Beyond the Breakup

During the years I've been writing this blog, I've read and responded to thousands of e-mail questions from readers about their breakup situations. Eventually, writing and re-writing the same advice became repetitive, so I decided to put everything into a book.

Many of the questions I'd received had inspired posts on the blog; so I started by compiling these. In the beginning, the book was intended to be just that - a compilation of posts about breakups and rejection. However, in the process of compiling the posts, I realized that a lot more needed to be said, and the book grew considerably. I'd estimate that the blog material counts for only 20% of the total content, so even readers who have read every post on this blog will find a lot of new material.

This book cuts to the heart of relationship dynamics and the male state of mind regarding relationships; so even if you haven't had a boyfriend before, you can learn a lot from it. For more detail about the content, I encourage you to take a look at the chapter list at the bottom of this post, and to read the back cover in the image below (you can click on it to see a larger version).

Full Cover (click to enlarge)

I am working on expanding the distribution, but here are the ways you can currently get a copy:

Print Format: 5.25 x 8 inches (13.3 x 20.3 cm)

• (link) CreateSpace eStore 
• (link) Amazon.com 
• (link) All European Amazon sites 

HTML Format (for Kindle)

• (link) Kindle Store
• (link) Amazon.com
• (link) All European Amazon sites

PDF Format

• (link) Google Play Store (list of countries that can buy)

Please e-mail me if you cannot buy the book from your country, and I will find a way to get it to you.

Anyway, enjoy, and please let me know what you think, either in the comments here, by reviewing it online, or by e-mail. As always, you can contact me at therulesrevisited@gmail.com.

Chapter List

Introduction

PART I – UNDERSTANDING WHAT HAPPENED

Men Don’t Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do
The Analogy between Sex and Commitment
Why This Always Happens to You
Changing Your Perspective
Why You Didn't See It Coming
Men Don’t Have “Commitment Problems”
The Difference between Liking You and Liking You Enough
Why Men “Fade Out”
You Weren't Dating Him in the First Place
The Small Things Didn't Matter Anyway
Why Your Ex (Who Dumped You) Is Still Contacting You
Your Ex and Guilt
Your Ex and Pride
Your Ex and Decisiveness
Interpreting His Emotions
What’s Going through His Mind 

PART II – HOW TO HANDLE THE BREAKUP 

The Importance of Silence after a Breakup
No, You Can't Be “Just Friends”
How to Know If You Should Cut Him Off
Why It's Never Too Late
Why You Should Tell Him That You Are Cutting Him Off
What to Say
Managing Your Expectations
When You Should Fight to Save Your Relationship
Exceptions to the Rule
How to Know If You Should Dump Him First
When He Cheats
The Anatomy of Missing Him 

PART III – FOLLOWING THROUGH WITH THE BREAKUP 

Making Him Jealous Doesn't Work
Seeing Him at Work
Keeping in Touch With His Friends and Family
Being Connected with Your Ex on Social Media
Returning His Things and Getting Yours Back
What to Do When He Contacts You
When He Says He Wants Another Chance
Reason and Distraction
Stop Sleeping with Your Ex to Prove He Likes You 

PART IV – MOVING ON AND REBUILDING

You Are Responsible for Your Own Romantic Happiness
Stop Letting Him Waste Your Time
Know Why You Want Him Back
Why Getting Him Back Won't Help
Why Getting Dumped Is a Good Thing
The Importance of Emotional Honesty
Dating Again
Putting the Breakup in Perspective
When You Can Contact Him Again
Reframing the Future 

A Final Word

Related Posts

1. Book Announcement

2. Book Update

3. CLEO Magazine Interview