Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Ugly Girls Don’t Exist

Every once in a while I get e-mails from girls who have clearly resigned themselves to a life of lovelessness because they think they are ugly. This post is for them.

I used to feel sorry for ugly girls. When you're a young guy who still feels completely in awe of beautiful women, it's easy to fall into thinking that the girls who don’t have a visual effect on you are incapable of enjoying the dating world. Female good looks were overwhelming to me at the time, so the girls without them mustn't have been able to get guys – or so my 22-year-old logic went, anyway.

This reasoning sustained some damage when I finally went out with some hot girls. Doing so made me realize that what my mom had been telling me for years was actually true: a girl's looks aren't everything. But this actually wasn't what put an end to my pity. That didn’t happen until I realized that, when you frame the situation correctly, there actually isn’t anyone to pity. Let me explain...

It's common knowledge that physical beauty in women consists mainly of signs of health, youth, and fertility. Wide hips are attractive because they are conducive to childbearing. Long, full, smooth hair is sexy because it shows that a woman has all the nutrients she needs to grow it. Big breasts are attractive because they emphasize a woman’s ability to feed her child. Tight skin and big eyes are attractive because they make a woman look young and therefore more capable of bearing healthy children.

This state of affairs isn’t a coincidence. It exists because, throughout human history, the men who happened to be attracted to signs of health, youth, and fertility were more likely to fuck healthy, young, and fertile women, and they were therefore more likely to pass on their fertility-attracted genetics to future generations. The dudes who happened to be attracted to some other set of traits in females ended up having sex with less-fertile women, and their genetics were never passed on – or at least, they were passed on less and less until they died out completely. Likewise, the infertile women (in other words, the unattractive women) – or the women attracted to impotent men – also failed to reproduce, and their genes were similarly drained from the gene pool.

Most of you have probably heard all of this before. What is interesting here isn’t so much the evolutionary narrative, it’s the corresponding implication: because the weakest and least-attractive genes died out long ago, and the strongest, healthiest, most attractive ones have persisted, the human race is getting perpetually more attractive.

Of course, you don't need the spiel on natural selection to realize this; just look at what we used to look like:

A Neanderthal Woman and Modern Woman
(Image from National Geographic)

Yes, that’s right, I am comparing you to cave women. But it is a legitimate comparison because it makes an important point: if you exist on the earth today, it is only because men, collectively, throughout human history, wanted to fuck you. The ones who didn’t died off millions of years ago, along with all of the “ugly” genes in both sexes. Everyone left is sexy.

It’s like the whole human race has been using Tinder for millions of years, and now we’re living in a world populated only by our matches. Except it’s even better because our matches didn’t just swipe us right because they were bored on the way to work; they actually voted for us by banging our ancestors – there’s no ambiguity about what they wanted. And sure, maybe you like some of your matches more than the others, and maybe some of your matches like others more than you; but there is no getting around the fact that your sexual attractiveness (or potential for it) was a prerequisite for your existence in the gene pool.


Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you are attractive just the way you are. It may well be that you need to lose some serious weight and learn how to dress well in order to make men realize that they want to bang you. But that is a good thing, because it means that you can lose some serious weight and learn how to dress well and men will realize that they want to bang you.

And of course, there will always be “least hot,” “hotter” and “hottest.” Our minds have evolved to care about that, but the interesting thing is that men’s penises have not. I’ve talked about this with many guy friends many times, and we all agree that, when we are horny, we are willing to fuck about 50 % of women under the age of 60. And this considers even the women who don’t make an effort – imagine how high that number would be if everyone did.

Neither am I saying that every woman has an inherent capability to lock down a top-shelf dude. There are a lot of things other than looks that matter in dating and relationships, and there is a lot more to life than getting sexual attention from men. But what I am saying is that every woman who thinks she’s “just ugly” or somehow “unfuckable” is flat-out wrong. You are on this earth today because you have the ability to give men a boner. End of story.

This is a pretty important point – important enough that I made it in one of my earliest posts a few years ago. I drew the conclusion then that no girl needs to be below a 5 on the 10-point scale. And I stand by that. To borrow from what I said there:
...the time and effort you put into your appearance will produce results. Do not worry if your gut tells you otherwise; your gut is informed by beauty pageants and "100 Hottest Women" lists, and a thousand other influences that both reinforce and reflect the notion that beauty is a matter of winning the genetic gene pool - i.e. a matter of 'haves' vs. 'have-nots.' This notion is bullshit...no girl needs to be less than a five on the ten scale...If you present yourself well and get in great shape, you will be above average. And for those of you that are naturally about average, the sky's your limit.
I realize this message probably doesn’t apply to most of my readers. If you are reading websites like this, you haven’t given up hope. You know or at least suspect that there are things you can do to improve the quality and quantity of attention you get from men. So this message isn’t necessarily for you. But you probably know other girls who have given up. Maybe you have a friend who thinks she’s inherently unattractive or that she’s destined to be single her whole life because men don't want to fuck her.

The next time that conversation comes up with her (or even if it doesn’t), remind her of what I've said here. Remind her that hope should never be lost. Better yet, remind her that hope should never be necessary. You don't need hope when you're a winner in the genetic Olympics; you just need motivation. And a damn good way for her to get motivated is to recognize the truth: that with a little effort, being sexually attractive is well within her reach.


Related Posts
1. Feminine Beauty Is Highly Controllable
2. You Can Control How Attractive You Are
3. Should You Focus on Your Looks or Personality More?

155 comments:

  1. This is a very empowering message and interesting. However, while reading this, I was thinking "there is a difference between guys wanting to only fuck you and guys who would like to fuck you AS WELL AS date/settle down with you".

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Well yeah. That's what I meant by saying

      "Neither am I saying that every woman has an inherent capability to lock down a top-shelf dude. There are a lot of things other than looks that mater in dating and relationships, and there is a lot more to life than getting sexual attention from men."

      But you can't get a guy to settle down with you until you can get him sexually attracted, so being sexually attractive is a good start.

      Delete
    2. Andrew,

      Losing weight, hitting the gym to a level where my body fat composition is 17% and in a position to compete as an athletic model hasn't given me the love I desire. It's made me a sexual conquest for many of my previously wonderful male friends (and I've lost many who can't bare to be in my company anymore not because my personality has changed but because they are too aroused to be friendzoned). While it's very possible to morph into beauty after two gruelling years of training for anywhere between 1-3 hours per day, calculating all my micro and macro nutrients, giving up going out etc, I can actually say it's been sad, I've not only failed to attract good quality men but also lost many of my previously wonderful male friends (when I was morbidly obese)

      While it feels good to be fit and healthy, making myself into a self object (part of my career now as a model) has been awful for my personal life. If you've got a hot body, downplay your looks and somehow the more serious men come after you.

      I think your article works against women seeking relationships but is spot of on for women who enjoy being a sex toy who gets tossed aside after being used.

      Delete
    3. That's just because you have weak boundaries and are most likely inexperienced with men due to years of a lack of attention.

      If you can develop your boundaries (see my post The Importance of Personal Boundaries) then being sexy is purely a benefit.

      Delete
    4. I know you mean well Andrew but you are very very wrong about my boundaries, I've only had one sexual partner and I can't emphasis how my boundaries are firm and in place. I wouldn't allow any man to take advantage of me sexually, I wont hand over something I know they desperately want until I get an emotional connection first and foremost... I was just pointing out that as I became desirable, they could no longer see me as an emotional being with intelligence no matter what I did or said. It's difficult to cover up my body when I work in an environment that requires me to show my body (in a bikini for example) but I would downplay my looks and makeup to get that respect back.

      You should be encouraging us to not want sexual interest, it's not the attention we want at the end of the day. We want respect and to be looked at as wifey material (who's also attractive NOT sexy). I believe you mean well but I truly believe you're void of emotional attachment. You write from a players perspective which means you're making us attract those men who are a dime a dozen. Sometimes the softer Andrew writes and he makes lots of sense and helps us (but it ebs and flows). I feel you write articles like this when your love life sucks but when you're in love, you seem to hit the nail on the head.

      Delete
    5. You got to be kidding right ? I have never come across a single woman who bemoans newly discovered sexual attention from men. You have always know the potential superficiality of men - I'm sure it is one of the reasons you lost weight in the first place. Want your old platonic male friends back ? Simple, just put the weight back on....but you won't do it, would you ? Because you like the attention. You want the attention. Don't want to be unhealthy ? Easy. It is so so easy to make yourself unattractive to men without being fat. But you won't do it, would you. Because looking hot gives you more options and you have more to work with to get what you want, which is a quality relationship I am assuming. So please, don't concern troll yourslef.

      Delete
    6. No I'm not kidding. I'm been on your mailing list for years so I'm far from trolling. I've just found the guts to come out of lurking on your posts and comments that's all. Why are you so angry with me? I'm just being honest. Did I hit a nerve about you being a player who occasionally falls in love (I'm just basing my opinion on my your newsletters, I dont know you so please dont take it so personally)

      I can downplay my looks when I'm not working but most of my relationships are built at work and at the gym (which is where I spend most of my time).

      I think what we need is finding a balance. Not being unfit and unhealthy and not being so attractive men can't see past your external. Women shouldn't focus on their external too much as it attracts men who are overly confident with women and scares of the good ones who think they have no chance in hell getting you which is so effin wrong! I want one of the latter guys which average girls seem to attract and live happily ever after.

      Delete
    7. Sorry @Andrew, I thought you were Anonymous. My apologies for my response but he writes just like you just with different punctuation.

      Anonymous you write
      "I have never come across a single woman who bemoans newly discovered sexual attention from men"

      Well, if you scroll down you'll see another one - note Michelle J's comment.

      That's two in one article on one day.

      Women dont want sexual attention like you think we do. You are projecting.
      That's like me saying I've never met a man who hasn't wanted to commit and settle down the moment he started training weights. Well not the greatest metaphor but you get me.

      Delete
    8. You say...

      "Women dont want sexual attention like you think we do."

      And

      "You should be encouraging us to not want sexual interest, it's not the attention we want at the end of the day. We want respect and to be looked at as wifey material"

      I get that. No one wants to just be someone else's sex toy (even men, believe it or not). But you won't get the kind of attention you want until you can first attract guys sexually. That's why this post is important. I'm not saying it's everything (in fact I specifically say that it isn't), I'm saying that it's the one and only starting point.

      Yes, this brings in more bad attention with the good, but then you have to filter out the bad, not just complain about it. As Anonymous said, this is a way better state of affairs than getting no attention, even if requires stronger boundaries.

      And by the way, saying no to sex is only one tiny part of having strong boundaries (and the easiest part, at that). If you really develop strong boundaries, you won't have to complain about the attention of "bad guys" because they'll be bouncing off you like pin balls, never getting into your life for more than a brief moment - hardly something to complain about.

      Delete
    9. So you now are saying that some guys are just "bad", like some do just want sex and not a relationship

      Delete
    10. Sorry for sounding harsh, but I am speaking as a woman, thinking logically. The reasoning in your first post is confusing and the reason why many men say they can't understand women. On the one hand you want to be attractive to men, but on the other you only want to attract the "right" men How are you going to meet both objectives since you only talked about physical looks ?? II can understand i you talk about being feminine and sweet and unassuming and kind and gentle, then yes you will be attracting the "right" king of men. But you talk about physical looks - having a great body which enables you to do part time modelling, and men not being able to get past your looks. In your second post you clarified your position by saying we should not only focus on physical looks, which I get. I then wonder why if that were the case you are happy with being a "self" (I think you mean sex) object. If your work requires you to look sexy and men hit on you in a work context, then there are laws against that sort of thing - for obvious reasons. I have no time for a work colleague who dresses all sexy at work and then complain that men do not treat her seriously. And I am not being sour grapes either since I am not unattractive and can have similar effects on men if I so choose, but I can't for the life of me understand this sort of reasoning.

      Delete
    11. My 2 cents, you just haven't met the right guy yet. I am in a similar situation, I used to be very social and had male friends. I lost a significant amount of weight, and the types of attention I got SHIFTED. Yet I recognize it as a benefit, because before I got SOME attention yet not really any from someone I was interested in. Now I get much more attention and definitely not every person that likes me is wanting something long term, but the point is now I am looked at and people at least CONSIDER me. I wasn't even in the game before, my hot friends were. You will gets tons more attention and sure some guys will only want sex because I think there's a phase where that's all they want anyways, yet others are open to or looking for a relationship. Looking hot is not a downfall when getting men. You have much more options. You just need to go places where you'll find guys that are on your level, maybe join some groups you're interested in. I'd also say, what are you projecting? Most of what people show others is the unspoken. Maybe your behavior is keeping relationship seeking guys at bay.

      Delete
    12. @ Anonymous - you're self projecting and somehow assumed I wanted to be a "self/sex" toy (by the way you also used the word King in place of Kind. Go back and read my post before you comment. You do, indeed, sound like very bitter and not helpful at all. I dress in a bikini simply because that's what I'm modelling. I don't walk around conversing with people in the streets in a bikini.

      Where as @Anne Thanks You so much! It must be something I'm doing or not doing or else I'd have someone by now as I attract men even when I dress down in baggy clothes. Thanks so much for your suggestion, I have joined up a book club so hopefully I will meet silly goofy men who I click with very well. Bring on the intelligent smart men anyday over the empty meatheads.

      @Andrew you wrote that boundaries are beyond sex. I'm not exactly a pushover but I'm feminine and soft and always have been but I'm strong spiritually, financially, sexually and in most (not all) aspects of my life, however, maybe you know something I don't know and could elaborate on the boundaries I MAY be lacking PLEASE. I'd like to clean up my act and attract a nice guy.

      Delete
    13. REAL URGENT EFFECTIVE SPELL CASTER TO HELP BRING BACK EX LOVER AND SAVE MARRIAGE https://doctor0lovespell.wixsite.com/mysite-2
      I want to let the world know about Dr Love0 the Great spell caster that brought back my husband to me when i thought all hope was lost. Dr Love0 used his powerful spell to put a smile on my face by bringing back my man with his spell, at first i thought i was dreaming when my husband came back to me on his knees begging me to forgive him and accept him back and ever since then he loves me more than i ever expected so i made a vow to my self that i will let the World know about Dr Love0 because he is a God on earth. Do you have problems in your relationship ? have your partner broke up with you and you still love and want him back ? Do you have problem with your finance ? or do you need help of any kind then contact Dr Love0 today for i give you 100% guarantee that he will help you just as he helped me. Dr Love0 email:(doctor0lovespell@gmail. com) or visit his website: https://doctor0lovespell.wixsite.com/mysite-2 or contact his FB page: https://www.facebook.com/Lovespellthatworkfastusa also check his blogs: https://doctorlovespell0.blogspot.com/













      REAL URGENT EFFECTIVE SPELL CASTER TO HELP BRING BACK EX LOVER AND SAVE MARRIAGE https://doctor0lovespell.wixsite.com/mysite-2
      I want to let the world know about Dr Love0 the Great spell caster that brought back my husband to me when i thought all hope was lost. Dr Love0 used his powerful spell to put a smile on my face by bringing back my man with his spell, at first i thought i was dreaming when my husband came back to me on his knees begging me to forgive him and accept him back and ever since then he loves me more than i ever expected so i made a vow to my self that i will let the World know about Dr Love0 because he is a God on earth. Do you have problems in your relationship ? have your partner broke up with you and you still love and want him back ? Do you have problem with your finance ? or do you need help of any kind then contact Dr Love0 today for i give you 100% guarantee that he will help you just as he helped me. Dr Love0 email:(doctor0lovespell@gmail. com) or visit his website: https://doctor0lovespell.wixsite.com/mysite-2 or contact his FB page: https://www.facebook.com/Lovespellthatworkfastusa also check his blogs: https://doctorlovespell0.blogspot.com/












      REAL URGENT EFFECTIVE SPELL CASTER TO HELP BRING BACK EX LOVER AND SAVE MARRIAGE https://doctor0lovespell.wixsite.com/mysite-2
      I want to let the world know about Dr Love0 the Great spell caster that brought back my husband to me when i thought all hope was lost. Dr Love0 used his powerful spell to put a smile on my face by bringing back my man with his spell, at first i thought i was dreaming when my husband came back to me on his knees begging me to forgive him and accept him back and ever since then he loves me more than i ever expected so i made a vow to my self that i will let the World know about Dr Love0 because he is a God on earth. Do you have problems in your relationship ? have your partner broke up with you and you still love and want him back ? Do you have problem with your finance ? or do you need help of any kind then contact Dr Love0 today for i give you 100% guarantee that he will help you just as he helped me. Dr Love0 email:(doctor0lovespell@gmail. com) or visit his website: https://doctor0lovespell.wixsite.com/mysite-2 or contact his FB page: https://www.facebook.com/Lovespellthatworkfastusa also check his blogs: https://doctorlovespell0.blogspot.com/










      Delete
  2. Hey Andrew! Another great post!
    I just wanted to tell you that last year I started to get motivated to improve myself, and among other materials, Sherry Argov's book and your blog were the main ones that helped me completely change my life (like, in about three months) regarding my relationships with men. Seriously, thank you for writing this blog, I remember reading the whole thing back then. I've had old acquaintances on facebook asking me who I was.
    This is starting to look like those crazy ad testimonials but I'm serious lol
    Then I got a whole new problem that was having to learn how to deal with jerks, but that's another story.
    I just wish I knew all this when I was 15, not 21. Anyways, better late than never.
    Keep up the good work!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Just a note from a woman who's closer to 50 than 40 and soon to be single after a 20 year relationship .... Thanks, Andrew. You've given me faith that I am capable of making myself sexy again. And might even find someone else to boot ;)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I'm in a similar situation to yourself (I'm 48) and separated, not by choice. Unless you want to attract the 20-30 crowd, I wouldn't worry too much about being sexy, but more about if the way I look and present myself makes a man proud to be seen in public with me. The men you are likely to want to attract are over a certain age and certainly not raging with testosterone. So they are looking for other traits as well, like maturity and emotional intelligence. As a 50+ you can never compete with the 20s in terms of sexiness, but if you look like you take care of yourself, eat well, exercise, keep fit, take care to groom and dress yourself well, you will be hot commodity amongst the 50+ crowd

      Delete
  4. This is such an empowering message. Thank you Andrew. All women are sexually attractive by virtue of being alive, and with a little bit of effort, most women can be very sexually attractive. Also, not every man wants or feels comfortable with a woman in the top 10% of looks, just as I don't want the most powerful man. I want a man who makes me feel cherished and adored. Thanks again.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. errrr...I think you want to quality your statement that all women are sexually attractive by virtue of being alive. No. Your average 90 year old great grandma is not likely to be sexually attractive to a majority of men - maybe the kinky ones into geriatic sex. The thing is, why would a woman of any age want to be sexually attractive ? An older matronly woman does not need to be sexually attractive if she has a whole hoard of sons to take care of her and attend to her needs and safety.
      As long as women feel like they can exercise power over men, or over their circumstances through the agency of men, they achieve the same effect as sexual attractiveness. At least with familial or real authoritative power of men, you do not bear of risk of the vagaries of sexual attraction. A man may stop being attracted to you the next day, but your son who loves and respects you will stick around for much much longer

      Delete
    2. Something is slightly wrong with what you said, it's very materialistic and as usual tries to cynically model the reality and as usual there's something that doesnt' add up and gets lost in the complexity. Not just the kinky ones might be attracted to her, but people of similar age if she happens to still have some sexual energy exuding and many have, but I'm sure a trivially dismissive cynical analysis of yours would try to dismiss that as laughable :D.
      You sadly think women only use sexual attractiveness as a mean to an end.

      Delete
  5. Andrew, what do you think about gastric bypass?

    1. I got to an almost normal weight in 3 years by eating less than 1000 calories, working out 2-3 hours a day/ 6 to 7 days a week and taking diet pills.

    2. A year after I laxed my efforts (Currently I work out 3 days a week and eat about 1500-2000 a day) I gained 100 lbs of it back. It got to the point where some of my Dr's were accusing me of lying about my efforts.

    3. Thyroid and everything tested normal. But I got diagnosed with diabetes (Im 31 btw)

    I feel like everyone sees me as the "pretty face" girl who with a little effort can be hot. But I feel like I've done everything in my power to get to a normal weight.

    How do you feel about gastric bypass?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I'd recommend seeing a psychologist that specializes in weight loss.

      Delete
    2. Seeing that you gained 100 pounds, you're definitely eating way more than you think you are. There's no way you gained 100 pounds by eating even 2,000 a day.

      Skip the surgery and get your eating under control. Try a site like Myfitnesspal. Track your calories every day. EVERY day. Controlling your weight is a lifetime thing, not just losing some then going right back to eating whatever you want, when you want it.

      Delete
    3. I will go check one out, and a weight loss clinic to run some tests on me.

      But Anonymous, this is what I'm talking about. No one seems to believe me. I'll start to write down every thing I eat, but it's discouraging when your doing everything right, but people are telling you your not and you should try harder.

      Delete
    4. Anon, I have friends who are in the same situation, don't be discouraged. Myfitnesspal is great, give it a shot. I know what you've done is a lot of work and i applaud you for it. Please take a look at this: http://blog.dilbert.com/post/102964992706/goals-vs-systems

      Delete
    5. You need to track everything you eat, and I do mean EVERYTHING, for about two weeks. Weigh your portions on a food scale. You will likely be very surprised to see how much you're actually eating (this coming from someone who hast lost more than 50 pounds). It's simply not possible to maintain a body weight in excess of 100 pounds by eating 1,500 calories a day.

      Delete
    6. Please, pklease, please....lose weight for your own health - NOT to be attractive to men. Sure, being attractive to the opposite sex is a great motivator and it helps men and women get motivated to losing a few kilos and keeping them off....but you have diabetes !!!! And it sounds like there are underlying health issues here which prevents you from losing weight despite your seemingly healthy llifestyle and thyroid/hormone readings. Focusing on men will likely get you sidetracked into weight loss choices and fixes that may not best serve your health interest in the longer term.

      Delete
    7. an easy trick is to downsize your plate by 33%, you will eat only 66% then

      Delete
    8. I think the question's more...how do *you* feel about gastric bypass. There are serious risks (obstructions, clots, leaks, infections, etc) - definitely read up on those. Plus many people gain most of the weight back.

      That said this sounds like a serious health problem, not just an appearance one - so I think seeing a health psychologist as he mentioned, perhaps as well as a dietitian or MD who has a lot of expertise in blood sugar/diabetes. Health first, dating later.

      Delete
    9. Don't listen to Andrew's weight loss advice it is GARBAGE. People don't lose weight and keep it off by eating less. People will always want to eat more because it's in our nature to get the fuel we need. Switch to a plant based diet, and read The Starch Solution by Dr. John McDougall. Not only can you eat until you are satisfied, you stay lean and fit in the long run.

      Look up Freelee the banana girl on Youtube, she's slim and eating all the calories she wants. At first I thought it was BS but from personal experience, it does work. We are meant to eat a high carb low fat plant based diet that's what will keep us slim. Saying otherwise is saying it's normal to be obese or to starve yourself.

      Delete
    10. Also your diabetes is evidence (same Anon as 9:17) that your DIET is not working. Let me guess you did it the high protein low carb way? With lots of caffeine, meat, animal products etc. Saturated fat causes diabetes, NOT sugar. Switch to a plantbased diet, and you will never have to starve eating 1000 calories a day again.

      Delete
    11. The last two posts (Anon 9:17 and 9:20) are absurd. There is no magic weight loss diet and the books are not worth the paper they are printed on. The diets that work are the ones you stick with and the ones where you eat what you want, but just LESS OF.

      I've lost over 50 pounds by just eating less. I still eat ice cream, pizza, beer, etc. I just have it in moderation. And I've saved all that money that I could have spent buying stupid diet books by just using common sense.

      Delete
    12. Anon 7:03 PM YOU are the one who is absurd. Read a book with actual scientific research like The China Study. It's not a diet book, it's a comprehensive study on nutrition. Sure you can eat less, but you're still clogging your arteries with fatty crap, and your cholesterol is still going to be high. On a high carb low fat plantbased diet you can eat UNLIMITED amounts of food because that is how we were meant to eat. Look at animals, gorillas eat 24/7 so why are we sitting here eating tiny little portions? I'm 5'5 120 pounds, toned and slim eating 2000+ calories a day not working out much and still leaning out. Most girls my size eat 1500 calories a day max. I know from personal experience I couldn't eat more than 1500 calories a day of the same foods you listed without gaining weight. Also, when you eat like that you're just going to put on weight when you're older. Andrew claims it's exercise that prevents weight gain, that's complete garbage, it's definitely diet. Most girls who eat meat and don't have an eating disorder are 100% going to put on a ton of weight by the time they are 28.

      Delete
    13. This is Renee Somerfield:

      http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2014/11/06/1415274159584_Image_galleryImage_renee2_JPG.JPG

      She eats unlimited amounts of delicious vegan foods, and looks amazing. Compare her to other models? The snort cocaine, smoke cigarettes, starve themselves, over exercise, afraid of food. No this is not just runway models, same with swimsuit/lingerie models who eat animal products. Sure they LOOK healthy but they are onstantly taking laxatives and then blow up years later. The damage shows on their face too. I know because I've seen many where I live. Also know a girl who is a raw vegan and is a runway model, does not starve herself or throw up like the other runway girls.

      Delete
    14. Yeah, T. Colin Campbell advocated a vegan diet and Campbell was influenced by his own expectations about animal protein and disease, leading him to seek out specific correlations in the China Study data (and elsewhere) to confirm his predictions. No... no confirmation bias there at all. LOL

      Delete
    15. You do know he grew up on a dairy farm and HATED vegetarians in his early life right? He became a vegan AFTER the china study, and his research PROVED that a vegan diet is healthier. I mean I'm just trying to help you not get cancer, but you sound like a fat jealous chick, or a really pathetic muscle gains guy with no brains.

      Delete
    16. OK confirmed below, you're a jealous fat chick.

      Delete
    17. That's funny, my jeans say otherwise. LOL :)

      Delete
    18. Anything over a size zero is jealous fat chick status. And you definitely are otherwise you would have said so

      Delete
    19. That's nice, honey. LOL :)

      Delete
  6. Andrew,
    in most of your posts, you bring up the fact that it's important for a girl to take care of herself and become sexually attractive...
    I recently lost a significant amount of weight and now, I am getting attention from guys who wouldn't give me the time of day. I personally find it degrading to get romantically involved with any of these guys, but I would really like your take on this..!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Yeah I mean that is normal. You have to learn how to filter the good attention from the bad.

      Delete
    2. "I personally find it degrading to get romantically involved with any of these guys."

      That's the ironic thing. Sounds like you may have expanded your pool....but mostly into a realm of male attention that isn't conducive to what you're looking for.

      Delete
    3. Michelle,
      Sounds to me like you're just ready for the next step! You've got a large pool of men to choose from - now you just have to attract one good man you can love. As someone who has always been significantly above average in terms of outward attractiveness, I always dated un-marriageable men until I figured this out. It basically boiled down to: be an actively good person, don't treat love like a game or a power struggle, be genuine to the point of vulnerability, always try to contribute to the lives of those around you in a positive way. Also, I had to learn pair my firm boundaries with gentleness (this was huge).

      Good men do not want to date or marry hot women with sub-par personalities. (Note: I have found that "unkind" is MUCH worse than "uninteresting," though both weaknesses should be developed." Also, think of "kindness "as an active word, rather than a passive/doormat "niceness".)

      Andrew addresses this at http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/03/should-you-focus-on-your-looks-or.html

      Delete
  7. hey andrew, i wanted to know your opinion on datinga a guy you dont see as a future husband, in one of your posts you talk about this, but i thought that your post applied to older women. Im 19 and this is my first boyfriend, i like him and care for him very much but my friends and family say he is way below my league. I dont see myself marrying him, but we have a good time together, and i think it is a good way to get practice relationshipwise.. what do you think?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I don't recommend having a boyfriend until you are ready to get married (or at the very earliest, until you suspect that you will be ready in a year or two max). Date, meet guys, observe, etc. but don't commit to anyone unless that commitment can lead to something permanent. I wrote about this in my post Female Game for Girls in Their Teens.

      Also check out the post called Know Why You Are Dating.

      Delete
  8. Maria every second you spend on the wrong person is one second that you aren't spending finding the right person. If you want practice, then go have a lot of casual sex. If you care about this guy, but you know he's not the one, cut him loose. You aren't being kind to him by stringing him along.

    ReplyDelete
  9. Anonymous, gastric bypass is no the answer. It is a bandaid solution to a bigger problem - self control. Look at it this way, if you have the bypass, what is to stop you for overeating afterward? Yes, your tummy will be smaller, but tummies can stretch again (and again, and again, see my point?). The answer is in your 2nd bullet - you slacked off. Get back on that diet regime and in three months you'll be grateful that you did. Remember, you have to put in some hard work today to get to where you want to be in 3 months from now. Eye on the prize!!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I am sure it isn't that simple. Read her point #1 again.

      Delete
    2. Do you want the poor girl to get anorexia? The only answer is to go VEGAN. Vegan girls eat unlimited amounts of food and stay slim, while meat eating girls have eating disorders eating 1000 calories a day and still gaining weight because of their metabolic damage. Don't believe me? Look up Loni Jane and Ellen Fisher, FLAT stomach day after birth. Freelee the banana girl is 35 looking better than most 25 year olds lost 40 pounds eating 3000 calories a day. Look up Renee Somerfield, Sheridyn Fisher, Aisha Thalia, all sexy as hell so any guy saying he won't date a vegan girl is just insecure about his own unhealthy diet and has issues.

      The original poster should not starve herself, and instead should eat as much as she wants of the RIGHT foods. If you eat high protein high fat foods, you will have to restrict! Our bodies are NOT meant to eat that way. People eating a diet of fruits, vegetables, starches - no oil, no animal products, no refined foods are SKINNY with minimal effort.

      Delete
    3. The Freelee woman admits herself she comes from a disordered eating background. You don't see anything wrong with eating nothing but bananas all day??

      Okay then (eye roll)

      Delete
    4. Is there anything wrong with her blood tests? No she doesn't just eat bananas, and I don't see a problem with the way she eats. I do see a problem with the way 99% of Americans eat. Watch Forks Over Knives, it explains why Americans are actually obese. No it is not processed food or sugar. If you're a girl you're just jealous that she has an awesome body, and if you're guy obviously you're a chubby chaser or have unrealistic standards of what type of woman you deserve.

      All of you guys out there thinking a girl will stay slim if she exercises - newsflash you're delusional. Unless you're into eating disordered chicks who eat no more than 1000 calories a day. All older woman who eat animal products and are slim starve themselvevs like crazy eating 600 calories a day to lose weight, and they also have terrible aged skin from starving. Vegan women are glowing, youthful, radiant like myself from all the fresh juice and nutrients, and effortlessly fit and lean. So make your choice: overweight fat chick, skinny but haggard, or beautiful inside and out like me :)

      Delete
    5. You've really bought in to this vegan thing so anything anyone says will go in one ear and out the other. So that's fine, but I have seen this Forks Over Knives and several other so-called "documentaries" and they really are nothing more than 2 hour long infomercials, selling an author's products or books.

      For your information, I'm a woman, with a normal BMI. I lost about 50 pounds by reducing calories. I do exercise, but you can't out-exercise a poor diet, so I reduced calories to about 1,400 a day with a variety of foods. I haven't cut anything out - I've just reduced it. My blood work is normal, blood pressure is normal. Exercise wise primarily I lift weights, because preservation of muscle mass is important in women to maintain bone mass and ward off osteoporosis.

      Honey, if it makes you happy, do it. I happen to like meat, so as long as I'm healthy and get a pass from my doctor, I'm going to eat a big fat cheeseburger from time to time, because I can do so and still fit into my slim jeans. :)

      Delete
    6. The world health organization says under 1800 calories a day is a FAMINE, so you have an eating disorder. And as you get older you are just going to gain weight because of metabolic damage.

      Anyways have fun getting cancer and dying! I'm perfectly happy as a size zero eating all that I want while I watch pathetic fat chicks with stretch marks, and loose skin like you starve yourself! I'm going to look like I'm 18 when I'm 40 but you can have fun looking like you're 40 before you're 29 :) :) :)

      Delete
    7. slim jeans? OK FAT ASS ALERT. you are most definitely fat, normal BMI means fat and no honey slim jeans are not good enough. skinny jeans are what's in, and if you can't fit into skinny jeans your legs are way too fat and you need to keep losing weight, but I don't recommend you to eat even less than 1400 calories. But if anorexia suits you then fine!

      Delete
    8. Sweetie, you can believe whatever you want but it is metabolically impossible to lose weight and stay slim while you're eating 3,000 calories a day, no matter where the calories come from.

      I can eat cheeseburgers because I maintain a daily calorie intake of 1,400, to balance out those days where I go out. I maintain my weight because I keep my caloric intake balanced with my metabolic rate. It's very easy to do and anyone can do it. No need to follow some weird diet.

      And I'm over 40 and wear slim jeans, don't drink, don't smoke, exercise regularly. Really you can believe whatever you want and I'm fine with it. *shrug* If you like veganism, go for it. :)

      Delete
    9. No that is garbage to say 3000 calories of potatoes is the same as 3000 calories of oils. FAT is extremely easily stored as fat onto our bodies. It takes 3% of our calories to convert fat into fat onto ourselves, and 30% of our calories to convert carbs into fat. It is a very inefficient process. Sure if I ate 3000 calories and sat on my ass all day I would gain weight, but I workout moderately and stay slim on 2000-2500. If I ate dead and tortured animals like you I would have to starve myself like you do, and I've been there before. There is NO WAY any meat eating girl can eat 3000 calories a day and stay slim not even with 10 hours of daily exercise.

      EW you're not just thick with anorexia, you're old too. Anyways you eat garbage, it's going to show in your crappy health when you're 80.

      Delete
    10. That's nice honey. You go, girl! LOL :)

      Delete
    11. Scary how mentally ill the 'Freelee' culters always sound. Someone should do a study on them.

      Delete
  10. Mishelle, get some therapy! If your problem is that you are now a hot woman who is getting attention from hot guys you need to get yourself to a therapist and sort out your lingering self esteem issues. Your anger and resentment issues all stem from when you were bigger. You can't control how men are going to react to you, and which ones are going to hit on you, but you can control how you react. PS. not all hot men are jerks just like not all fat women are ugly just like not all gay men like it in the butt. Pretty sure you don't like being put into a little box, so don't put all men into that box either.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I definitely don't recommend therapy... She lost a ton of weight and now dudes wanna bang here. That's totally normal, and anyway it is just something she is observing, not something that requires (or could even be changed by) therapy.

      Delete
  11. Helen you are the CEO of your love life. You deal with jerks the same way you'd deal with anyone else. Spend more time thinking about whether or not these men are right for you and less time thinking about whether or not you like these men. Turn the tables. Flip the power switch. You decide what you're willing to put up with and if he's a jerk, cut him loose. The right guy will work damn hard to be with you. End of story.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you for your words. That's what I do, no point in lingering with someone I see there's no future with. But I've had lots of unavailable men hitting on me (disgusting), much older men and such, so it's kind of weird because I wasn't exposed to this kind of attention before, didn't know how many of these dynamics work.
      In the case of unavailable men for instance, it's like, okay, let me use you and then I'll go back to my wife, and leave you and your feelings unattended, if you fall in love, too bad. That's what I hear when one of those guys try to approach me, it's just such an insane, completely selfish proposition. And sometimes they come from seemingly "respectable" men I would have never expected it from. So yeah, it's kind of weird to see this other side, the "bad attention".

      Delete
  12. The cost of sex is actually quite low for men so it really doesn't hurt them to throw their seed indiscriminately so yes, men can have sex with anything that moves. As for parental investment, a man generally can walk away from an offspring he sires with a less desirable "looking" mate so it doesn't explain the phenomena of attractiveness. Also, intelligence is not correated to lookds (despite what the manosphere may claim) so a man choosing not to breed with a less attractive looking woman may be giving up on introducing intelligence into his lineage. Also, masculine looking (and therefore unattractive to men) women with masculine traits tend to have strong, robust, masculine male offspring, so a man forgoing mating with such a woman forgos the chance to sire masculine sons and strengthening his clan.
    So why attractiveness ? It has to do with threat perception. Like I have always said, survival trumps all. No man has ever died from a lack of sex, but countless men have died from a lack of status and physicality. The act of sex puts both men and women in a very physically vulnerable situation so a man has to assess if his mating partner is likely to be a threat. A male has to assess a threat in a mere blink of an eye - whether something is human for a start. Then if it is human, it is a male. The act of penetrating another male is perceived as hostile and thereforre would lead to physical confrontation and possibly death. If a potential mate is assessed to be female, then the man has to assess if she is going to pose a physical threat to him - bigger, stronger, more muscules. If she looks like she can tear him apart and have him for breakfast, then blood will flow to his head, arms and legs in prepration for fight or flight. The absolute last place blood will flow to would be his penis.
    Hence the phenomena of female attractiveness - as a set of traits which indicate to him that she is not a thrreat - traits that are as far from masculine as possible - small rounded jaw, neotenous features, slender sloping shoulders etc.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. What, in the world, are you talking about here so confidently loll... In homo sapiens - especially cave, basic, non pizza+pasta+ beer+couch setting species MALE ON THE AVERAGE IS MUCH LARGER THAN A FEMALE. Unless u talking about insects, like black widow and such...:-). And for frikkin centuries the only "attraction" was there to stimulate boy's erection was her bare ass sticking out of the bushes. Smart ass loll

      Delete
    2. The eternal fear of a bigger, tougher, dangerous and scary female might come for a male from a .... ever present female caregiver :) And since they say personality forms till the age of 3... And even a cave man was not dropped by a bird and cared for by an occasionally tough disciplining mother. Ah well, the downfalls of pedagogy :)

      Delete
    3. The pride of independence comes to boys when they begin to realize they don't need a mother any longer. The larger, stronger mother, who provides care, nurturing, food, entertainment, but also demands obedience and established by her discipline becomes separable object.... Soon this image starts shaping into another image -- a "general" lol, um, female with boobs that's not for feeding anymore, and other assets brought into picture by hormonal development and romantic feelings. .... Yet, perhaps, fear remains under that independent scalp dictating to walk, or run, away because boy now can :). He does not need mother. He now sets the rules -- I can comeback to provide and protect if I so choose. Because I'm bigger now. I'm independent now. I'm real man and I grew up.

      Delete
    4. Oh shit....that's probably possible that men began to walk straight sooner (on two legs instead of four.) To not be fucked in the butt by another male. Here comes the Evolution :).... And women had to keep to crawling on all fours for a while :) here comes the domination :)

      Delete
  13. ...and he is back! I love you, Andrew! :D

    ReplyDelete
  14. I have a question.
    What about us girls who like to be romantically promiscious? Meaning, not have sex, just be romanced by different men and kiss/cuddle/hold hands, nothing and I do mean nothing, but those three things. No sexual activity at all.
    Just enjoy being in a romantic relationship for a couple of months with no sex, just pure romance and experiencing that high. And trying to hold off sex as long as possible and getting off on the fact that the guy is in love with you and would die for you.
    Say you have three guys and one you have for maybe one or up to six months and then after you break up with him you have another one already waiting so there is an overlap...but these guys are always way more into you and you like it that way? Is there a word for girls like us? I want to enjoy the romantic high before I get serious with anyone and marry.
    I think it's important to experience romance witht he highs and lows before you settle down, and this without having sex of course.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I mean of course I will have sex with my husband! Just not the guys before him. But still experience a romantic relationship with the guys thinking that will happen. I know some consider that to be a "co*ktease" but I wouldn't trick anyone. Or lie.
      I already have two guys who are after me and really in love with me and we haven't done anything but talk (and kiss/hug). I like the intense romantic high (and low) feeling.

      Delete
    2. @ Anonymous August 19
      “What about us girls who like to be romantically promiscious?”

      I’m not sure what your question is exactly, are you asking if your behavior is okay? Or normal?

      I think it’s fine to date in any way that suits you, so if you’re happy just cuddling with different guys there is nothing wrong with that. However, you may find that the only guys who are satisfied with that aren’t really that much into sex either, and so if you marry one there is a risk of long periods of abstinence during the marriage.

      Guys with high (normal) sex drives will be unlikely to stick around for months just for cuddles, unless they have no options or are religious.

      Delete
    3. The male equivalent of a girl who gets emotional investment from men without giving them sex is a guy who fucks a lot of girls without giving them commitment (read my post The Analogy Between Sex and Commitment).

      So you're essentially the true female version of a "player" (the false version is just a sexually promiscuous girl). And like a guy who is a player, it probably means that you have an excessive need for affirmation from the opposite sex. Maybe this is because you felt unloved (or a lack of affection) from your father or because you felt like you didn't have enough romantic attention from guys in your teens. But the need to repeatedly get men interested without giving anything back is not normal.

      In any case, recognizing that should help you cut back. In the same way that a player will realize that mediocre sex with a slew of random girl isn't as good as amazing sex with one girl he really connects with (that is, one the need for excessive affirmation is removed), I think you'll find that a relationship - even without sex - with a guy you're deeply and genuinely attracted to will be much more fulfilling than what you are having now with a series of guys.

      Delete
    4. @ Andrew
      “Maybe this is because you felt unloved (or a lack of affection) from your father or because you felt like you didn't have enough romantic attention from guys in your teens. But the need to repeatedly get men interested without giving anything back is not normal.

      In any case, recognizing that should help you cut back. In the same way that a player will realize that mediocre sex with a slew of random girl isn't as good as amazing sex with one girl he really connects with”


      No offence Andrew but I’m not sure about much of that; it just sounds like pseudo-Freudian analysis that having a emotional connection in a conventional committed relationship is “normal” and everything outside of that is “not normal”.

      There are sound evolutionary reasons for short-term mating (promiscuity) that don’t necessarily correlate to an excessive need for affirmation due to child-hood neglect/trauma that you are implying and that many anti-promiscuity moralists like to spout.

      Players having mediocre sex with a slew of random girls might just be as fulfilled with having sex with one girl he connects with, as they are fulfilling their very real instinctive short-term mating drive.

      I would argue that players often stop playing – i.e. switch to long-term mating - due more to practical reasons than a desire for an emotional connection (i.e. it becomes more energy and resource efficient after a certain age to switch to long-term mating).

      By the same rationale, I don’t think you can assume that Anonymous will necessarily be more fulfilled in a relationship with one guy she’s deeply and genuinely attracted to rather than her current situation of kissing/cuddling various different men, as there are sound evolutionary reasons for both behaviors that can’t necessarily be attributed to her feeling a lack of affection from her father or from guys in her teens.

      It could be argued that her emotionally promiscuous behavior is a kind of short-term mating strategy where she is extracting maximum resources from guys with minimum resource expenditure on her part (i.e. no sex). By this rationale her behavior is actually normal.

      I don’t really agree with the concept of what is “normal” and what is “not normal”, rather I believe in “what works for you” and/or “if your situation isn’t working for you, then change it”.

      Delete
    5. I'm Anonymous #2 (not the original poster/commentator)

      Thomas you're sexy as (I believe that this is a compliment to men). You're smart and spot on. We don't have daddy issues because we engage in embraces with men (or women). I like to nurture many people with hugs and kisses (some men and some women - just without the tongue) and I was "daddy's girl" and had more than enough suitors growing up. Andrew you're playing with evo psych but you're missing a lot of data. Maybe, like sexy Thomas wrote, we want what we want because of other reasons than affirmation or validation. Maybe players are just horny and like variety. Maybe girls like Anonymous 1 enjoy embraces over sex (sorry anonymous #1 if you like both which maybe you do).

      Also my understanding after age 26 the prefrontal cortex (a part of the brain) grows and maybe the extra space for empathy has something to do with people wanting to bond and connect and not just bang. Just another possibility to your theory.

      Delete
    6. @ Anonymous #2
      “Maybe, like sexy Thomas wrote, we want what we want”

      Ha I like that; I think I’ll change my moniker to Sexy Thomas from now on ;)

      And yes most guys would consider being called sexy as a compliment. :)

      Delete
    7. I had this inclination as well when I was in high school. What stopped me from going overboard was that ultimately, I knew I would hurt the boys I dated if I stayed with them just for attention.

      You have every right to be romantically promiscuous if you can secure people who want to be romantic with you, but it's not very kind. Just like people have every right to be sexually promiscuous if they can secure people who want to have sex with them. But that's not kind either.

      Delete
    8. @Andrew you wrote

      So you're essentially the true female version of a "player" (the false version is just a sexually promiscuous girl). Come on, As IF!!!!

      A female version of a "player" isn't one who likes embraces/intimacy. A female player is one who acts or omits the truth for example a woman who gets her date to buy her things with the promise of sex later (dishonest gold diggers for example). A woman on a sugar daddy website would not be a player because she's being upfront about her intentions. A man who likes to be promiscious but is very very VERY open about ONLY wanting sex with no intention of a relationship is also NOT a player. Most men believe by NOT being honest and upfront about their intentions to pump and dump is sufficient.

      So really a female player is one who obtains resources by deceit not one who just wants a hug. Friends hug.

      @Ash, it's kind if the men are advised within a reasonable period of time that this girl does not plan on having sex in the near future. It's also kind if men tell women BEFORE they get involved with women that they only plan on fuking them and have no intentions to date. Honesty is what's required to avoid being labelled a player.

      Want to embrace people go ahead. Nothing's wrong with you. You perfectly normal. It's not a sign you need validation, it's a sign you enjoy connection and you are healthy in that respect.

      Delete
    9. I don't like the analogy of a woman witholding sex as a player, that would be like saying the men objective is sex while a woman objective is not "giving" it, as if it is a price to male attention a woman is unwillingly to give which doesn't make sense, as it implies that a man only "wins" if a woman loses.

      Delete
  15. For the record, you are saying this is true of men as well? There are not 'ugly men' objectively? Is their attractiveness as controllable as female beauty?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Very good question.

      To some extent yes, but for men I would say that the more relevant fact is that we have all evolved to have the genetics to be strong rather than beautiful. And by strong I mean psychologically or intellectually, not so much physically.

      Read my post "The Analogy Between Confidence and Beauty" and you'll see what I mean.

      But, yes, men have also evolved to be more physically attractive in the same way that women have also evolved to be more psychologically strong. Though men, with our body hair and harder features, still resemble cavemen more than women resemble cave women.

      Delete
    2. Apparently, resources and height are what makes men more attractive (for relationships not sex). Short term mating strategies for men still involve looking hot (getting a six pack and biceps like Arnie).

      I guess men can't do much about the height area so they can compensate with lots of $$$.

      Delete
  16. I agree with you that no woman is ugly, because she can improve her looks in many ways. Though, I think a woman should be content with herself, at least after some point. I've seen women who, regardless of their beauty, they are never satisfied with their looks. They always think they need to loose weight, or do plastic surgeries and try to change things on them, that they shouldn't change. I mean, we can't all look the same, or change to fit whetever is considered the beauty ideal currently. It's often our flaws that make us look different and more exciting, like Marilyn Monroe's mole for example.

    ReplyDelete
  17. For me, this is your worst post so far, and you are great or really good on nearly all the other posts. While, everyone can look better, your message here does damage not because of its aim, but rather because it's not based on the truth. If you are saying (and this is my only out for you, as far as my criticism goes) that there is "someone for everyone" --- I agree. That is true and far less damaging than lying to people. This post reminded me of saying how "plus size" has been legitimized in some way because people (women) want it to be, not because of reality. Let me explain where you go wrong:

    First off, your picture is theoretical, and not even a good one at that. The females age in question (and by the way if we are "Neanderthal," us European-ancestry people are something like 5-10% of it, anyway) is different for the neanderthal than it is for the modern woman. That's deception #1.

    Second, and most importantly, the world has DRASTICALLY changed in modernity, even in the last 50 years) than our ancestral (read: 95-99% of our time in existence on earth) societies, particularly because we are all North Americans here, or those living in European cultures/civilizations. Why do I bring this up? Most humans who ever had kids and were married did it with girls who were 14-20. Food was scarce. No processed food-fed adolescent girl fatties. What does that mean for men? Instant boner, even for those who aren't particularly good looking face-wise. But that's not the case now, and it's not even close. Beyond that, even mentioning these facts in this modern society gets the idea that it's somehow perverted or akin to statutory rape, or it is legally codified that way. Either way, ignoring this outright fact doesn't help women at all in their 20s and 30s ... because it's not telling them the truth.

    The reality is that the evolution of societies for women to fill men's roles, wanted or not, has worked against women. Telling them that cavemen f*cked their ancestor moms when that mom was 16 doesn't really help them. It's actually doing them a disservice. While my message might be disappointing and sad for some, at least it's honest and the truth. Let my consolation be, as before, with another honest statement --- there is someone out there for everyone. I don't think that makes people happy though, because women these days think they deserve way more than what they are worth --- another problem with the western world. Oh, but I forgot, you can have it all! Silly me, I forgot I wasn't supposed to tell you anything else but that (wink wink)



    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Regarding your second point, I think maybe you misunderstood what I am saying. The title of the post is supposed to be provocative; it isn't literally true. Ugly girls do exist, but (and this IS the point) they're only the girls who don't try.

      I think we agree here. If a girl gets in shape and learns how to dress, guys will want to bang her. You're just saying that the problem with modern girls is that they don't stay in shape and don't know how to dress. But that doesn't contradict the post.

      As far as the first point, yeah OK, maybe I'm not using representative pics. Fair enough. I honestly didn't research it much because if you go back far enough we all looked like monkeys. No need to split hairs over the niceties of anthropology. So I don't think this is a real disagreement either - unless, of course, you're saying that you'd rather bang monkeys than modern women ;)

      Delete
    2. "If a girl gets in shape and learns how to dress, guys will want to bang her"

      THERE YOU GO AGAIN. I think you may be projecting your own desires. We DON'T want men to want to bang us, we want to be dated, treated like partners, companions, loved. Think Disney and get your mind off Ashley Maddison and then you'll get what 90% of us unrestricted (not promiscuous) ladies want. If you tell women that if they look after themselves, they will be bangable, we end up doing the opposite to protect ourselves from pain. I know about 10% of women (from Stats) who engage in Casual sex but the majority of us want LOVE Andrew. Some women eat to protect themselves. Weight is a way to protect themselves from trauma. Men using women can create trauma. Teach women how to get love. Teach us Andrew.

      Delete
    3. "We DON'T want men to want to bang us, we want to be dated, treated like partners, companions, loved."

      Right, totally get that. But you aren't going to get the attention of a man until you can first get his attention physically.

      Delete
    4. Andrew, how hot do you have to be to get the attention of a man romantically?

      I think I can be physically attractive (dating apps tell me I'm in the top 10% of likes, if that means anything), but I'm by no means the most beautiful woman out there. In other words, I am attractive enough to get most guy's physical attention, but the guys I'm attracted to could probably be dating girls more physically attractive than me, all at the same time. Am I justified in feeling that nothing's gonna come out of dating these really attractive guys? They seem to have so many options. Would guys jump at the opportunity of being with a hotter girl no matter what? Does personality even really matter? How strong does the physical attraction need to be? Is there a threshold?

      Delete
    5. Or maybe approach these guys yourself :).

      Delete
  18. LOL, it appears that the cavewoman has fillers in her lips, a look most women are paying for these days.

    ReplyDelete
  19. '...to improve the quality and quantity of attention you get from men'.
    Andrew, I can understand how to improve the quantity of attention (by trying to look your best all the time), but how to improve the quality? How can we control the quality? All men are attracted to pretty women and naturally they all want to make love with the women they find attractive. I have no control over men in a sense whether 'a serious' man will like me or ' a player'.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. By improving your personality and filtering out the ones who only want sex.

      Delete
  20. This is just not true...I have seen a LOT of ugly girls who are still ugly no matter what they do to improve.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. If they're in shape and well dressed, I bet you a million dollars they'll still get laid.

      Delete
    2. Gotta love men....hahaha

      Delete
  21. I'm a fan of your blog and just wanted to let you know that you made a grammatical error several times in your last paragraph. You wrote "reminder her" when I'm sure you meant to write "remind her."

    ReplyDelete
  22. How about this for an idea. 1) Identify the kind of men you want to attract, 2) Look at their wives and girlfriends and make a mental note of how they look 3) Strive to look like these women.
    So if you want to attract an English football star, get fake tan, fake boobs, wear micro minis and boob tubes and get a trout pout.
    If you want to attract a Republican presidential candidate, get french manicures, learn to apply barely there make up, get coifferred hair, wear pearls and twinsets that go up to the knees.
    If you want to attract to tough guy bikie dude, get blood red talon nails, lots and lots of tatts, leather and studded gear slashed to the thighs, jet black or bleached blonde hair to the waist.
    You get the picture.......

    ReplyDelete
  23. This is not empowering if you suggest that women need to find ways "to be" for men.

    His agenda is to push the socially constructed ideas, often displayed in the media, that tell us what men want, to validate himself.

    She need to be hot> my friends think she's hot> I'm now hot stuff!

    Ladies, why would you take dating advice from a late 20 something year old man who hasn't the slightest clue of
    a) who he is
    b) what qualities are important in a woman aside from her ability to make his dick hard ?

    On top of all of this, HE'S NOT MARRIED!


    All you need is one, right one. You are fine the way you are. All kinds of people fall in love every day in the real world.

    The shallow ones who look for love online mistaken lust with love.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. is this a troll?

      Delete
    2. Why? Because I ask significant questions rooted in fact?

      I could be whatever you want me to be...

      Delete
    3. b/c that response is textbook kneejerk. How do you know the author of this blog doesn't know who he is (your presumptuous point "a")? You must be incredibly self-aware...a guru, I take it? Are you a Master of Life?

      This man gives advice that I could never find anywhere else--especially not as clear and thoughtful as he's written. I'm very grateful to him. My experiences with men have made me suspect certain, sometimes ugly, truths. He explains them. And then, he encourages us to improve ourselves in very real ways!

      The comments on this particular post are unusually aggressive and nitpicky. Well, I'll defend Andrew. He guided me when I had no idea what to do.

      *calling you a troll is no meaner than you saying he has no idea who he is.

      Delete
    4. Women rely on Andrew's responses because he is the kind of men they want to attract ? I will go to Jessica Valenti or Lena Dunham for romantic advice if I want to attract Jessica Valenti or Lena Dunham, which many women don't. Of course you don't have to listen to Andrew if you are worried about his single and seemingly "player" status. There are many other married, family oriented masculine men in the manosphere to take advice from.

      Delete
    5. Anon #2, yes my response is classic, "textbook knee jerk" because his advice is emotionally abusive.

      Go ahead and follow it if it works for you and if Andrew is the type of man you're looking for.

      Delete
    6. Hi Mizz T83,

      I actually come here to learn what not to do. Andrew is exactly what 90% of women dont want but he has an awesome newsletter that I do the exact opposite of. It's helping me avoid men who are emotional void like Andrew. Everything about what he writes is that of a damaged man and what better way to finding a good husband than to avoid everything that players want. Him and Chase give me an insight into what bad men want and how to avoid it.

      Please dont think we are stupid women here. I believe the majority on here actually are doing the same because most of us are looking for good guys and Andrew is probably on the opposite end of the spectrum (I dont mean he would hurt his family kind of bad person but he is bad in relationships purely on the fact that he believes sex is owed to men). Men respect women who dont give up the cookie, Andrew teaches us otherwise. We are smarter than we let on.

      Thanks for the input and caring Mizz T83 about the Sisterhood (xoxo) but just know we're not a bunch of naive women on here. We are demanding the real deal or wont put out.

      Delete
  24. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zH18_dZIYOE I think this Smiths song describes your point :p

    ReplyDelete
  25. Personally, I like reading Andrew's blog because he explains male psychology, how men think etc. As a woman I do find it difficult to stomach the truth about men,but the truth is always cruel. His posts 'Cut him off' and ' The importance of silence after break-up' as well as his book helped me to stop seeing one idiot who was playing stupid games with me, but never asked me out and was interested only in having sex with me.
    I like most of Andrew's posts. I find them useful. I do not have much experience with men and I need to know how men think in general. Sometimes it is so tempting to have sex with the man you like, but what is the point if he does not want relationship...Reading this blog stops me from doing things that I know I will regret. We can all think what we like about Andrew, but we cannot deny that his blog is very useful.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Not saying he's wrong, but certainly that's not as men as a whole think ;).

      Delete
  26. Humans are not descended from Neanderthals ...they were our evolutionary cousins. They were alive at the same time as modern humans, but died out several thousand years ago.

    ReplyDelete
  27. Andrew,

    Do you think that women with "bad" faces, but are in good shape/well styled still have the potential to be at least a 5 on the 1-10 scale? I'm not asking this because I think I'm facially unattractive - but it is something I do worry about since it is so important but not very controllable

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Emily Ratajkowski is facially unattractive and so many guys call her a 10. You're fine.

      Delete
  28. Andrew you are a good guy! This is very sweet and refreshing from the anxious collective thought that makes women think they need to be a 10 on looks alone to get a guy they truly want.

    ReplyDelete
  29. Hi Andrew,
    I was wondering if you could elaborate on one of the comments related to this post - how, and exactly when should we start lowering our standards?
    I've been trying to improve my looks and am about a 7 (based objectively on the fact that i have no obvious facial deformity, 5'8, have a bmi of 19.5, 35-25-28 measurements and long, thick hair, aged 29) but can only seem to meet or attract guys who are 5-6's. How and when should I do this?

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. i meant 35-25-38!

      Delete
    2. Read my post "How to Adjust Your Game According to Your Results"

      Delete
    3. This happens either because you aren't making yourself attractive enough or because you have unrealistic expectations about what kind of men you can attract. Assume the former first: lose weight, spend more time on your hair, or work on your appearance in some other way. Then, if things still aren't working out (and be patient because this takes time), lower your standards.

      'lower your standards' thats the bit I was hoping you could elaborate on.

      i've done the above and waited for about 6 months.

      Delete
    4. whoa 28 inch hip? I hope that's a typo, because otherwise maybe that's why ...

      Delete
    5. Haha thanks Anon. Yeah I have real trouble standing upright... maybe that's what puts guys off!

      Delete
  30. On feminine beauty being highly controllable, this video from Amy Young is a perfect example.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esRRz02m1JM

    It shows her in three different states which I think actually captures what Andrew is talking about here. She goes from nice and pretty to below average then to super hot all in the same video! And it's all the same woman - she's both the ugly girl and the beautiful one depending on how she's presented. Guess it's in all of us to be both ugly and attractive and the one we present determines who wants to get to know us.

    ReplyDelete
  31. Yeah, Thea, this is truth!!! When I was watching the first video, I thought she was a bit ugly and in the last, third video she was stunning at times. There was a moment when she put her hair up with her hands and she looked so beautiful for a few seconds with her hair up! All she needs to do is to fix her hair in that position and she is stunning!

    ReplyDelete
  32. This really is quite a beautiful post Andrew. Good for you.

    ReplyDelete
  33. Modern women became more available than prostitutes. In general, men lost respect for women. That is why it is difficult for a woman to find a nice man who will also want to marry her. Why marry, if you can have her anyway? Women should stop having sex before marriage. End of story.
    So, women can't find a good man not because they are ugly, but because they are so weak that they can't say no to sex. They are afraid that a man will run away. Well, if he loves you, he will not run away, but he will respect you. If he doesn't love you, then he will run away. By giving him sex out of fear you are actually saying that you are afraid to stay alone, as if you can't go and find someone else.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. And no. Femininity is not to be lead, be a follower, weak and submissive. That describes a child. Femininity is Majestic, spacious, shaped and not weak. True femininity makes men weak and silent, yet they crave it. To be in it's presence. Why so many women refuse to be feminine?

      Delete
    2. Sex has more than one reasoning in it. Forsaking the financial aspect of it -- sex like communication would be my first guess. :)

      Delete
  34. This post reveals an impressive aspect of your character. Keep on the good work!!

    ReplyDelete
  35. What about women that were born with some facial deformity? that's a game changer...

    ReplyDelete
  36. Ugly Girls Don’t Exist...

    Because you don't see them anyway!

    ReplyDelete
  37. I think Chanel once said that there is no such thing as an ugly woman, just a lazy one. Most of the so-called "ugly" women I know are the ones who have essentially given up on themselves (by not wearing make-up, not dressing in flattering clothes, getting out of shape, etc.) Thanks Andrew, will pass on what you said here the next time they bemoan how "ugly" they are.

    ReplyDelete
  38. Hi, I liked it. It definitely touched me because it does apply to me, but...
    I was getting a different impression of the whole thing at first when, all of a sudden, everything turned upside-down. I thought you were going to say if ugly girls are not loved, it’s because it has always been like this so that according to evolution the best ones should remain, and the weak improper ones should leave the seen and the scenario is going on and will go on the same to the point of perfection. (I should add though, I’m a Shia Muslim girl and I don’t believe in evolution- at least the way you guys do- , according to my religious texts Adam, who dates back to maximum about 8500 years ago, was the Last man, from whom we descended, there were OTHER generationS of human beings millions of years ago who had perished long before Adam.) So if that’s the way you put it, some ARE destined not to be taken.
    But, it changed direction i.e. no one’s ugly because the ugly ones had already perished.
    Thank you, for this post and the rest of others that taught me a lot.

    ReplyDelete
  39. Late to this party but this probably doesn't apply to black women (actual dark-skinned not mixed or light skinned) seeing as we are described as ugly on the basis of our dark skin color, 'masculine' facial features and 'imperfect' hair by a majority of men. None of which are things we can 'work on'.
    Yeah, I guess I'm a little bitter...

    ReplyDelete
  40. I'm pretty sure you literally said in this post that the only reason women exist is because men want to fuck them... Man, that is sexist on multiple levels.

    Other than that, though, it was a pretty interesting article ;)

    ReplyDelete
  41. After being in relationship with Wilson for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called Dr Zuma zuk and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: spiritualherbalisthealing@gmail.com or call him +2349055637784 you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS

    ReplyDelete


  42. How to Get an Ex Back
    My boyfriend broke up with me its been 4 days now. We have been dating sense he was 18 and I was 22. She has just know turned 21. We have been dating for 3 years and 2 and half months. Through the years we have had a really good relationship it was serious and we really wanted to be with each other forever. Of course we had are arguments but nothing too bad. I know that these past 3 months I had taken him for granted thinking he would always be there but was wrong. he told me he didn’t want to be in a relationship that he wanted to take time with himself. But he was still kissin me and hugging me and telling me that he will always love me and I hold a special place in her heart. I realized that right before he done this that I needed to get my act together but I guess was too late. I really love this boy there is something different about him he is the love of my life and I want us to have a better relationship then ever before and I wouldn’t ever take him for granted ever again I really do want to marry this boy and he wanted that too but idk how to get him back with out being clingy and desperate. Obviously he needs his space because he cheated on me and this time I really need help to bring him back and marry me, one day i was searching online and i saw a good testimony of how Dr Joy a real Africa spell caster help to restored back broken marriage, getting ex back, fix broken relationship. so i copy his email via??? joylovespell@gmail.com and told him all my problems so he ask me not to worry that my problem are solve that with 2 days, i will get him back which i believe in and put all my hope on and to my greatest notice, after the spell my boyfriend who broke up with me gave me a call to apology and feel so sorry for what he did so my dear ones that is how i got my boyfriend back with the help of Dr joy the real spell caster so also email him now on via joylovespell@gmail.com.you can also call him or add him on Whats-app: +2347088404185.

    ReplyDelete
  43. Hubungan Main Sabung Ayam Online Dengan Kemunafikan

    Apa sih hubungannya Munafik dengan Main Sabung Ayam Online ? Yuk disimak penjelasannya (Baca Selengkapnya...)

    ReplyDelete
  44. Hello friends, my name's Andrea Maria, from Stockholm - Sweden. I read good comments about your good job, I'm very happy for you all as i have found same happiness in myself, just Few weeks ago i read a good testimony on similar blog website at my work office, a comment posted by a lady Jennifer from Madrid she said a Great man from Africana nation called Dr.Oduduwa was able to bring back her ex boyfriend after 12 months of break-up. i was motivated, I gave it a try to contact same Oduduwa via: (dr.oduduwaspellcaster@gmail. com) for urgent solution to restore back my marriage for about 2 years i have been separated. Just immediately i send email message to Dr.Oduduwa, I received immediate reply, he told me that he can help me, he said my case is too simple for him to handle because he have solve similar cases over the years. I gave it a try because i have nothing to loose from trying. he demanded for photo images and i bought candles and other spell materials required for a successful result. Two days ago which was Tuesday morning after love spell portion activated, i got a phone call from my ex husband man, he talked with me so nicely and apologize for breaking up with me, that it was the devils hand work and he was feeling very sorry, i forgive him and thank him for coming back. it was shocking and a big surprise. i never could imagine it will work so quickly until yesterday morning my husband man came back home to meet me and our two lovely kids we are all happy as one family.
    Dr.Oduduwa has great magic spell powers to resolve the following:...
    1) love spell portion to win games
    2) Restore back Lost Love Spells
    3) Divorce Spells
    4) Spouses' trust spouses
    5) binding spelling to living together forever
    6) Breakup Spells (terminate relationship)
    7) Magic roots and herbs for strong errection and long lasting sex
    8.) Magic spell promoted in your Job office
    9) Magic spell to have a baby. (women fruit of womb)
    Note: I was desperate to get back my ex love man, it work more faster only desperate ones seeking for urgent result to restore back true love and peace in marriage relationship to contact Dr.Oduduwa immediately. WhatsApp mobile: +79268011965

    ReplyDelete
  45. GET BACK YOUR EX FAST, SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE FROM DIVORCE AND AMEND YOUR BROKEN RELATIONSHIP WITH THE HELP OF DR GREAT CALL OR WHATSAPP +2348118829899

    Hello everyone i am happy to spread my testimony of a strong spell caster called Dr Great. I'm Kaitlyn Houston and i live in USA, my husband and i had a little fight because of that he wanted to divorce me i was so afraid to lose him because i love him very much so i search online for help and i saw a lot of people's testimonies on how Dr Great help them and came out with positive results like Divorces, Cancers, lotteries, fertilities and others. So i emailed him and told him my problem and he told me what to do and I did it as he instructed, 24 hours later he told me he is done with the spell and my husband will no longer divorce me and when my husband came back from work he told me he won't divorce me anymore he said he didn't know what came over him that he is sorry I was so happy and I thank Dr Great for his help If you need Dr Great help email him at infinitylovespell@gmail.com or infinitylovespell@yahoo.com view his website http://infinitylovespell.website2.me my page https://kaitlynhouston19.blogspot.com you can also add him on WhatsApp +2348118829899 and he will put an end to your problem 

    ReplyDelete
  46. i am ERIC BRUNT by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my wife after three(3) years of marriage just because another Man had a spell on her and she left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a man had a spell on my wife and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my wife back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my wife. Thanks for helping me Dr Akhere contact him on email: AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com
    or
    call/whatsapp:+2349057261346










    i am ERIC BRUNT by name. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my wife after three(3) years of marriage just because another Man had a spell on her and she left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a man had a spell on my wife and he told me that he will help me and after 3 days that i will have my wife back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my wife. Thanks for helping me Dr Akhere contact him on email: AKHERETEMPLE@gmail.com
    or
    call/whatsapp:+2349057261346




    ReplyDelete
  47. My husband and I have been married for over 10 years. We met when I was 18 and he was 21. We’ve been through a lot emotionally together. There were several HUGE fights and painful situations in our marriage, but we always seemed to come out stronger on the other side. Out of the blue my husband just sprung the divorce talk on me, I was totally depressed until I found Lord Ojoka website online and i ordered for a Love spell. You won’t believe my husband called me at the exact time this spell caster finished his spell work in 24hours. I was totally amazed! He is wonderful and his spells work so fast. You could also reach out to him if you are having problems with your marriage or relationship. Email: dr.ojokaspelltemple@gmail.com or whats app him +2348144172934

    ReplyDelete
  48. 2020 GOOD AND RELIABLE LOVE SPELL TO BRING BACK EX LOVER URGENTLY CALL/WHATSAPP +2348118829899 OR EMAIL infinitylovespell@gmail.com

    My name is Luisa Ryan from Germany, I and my husband have been married for 10 years and we have 3 lovely kids, my husband was always busy with work but when ever it is weekend he always take me and our kids out for dinner and sometime we go shopping together because the kids like to buy things, our family was happy until my husband went on a business trip, when he came back he started acting strange he didn't have time for me and the kids anymore, last month he told me that he is tired of our marriage that he want a divorce at first I thought he was joking until he packed out of the house leaving me and the kids alone, I was heartbroken I couldn't eat for days I cried and cried and the kid were always asking for their dad and I do lied to them, I couldn't take it anymore I decided to search on how to get him back I came across Dr Great email I didn't want to email him at first but knowing am losing my husband I emailed him and explained my problem to him, he replied my mail and told me that he will help me it's will take 24 hrs to cast the spell, after he finished casting the spell he told me my husband will soon be back, few hours later my husband came back home begging and I forgive him now we are living happily together, all thanks to Dr Great for saving my marriage. If your husband or wife left you and you want him or her back the right man to bring them back is Dr Great he is a good man he is a messager send by God to help us in time of problems he can put a stop to your problem email him at infinitylovespell@gmail.com or infinitylovespell@yahoo.com WhatsApp him +2348118829899 check out his website http://infinitylovespell.website2.me/ or blog http://infinitylovespell1.blogspot.com my blogs http://luisaryan35.blogspot.com/

    ReplyDelete
  49. Get your ex lover back" dr unity is indeed a real and honest love spell caster'he brought my husband back. I'm Tracy Mattingly from united state, I'm so excited my husband is back after he left me for another woman. My husband was having an affair with a co-worker and i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with his co-worker and this girl i think use witchcraft or black magic on my husband to make him hate me and this was so critical and uncalled-for, I cry all day and night for God to send me a helper to bring back my husband! I was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Unity can help get ex-boyfriend back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it, then he did a love spell for me. 11hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much, Oh My God! i was so happy, and today i am happy with my man again and we are joyfully living together and i thank the powerful spell caster Dr.Unity, he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the here. if you are here and your Lover is turning you down, or your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore, contact Dr.Unity for help now..Here’s his contact Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or Call/Whats-app: +2348055361568 ,website:https://drunity.simplesite.com

    ReplyDelete
  50. Get your ex lover back" dr unity is indeed a real and honest love spell caster'he brought my husband back. I'm Tracy Mattingly from united state, I'm so excited my husband is back after he left me for another woman. My husband was having an affair with a co-worker and i love my husband so much but he was cheating on me with his co-worker and this girl i think use witchcraft or black magic on my husband to make him hate me and this was so critical and uncalled-for, I cry all day and night for God to send me a helper to bring back my husband! I was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Unity can help get ex-boyfriend back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it, then he did a love spell for me. 11hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me so much, Oh My God! i was so happy, and today i am happy with my man again and we are joyfully living together and i thank the powerful spell caster Dr.Unity, he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the here. if you are here and your Lover is turning you down, or your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore, contact Dr.Unity for help now..Here’s his contact Email him at: Unityspelltemple@gmail.com or Call/Whats-app: +2348055361568 ,website:https://drunity.simplesite.com

    ReplyDelete
  51. Thanks to Doctor Razor for the Great miraculous work he did in my life with his herbal remedy. I too have been living with this virus and I have shared with my partners my situation because they deserve to have a choice of whether they want to change being with me or not. I unfortunately did not have a choice in this matter leaving me vulnerable and now faced with this virus for the rest of my life or until a cure was discovered.I refused to take the Medical drugs my PCD have told me to take, I surrendered to my fate, because I was careless. Late on at night, Feb 13 2017, I came across Doctor Razor herbal medicine. I browsed about the authenticity of This Doctor, I got to see several Testimonies regarding his works from people he had helped with his medicine. i reached out to him and told him my problems, after we spoke he promised to help me out. I started using his herbal medicine which he sent to me Via the Courier Delivery, and asked me to take the herbal medicine for 18 days. which i did. I am delighted to let you all know that I Got cured of Herpes Virus, after the Medical Doctor had confirmed this with the test results, when I went for a medical check up after completing the Herbal Dosage Of 18 days. Doctor Razor's Website : https://drrazorherbalhome.wixsite.com/drrazorherbalhome or Reach out to Doctor razor via email : drrazorherbalhome@gmail.com . WhatsApp +2349065420442

    ReplyDelete
  52. Do You Need A Powerful Africa Native Doctor? I Mean A Spiritual Herbalist
    With Great Spirit Connected To Ancestors. Call or WhatsApp +2349058774809 Dr Obodubu Monday Is A High Voodoo Priest Master. He is a Spell Caster, Native
    Doctor, Spiritual Herbalist, Powerful Sickle cell Healer, Spiritual
    Astrologer, Psychic Reader, Multi Guru, Witch Doctor, Priest Of Africa
    Money Ritual.
    Have You Been To Native Doctor to Native Doctor Without Any Solution To
    Your Problems Or Rather Add To it? Have You Been To Place To Place In View
    Of A Powerful Native Doctor That Can Solve All Your Predicament, You Must
    Understand That There Is A Native Doctor That Supersede All Native Doctor
    Among All Native Doctor, If You Are In Search Of A Powerful Native Doctor
    With Great Spiritual Powers, Then You Must Be In Search Of A Native Doctor
    That Derives Power From The Marine World. That Is The Spirituality Of The
    Greatest Africa Native Doctor Obodubu.
    Dr Obodubu Is Recognized All Over The World Of Marine Kingdom, As One
    Of The Top Fortunate And Most Powerful Native Doctor Of Charms Casts From
    The Beginning Of His Ancestors ship Until Now Dr who lives Strong
    Among All Other Native Doctors, There Have Never Been Any Form Of
    Impossibility Beyond The Control Of Dr Obodubu. It Doesn't Matter The
    Distance Of The Person With The Problems Or Situation, All You Have To Do
    Is Believe
    In The Native Obodubu charms Casts That Works, He Always
    Warns Never To Get His Charms Casts If You Do Not Believe Or Unable To
    Follow His Instruction.
    It Is The Assignment Of The Native Doctor Obodubu To Offer
    Services To Those In Need Of Spiritual Assistance Not Minding The Gravity
    Of Your Situations Or Distance As Long As Water, Sea, Ocean, Lake, River
    Sand etc. Are Near You, Then Your Problems Of Life Would Be Controlled
    Under Your Foot.
    If You Need Any Spiritual Help On Any of These:
    Get Your Lover Back
    Fruit Of The Womb
    Fibroid
    Business Boom
    Financial Breakthrough
    Get Rich Without Ritual WhatsApp +2349058774809
    Do As I Say
    Bad Dream
    Promise And Fail
    Epilepsy
    Spiritual Attack
    Land/Court Case
    Mental Disorder
    Political Appointment
    Visa Approval
    Cancer
    Examination Success
    Spend And Get Back
    Good Luck
    Natural Health
    Hypertension
    Diabesity (Diabetic+Obesity
    Stroke
    Sickle Cell
    Impotency
    Win Court Case
    Promotion At Work
    Commanding Tone
    Protection Ring
    Marriage Success
    Love Ring
    Favour Ring
    Recover Lost Glory
    Spiritual Power For Men Of God
    Travel Success Ring
    Job Success
    Lotto/Pool Win And Many More.
    Make Haste To Call or WhatsApp Dr Obodubu Monday +2349058774809. Or Mail Him to
    babadoctorobodubuspiritualhome@gmail.com For Spiritual Problem Today And
    You Will Surely
    Get Solution To All Your Predicament.
    Email: babadoctorobodubuspiritualhome@gmail.com

    ReplyDelete
  53. My ex-husband and I had always managed to stay friendly after our divorce in February 2017. But I always wanted to get back together with him, All it took was a visit to this spell casters website last December, because my dream was to start a new year with my husband, and live happily with him.. This spell caster requested a specific love spell for me and my husband, and I accepted it. And this powerful spell caster began to work his magic. And 48 hours after this spell caster worked for me, my husband called me back for us to be together again, and he was remorseful for all his wrong deeds. My spell is working because guess what: My “husband” is back and we are making preparations on how to go to court and withdraw our divorce papers ASAP. This is nothing short of a miracle. Thank you Dr Emu for your powerful spells. Words are not enough. here is his Email: emutemple@gmail.com or call/text him on his WhatsApp +2347012841542

    ReplyDelete
  54. i couldn't believe that i would ever be re-unite with my ex-lover, i was so traumatize staying all alone with no body to stay by me and to be with me, but i was so lucky one certain day to meet this powerful spell caster Dr Prince,after telling him about my situation he did everything humanly possible to see that my lover come back to me,indeed after casting the spell my ex-lover came back to me less than 48 hours,my ex-lover came back begging me that he will never leave me again, thanks very much Dr Prince for restoring my ex-lover back to me,his emai: princemagicspell@yahoo.com or his WhatsApp +19492293867

    ReplyDelete
  55. My husband and I have been married for about 7 yrs now. We were happily married with two kids, a boy and a girl. 3 months ago, I started to notice some strange behavior from him and a few weeks later I found out that my husband is seeing someone. He started coming home late from work, he hardly cared about me or the kids anymore, Sometimes he goes out and doesn't even come back home for about 2-3 days. I did all I could to rectify this problem but all to no avail. I became very worried and needed help. As I was browsing through the Internet one day, I came across a website that suggested that Dr Jumba can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he did a spell for me. Two days later, my husband came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promised never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. My family and I are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Jumba . If you need a spell caster that can cast a spell that truly works, I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you. This is his Email: 

    wiccalovespelltools@gmail.com

    WhatsApp +19085174108

    Website : https://drjumbaspellhome.wordpress.com




























    My husband and I have been married for about 7 yrs now. We were happily married with two kids, a boy and a girl. 3 months ago, I started to notice some strange behavior from him and a few weeks later I found out that my husband is seeing someone. He started coming home late from work, he hardly cared about me or the kids anymore, Sometimes he goes out and doesn't even come back home for about 2-3 days. I did all I could to rectify this problem but all to no avail. I became very worried and needed help. As I was browsing through the Internet one day, I came across a website that suggested that Dr Jumba can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he did a spell for me. Two days later, my husband came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promised never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. My family and I are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Jumba . If you need a spell caster that can cast a spell that truly works, I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you. This is his Email: 

    wiccalovespelltools@gmail.com

    WhatsApp +19085174108

    Website : https://drjumbaspellhome.wordpress.com

    ReplyDelete
  56. Should you ever require the services of a hacker or private investigator to monitor your children's day to day activities,or monitor your employees activities as well as catch a cheating spouse or other hacking related issues, i implore you to try your very best to hire this cyber professional  'hackingloop'. he will increase your chances of getting your job completed. I was able to hire the services of this elite, asides the fact that I was provided a permanent solution to the service he rendered me but he gave a very efficient customer experience. He carried me along with every process and didn't leave me in the dark. contact;'hackingloop6@gmail . c o m' Call or text him also on WhatsApp + 1 484  540 - 0785 .tell him i referred you.

    ReplyDelete
  57. REAL AND EFFCTIVE LOVE SPELL CASTER TO BRING BACK EX LOVER URGENTLY
    My husband and I have been married for about 7 yrs now. We were happily married with two kids, a boy and a girl. 3 months ago, I started to notice some strange behavior from him and a few weeks later I found out that my husband is seeing someone. He started coming home late from work, he hardly cares about me or the kids anymore, Sometimes he goes out and doesn't even come back home for about 2-3 days. I did all I could to rectify this problem but all to no avail. I became very worried and needed help. As I was browsing through the Internet one day, I came across a website that suggested that Dr Jumba can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he did a spell for me. Two days later, my husband came to me and apologized for the wrongs he did and promised never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. My family and I are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Jumba . If you need a spell caster that can cast a spell that truly works, I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you. This is his Email : 

    wiccalovespelltools@gmail.com

    WhatsApp +19085174108
    Website  :  https://drjumbaspellhome.wordpress.com

    ReplyDelete
  58. If you wanna know whether your partner is cheating on you,kindly contact "hackingloop6@gmail . com, I tried his service and provided the closure I needed,I promised to share this online for anyone in need of hacking assistance.he's also on WhatsApp + 1 484 540 - 0785..he's a legit hacker,tell him i referred you.you can also reach him if your funds are hanging in online trading platforms like expert-option ,cal financial, Analyst , coinspot, Ctx Prime and many more.

    ReplyDelete
  59. Had an ex that was just so bad and awful. He moved into my house- (it was supposed to be temporary) but he ended up never leaving. He came across one of my paychecks that I accidentally left out and expected me to foot the bill for groceries, gas, insurance and also shop for other girls and always denied my confirmations.I had to apply for the service of a cyber genius ''hackingloop6@gmail . com'' who hacked his phone and gained me remote access to all his phone activities and exposed all he has been doing behind me.So not only was he a gold digger, he was also one with a cheat. I kicked him out ASAP. Hackingloop is also available on WhatsApp +1(484)540 - 0785, if you need any hacking related service.

    ReplyDelete
  60. My Ex-boyfriend is back after he broke up with me,

    Thanks for restoring my relationship,

    He made everything possible...

    I am the happiest lady on earth,

    Never too late to fix your broken heart.

    You can still get your lover back...

    Fix broken relationship/marriage...

    _________________________R.buckler11 [ @ Gmail com ]

    ReplyDelete