tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post4546443190267776614..comments2024-03-28T01:29:54.776-07:00Comments on The Rules Revisited: You Don't Need to Like SportsAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-36149079924414663282022-07-13T20:03:39.358-07:002022-07-13T20:03:39.358-07:00click for info q0u13i2m72 gucci replica replica ba...click for info q0u13i2m72 <a href="https://www.dolabuy.ru/handbags-c-157/" rel="nofollow"><strong>gucci replica</strong></a> replica bags and watches Clicking Here l7h42k7v33 <a href="https://www.dolabuy.ru/" rel="nofollow"><strong>bags replica gucci</strong></a> replica goyard bags replica bags online shopping india <a href="https://www.dolabuy.ru/hermes-c-157_281/" rel="nofollow"><strong>replica hermes bags</strong></a> m7v94n0z91 replica bags qatartirothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02987135058199467483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-58326939150888868972019-12-06T07:25:46.687-08:002019-12-06T07:25:46.687-08:00قد يكون تنظيف الفناء والمحافظة عليه من المتاعب ، ل... قد يكون تنظيف الفناء والمحافظة عليه من المتاعب ، لكنه عمل مهم وضروري. الحفاظ على وترتيب العشب يبقي الآفات بعيدا. الآفات التي أصبحت غزاة وتعيش في عشبك لا تحب الأماكن النظيفة. عندما تكون الحشائش طويلة ويوجد حطام حول الفناء ، فمن السهل أن تتكاثر الحشرات والآفات الصغيرة. قريباً ، سوف تتعجب تلك الآفة في منزلك وتستقر في الداخل. تدبير بسيط لمنع تعشيش الآفات في حشيشك هو تنظيفه والحفاظ عليه جيدًا ، وهذا يتطلب عملاً شاقًا.<a href="https://www.alfransia.com/%D8%B4%D8%B1%D9%83%D8%A9-%D9%85%D9%83%D8%A7%D9%81%D8%AD%D8%A9-%D8%AD%D8%B4%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AA-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%AD%D8%B3%D8%A7%D8%A1/" rel="nofollow">شركة مكافحة حشرات بالاحساء</a><br /><a href="https://www.alfransia.com/%D8%B4%D8%B1%D9%83%D8%A9-%D9%85%D9%83%D8%A7%D9%81%D8%AD%D8%A9-%D8%AD%D8%B4%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%AA-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AF%D9%85%D8%A7%D9%85-0552007618/" rel="nofollow">شركة مكافحة حشرات بالدمام</a><br />ahmed599https://www.blogger.com/profile/01313709175532905410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-53159418819786565992018-10-30T07:54:43.286-07:002018-10-30T07:54:43.286-07:00Another preferred standpoint of men's boxer sh...Another preferred standpoint of men's boxer shorts over briefs is that boxers run much lower than briefs along these lines covering a greater amount of the body. <a href="http://chalfin.co.uk/" rel="nofollow">men with briefs</a><br />Jennethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07639742669691521251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-14914385087209267452014-01-28T04:49:31.098-08:002014-01-28T04:49:31.098-08:00Sounds interesting, any idea where i can get it? 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May be helpful in writing your book!Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14948382857770454310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-86857316145784178972014-01-20T18:02:44.951-08:002014-01-20T18:02:44.951-08:00Along w Andrew's post, this is the same conclu...Along w Andrew's post, this is the same conclusion I reached in my own self-examination. Andrew - do you find that the very feminine women succeed in your workplace and are able to have happy dating/romantic relationships? By succeed I mean taking high leadership roles.<br /><br />I think the key is to be able to balance masculine and feminine behaviors to succeed in business (display so-called traditional masculine behaviors) and be able to be feminine in dating/romantic relationships. I notice that I was promoted and got to work on amazing projects when I wore my hair down, wore feminine outfits, more than when I didn't. I always wanted to have my work success measured based on my intelligence, but I think it's a balance that has to be recognized. And many successful women I know who can't balance the two well are generally miserable and single, whereas those who can balance the two achieve success at work and in personal/dating relationships.<br /><br />I also think it's wrong to believe that work success is masculine. It happens, but I think it's wrong. Success in business is nothing than that; success in business. Men have a better track record of it because women entered the workforce decades after men have. To identify one example, it wasn't until the supreme court's 1996 decision in US v. Virginia that sex-based admissions policies at VMI were struck down as an equal protection violation. It wasn't until the 19th Amendment that women were allowed to vote in the US, in the 1920s I think. And even today, in 2014, while women have overcome barriers to compete equally in the workplace, categorizing rational thinking and success it probably incorrect.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01635860436924542629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-32998878901044079752014-01-20T10:06:39.839-08:002014-01-20T10:06:39.839-08:00I think you may find this article interesting: htt...I think you may find this article interesting: http://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2012/10/24/can-feminine-women-make-it-to-the-top/<br /><br />Particularly this section:<br /><br />"Strengths on the feminine part of the continuum (again, seen in both women and men) include:<br /><br />Building relationships and establishing community in the workplace<br />Structuring teams and groups in non-hierarchical, egalitarian networks that encourage involvement<br />Collaborating (as well as competing)<br />Making decisions by paying attention to process, gathering input and synthesizing perspectives (vs. driving to a goal)<br />Influencing by persuading (vs. commanding)<br />Sharing information, credit and power.<br /><br />These strengths are named in numerous books on leadership as highly effective ways of leading. Most don’t name them as “feminine” strengths. McKinsey & Company has created a “map” of capabilities it calls “centered leadership”; McKinsey notes that the capabilities demonstrated in such leadership are found in both men and women, but that the characteristics are “mind-sets and behavior often considered feminine.”<br /><br />The workplace values a number of the feminine strengths. Organizations are leveraging relational skills to address the need for connection felt especially by post-Boomer generations. They are utilizing flatter, less hierarchical structures when creativity, innovation and buy-in are important. Good leaders are leveraging both competitive and collaborative skills. They are recognizing that the best decisions come from groups that balance masculine and feminine ways of making decisions."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-19920665525502566342014-01-07T20:53:58.096-08:002014-01-07T20:53:58.096-08:00Andrew-I disagree w ur suggestion that men are tra...Andrew-I disagree w ur suggestion that men are traditionally scientific. I understand why you might think so, but disagree. It almost seems that you're suggesting that emotion/feeling is different from scientific. The scientist can be an artist as well. In the context of everyday relationships I think it's something both genders are capable of struggling with. I like that you make the distinction about being traditionally scientific, but I don't think it's characteristic of men. I think it's a challenge for certain men to connect with their artistic side, but it can also be a challenge for women. In the context of something like falling in love, love and the passion associated with love is something that is guided by emotion more than calculated/focused deliberation. Love is different from being horny and having lots of sex.<br /><br />Sales is not an intrinsically masculine job either. I'm not sure what population you're basing this all on, but if the population you're looking at feels that hunting and sales are intrinsic to men, then I think that population has other issues, or maybe they're just bad at promoting themselves aka lack confidence and therefore have to be aggressive to compensate for their short-comings. Talent to be savvy and have good people skills aren't gender-specific, and they probably aren't inherent either, but learned from parents, or environmental influences etc. Taking it a step further, children who grow up with harsh, critical, loveless, and emotionally abusive parents are likely going to have a difficult time falling in love. It has nothing to do with science or art, but with a knowledge and previous exposure to love that enables them to recognize it rather than think something is love when it's not.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01635860436924542629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-45240051462554367872014-01-02T19:24:05.986-08:002014-01-02T19:24:05.986-08:00sounds exciting!! I can guarantee you at least one...sounds exciting!! I can guarantee you at least one sale ;)<br />and @theunfortunatevirginmale LOL that is so odd! well to each their own right? exception to every rule haha<br />Jessica Culverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196396352787901980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-30026570466415677422013-12-31T22:08:25.540-08:002013-12-31T22:08:25.540-08:00Personally I like it when girls belch loudly. I t...Personally I like it when girls belch loudly. I think it's hilarious. Totally someone I'd want to be with. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-66913373924149726942013-12-31T19:04:37.353-08:002013-12-31T19:04:37.353-08:00I've had the exact same experience. I honestl...I've had the exact same experience. I honestly think that a lot of my boyfriends even liked that they had their own little thing and their own little sports universe that I didn't completely understand. I even dated a sports writer for three years. He didn't give a damn, and his next girlfriend after me was equally uninterested in sports. 0https://www.blogger.com/profile/16353388635264588731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-48499765199134170462013-12-31T17:59:56.210-08:002013-12-31T17:59:56.210-08:00@Andrew I respect a lot of the advice you give out...@Andrew I respect a lot of the advice you give out on this blog but I don't understand your viewpoint here. I think you're very much in the minority when you claim that seeking any sort of success is unnatural for a woman. What is natural for a woman, then, when the vast majority of modern women are trying to do something with their lives? Would you be attracted to a woman who merely sits at home? <br /><br />Furthermore, in no way does the article you linked to support the idea that men are more suited to focused tasks. In fact, I read the paper in PNAS and a) the differences are only barely statistically significant and b) the authors never claimed that men are better are focused tasks. As often happens with studies like these, this has been blown up by the mainstream media when in reality it's merely a cool methodology with no immediate implications. They also didn't do any behavioral analysis, so they're simply guessing about how these small differences in wiring translate to observable differences in behavior. Finally, these are wiring differences in adult men and women, so societal influence has not been controlled for.<br /><br />Here's what the research does show: minor differences in spatial and verbal abilities that begin at an early age and, compounded by societal influence, are magnified until adulthood. However, this has nothing to do with general success. Please do your research before you promote such harmful stereotypes. I'm not sure you realize how much a young woman's mindset can be affected by disparaging comments such as yours. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-31547324662177939782013-12-31T15:20:45.634-08:002013-12-31T15:20:45.634-08:00I am in total agreement with your comment. If the ...I am in total agreement with your comment. If the nice guy isn't getting the girl, it might be because he acts weak or gets intimidated easily. In my experience, most girls will avoid the loud, beer drinking, trash talking, confident guys and go for the more educated, stable, cultured men, finding them a better pick of the lot. The truth of the matter is, women value quality. They value a man's intelligence and his strength. They want a man who can take care of them and fulfill their needs. But they also crave respect from their men and want their men to listen to them when they communicate and be there emotionally when they need them. <br />A man who is too arrogant or selfish to do that will ultimately lose the girl or if the society is extremely patriarchal (as is mine) the women remain in the relationship but are usually quite unhappy and end up disliking their husbands in the longer run even if they remain in the relationship. Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02614295711494024595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-59532955809364703642013-12-31T12:40:38.895-08:002013-12-31T12:40:38.895-08:00I feel that you're getting at inauthenticity a...I feel that you're getting at inauthenticity as unattractive. I don't like sports, and I don't pretend to like sports because guys do. I don't play video games as well; I don't like to. I've dated guys that love playing PS3/XBox, and I feel I can't relate to that. I don't want to act interested when I'm really not. I also don't like scary movies, or very bloody movies. And when I comes to picking a movie to watch with a guy I'm dating; most guys like watching such types. Sometimes I do feel at a disadvantage to girls that "like" such movies, or are into playing video games. I also feel at times that me and the guy won't have much in common, and maybe won't work out because of it.gmaxinethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13785003849598433875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-43068022527609299812013-12-31T12:19:02.465-08:002013-12-31T12:19:02.465-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.gmaxinethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13785003849598433875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-54717135957695209592013-12-31T07:21:49.028-08:002013-12-31T07:21:49.028-08:00@Thomas:
Thank you so much, and I don't mind ...@Thomas:<br /><br />Thank you so much, and I don't mind at all! The wider the range of masculine opinions, the better. :)<br /><br />Haha, I actually don't have a job yet -- I'm just graduating college this year. That said, nearly all of the jobs I applied for/am applying for are research jobs (not scientific research, but economic/political research), because that's what I'm most interested in doing. That said, it's not impossible to be feminine in a research career. Baking cookies for the office on occasion and wearing heels aren't mutually exclusive with working hard and doing a job effectively, in my opinion. I may be too young to know, but that's what I've got so far. :)<br /><br />This is a bit of a side tangent, but it's interesting, actually, to think about this scenario in reverse. If a guy was confident, driven, and was a man of character, would I write him off because he volunteers at the animal shelter on weekends? Definitely not. Actually, in combination with those other traits, I would really like the fact that he volunteers at the animal shelter -- it would sort of be a breath of fresh air compared to many confident, masculine men who are also selfish and arrogant. The Holy Grail is a confident, masculine man with integrity and a degree of humility and self-awareness.<br /><br />I think if a guy was 100% masculine with zero feminine traits, I actually probably wouldn't want to marry him. Some feminine traits, like compassion, empathy, and the ability to listen to a partner's needs are vital for a relationship or marriage to function. He shouldn't be a "nice guy" (a guy who is kind and empathetic *because he wants approval from other people* and seeks external validation, and is ultimately a pushover). He should instead be a "good guy" (a confident guy who is kind and empathetic toward other people because *it is the right thing to do.* He is not a pushover, but he has morals and values, and he does his best to be true to them).<br /><br />Curious to hear what anyone thinks about that distinction.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-22471029658871781222013-12-31T05:42:07.343-08:002013-12-31T05:42:07.343-08:00I haven't made any money from it, no. I am pub...I haven't made any money from it, no. I am publishing a book soon, however, so I am hoping to earn a little back for the time I've put into the blog.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-80420955339960450242013-12-31T05:34:20.597-08:002013-12-31T05:34:20.597-08:00Mary H,
I would be willing to marry a girl like t...Mary H,<br /><br />I would be willing to marry a girl like that.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-84469351054708846512013-12-31T03:39:49.414-08:002013-12-31T03:39:49.414-08:00Mary H
I know you directed your question at Andrew...Mary H<br />I know you directed your question at Andrew but I hope you don't mind me popping in here to answer this one.<br /><br />"would you be unwilling to marry a woman who is a researcher or a scientist – would you write her off because of her job?"<br /><br />I’m guessing you’re a researcher or a scientist? Hehe<br /><br />I would say in general, no a woman won’t be written off because of her job, although it does have an impact - let me explain.<br /><br />When men look for a woman the first thing they look for is looks – so he will want to sleep with her. Then the next stage is looks and personality – so he will want to shag her and hang out with her. Then the next stage is looks, personality and intelligence/kindness/other long term traits – so he will want to shag her, hang out with her and commit to her.<br /><br />So if you’re beautiful, have a great personality and are intelligent/kind then the specific nature of your job isn’t actually that important – i.e. she won’t be written off for her job. <br /><br />That said, the specific nature of her job won’t necessarily be of much benefit to a woman either. If she doesn’t fulfil looks and personality she will have no chance regardless of what she does. <br /><br />However there are some exceptions: men who like more relaxed homely women might rule out a woman who has a job that requires extensive hours or travelling etc. Also, in spite of what men say about not caring a woman’s achievements we generally pick long-term partners with jobs not too dissimilar from our own. So if a woman is a research scientist, a non-intellectual type guy might be intimidated and seek something more aligned to his values. Or if a guy is a professional he might select someone approximately at his level because of societal mores/status.<br /><br />There is nothing wrong with enjoying the process of seeking truth and knowledge – in fact all of us should probably be striving to enjoy it.<br />Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01129475363638289832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-61662455767475777692013-12-30T19:56:27.370-08:002013-12-30T19:56:27.370-08:00i totally agree with your post!!!
Just like a gir...i totally agree with your post!!!<br /><br />Just like a girl wouldn't date a man who is "just one of the chicks" a guy doesn't wanna date a girl who is "just one of the guys" <br />Too bad more girls realized this! So many chicks want to not only fake interest in sports, like you mentioned, but also do "manly" things like chug beers, burp loudly, swear, dress in guys' clothes (fitted hats, jordans, etc), act sexually aggressive/sleep around, just to impress a guy and "prove" herself to them. Huge turn off! Think if guys were to do the same... paint their nails, gossip over coffee, giggle, go shopping, be more passive and soft, and wear tight fitting clothes to attract women and act like one of the girls. Weird now, isn't it? But that's exactly what women are doing nowadays. Sigh.<br /><br />btw andrew I was wondering, does this blog make you any money? How do you benefit from this blog? I don't see any advertisements, and you don't sell anything. But your blog is super popular, i can see just from the high volume of comments on like EVERY post that a lot of ppl come here! (and NO this is not a spam comment haha I have my own blog too and I know a lot of spam comments talk about affiliate links/monetizing blogs, etc. I swear this is a legit question, not spam. Just genuinely curious.)<br /><br />happy new year! Jessica Culverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18196396352787901980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-72579044478777095812013-12-30T19:28:29.131-08:002013-12-30T19:28:29.131-08:00Out of sheer curiosity, would you be unwilling to ...Out of sheer curiosity, would you be unwilling to marry a woman who is a researcher or a scientist, if she was also beautiful and had a great personality? For example, if the woman is in a research profession (because she genuinely enjoys the process of seeking truth and knowledge), but is also attractive, warm, nurturing, energetic, and optimistic -- would you write her off because of her job?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-13337901011995403612013-12-30T19:07:05.259-08:002013-12-30T19:07:05.259-08:00I think this is one of those very regional things ...I think this is one of those very regional things and it's not just as simple as whether a girl has to love sports for a masculine man to like her.<br /><br />For women: if you totally hate sports, without even a shred of ability to hide it or occasionally go out to a sports bar, let alone a game, then you need to be understanding of his need to do this with other people. I have met some crazy girls who can't get over this and become very possessive, especially if there are other women in these groups.<br /><br />As Andrew says, for the most part I don't think not liking sports is a deal breaker for most guys. That being said, I think there is a regional/cultural piece to this, even in the US. In Philly it's just so common for people of every age and gender to watch sports and especially go to Phillies games. It would be tough to imagine a guy who is a 10, who really likes sports, accepting a girl who NEVER wanted to do anything sports related. There are simply too many girls who are 10s in Philly who love sports. But then again Philly is also a major grad/professional school destination. So a nice chunk of the women in the prime 25-30 demographic are probably more "masculine" by Andrew's standards. This makes sense since there's an emerging literature around the connection between female achievement (educationally/career) and sports participation.K Trainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02981314496802947108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-28374540977942736212013-12-30T16:27:51.402-08:002013-12-30T16:27:51.402-08:00Just for the record, I said "traditionally ma...Just for the record, I said "traditionally masculine" not "intrinsically masculine" - though I do think there is something intrinsically masculine about scientific investigation, yes. Men are hunters by nature - few, if any, people will deny this. The pursuit of scientific discovery (or philosophical discovery, or business success, for that matter) is only different from the pursuit of prey, or anything else that men "hunt," in the sense that it is not a physical object. But the intense focus on an objective or goal is definitely masculine. Neuroscientists have shown repeatedly that <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/12/male-and-female-brains-really-are-built-differently/281962/" rel="nofollow">the male brain is wired for this kind of focus on a singular objective</a>. I also think that sales is an intrinsically masculine job, for the same reason (the sale is the "prey" or the "kill").Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-69185629827437010202013-12-30T14:31:59.411-08:002013-12-30T14:31:59.411-08:00I've never once encountered a guy who has disc... I've never once encountered a guy who has discredited me for NOT liking sports. Instead, I see the opposite - very masculine men who like sports but find it endearing or attractive that I'm not really into sports, and that I'm fairly girly. I'm still supportive, I'd still go to a game, I wouldn't be upset if he wanted to spend his Sunday at a sports bar with his buddies. Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06711470733997117332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-86407070794911213882013-12-30T12:35:16.889-08:002013-12-30T12:35:16.889-08:00Speaking for myself, I am a huge football fan and ...Speaking for myself, I am a huge football fan and I will devote numerous hours of discussion and Facebook posts to my team. If a guy takes that as trying too hard, so be it. The advice I love most from this blog is the "be authentic" message, so I don't mind putting it out there. While I am sure that there are women out there who are doing it to curry favor with dudes, some women really do enjoy it. If a man found that to be a turnoff in my case, we would have to break up for every NFL season and that's going to be a real drag on a long-term relationship! <br /><br />Great post as always, Andrew! Keep 'em coming :)BTownGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04520519065715640645noreply@blogger.com