I am from a large family and my parents are still happily married. My father taught me next to nothing about women (explicitly, anyway), so I can empathize with being ignorant about the opposite sex, as well as the learning process one has to go through to correct that.
I do well with women. There are certainly some better-looking men out there, maybe some that are more confident, and possibly some that are smarter. I am not at the very top of the heap, but I've come a long way. Five or six years ago I could barely talk to girls, let along attract them; so I can definitely identify with the struggle for self-improvement.
I am very masculine and have an extremely analytical mind. The former trait motivates my observations of women, while the latter facilitates my curiosity and helps to process those observations. I also love ideas and really enjoy writing: this blog is the result.
I write for women rather than men simply because there are so few resources of this type for women. Men have thousands of books and blogs; women have a handful. Originally this seemed unfair to me, and I decided to start writing to "fill the gap." I realize now that it partly has to do with the fact that women aren't as inclined as men to dissect their problems and construct solutions; their approach is normally more intuitive. But the success of this blog bears witness to the fact that a large number of women can and do benefit from this kind of advice, so I am happy to provide it.
Assumptions and Caveats
In everything I write I make several assumptions about the reader and their beliefs. If you disagree with the content of this blog, it is likely because you disagree with one or more of the following:
- Successful, monogamous, long-term relationships (marriage in most cases) are possible and desirable.
- Men and women are fundamentally different. (Note: I do not assume that men and women should be or always will be fundamentally different; but simply that, right now, in this generation, they are.) The differences between the sexes have significant implications about how one can attract the other, many of which were probably ignored - intentionally or otherwise - by your educators.
- Modern, western, liberal thought is reasonable enough to warrant the on-going experiment of attempting life according to its tenets. This is relevant because the most of the advice I give assumes that the sexual mores of western culture are reasonable, even if there are obvious excesses. If I didn't think these things were reasonable, I would instead be writing a blog urging that women be blindly submissive to men, never wear revealing clothing, etc.
- The various characteristics of men (physical, social, cultural, financial, etc.) follow a Gaussian distribution in most cases, and a woman can maximize her chances with men by appealing to the average man.
The second half of the post Don't Fuck on the First Date, gives a good overview of my philosophy on male-female social and sexual dynamics. This perspective underlies all of what I write on this blog. If you are interested enough to have read this far down the page, I suggest that you read that post before continuing to read anything else.