a headache or any other excuse on his part. BUT...I will find evidence of him masturbating to porn even hours after turning me down for sex! He will reject my advances for 2-3 weeks sometimes but I will find porn on the comp or his phone at least twice a week. I have pushed past my mental blockers to anal sex when I noticed that as a main subject of his searches...he has since rarely looked up that subject. He knows I'm willing at least once a week and very into nearly anything he can come up with to try in bed and still he will choose to turn me down 8/10 times but freely choose porn (almost always "teen" creampie and such) instead of choosing the very real woman who wants it?? How are us women supposed to feel about that besides unwanted?! Where is the boundary line that MEN should make instead of the woman "giving more?"Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01280957126199817463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-61084465090569537112015-07-22T13:52:48.299-07:002015-07-22T13:52:48.299-07:00Here hereHere hereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-85111161311216220852015-04-16T08:29:12.030-07:002015-04-16T08:29:12.030-07:00Andrew, I love your blog but do not agree with thi...Andrew, I love your blog but do not agree with this post. I'm a woman, 37, and I believe that the porn issue is not that big of a deal as you emphasize. Or rather, you sounding so strict about it makes women believe that it's such a big deal. I cannot understand women who feel threatened and jealous over porn. <br /><br />My last relationship was 10 years, and my husband did look at porn, sometimes we watched together, and it never ever crossed my mind to feel that something is wrong. We have to understand that men are highly visual creatures, and that they want variety. Not that they want, they NEED. That variety cannot be obtained from one woman, especially from the type that always wants to please them in bed; this fact exactly points to the submissive type, even if out of submission she plays a "dominant" role. It's a case of prophecy coming true, where being afraid of losing the guy dictates your behavior in a way that will determine losing the guy.<br /><br />My point is let the man be free in his mind, don't police his actions - he will just hide better, if he wants variety and you cannot provide it be happy that he safely gets it from porn rather than hookers or even worse, going crazy in his mind. I believe my man's healthy state of mind is much more important than my irrational insecurity.<br /><br />Nagging him will get you nowhere, most likely he won't find you attractive anymore and will make him watch even more easy porn over you. If you simply cannot get over it in your mind, just leave the guy; however, chances are your next man will be the same. Honestly, I've never ever heard of a man with a healthy sex drive who does not watch porn even in a relationship; he will confess if you have an open conversation with him with no judgment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-72630809321706837632015-02-02T05:00:02.855-08:002015-02-02T05:00:02.855-08:00Can you even think about how much better your best...Can you even think about how much better your <a href="http://best10.net/" rel="nofollow">best 10 porn</a> life would be if you had complete management over your ejaculation? Are you prepared to find some dedicated organic methods to make it a truth tonight? Guy you better put on your seatbelt and get prepared to understand the methods here that will convert you into a sex device before you know it.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16337850689329360760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-7691432764136158532014-07-06T09:15:46.732-07:002014-07-06T09:15:46.732-07:00So the answer to her request that he stop watching...So the answer to her request that he stop watching porn was, "Honey, you don't need to watch (and objectify) all those other girls. I'll objectify MYSELF instead, just for you!". Wow. And if they ever break up, she may very likely regret ever having taken those pictures because of the chance that he could choose to plaster them all over the Internet. Animallover410https://www.blogger.com/profile/12777252032635339991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-15111610518216474132014-07-06T09:11:10.950-07:002014-07-06T09:11:10.950-07:00Your problem is that you view sex as nothing more ...Your problem is that you view sex as nothing more than a means to an end. You view women as nothing more than objects, receptacles of your "needs". When you take the view of sex as just a way to get yourself off rather than a loving connection between two people who care deeply for each other, you will be disappointed and you will wind up alone. No woman wants to have sex with a guy who has this kind of attitude. Animallover410https://www.blogger.com/profile/12777252032635339991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-64747706806619209712014-01-19T12:07:11.629-08:002014-01-19T12:07:11.629-08:00I am confused about number 4 to a certain extent. ...I am confused about number 4 to a certain extent. I like to "fuck" with the same frequency as "making love". But it seems that porn has de-sensitized men to what constitutes exciting or novel sex, the point in the which I have been made to feel that I have to endure pain and humiliation with a smile on my face. Lucky my fiance is not like this, but I wonder about the psychology about men who are. <br /><br />For example, a lot of young men in my peer group seem really preoccupied with anal sex. My experience with 2 sexual partners suggests that men aren't generally all that into anal in a relationship, they just like the idea of having it on the table. My fiance explained that he doesn't feel dominant when struggling to get something inside of my unnaturally, or having to pay extra close attention to how hard he goes. But I hear men talking about this openly and publicly like it is the ultimate sex act. There is generally a story of a chick who was just looooooved it in the butt, but then miraculously turned out be frigid and crazy a couple of months down the road. There is no connection in their mind between a woman who is willing to fake so elaborately during something so intimate and being able to fake everything else too. <br />When a man truly has dominion over you, it is implicit. It is in the fact he repositions you in a way you happen to like, or pins your hands back, or follows a rhythm that pleases you both without instruction. He shouldn't need to cause you discomfort and believe you when you glance back at him glassy eyed and narrate "oh you're fucking my ass so good". <br />A shocking amount of young men have crossed over from manageable bad habit to outright ruining themselves sexually. Enough women are willing to play along while resenting these showy, false shows of dominance from an ultimately impotent weak man (for a time) that they think that well-adjusted women who fuck like this are available and easy to come by. <br /><br />When I hear men tell me I need to "keep it fresh" I am instantly suspicious of what they actually mean.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09689037681447197104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-8272497227327848372014-01-15T14:15:26.001-08:002014-01-15T14:15:26.001-08:00I will also note that behavior in humans, in gener...I will also note that behavior in humans, in general, is done for a reason. We train babies that some actions will get a certain outcome, and therefore, if they want an outcome, the should take a certain action. It is human nature to be 'trained'. But, there is never an answer to the relationship question.<br /><br />Online, what advice I can find in general is that if I want him to look at porn less, the general consensus is 'Give him more sex!'. But, if that action doesn't actually make the porn go away, what, I ask, is the reward to the female to give more sex than she normally wants (Ie. desires)? If that sounds selfish, let me explain. I believe that if someone is going out of their way to give something that they wouldn't normally do (say, sex three times a day or something), that is called doing an action that they don't 'truly' want, even if they want it after they start. Or, forcing themselves to do something in order to get an outcome. <br /><br />My point is, why are women told to 'give more sex' when this will not ever take the underlying 'problem' of a man wanting sex with other women away?<br /><br />Even though I'm trying to figure all of this out, this is more of a philosophical quandary than anything else, mind you. forbear2toleratehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240503012998776004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-86247622185493821542014-01-15T14:03:10.019-08:002014-01-15T14:03:10.019-08:00Been with my guy for 10 years, 8 married. Porn has...Been with my guy for 10 years, 8 married. Porn has always made me feel inadequate, but it probably wouldn't have if the first episode of 'catching' him at it wasn't walking in on him jacking off to a picture of a woman fully clothed. Her face and upper body were all that were visible, so he was straight up jacking off to the thought of HER, not her body. Which, hurt beyond what I could even have believed. <br /><br />My point is that I understand that watching people have sex turns humans on. It turns me on. But, it was jarring to have my first experience with this in our relationship being him needing to mentally fuck another woman. <br />So, basically, porn has been ruined for me, basically because at least before this, I could lie to myself and think that maybe he was only imagining the body parts, ect. <br /><br />Fast forward 9 years to today: I've found porn around every 6 months or so, whether or not I try to please him or not.<br />To explain our sex life, I will straight up say that though there are times that my job has not let us have sex more than twice a week, my sexual appetite is strong. I want much variety. I want bondage, I would like to have threesome's. I would like to be used. I would like to dress up. I would like so many things ... but bondage, which is what I sexually really want, has never been given to me. Though I've hinted and finally point blank told him that I would love it if he did it to me. <br /><br />He has never given me this, and this year I just sort of had to make the decision to not want it, if I wanted to stay with him. <br /><br />Well, it turns out he's been watching porn of the very same things THAT I WANT DONE TO ME. I don't know how to be. I don't know how, as a woman, to rationalize this to myself. <br /><br />To me, it seems that no matter what I do, he will want porn. No matter how different I want our sex life to be, he will want porn. <br /><br />And this is where it is discouraging. What is the point of me trying, if all I will ever get is the dregs he gives me after he jacks off? Where do I even go with this hurt?<br /><br />I love him, dearly, and he claims to love me more than anything in the world. But how do we do this thing called relationship and marraige if he chooses porn over me? Am I just a partner, not a true sexual fantasy? <br /><br />I grant that my situation is somewhat different than the average woman's, and maybe I should be more open to the thought of him thinking of other women. But, are there truly no options to this dilemma other than 'Well, just try to please him sexually so he won't want porn?' <br /><br />I'm sorry, this has been more of a diary entry than a comment. Its just that this is an issue that is at the point of making or breaking my marraige. And I don't want it to break. Granted, I also don't want to feel as if I'm a sloppy second to the porn.<br /><br />And I will note that I'm a 6 on the beauty scale, a 7 when I get dressed up nice. I'm 5'5" and 170 lbs, so this is not a 'You are GROSSLY unattractive!!!' issue, I believe.<br />If there WAS any issue, it would be that I do not have confidence in myself sexually anymore, because I feel that the porn is more important than me.<br /><br />I do not know HOW to stop feeling this way. Even as I understand that men have a higher sex drive, I do not know how to not be hurt that I do not get what I want sexually, as he watches and jacks off to what I want. <br />:(<br /><br />Just call me unhappily married to the perfect guy in almost every aspect. forbear2toleratehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240503012998776004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-75306592504146760182013-09-08T18:55:14.534-07:002013-09-08T18:55:14.534-07:00They still will. <3They still will. <3Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08334852859165232490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-35869110709635258462013-07-20T10:45:18.055-07:002013-07-20T10:45:18.055-07:00How common are sexual fetishes in men?
I put up a...How common are sexual fetishes in men? <br />I put up a pair of shoes for sale online and there was one picture with my feet in the shoes. I couldn't believe the amount of responses from men with a thing for women's feet asking for more pictures. <br />Are most men afraid to voice these things if their preferences are outside the norm? <br />Maybe a subset of men with porn addictions are looking up things they don't get to act out in real life, because they simply haven't said anything about it to their girlfriends (even if she is hot and always up for it)?Sophienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-42983246129803604002013-06-20T02:51:34.756-07:002013-06-20T02:51:34.756-07:00I love to have sex. I love having dirty sex. I lov...I love to have sex. I love having dirty sex. I love my significant other knowing they can have me whenever they want me and that I'd do anything.. However my boyfriend just left me. Ultimately he (as in when were fighting the last time we spoke) he broke up with me for snooping through his shit. basically his phone. I know people do this and I know I did it wayyy less often than a lot of people do but whatever I know I shouldn't do it when I do. And anytime I ever have I've told him about it (ya know usually bc you find something) but anyway I didn't used to do it with him, I didn't want to want to, but after the first time he broke my trust, it grew from there. Anywayyyy we had a little porn problem a time or two but not really since we had moved in together. We had been friends for years and years before we started finally dating and I had known or had heard when we were younger that he looked at a lot of porn. So one time like the first time I ever found where he had been looking at porn we talked about it and he had said that he did used to kind of have a porn addiction. So whatever he said he didn't and stuff for the rest of our relationship and of course as you might assume got terribly angry with me anytime I wondered if he did. So we broke up now and I've come to realize that during a lot of our relationship he was still looking at porn (not so much after we moved in together tho) but immediately after he left me (although the last thing we talked about in person was that he was going to stay at his mom's for like a week and it would just be a little break, but then him not talking to me for the next 5 days quickly got me to start dealing with it being a break up. So the porn that I so stupidly discovered isn't just like porn videos it's like a cam site. So these are other girls and even talk a little but he even like pays girls tokens and shit. That's literally paying some other live girl to do sexual things for you. I'm not sure how that could ever be classified as not cheating. It was good for me to find out tho. I don't know what else would have woken me up and made me know I shouldn't be with him. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-9919392647492114202013-06-17T13:43:07.308-07:002013-06-17T13:43:07.308-07:00Man....always something the woman needs to do to m...Man....always something the woman needs to do to make sex more exciting to keep her man away from porn. lol Holy shit. How about men realize that removing emotion from sex was the problem in the first place? How about control? How about waiting for your woman to get home from work before "knocking one out". It's today's spoiled rotten mommy's boys that think they need what they want right now. I've wanted a chocolate bar for months, but because men won't love me if I get fat I haven't gotten to have one. When I finally do get a chocolate bar, IT'S GOING TO BE AMAZING!!! But how many times has the asshole called man fucked his hand NOT waiting for a real woman? Learn to WAIT! If you do, your sexual experience will be OFF the charts! DUH!!! Maybe a man wouldn't get told NO all the time if he learned that most normal women don't like to feel used and fucked by an unemotional sexual encounter! If we're treated like 3 sets of holes to put your member in, turned over fourteen times and pounded to only please yourself...and that's all you focus on because you've watched entirely TOO much porn, it's no wonder sex doesn't happen as much as you'd like. Put the passion and emotion back into sex and watch how women will want to. blaker999https://www.blogger.com/profile/16764078877098170152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-23251715471418143632013-04-01T18:17:36.708-07:002013-04-01T18:17:36.708-07:00Masturbation isn't enhanced all that much by p...Masturbation isn't enhanced all that much by porn.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-22754634429478295532013-03-26T15:11:37.822-07:002013-03-26T15:11:37.822-07:00I think, in this case, that it might be worth not ...I think, in this case, that it might be worth not looking at his sexual needs as some kind of set quota of sexual behaviours that he has to fullfill every month (and that if he'd happen to fill his cup with other stuff than you, it would somehow mean that you're not enough) but rather to look at sex as a mild case of addiction; the more often you take a hit, the more substance you have to use to get a kick next time. He's simply working on higher gear since you're getting down and dirty so very hard and often. Porn is an easy fix to save him from the post-orgasmic lows, and provides the variety he needs.<br /><br />What bothers me is his insistence on you never playing with yourself without him, though. I can see a couple of problems looming on the horizon just by reading between the lines. Wishing you luck.<br /><br />PS. I disagree with Andrew regarding the sex in public, but the choice is ultimately yours. I've noticed that once you've been driving a guy up the wall with intense kink he won't be happy to oblige when you want to tune stuff down in order to facilitate deeper bonding, or just return back to basics. YMMV, ofc.Angulimalanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-47526821969473176142013-03-26T14:48:11.280-07:002013-03-26T14:48:11.280-07:00Oh, and by "sex started to wane," I mean...Oh, and by "sex started to wane," I mean once a month. Maybe twice. Ashnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-33716910274095181412013-03-26T14:44:58.845-07:002013-03-26T14:44:58.845-07:00Part 2:
My question though is, since that is the ...Part 2:<br /><br />My question though is, since that is the only type of porn the old guy was looking at, does that mean that is what ultimately turned him on the most physically in a woman? And wouldn't a man who kept looking up one very specific type of woman who does not look like his S.0. increase his chances of cheating with a woman who looked like that "fantasy girl" if the opportunity arose since he has trained his mind and body to respond to her sexually moreso than other women? He kept claiming that he didn't want that and saying he was sorry, but I can't imagine that, given the option to look up any woman you want, you would continue to look up one particular type of woman if she wasn't your "type" that you wish you could have. I am not having this problem in my relationship right now *knock on wood* but I would like to be totally sure, at least to satisfy my curiosity, and at most to know in the future if this ever came up again for any reason. Ashnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-65303568345916502262013-03-26T14:44:07.834-07:002013-03-26T14:44:07.834-07:00Part 1: Hey Andrew, I have a question that I have ...Part 1: Hey Andrew, I have a question that I have been wondering about off and on since me and my ex broke up.<br /><br />Me and my ex called it quits (or rather, I packed my stuff and he came home 2find me gone) a while back. It was due, in large part to what I felt was a porn addiction on his part. I didn't mind porn on occasion so long as it didn't interfere with our sex life. He was in his late 20's and me in my early ones (now I'm almost 25) and we had been 2gether for 2years. <br /><br />Most of the relationship, he talked down to me a lot and was a dick who kept telling me how much he loved Asian women. My grandmother is half Japanese and half Irish, and everyone else within 3generations is either American Black or Bajan (Barbadian) Black. I don't look exactly Asian since I'm more of a mixture, so obviously this was very hurtful. Eventually, I started lashing out in return and it almost always ended in me being emotional. Then I got more caustic, and finally just packed. Clearly I was an idiot for staying at all, but he would be really sweet sometimes, dropped the L bomb after 2weeks, and was talking about kids b4 we'd been 2gether 2months, and started asking me weird questions like, "Could you hate me if I got you pregnant?" I then insisted on being present when he bought the condoms and holding onto them myself just in case he sabotaged them, along with getting on birth control without his knowledge. He also had very little drive to accomplish more than the bare minimum in his life, which I know now is not compatible with me. All of this sounds like obvious mental disorder behavior now but, him being my 2nd experience with guys and good at manipulation, I didn't realize when it was time to bolt and leave his mind games behind. <br /><br />Sex started to wane, he got even more critical, and I wasn't sure why. We had sweet and "dirty" sex, I looked up how to do things differently, give a great blowjob, etc. I was confused because I'd always been told how hot or gorgeous I was by guys, the first guy never had any sexual complaints, and, not to come off wrong but I am 5'2" with a 23 inch waist, big boobs, round butt, clear skin, curly hair, and am made aware that I look really good and take great care of myself and my guy. I didn't know what was up and it was driving me insane. Sooo... I snooped. I am a master on the computer and found he was watching only Asian and (sometimes) Middle Eastern teen porn with girls who had really small boobs. I remembered him talking about the Lebanese girl that worked at the gas station up the street when I saw this. I was hurt that he was clearly lying when he said his sex drive was not up to par. It obviously was if he could find the strength to masturbate to these girls online. I didn't want any more lies, and was tired of the relationship anyway, so I left leaving him a note not to contact me again. I told him we were not friends because friends didn't treat friends that way so we had no reason to speak. He tried to contact me and finally gave up after 2months. I am with a new guy now and have been very happy for quite a while since he is so much more driven, passionate about living, and supportive than the last guy, who I felt more compassion for than anything. I guess I wanted to save him somehow, and my guy today is someone I actually admire and don't feel I have to save, which is refreshing for me.<br /><br />Ashnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-2776012548242594822013-02-18T07:42:55.998-08:002013-02-18T07:42:55.998-08:00He might be getting bored or you might be starting...He might be getting bored or you might be starting to gain weight, age, etc. While this isn't necessarily a valid excuse for him to bail on your sexual relationship, it also might be possible to re-attract him by working out, or changing things up - have you had sex in public? ;)<br /><br />I don't think porn in small doses here and there is a big deal; but if it starts to replace sex you are in trouble.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-45507642926353766272013-02-18T04:40:35.464-08:002013-02-18T04:40:35.464-08:00I've just come across your blog and finding it...I've just come across your blog and finding it very interesting, I do have a question though if anyone can help me i'm in my late 30's but look slightly younger i keep fit and have been in a new relationship for the past year after splitting up form a very long marriage the new guys in his 40s. I'm very adventurous in the bedroom and up to try most things and have a high sex drive, my new partner says I'm the best he's had in bed and he says he can't believe how perfect and connected we are, so was quite shock to see that he has recently downland porn to his phone still watches and I assume masturbates over it. Yet I would quite happy to have it several times a day with him and I understand men masturbate but then he doesn't like me watching porn or playing with myself he wants to be the only one to satisfy me so told me not to do anything unless hes there and would find it insulting if i did. so I don't understand why he's feeling the need to do it. I was a very confident person now im having insecurity's about him and myself thinking im not good enough now and im always trying to improve myself i go to the gym i take pride in myself i can be sexy and dirty in bed whatever he wants at the time. so why the need to jerk off,but then he hates the thought if i pleasure myself is there something wrong with me, but then on the other hand he says he's never enjoyed sex so much and hes in his 40s he said i make him feel 16 again. just wondered why he would feel the need for porn when im always up for it. And now i don't feel good enough and gone down on myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-58668284454592321322013-02-10T08:55:27.343-08:002013-02-10T08:55:27.343-08:00" it so hard just to get some kind of quick a..." it so hard just to get some kind of quick and easy sexual release then men will continue to use and enjoy porn"<br /><br />And that is the exact reason why porn is so dangerous. Sex IS supposed to be hard to get by, so that men struggle, build and maintain civilization in order to get it.yaserhttp://y4ser.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-82497276045861043142013-02-10T08:31:05.916-08:002013-02-10T08:31:05.916-08:00Look, I like porn a lot but if I could simply go o...Look, I like porn a lot but if I could simply go out my door and easily find a woman to have sex with without having to pay for it or enter into a relationship which I am not interested in doing right now then I would never look at porn again. As long as women, acting the age-old game of sexual gatekeeper and demanding some kind of emotional or monetary payment for sex, make it so hard just to get some kind of quick and easy sexual release then men will continue to use and enjoy porn. Already younger women, those who have not known a world without freely available internet porn, understand this and are changing their sexual attitudes and are becoming more like men when it comes to recreational sex. We see this in the new "hookup culture" we are now seeing. They know that they have to change their attitudes toward sexual availability (although many young women never did have that old attitude and so just did what came naturally) in order to compete with more sexual choices men now have. People will still enter into long term relationships but for those who simply want sexual release by way of skin to skin contact with another and are foiled my having to jump through numerous hoops and in the end simply masturbate to porn instead will do just that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com