tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post7797990727808999127..comments2024-03-18T05:54:22.734-07:00Comments on The Rules Revisited: "Because Of" Versus "In Spite Of"Andrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-27836735561616858322021-03-31T16:13:15.258-07:002021-03-31T16:13:15.258-07:00, I just have to share my testimony on this Forum...., I just have to share my testimony on this Forum.. The feeling of being loved takes away so much burden from our shoulders. I had all this but I made a big mistake when I cheated on my wife with another woman and my wife left me for over 4 months after she found out.. I was lonely, sad and devastated. Luckily I was directed to a very powerful spell caster Dr Emu who helped me cast a spell of reconciliation on our Relationship and he brought back my wife and now she loves me far more than ever.. I'm so happy with life now. Thank you so much Dr Emu, kindly Contact Dr Emu Today and get any kind of help you want.. Via Email emutemple@gmail.com or Call/WhatsApp cell number +2347012841542 Website (https://emutemple.wordpress.com/)Jason Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16896927184869020575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-16985808600685475992017-03-22T21:15:03.985-07:002017-03-22T21:15:03.985-07:00I thought all men found me unattractive when I use...I thought all men found me unattractive when I used to wear no makeup, sloppy clothes, and always had my hair in an uncombed big messy bun.I remember when I first got my glasses I recognized men checking me out more than I thought they would. There was this cute slim guy who was obviously interested in me and I was just surprised. I remember when I started dressing up more, taking care of my appearance, wearing better clothes, ect he stopped having interest in me. WTF?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08716037283881443232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-14994816211907430542015-09-17T19:46:21.968-07:002015-09-17T19:46:21.968-07:00AA, the reason most articles on this site are abou...AA, the reason most articles on this site are about attracting men, is because this blog is read by and dedicated to single women who want to attract men and have seen the pretty lies they were told with limited results.<br /><br />So yes, almost all articles on here are and will be on attracting men.<br /><br />About asking straight guy friends for advice: Like Andrew said in this article, if a girl is "hot enough" for a guy, he does not focus on the details like her having on an ugly dress or bad hair<br /><br />About you asking your girlfriend for fashion advice: You seem to have a fortunate friendship, because the girls I've been friends with will tell you you look good in a bad outfit, so you don't outshine them<br /><br />About women wearing an outfit to be comfortable and feel pretty: That's great if things work out for you without much effort, but for most of us, it hasn't. Which is why we're here.<br /><br />-AnonymousLillyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-42540171323861035002013-08-02T12:06:41.044-07:002013-08-02T12:06:41.044-07:00You're missing the context because the article...You're missing the context because the article is about a man's perception on what is attractive. Also, while you say most girls dress so they feel pretty, most often the biggest indicator of that is the amount of attention from men. <br /><br />In my opinion, women that don't need to look sexy and don't need approval from men are way more attractive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-65289229536811654242013-04-29T12:52:38.729-07:002013-04-29T12:52:38.729-07:00I don't mean to sound absurdly feminist, but i...I don't mean to sound absurdly feminist, but it kinda sounds like you're expecting (1) women to want only to dress up to attract men and (2) straight, disinterested men to give decent fashion advice. I think both are false. Most girls I know dress up because whatever we're wearing makes us feel pretty, not because some guy noticed us. It has more to do with feeling good about yourself. A nice, well-fitting outfit affects a woman's self-confidence in a big way. We feel beautiful and sexy...and that's without any male commentary.<br />And asking a straight disinterested man for fashion advice? If I asked my guy friends what I should wear, at least one would immediately respond "a thong". Not because he's at all attracted to me, but because he's a guy. No offense, but most of your gender seems to be thinking about sex 75% of the time. If you just ignore the previous statement, girls, think about going to one of your guys friends. Ask him what you should wear: the yellow dress, or the pink skirt. I have never met a straight guy who would NOT do one of the following: shrug and look deeply confused, or say bluntly "I don't care."<br />I personally have always asked my best gal friend. She's knows me, what I love, what I can't stand. We know other very well, well enough to be brutally honest with each other. I tell her when she's being a bitch and she tells me when I look like a slut.<br />It's not a question of partiality, its a matter of honesty. Do you trust the person you're asking to tell you the truth or not?<br />I personally would think you need new friends if you thought they were shallow enough to lie to you about FASHION advice just to stay on your good side.FluffyMaohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14824236065703457178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-83362165847219625592013-04-15T12:43:29.367-07:002013-04-15T12:43:29.367-07:00But they are incapable of seeing women the way str...But they are incapable of seeing women the way straight men do. They cannot comprehend what is sexually attractive and what is the most feminine. There is simply a link missing there. You might as well ask a female friend with good taste. We already know that gay men are partial to women looking less like women and more like a woman/teenage boy blend, as in the fashion world. Sophienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-3356490708930448072013-04-15T11:57:49.197-07:002013-04-15T11:57:49.197-07:00I disagree about getting opinions from gay guys. ...I disagree about getting opinions from gay guys. While I have some that are pretty flamboyant, and would tell me that rainbow eye shadow is the way to go, I have many more with great taste. They are often powerful observers of women, and since they are guys and are driven by visual attraction they can often tell me if something isn't fitting right or looks great. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-55571319014187225182013-01-11T21:59:30.761-08:002013-01-11T21:59:30.761-08:00I think it's really hard to get an honest opin...I think it's really hard to get an honest opinion from not only females friends and family members but also MALE friends too. The bottom line is that humans generally don't want to insult the people in their lives so it's easier to just say "you look great." We've all done it. That's why this blog is great because you are not talking directly to a girl you know, so you can be truly honest. The other post about a girl looking good IN SPITE OF her short hair rather than BECAUSE OF her short hair is something I've been saying for years. Sure, we've all seen gorgeous models with pixie haircuts.....yet that same model would still be way better looking with long, shiny, bouncy hair that moves! It doesn't matter how hot you are - guys don't want to feel like they are running their hands through their buddy's hair!Jaclyn Juliettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18179429572104319596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-88602450225512190332012-03-19T13:03:10.992-07:002012-03-19T13:03:10.992-07:00Touche. I did say that, didn't I...
While I d...Touche. I did say that, didn't I...<br /><br />While I did contradict myself pretty blatently, the principles at work are still valid. Sexual interest can cause men to say what they think you want to hear (in order to get in your pants) and sexual disinterest can allow others to ignore what really makes you attractive, in favor of what is fashionable, or "fun" or whatever. You also want to be wary of people who will try to make you feel good with their answer.<br /><br />The point is that you should choose someone who will be able to objectively gauge your attractiveness but will also be honest with you. In many situations these two things are mutually exclusive (hence the contradiction in my advice about who to pick).Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-84615139291880080372012-03-19T12:17:47.698-07:002012-03-19T12:17:47.698-07:00Well, in another tip you say "Do not solicit ...Well, in another tip you say "Do not solicit or consider opinions from your female friends, your relatives or your gay friends. All of these are strongly colored either by their sexual disinterest in you, or a desire to avoid offending you." So I think my brother is out, since he's a relative. And gay men are out because of sexual disinterest, so how will a disinterested straight man give me a better opinion? Do female friends care more about being nice than male friends?Molly Renhttp://molly-ren.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-59662694305775113552012-03-18T17:44:56.598-07:002012-03-18T17:44:56.598-07:00By "not like you" I meant "not inte...By "not like you" I meant "not interested in dating or sleeping with you." This could be your brother, for example, or an ex boyfriend. The point is to make sure it is a guy who isn't going to tailor his answer to what he thinks you want to hear.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-11746647411097079452012-03-18T08:01:34.418-07:002012-03-18T08:01:34.418-07:00Okay, I am super confused now.
"Get your mal...Okay, I am super confused now.<br /><br />"Get your male friends' opinions, but make sure you call their attention to the specific change (Try "How does this shirt look on me? Would it look better if it were tighter?" not just "How do I look?"). Make sure it is a male friend that does not like you, because a male friend that does like you will struggle to be objective."<br /><br />Why would a "male friend who does not like you" want to hang out with you anyway, much less give you advice on clothing choices?Molly Renhttp://molly-ren.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-31308827080986186962012-03-17T20:06:22.989-07:002012-03-17T20:06:22.989-07:00Yeah I mean the principle should always be that if...Yeah I mean the principle should always be that if he isn't making at least some effort to see you or get in touch with you, he isn't interested and you should move on. That being said, if he friended all of your friends (I assume you are talking about facebook here), he is probably trying to play games and make you jealous. I wouldn't give into them. If you like him, be receptive as possible to his advances, but you should still wait for him to make those advances. If he is trying to have sex with you so soon, though, he probably doesn't have a real interest in dating you. I'd forget about him and move on.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-47956567371808478772012-03-13T16:25:28.450-07:002012-03-13T16:25:28.450-07:00I've been reading your blog regularly and I re...I've been reading your blog regularly and I really think it has helped me isolate somethings about myself & (my hamster) that have been really eye opening. Anyways, I was wondering if you could write some guidelines about how a woman should behave after a hookup. Granted, I'm still in college, so I'm not sure how this would change in the 'real' world.<br /><br />Basically, I hooked up with a man that I share some mutual friends with. He practically begged me to go home with him, though he promised that he wouldn't try to sleep with me (pretty sure that's pure bs). I declined as politely as I can, since I do hold some interest in him. Afterwards, he friends all of my friends from that night...except for me. This does bother me, and my first instinct is to ignore this and distance myself. Am I right to do this? He recently broke up with his gf of a year, so I suppose trying to invest in this is also a stupid idea. Any opinions?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-969433143482457092011-09-30T14:10:34.413-07:002011-09-30T14:10:34.413-07:00I found myself on your blog through another blog p...I found myself on your blog through another blog post which was refering to yours. I am just wondering how superficial relationships you have had if these are the things you find women should know about male mindset. I have never had difficulties in attracting men but difficulties yes in finding men that really search for something more than just attractivity in women..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-2293025030252342662011-09-28T08:38:11.178-07:002011-09-28T08:38:11.178-07:00Your first two stories make me think of the "...Your first two stories make me think of the "Post Hoc Ergo Propter Hoc" fallacy. <br /><br />I like your own point that we love to think that something just "works" when it comes to making us more attractive. Wouldn't it be nice to have that magic charm that makes everything easier?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com