tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post8992144773230834007..comments2024-03-28T01:29:54.776-07:00Comments on The Rules Revisited: What It Is Like to Be Rejected by GirlsAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-32381611365495149382021-08-04T22:30:51.744-07:002021-08-04T22:30:51.744-07:00I started on COPD Herbal treatment from Ultimate L...I started on COPD Herbal treatment from Ultimate Life Clinic, the treatment worked incredibly for my lungs condition. I used the herbal treatment for almost 4 months, it reversed my COPD. My severe shortness of breath, dry cough, chest tightness gradually disappeared. Reach Ultimate Life Clinic via their WEBSITE www.ultimatelifeclinic.com . 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(women fruit of womb)<br />Note: I was desperate to get back my ex love man, it work more faster only desperate ones seeking for urgent result to restore back true love and peace in marriage relationship to contact Dr.Oduduwa immediately. WhatsApp mobile: +79268011965<br />Janice Alienahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09430319053484231924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-45700458925762401662016-01-22T11:01:18.050-08:002016-01-22T11:01:18.050-08:00I must note I laughed out loud - let me caveat tha...I must note I laughed out loud - let me caveat that with the fact I was laughing at your brilliant analogy of lash out "Like a 5th grader, I wanted to tell them I didn't give a fuck because they were ugly and I didn't want to talk to them anyway..." - because it was perfect. Rejection brings us to our most insecure self and yes 5th grade was pretty bad sigh. I have wondered how difficult it must be for men to have to make the approach...you do have my sympathies. More often than not, I am that girl that is never approached...I mean 97% of the time and yes that's a relatively specific percentage. I'm an attractive girl, in good shape, long blonde hair, I dress well, I'm friendly... Friends tell me men assume I will say no...blah blah :) I have to smile as it really is impossible to say why they I am left to my own devices when out. I choose to enjoy my friends, dance, have fun regardless. Perhaps here is no science to it. Men must become tired of approaching or weigh the odds of success and just walk on by. Rejection comes in all forms and none of it feels good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-38326118990104830302015-10-25T12:37:21.777-07:002015-10-25T12:37:21.777-07:00Hm, I don't know. From other posts, I'm t...Hm, I don't know. From other posts, I'm to believe that women have it easy when they want sexual attention. So, to my mind, it should hurt MORE for a woman to be rejected, since it's supposed to be "easy" for her, as a female.moesmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06935509523687490219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-59581306294873900932015-07-06T04:53:30.592-07:002015-07-06T04:53:30.592-07:00I'm pretty sure you aren't a decent woman....I'm pretty sure you aren't a decent woman. But if lying to yourself makes you feel better...then by all means. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-65953753299193215062014-04-13T17:03:54.607-07:002014-04-13T17:03:54.607-07:00@Chris60
“As an attractive woman it can be demoral...@Chris60<br /><i>“As an attractive woman it can be demoralising to be hit on for sex by a string of men who think it is fine to focus on looks as more important than character or intelligence.”</i><br /><br />Non-sequitor. Your morale should be predicated on your behavior not on the behavior of others. Men will always hit on women for sex and focus on their looks – it is the way they are built, so chastising them for this is futile.<br /><br />Do you know what would be more demoralising than men hitting on you for sex? If no men ever hit on you at all.<br /><br /><i>“Men can turn ugly when rejected and it is awkward trying to let a man down nicely, despite the fact that he was blind drunk and spilling his drink on you, unable to string a sentence together”</i><br /><br />I agree that this is unfortunate: it’s just really, really difficult to approach several women in a night and take quite a few knock-backs and move on to the next woman as if nothing happened, whilst constantly maintaining a positive, cheerful disposition. Hence, many/most guys need some liquid courage.<br /><br /><i>“In turn, I have spent a chunk of my life as a single woman and been questioned if I am lesbian or strange if I prefer to remain by myself instead of hopping into bed with a virtual stranger or someone who has worked the floor looking for his sexual needs to be gratified.”</i><br /><br />No, this is not strange – in fact it is how most women operate. Women prefer to abstain and wait whilst looking for a man they deem worthy of her attention. Men, however, will simply drop their standards whilst “looking for his sexual needs to be gratified” rather than abstain.<br /><br />@ Emily L<br /><i>“ If you don't like being hit on by men at bars, you have two options: (1) don't go there, or (2) learn to say no”</i><br /><br />Agreed – it seems so simple really.<br /><br /><i>“I'm not saying you should have sex w them, you shouldn't”</i><br /><br />I disagree. I think you <i>should</i> have sex with them. Lol.Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01129475363638289832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-73493377390834002132014-04-12T09:59:10.846-07:002014-04-12T09:59:10.846-07:00I don't know that when a guy sees you at a bar...I don't know that when a guy sees you at a bar his first thoughts when he sees you include, "what a mind on that girl." I doubt it ever is. I don't understand why so many women claim to be intelligent yet they don't understand the part physical attraction plays. That's not a sign of intelligence at all!<br /><br />Intimacy exists, but you have to know how to find it. Maybe consider things about you that make it such a common occurrence for such an "attractive" woman who is "intelligent" to attract that kind of guy?<br /><br />I also think it's kind of shitty to be so critical of a guy who hits on you at a bar or is drunk there. People get drunk at bars, and even great guys (and great gals) get drunk at bars. Unless you're going to a shit bar, I doubt guys are totally wasted. If you don't like being hit on by men at bars, you have two options: (1) don't go there, or (2) learn to say no (Andrew's post he references). Also, if a guy shows the initial physical attraction, how more impressed do you think he'll be if he realizes there's a brain inside your head once he gets to know you? I think it's bad to be so dismissive of a guy at a bar especially when it's impossible for a guy to know of all of your supposed redeeming qualities. I'm not saying you should have sex w them, you shouldn't, but recognizing the courage (even if it's liquid courage) and effort the guy is making when he makes a move is something you should be flattered by.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01635860436924542629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-15669548446464375582014-04-12T05:24:58.499-07:002014-04-12T05:24:58.499-07:00How to Reject a Guy at a Bar - Part 1<a href="http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/11/how-to-reject-guy-at-bar-part-1.html" rel="nofollow">How to Reject a Guy at a Bar - Part 1</a>Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266216180030320537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-5582743488672813312014-04-12T04:20:35.042-07:002014-04-12T04:20:35.042-07:00As an attractive woman it can be demoralising to b...As an attractive woman it can be demoralising to be hit on for sex by a string of men who think it is fine to focus on looks as more important than character or intelligence. I always feel uncomfortable rejecting men outright, but feel even more uncomfortable that men choose to focus on me as a body not a person. Men can turn ugly when rejected and it is awkward trying to let a man down nicely, despite the fact that he was blind drunk and spilling his drink on you, unable to string a sentence together, or already talking about the great 69er he would perform. Instead of hitting on the most targets, maybe it would pay to to be honest about the level of compatibility or their approach at the time. In turn, I have spent a chunk of my life as a single woman and been questioned if I am lesbian or strange if I prefer to remain by myself instead of hopping into bed with a virtual stranger or someone who has worked the floor looking for his sexual needs to be gratified. Rejection hurts, but so does being with someone who is incapable of offering intimacy, a mature relationship with equal give and take or a two-way conversation that involves active listening and reflection. The collapsing of sex with intimacy leaves a lot to be desired. chris60https://www.blogger.com/profile/17046720108501151694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-16456685639933205852014-02-02T05:46:02.200-08:002014-02-02T05:46:02.200-08:00jesus, talk about female solipsism. another examp...jesus, talk about female solipsism. another example of a woman who can't see a perspective other than her own. if you don't see how it feels to be a man, how can you ever empathise or seek to attract a man?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-91093159237711731492013-10-08T23:23:45.178-07:002013-10-08T23:23:45.178-07:00I would bet he did that because a number of reason...I would bet he did that because a number of reasons, pick&mix at will:<br /><br />One of your friends turned him down in front of his mates, and this lashing out was more arrogant bravado than anything else<br /><br />You have rejected one of them /been rejected by one of them<br /><br />He wasn't breastfed by his mum as a kid / had an abusive father/ therefore developed to become point-blank stupid bully, with or without being drunk/high and ego-tripping on drugs<br /><br />By being absolutely horrible to you, he thinks (TWISTED I know) he can control and exert power/dominance over you, and by association, your peers. <br /><br />He got a misinterpretation of the line "treat them mean, keep them keen"<br /><br />His peers dared him to, and afterwards he will probably have to do whatever else they ask <br /><br />Etc etc etc....<br /><br />Bottom line, none of this is personal.<br /><br />digrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09831488727504494584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-28645696776934668162013-08-20T09:35:11.138-07:002013-08-20T09:35:11.138-07:00I would sooner be rejected outright on the first a...I would sooner be rejected outright on the first approach than used as a walking wallet or taxi which has happened to me quite often. Sure rejection hurts, expecially when it becomes a regular thing, but it hurts alot more to be strung along and used. Eventually it colours your view of women and makes a man suspicious of a woman that might actually like him for real. It makes him slow to take the risk. The old saying "Once bitten, twice shy" springs to mind...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12484559719746388524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-2735388581252940362013-07-04T23:03:04.081-07:002013-07-04T23:03:04.081-07:00Wow, what a slug. News flash for you buddy: guys...Wow, what a slug. News flash for you buddy: guys like you are easy for decent women to spot. So if you eventually ever decide you want to find a good woman to marry, listen for the crickets.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-89280390776422294592013-05-09T07:40:14.662-07:002013-05-09T07:40:14.662-07:00It feels like ouch, like very ouch actually... but...It feels like ouch, like very ouch actually... but no matter what we say the choice theirs in the end...mojossdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05225341809841394930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-22321436934645734422013-04-26T04:47:39.912-07:002013-04-26T04:47:39.912-07:00As much as I like this blog, I do feel as though y...As much as I like this blog, I do feel as though you try to minimise women's legitimate feelings about rejection to the point that it borders on being sexist. I think her point is we do get rejected too just in different ways but nonetheless in ways which are also humiliating and damaging to a woman's self esteem.<br /><br />In this post you seem do a lot of your thinking from either the perspective of a male or from the perspective of a universally attractive, all-powerful female and frame it within a narrative where she has all the power and you are vulnerable and in doing that you're totally minimizing what a lot of women go through on the dating scene - because women - even very attractive ones, also go through experiences of rejection too and put themselves out there and get rejected in plenty of contexts also:<br /><br />For instance, if a group of 3 girls who are all 8s go out and only 2 out of the 3 girls get attention from guys, won't that 3rd woman feel rejected? Yes of course she will, and that IS rejection of some sort which may put into her mind that she's not as pretty as her friends and affect her self esteem. And I swear down, every girl who has ever been out clubbing or bar hopping, however pretty, will tell you that they've had experiences like this.<br /><br />And yes it does take guts to approach a girl, but it also takes guts to put yourself out there as a woman too- when you go out and dress up *even just on a daily basis*, you are making yourself vulnerable to other people's- especially men's judgement of your looks. And there the hammer may fall on your womanhood and sense of self worth if deemed not attractive by the men you meet and they choose to:<br /><br />- Hit on your friends and act like they wish you weren't there/ignore you<br />- Actually tell you to your face that they find you unattractive<br />- Be outright rude towards you in a social setting because you're not deemed attractive enough to show any respect to<br /><br />I don't even consider myself to be ugly at all, I'm pretty average, and I've had all these experiences. Yes, I've equally had experiences of being hit on and rejecting guys but the point is, that no gender has it easier than the other and please stop trying to make it seem like women have it easy when it comes to rejection. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-42472124877568104312013-04-12T08:58:11.572-07:002013-04-12T08:58:11.572-07:00^ agreed. Only hurt people want to hurt others - t...^ agreed. Only hurt people want to hurt others - that may sound like a cliche but it's true. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-83115339973969807192013-04-12T08:51:45.435-07:002013-04-12T08:51:45.435-07:00That goes beyond rejection. That guy obviously had...That goes beyond rejection. That guy obviously had issues and he attacked you because at some point in his life he was attacked and made to feel dehumanized. It is very sad that he lashed out his anger at you. I hope you know that you do not deserve that kind of treatment and that it is never acceptable for a man to treat a woman like that under any circumstance. Viviannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-74646762362087472362013-04-12T07:11:23.880-07:002013-04-12T07:11:23.880-07:00I'm a 24 year old man and I really hate women ...I'm a 24 year old man and I really hate women sometimes for rejecting me, but what that guy did to you was harsh and does not represent men as a whole. I personally would never do something like that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-47659064120296401002013-04-12T07:03:06.619-07:002013-04-12T07:03:06.619-07:00Did you get a sense from his face & other nonv...Did you get a sense from his face & other nonverbal expressions whether he was trying to put on the brakes? Or would it be worth trying to figure out another idea for getting together? (I think going to see an art exhibit is a great way to hang out with a friend, by the way.)<br /><br />I only ask because I know I have felt bad for inadvertently rejecting people. A couple of times, way in the past, guys had asked me to go to a movie. In one case, I actually had a slight crush on the guy but because he caught me off guard w/ asking me out, I told him I’d already seen the movie.<br /><br />I guess I was shocked at realizing he might like me & unable to come up with an appropriately encouraging response. In retrospect I should’ve suggested an alternative plan, as unfortunately, he never asked again.<br />scribenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-35304939303906260792013-04-12T06:43:05.773-07:002013-04-12T06:43:05.773-07:00hen men get rejected try being a woman who gets re...hen men get rejected try being a woman who gets rejected. Happened to me last nite in fact. There's a guy I'm friendly with and asked if he wanted to go to an art exhibit we'd both expressed interest in...only response I got was sorry already been. Ive very rarely asked men out, but this will make be not do it again.<br /><br />OUCH! OWNED. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-1272507381242042202013-03-26T02:41:53.459-07:002013-03-26T02:41:53.459-07:00That's awful. The British 'uni lad' cu...That's awful. The British 'uni lad' culture has a lot to answer for. He was most likely try to look a 'top lad' in front of his mates - a pathetic, insecure boy, not a man. Monoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-43962885552720199822013-03-25T12:29:33.593-07:002013-03-25T12:29:33.593-07:00Im sorry to hear about your experience. Seriousl...Im sorry to hear about your experience. Seriously, the last time I saw someone behave like this was in middle school. That guy has a DICK attitude. Fuck him. Ynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-56537033829586010002013-03-25T12:03:55.523-07:002013-03-25T12:03:55.523-07:00* [...not] a huge tonne better looking than me, on...* [...not] a huge tonne better looking than me, one was just better presented and the other wasn't dressed well, but has an above average figure i.e big butt and boobs and a small waistcutekoalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00693663650745633101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2882065480599769720.post-39924594489097172822013-03-25T09:49:47.846-07:002013-03-25T09:49:47.846-07:00Well here’s a female take on an experience I’ve ha...Well here’s a female take on an experience I’ve had of being rejected one night, and with this illustrate why ‘rejection’ for a lot of us I feel is simply different and can be a lot worse….<br /><br />It wasn’t a particularly great night, but I was out with a few friends from University. The club we were in was pretty empty. I wouldn’t say I looked bad that night, but I didn’t look my best either and I would say that two out of the four girls I was with were more attractive than I was, by say, a couple of points on the scale, but not. <br /><br />Anyways, I had separated from the group and when I came back, they were all dancing around and near this one guy [like I said, it was pretty empty]. I went over to them, and I was a little tipsy and started dancing. He took one look at me, got up, and left. I stepped out to the toilet a few minutes later, and the guy was standing by the bathrooms with his friends. Seeing me, he turned and said, ‘You’re a fucking minger […]’ which if you don’t know, in British slang means an ugly girl- and his friends all laughed. There was a group of about 3-4 of them, and I felt completely shocked and humiliated. I said nothing to my friends about what happened, put a brave face on and continued my night, but felt absolutely awful. When I got home, I burst into tears and spent the rest of the weekend in my dorm feeling pretty bad about myself and convinced that I was ugly and undesirable.<br /><br />The thing that really upset me is I was just there to dance with my friends and have a good time and I was humiliated and called ugly. I didn’t approach him, didn’t try to dance with him and certainly didn’t have the presumption or expectation that the guy who humiliated me would be into me, I simply had to be in his vicinity for him to reject me. You’re describing experiences where YOU approached girls and were met by a negative response, however, I actually did nothing ‘wrong’ and was treated like dirt…and that’s how it is for a lot of girls on the average to below average scale: rejection comes in the form of sneers, disgusted and dirty looks from men, being ignored when you’re with your better looking friends and generally being treated as second rate- or worse, as a figure of ridicule and hate: all because a lot of men- even some of the least attractive- believe they’re entitled to women of a certain level of hotness which if you don’t meet in their eyes, they believe they have the right to dehumanize you for even being near them.<br /><br />When women reject men and seem really turned off it’s often because they’re annoyed with the assumption on that man’s part on some level that he’s entitled to them- an assumption which he’s making by approaching the woman and initiating contact. In contrast, when men do the rejecting its often unprovoked and done on the basis that they are simply entitled to be in the presence of better looking women and are literally in some cases ANGRY that you’re even near them, so they’ll literally do things like call you ugly to your face, laugh at you, make fun of you in front of their friends because they feel its their right to: it’s like it’s YOUR JOB as a woman to be hot and to accommodate a man’s ‘needs’ to feel important, and you’re not doing your job in their eyes by not being hot enough. <br /><br />What I’m trying to demonstrate is that men APPROACH to get rejected and do most of the initiating in interactions between the sexes, whereas women can get rejected and humiliated in very intense and public ways for simply doing nothing but failing to meet a man’s expectations looks wise. <br /><br />That’s all I wanted to add. I mostly love this blog and think your observations are often ingenious and dead on but I think sometimes you fail to realise what a huge sense of entitlement a lot of men- including you judging by that story- have to what they perceive as the most attractive women, which at its worse- can lead to the kind of behaviour that I’ve described and unfairly puts all the onus on the woman to be ‘hot enough’ and instead of putting the onus on BOTH sexes to simply have a little respect for each other. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com