Beyond the Breakup

During the years I've been writing this blog, I've read and responded to thousands of e-mail questions from readers about their breakup situations. Eventually, writing and re-writing the same advice became repetitive, so I decided to put everything into a book.

Many of the questions I'd received had inspired posts on the blog; so I started by compiling these. In the beginning, the book was intended to be just that - a compilation of posts about breakups and rejection. However, in the process of compiling the posts, I realized that a lot more needed to be said, and the book grew considerably. I'd estimate that the blog material counts for only 20% of the total content, so even readers who have read every post on this blog will find a lot of new material.

This book cuts to the heart of relationship dynamics and the male state of mind regarding relationships; so even if you haven't had a boyfriend before, you can learn a lot from it. For more detail about the content, I encourage you to take a look at the chapter list at the bottom of this post, and to read the back cover in the image below (you can click on it to see a larger version).

Full Cover (click to enlarge)

I am working on expanding the distribution, but here are the ways you can currently get a copy:
Print Format: 5.25 x 8 inches (13.3 x 20.3 cm)
  • (link) CreateSpace eStore 
  • (link) Amazon.com 
  • (link) All European Amazon sites 
HTML Format (for Kindle)
  • (link) Kindle Store
  • (link) Amazon.com
  • (link) All European Amazon sites
PDF Format
Please e-mail me if you cannot buy the book from your country, and I will find a way to get it to you.

Anyway, enjoy, and please let me know what you think, either in the comments here, by reviewing it online, or by e-mail. As always, you can contact me at therulesrevisited@gmail.com.

Chapter List
Introduction
PART I – UNDERSTANDING WHAT HAPPENED
Men Don’t Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do
The Analogy between Sex and Commitment
Why This Always Happens to You
Changing Your Perspective
Why You Didn't See It Coming
Men Don’t Have “Commitment Problems”
The Difference between Liking You and Liking You Enough
Why Men “Fade Out”
You Weren't Dating Him in the First Place
The Small Things Didn't Matter Anyway
Why Your Ex (Who Dumped You) Is Still Contacting You
Your Ex and Guilt
Your Ex and Pride
Your Ex and Decisiveness
Interpreting His Emotions
What’s Going through His Mind 
PART II – HOW TO HANDLE THE BREAKUP 
The Importance of Silence after a Breakup
No, You Can't Be “Just Friends”
How to Know If You Should Cut Him Off
Why It's Never Too Late
Why You Should Tell Him That You Are Cutting Him Off
What to Say
Managing Your Expectations
When You Should Fight to Save Your Relationship
Exceptions to the Rule
How to Know If You Should Dump Him First
When He Cheats
The Anatomy of Missing Him 
PART III – FOLLOWING THROUGH WITH THE BREAKUP 
Making Him Jealous Doesn't Work
Seeing Him at Work
Keeping in Touch With His Friends and Family
Being Connected with Your Ex on Social Media
Returning His Things and Getting Yours Back
What to Do When He Contacts You
When He Says He Wants Another Chance
Reason and Distraction
Stop Sleeping with Your Ex to Prove He Likes You 
PART IV – MOVING ON AND REBUILDING
You Are Responsible for Your Own Romantic Happiness
Stop Letting Him Waste Your Time
Know Why You Want Him Back
Why Getting Him Back Won't Help
Why Getting Dumped Is a Good Thing
The Importance of Emotional Honesty
Dating Again
Putting the Breakup in Perspective
When You Can Contact Him Again
Reframing the Future 
A Final Word

Related Posts
3. CLEO Magazine Interview

11 comments:

  1. Congratulations on your e-book :) I am buying it now, I value your time and energy into giving us this useful and immaculately-expressed advice.

    Steph
    theglamguide.com

    ReplyDelete
  2. Sounds great, can't wait to get it!!!

    ReplyDelete
  3. I really really love what have been written by you. All things can be applied to my situation and I happy to buy book!

    ReplyDelete
  4. Hi Andrew,

    I've been following your blog since its inception and when you had written a book, I was also one of the first people to purchase it off Amazon. I went through a very horrible breakup at the end of 2014, I kept rereading your advice and applying them to my own life. I have fully moved on from my ex, and have entered another relationship, which I have just ended. Needless to say, I hope you reapply your rules for my current breakup. Thank you again for starting this blog, and while you have not posted anything new, I hope that you will eventually come back and restart the blog again.

    ReplyDelete
  5. Come On Join With Us Now !!! sabung ayam jago WA : +6281377055002 | BBM : D1A1E6DF | BOLAVITA

    ReplyDelete
  6. Ayam sabong ayam lebih jago dari pada ayam indonesia ? Benarkah itu ? Untuk mengetahui selanjut cerita nya Hubungi kami di BBM: D1A1E6DF / WA: +6281377055002

    ReplyDelete
  7. Come On Join With Us Now !!! sabungayam.net WA : +6281377055002 | BBM : D1A1E6DF | BOLAVITA

    ReplyDelete
  8. i couldn't believe that i would ever be re-unite with my ex-lover, i was so traumatize staying all alone with no body to stay by me and to be with me, but i was so lucky one certain day to meet this powerful spell caster,after telling him about my situation he did everything humanly possible to see that my lover come back to me,indeed after casting the spell my ex-lover came back to me less than 48 hours,my ex-lover came back begging me that he will never leave me again,3 months later we got engaged and married,if you are having this same situation just contact powerful spell caster on his email: chiefdrlucky@gmail.com or Whats App him through +2348132777335
    Website: http://chiefdrluckysolutionhome.website2.me/. thanks very much sir for restoring my ex-lover back to me

    ReplyDelete
  9. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago, because he felt i was cheating on him with a male friend of mine, i tried all i could to explain to him but he paid deaf ears, i was emotionally devastated because i really loved him until i saw a post on the internet about DR Abaka, who helps people gain back their lost lover, at first i doubted if it was real because i never believed in such things but i decided to give him a try, I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a Love spell for me The process of the spell to reunite lovers is very simple and he works selflessly people the same way he restored my relationship within 48 hours and my boyfriend was calling and begging to make up with me again, if you need help to repair your relationship or marriage problem. Here’s his contact, WhatsApp/Viber him on: +2349063230051, Email him: drabakaspelltemple@gmail.com

    ReplyDelete
  10. HOW Dr,UzoyaTHE GREAT SPELL CASTER HELP BRING MY EX LOVER. . My names are Jamison Patel from United States. Great Dr Uzoya is really powerful and knows how to do his job perfectly. If not for him i could not imagine what would have happened. My ex was always picking up an argument with me and was always beating me. He started acting strange and funny and left me for no cause for another girl. I thought all hope was gone. I searched for help on the internet and i came across Dr Uzoya. I saw so many testimonies about him. I was delighted and i contacted him on his email and told him what was going on. He laughed and assured me to calm down that he will help me and that my ex will come back begging me. He did his work and cast the spell for me and in 3 days time, my ex came apologizing just as he told me. Today we both live together and we are even more in love than how we use to be before he left. Contact the Dr Uzoya for your own help.You can contact him on his email; driraborspellcaster@gmail.com you can also reach him on +1(301)909-8775

    ReplyDelete
  11. i couldn’t believe that i would ever be re-unite with my ex-lover, i was so traumatize staying all alone with no body to stay by me and to be with me, but i was so lucky one certain day to meet this powerful spell caster,after telling him about my situation he did everything humanly possible to see that my lover come back to me,indeed after casting the spell my ex-lover came back to me less than 48 hours,my ex-lover came back begging me that he will never leave me again,3 months later we got engaged and married,if you are having this same situation just contact powerful spell caster on his email: chiefdrlucky@gmail.com or Whats App him through +2348132777335
    Website: http://chiefdrluckysolutionhome.website2.me/. thanks very much sir for restoring my ex-lover back to me  

    ReplyDelete