tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post7352713906125837075..comments2024-03-28T01:29:54.776-07:00Comments on The Rules Revisited: Should You Give a Guy Your Last Name?Andrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-19431077006005081192021-03-31T15:50:09.138-07:002021-03-31T15:50:09.138-07:00, I just have to share my testimony on this Forum...., I just have to share my testimony on this Forum.. The feeling of being loved takes away so much burden from our shoulders. I had all this but I made a big mistake when I cheated on my wife with another woman and my wife left me for over 4 months after she found out.. I was lonely, sad and devastated. Luckily I was directed to a very powerful spell caster Dr Emu who helped me cast a spell of reconciliation on our Relationship and he brought back my wife and now she loves me far more than ever.. I'm so happy with life now. Thank you so much Dr Emu, kindly Contact Dr Emu Today and get any kind of help you want.. Via Email emutemple@gmail.com or Call/WhatsApp cell number +2347012841542 Website (https://emutemple.wordpress.com/)Jason Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16896927184869020575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-83054210717777087462015-12-06T15:47:43.333-08:002015-12-06T15:47:43.333-08:00I meant to say: on the first date, while dining, ...I meant to say: on the first date, while dining, he showed me his ID and blocked his last name with his thumbAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-68159169205550432412015-12-06T15:43:11.846-08:002015-12-06T15:43:11.846-08:00I am dating a guy and on the first name, he showed...I am dating a guy and on the first name, he showed me his ID to prove his date of birth and he placed his thumb on his last name to block it. On the second date, he asked me for my last name. He told me that he wanted to see my profile with the company that he works for. However, recently I asked him for his last name, he diverted the question rather than answering me. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-78856518565120879722015-08-11T20:48:26.491-07:002015-08-11T20:48:26.491-07:00Frankly, I find it ridiculous to ask a stranger fo...Frankly, I find it ridiculous to ask a stranger for their last name, unless you've met through a social circle that are a part of. I am a guy, by the way.<br /><br />I'd interpret this question as let's-be-friends and network, i.e. zero romantic intent. If there is clear romantic interest, I'd avoid answering at all costs, since information destroys attraction.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-89177233527587750452013-06-12T08:27:11.836-07:002013-06-12T08:27:11.836-07:00What an imposing question. I think a person who a...What an imposing question. I think a person who asks intrusive questions to a stranger raises red flags about their temperament. I think it is generally accepted that trust is built over time and not instantly.. If a girl asked me my last name too soon, I might be a little suspicious. <br /><br />Further, you can find where some people live. You can get information about any judgements like bankruptcy or divorce. <br /><br />So my question is why put someone on the spot with an intrusive question? Why not just be cognizant and sensitive to a person's potential personal info? They may be bankrupt but not ready to share or embarrassed. You should just take all of it slow so you can learn about each other in a comfortable and natural way. Let people share their info with you. Don't pry it out of them.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-62333599068013768082013-06-08T19:19:39.988-07:002013-06-08T19:19:39.988-07:00If asking him that question after a few dates woul...If asking him that question after a few dates would make you nervous (i.e. because you'd anticipate him not wanting to give it to you and possibly refusing), then it isn't a good relationship to be pursuing."<br /><br />I wouldn't feel comfortable "dating" a guy whose last name I didn't know, even once.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-50200520209783881192013-03-26T08:04:12.284-07:002013-03-26T08:04:12.284-07:00@Andrew, This is more related to openness than giv...@Andrew, This is more related to openness than giving a guy your last name, but here's my question: How can a girl really be open to all ideas? I love ideas, they move me, they excite me, and they make me think, but it is just true that some ideas are bad ones. Being open to *everything* means entertaining bad philosophies too, doesn't it?<br /><br />I actually find myself thinking about this a lot. I want to be open to a lot of ideas, but the line needs to be drawn somewhere. I want to be open, but not if it means being open to fanaticism or dangerous ideas. When I'm forming ideas about politics or who I want to support, for example, I can't be open to everything - at some level, I have to make a judgment about which ideas are better than others in order to have an opinion of any kind.<br /><br />Is it possible to be open and still have defined opinions about things?Mariannanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-3002190652657148612012-10-30T15:36:02.521-07:002012-10-30T15:36:02.521-07:00*their last names
sally.*their last names<br />sally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-22658567937698075932012-10-30T15:35:20.023-07:002012-10-30T15:35:20.023-07:00Everyone gives there last name these days... peop...Everyone gives there last name these days... people don't call anymore, they send Facebook messages! Your full name is like your phone number... <br />Sally.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-64666896451179415452012-09-01T13:11:51.387-07:002012-09-01T13:11:51.387-07:00I agree with FruitFly75. I've done a lot of o...I agree with FruitFly75. I've done a lot of online dating, and have met characters who seem okay on email, but really strange in real life. Or when I've exchanged numbers with a guy online, he calls me really late at night / early in the morning. Both my first and last names are unusual, and once you know the correct spelling, you can google me and find out where I work and live. (Years ago I registered a website with my real address, and those records are still online, even though I changed the registration details. D'oh!)<br /><br />The majority of men are decent human beings, but it's the types that abuse my phone number and turn up to dates acting strange that I worry about. This is why I don't give my last name until I've met him in real life a few times, and feel comfortable with him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-83310610317298781752012-08-30T04:52:56.227-07:002012-08-30T04:52:56.227-07:00Hi Andrew,
Interesting post. But as someone who&...Hi Andrew,<br /><br />Interesting post. But as someone who's a survivor of domestic violence and also has had a former boyfriend stalk me, I prefer not to give out my last name or address at first. At least until I've talked to the fellow for a bit.<br /><br />It's not a matter of cynicism or mistrust, but safety and wisdom on my part to be cautious and careful and make sure that only a truly nice guy gets that information.FruitFly75https://www.blogger.com/profile/05259586719923182693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-29082475683006445252012-08-29T17:40:00.978-07:002012-08-29T17:40:00.978-07:00Thanks for this post. I usually give my surname to...Thanks for this post. I usually give my surname to guys and I've sometimes felt too "easy" doing it. But guys don't always ask specifically for it though - like last time a guy asked if he could have my number, I said ok, he went to "add contact" on his phone, then gave me the phone. I put both my names and number. It's still the right thing to do?<br />And btw, my first name is not so common and my surname is difficult to spell which might be why guys usually ask me to write it down myself. <br />I've always given my surname to guys if they ask me to put down my number, if I felt unsafe doing so, I wouldn't have talked to them or given them my number in the first place. I'd say that if a girl refuses, she's not that interested. Of course you can stalk her online, but most people have googled themselves these days, and there is rarely any info out there which you have no control over. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-40188570959924092512012-08-29T16:44:17.307-07:002012-08-29T16:44:17.307-07:00Andrew, my surname is prone to mispronunciation, s...Andrew, my surname is prone to mispronunciation, so it's never fun to have to correct people over and over again. I am looking to get rid of it lol, if for nothing, for this reason alone.<br />Also, I find that men volunteer their surnames readily, and forget to ask me mine until I do know them pretty well. And even so, they are not so much interesed in my surname as my equally odd and unpronouncable middle name (one of my 5 first names) that I use as an initial. No-one wants to know my surname :-( but that works out quite well for me :-)Spacetravellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02202131232540121117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-61054935366542707842012-08-27T21:21:48.920-07:002012-08-27T21:21:48.920-07:00Hi Andrew, I've been reading your blog for a l...Hi Andrew, I've been reading your blog for a long time and really enjoyed this post. I don't give my last name out unless asked because I almost don't want to seem pushy, but I never thought of it as being open, which I'd like to think I am. Another reason I don't offer my last name is because it's... Ho. haha it invites a lot of inappropriate puns. But now that I think of it, it's a fun conversation starter. Anyway, thanks - I enjoy your blog. Very Highbrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10802777975225107276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-76490928983744395122012-08-27T08:37:55.094-07:002012-08-27T08:37:55.094-07:00Just wait until he asks for yours, then ask for hi...Just wait until he asks for yours, then ask for his. If he doesn't ask for a while, it wouldn't be weird or unnatural for you to ask for his, even if it was completely out of the blue: "It just occurred to me that I don't actually know your last name... what is it?" <br /><br />If asking him that question after a few dates would make you nervous (i.e. because you'd anticipate him not wanting to give it to you and possibly refusing), then it isn't a good relationship to be pursuing.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-33024700461208413982012-08-27T08:32:05.002-07:002012-08-27T08:32:05.002-07:00I often want a man's last name but I don't...I often want a man's last name but I don't know how to ask for it.<br />Maybe if I offer up mine he will return the favor?juliahttps://twitter.com/JuliaARamseynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-87861196096838253772012-08-27T08:03:40.037-07:002012-08-27T08:03:40.037-07:00When I started reading this post, I thought uh-oh,...When I started reading this post, I thought uh-oh, I think I've been a bad girl...But I was so glad I was wrong. I'm one of those girls who automatically volunteer my last name when asked my number. I never even think about stalkers. I trust my "goodguy-dar" which is a very well-honed and good "guydar" :) I don't give out my number to folks I don't have a good feeling on, so no first name either LOLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-60835685462167076552012-08-27T02:07:14.127-07:002012-08-27T02:07:14.127-07:00Haha, no but that's probably a good post idea....Haha, no but that's probably a good post idea.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-55285163822172105622012-08-27T01:49:07.668-07:002012-08-27T01:49:07.668-07:00Upon first introduction it shouldn't be read i...Upon first introduction it shouldn't be read into. If, after a few dates you ask and he won't tell you, then I'd be worried.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-77883140125104058082012-08-26T15:11:13.004-07:002012-08-26T15:11:13.004-07:00What should women think if a guy doesn't offer...What should women think if a guy doesn't offer or give his last name? Is there something to be read into that? Should we assume that he wants to retain anonymity and keep things light, or is it something that is not considered upon first introduction? I would definitely say there isn't that feeling of sharing or warmth when a last name is left in question, but should it be considered a red flag to ladies looking to find a lasting relationship?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-8509934638162131842012-08-26T12:18:00.482-07:002012-08-26T12:18:00.482-07:00I haven't liked giving my last name ever since...I haven't liked giving my last name ever since someone teased me about it rhyming with my first name! :P But you make a good point here. <br /><br />PS--You know, Andrew, when I first saw this post, I thought that it would be a satire about a man taking his wife's name after marriage! Hahahaha! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-51400166520487554322012-08-26T10:09:51.128-07:002012-08-26T10:09:51.128-07:00LOL, I love this post because it highlights one of...LOL, I love this post because it highlights one of the major areas of paranoia among the sexes. I think most girls also don't like the request because they think that you might be such a player that you need last names to keep track of all your women. I know a few of my friends have said that actually. I also went out with a guy last year, and when we exchanged numbers, I asked what his last name was. On our second date he said that I must have google searched him. when I said no, his feathers got kind of ruffled and he asked if I had so many guys names in my phone that I needed last names...so apparently it goes both ways lol....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com