Wednesday, August 17, 2011

The Perfect Female Height

The perfect height for a woman is somewhere between 5' 2" and 5' 6". Most women think this is too short, but this is only because they misunderstand what men like about women. In this range, a woman can be sexy in heels without being too tall and cute without them. Men love women with the ability to be both.

Disclaimer: I am 6' 2" and this is only my opinion. The important part is the last sentence.

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  1. So what is your advice to those girl not n that range

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  2. If you're shorter, you are much less threatening. He can be the big strong man. You can get away with being assertive.

    Learn to work around any mechanical awkwardnesses of a large differential. Make it easy on him. Don't ever wear anything that looks like little girl clothes, except perhaps in the bedroom.

    A tall woman makes dancing and other interactions more convenient. Competitive ballroom dancers and pairs skaters are often similar heights.

    Don't expect him to lift you without checking and even perhaps testing it. On the other hand, you will be surprised at how much stronger he really is.

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  3. "So what is your advice to those girl not n that range"

    Some unsolicited advice: height is one aspect of you, and rarely THE important one as far as guys are concerned. Work around it.

    People to whom it's an issue that they can't ever get over were lost to you from the start. You can blame genetics or their mindset (just remember that demonizing someone for not falling for you is a rotten attitude to adopt).

    With everyone else, you just apply the mindset of "this is not an obstacle, it's a speed-bump at best. And I'm going to roll right over it."

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  4. WRONG! Long legs are a total turn on!! 5'8" - 6'0" is perfect!!

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    1. Just because a girl is 5'8"-6'0" doesn't mean she has long legs. Katie Holmes for example - people always assumed she had long legs because of her height, but she has a really long torso and relatively short legs.

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    2. that s true exactly some women s are really long but ugly body or short legs

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  5. So just to clarify, if I am 5'6" naturally, then 5'9" or 5'10" in heels, this is the perfect height? Or do you mean 5'6" total, with heels on?

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  6. haha yes, technically speaking you are the perfect height - but I think you are missing the point. Pay more attention to the last sentance.

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  7. I'm 6'1'' female, 20 years old, play collegiate volleyball . I am very attractive and feminine. What advice to you have for me?

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  8. Keep doing what you are doing. Attractive and feminine is a winning combination (assuming, of course, that you have a good personality).

    There are guys out there that like and seek out taller girls; and anyway, it isn't anywhere near the be-all-and-end-all of attractiveness - quite the opposite. In another post, I estimated that it only counted for a total of 2% of female beauty, and deserved 0% of your attention.

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  9. hullo. so you've already half answered this, but i was wondering more specifically..i'm 5'7" and love to wear heels. that makes me about 5'9" or 5'10". if i'm dating a guy who is about 5'9" ... would the average guy mind this?

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    1. It depends what you mean by "mind"... If you mean "prefer that it be otherwise," then yes, the average (not all) man would mind. If you mean "make him not want to date you," then I very seriously doubt it, but I suppose some guys might care enough for it to sway their decision.

      In this post I ranked height as 2% of overall appearance. Don't stress out about it (if you are).

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    2. got it. thanks!

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  10. I'm 5 feet tall. The genetic lottery failed me.

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    1. I'm 5' 8" and for me about 5 feet tall girl is perfect, but I can live with a taller one.

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  11. I think if you are way taller than average, or even taller than the average man, you'll have to pay extra attention to staying slim and feminine. Short girls can sometimes pull of a little bit chubby - taller girls risk looking 'butch'. I know some tall girls who practice a lot of sports which have caused them to become very muscular - particularly their arms, and it's not attractive.

    If you're tall and a guy is already turned on by your height, I think you can safely wear heels. I'm 5"9 1/2, and my legs are one of my best assets so I like to wear heels. I usually get a lot of attention from guys whom are my height or even shorter - some men like tall girls and if you're already in the "tall" category, the extra inches of heels won't be a problem. I think the positive effect heels has on a woman outweighs the negative factor of her being too tall. Although if a woman is 6" or more, I would keep the heels low.

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  12. I'm 5'6.5" and used to think I was a sawed-off freak, so thanks for this.

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  13. Being 5'4", I was very excited to read this post :)

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  14. i'm5'7''and of size 36 can i use heels?


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  15. Im a girl, 5'11 and i have been since i was 14. You're right about the need to stay slender so as not to appear masculine and chunky but ive been with a few smaller guys who think my height is great, almost in awe of it which i found really confidence giving as ive always been awkward about my height.
    Don't let it stop you.

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  16. This is the only post I disagree with. I love your insight and love what you're trying to do, but I don't see the point of this. I see the point in telling fat girls to lose weight, telling girls with short hair to grow it out, and telling lazy girls to put makeup on and pay attention to what they wear. The thing is, they all have control over all of that. To say that a woman who is tall makes her less attractive is a moot point- what are tall girls supposed to do?

    I'm 5'9" and consider myself attractive. I've never had a problem getting men to buy me a drink at a bar, and when I'm not in relationships, can always find dates in between. I've been told by all of the men that I've been serious with that they find my height to be very attractive. So, maybe I'm taking this a little too personally, but I need to stand up for tall girls everywhere!

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    1. I totally agree...i am 6ft 1 and beautiful...i find it to be my best feature..my clothes look better on me because I have an hour glass shape ...and i can't go anywhere without someone asking me if I am a model and im not...beauty is what you make it..i get hit on by guys that range 5ft tall to 66' Although i have been told that short and tall men are intimidated...love yourself...there's no perfect height...but i would not trade it for the world...so dude stop..lol...not good advice at all..and yes i Love HEELS...:)

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    2. The author is not saying that tall women are unattractive. He's debunking the common misconception that taller women have, for lack of a better phrase, an 'attractiveness advantage'. They don't. The post is simply pointing out that the advantage actually goes to slightly shorter women, but the advantage is so small that it can be effectively ignored. As a heterosexual male, I completely agree. I really don't care about a woman's height.

      With that said, It's no secret that most women do care about a man's height. So if you're a tall women, the only disadvantage you may have that men who aren't at least a few inches taller that you may not approach you, under the assumption that you won't date a shorter man.

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  17. At what point would you say a woman is too short/tall to be attractive

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    1. Thanks. At 5'0, I feel like I'm too small to be attractive to most guys, but I'm probably being silly.....
      Also, thank you so much for the blog. it's really nice of you to put all these articles up here.

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    2. Sophia Loren is 5'8" and considered beautiful

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    3. 5'8'' is actually on the taller end for the average women. Certainly, a woman with that height would not be asking this question. The only reason that Sophia Loren being 5'8'' is so shocking is because she is compared to models.

      As for attractive, everyone has their own preferences. Most men prefer Andrew's range of 5'2'' to 5'6''. Then again, men are not that perceptive, so just wear heels...though there is always a point where you can't hide it.

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  18. Thank you for writing this. I am 5'4, but I'm in a heavily Dutch circle of acquaintances. Most of my girlfriends are closing in on 6 ft. I have always been very self-conscious of my height, so I do often wear heels to compensate. I suppose women always assume that men would like to date models and that they will settle on a shorter woman if she's pretty enough to make up for it. Whether you are right, or just one opinion, I appreciate the affirmation.

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    1. fyi: 5'4" is not short. I'm 5'4"and i consider myself to be tall, not short. 5'1" is short. not 5'4". duh

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    2. Maybe it is not short for your culture AhickH but for hers it may be shorter than average. HOWEVER, there are always a niche of men that prefer shorter girls. I am 5ft4 too and sometimes feel short however there are men who I have been involved with in the past who like that about me...particularly very tall men (6ft3+).

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    3. Anon: Comparing yourself to the Dutch is really outside of the norm, as they are the tallest in the world. 5"4 is average height for women in most Western countries (US, UK, Italy, France ++). It's not tall and not short - just the norm.

      I really don't believe women who feel inadequate for their height. Short men have a disadvantage, not short women. And you're not even short.
      There is no common belief that women should be tall, most Hollywood women are either average or petite (partly because smaller features work well on screen). Women are encouraged to wear heels, and they work best on those in the normal height range, like yourself. Short women don't need to compensate for anything, if anything she's advantage for making men feel more masculine.
      I'm 5"9 and I have comments from petite women all the time saying things like "I can't believe you wear heels".

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    4. I am a Latin man and I am slender and 5'7" tall but I love tiny ladies between 4'7" and 5 feet tall But proportional . They are so cute and adorable like a little Tinkerbell . But dolls like that are hard to find. Sorry but I am a Tinkerbell fan ha ha ha I would do almost anything to have a lady like that be my E-mail Buddy . My code name is Darius . nicktesla45@yahoo.com I love the arts and culture and I am into martial arts and Lots of hobbies Please be my buddy Tinkerbell ! I promise not to let my Kitty cat eat you. ha ha ha ha . No under-age girls please !

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  19. You ladies just don't get it with men. You ask for honesty but when there honest you get pissed. Of course men love women who are 5.2-5.6 who wants to date a giraffe. The only reason men like models is for the legs not height. It's all fantasy with men don't you women get that yet. Men like petite not large meaning height. Men are not that complicated no wonder they never tell the truth, when they do they are crucified.

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    1. I think the problem is in terms of speaking of "men in general". The last guy I dated sought me out (online) because of how tall I am (5'11"). The current guy I'm dating is 6'2" and he loves the fact that he doesn't have to bend way down to kiss me like he has with women in the past. The point is you can't lump all men together and say definitively what they like. Are all of us under 5'2" and over 5'6" supposed to just give up on love because we don't fit what you say is the ideal?

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    2. Agree....i always have taller men tell me im soooooo glad that i don't have to bend down and kiss you...lol

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    3. You two must be high. I couldn't disagree more. I think as a general rule, that's not true, and you two represent the minority view.

      I could NEVER date a shorter man. I like the physical security of a taller man. It's sexy, and a manly quality for him to have in the relationship. MY VIEW which I'm sure people disagree with. That said, if I were to choose between a tall asshole and a shorter, perfect man, I'd chose to date NEITHER. I'd be friends with the shorter one and if there were more redeeming qualities in the taller one, I'd be his friend too.

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    4. Not all men feel that way. I'm 5'9" and my bf is 6'3" and he loves that I'm tall so he doesn't have to stoop. You must be a shorty. Short men are way more unattractive than tall women.

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  20. Hello Andrew! I hope you can give me your advice on this topic.
    I met this guy at a party and we have a "first" date planned (nothing to complicated,just have a drink).
    I want to wear a classy dress or skirt, and I'd like wear high heels on to complete the look.
    The thing is I'm a tall girl 5'10 (1.78m). The guy is quite tall himself 6'4(1.93m) and I sure wont be the same height as he with my heels on but I really want to be look feminine and delicate near him.
    So should I put the heels on or not?

    p.s: I do feel comfortable in high heel and they make my legs look incredible :) (I'm a model)

    Thx for your (or anyone) advice.

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    1. It sounds like you can do either one and look good, but I think the heels have a slight edge since they will make you look more sexual.

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  21. Would 5'6 be lift-upable during dance routines or just a simple sweeping off of the feet?

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  22. Don't girls in that range have stubby legs? Is that not as unattractive as most women think?

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    1. The high heels ameliorate the stubby legs.

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  23. The taller the better, unless it's extremely tall. But nothing wrong with being short. Im 6'4" male and i like girls ~5'8"+

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  24. How about "I like curvy hourglass/nice wait/hip ratio"?!
    I think that's what makes shorter women better, but that could be just me... they do look more feminine and their weight gets sorted much better (right spots, proportions) than the taller ones. Their curves look much better, taller women are simply out of proportions.
    Oh and when it comes to heels. You girls just don't get it. A big taboo is that feet/legs are the most common fetish in minds of many folks. When you wear heels, your feet get some specific shape that looks really appealing, that's first. Second, they also look "steep" in a way, and shorter. that's a huge turn on. You also look taller on overall without losing those proportions, so you're more in the eye-level. On top of that, your body gets into some specific shape that I can't explain... I just can't, you need to be a man to figure it out (your whole figure gets into that position). On top of that, there's the way you MOVE which is a turn on as well (combined with mini skirt to look at). And mere sound of you walking is appealing as well.
    Tall women get it a lot harder because of all those proportions things and the fact that heels will do it all wrong for them. Plus, men generally don't find it attractive to have woman taller than them, not at all. They won't mind much if you're this or that height but not if you're VISIBLY taller (so even an inch taller than him isn't sometimes a problem). But men also have very bad experiences with taller women, just like with wealthier women and their attitudes and (un)conscious messages that they send to them. Women are the ones having the repel shield and men simply follow the suit - they see you're taller and even those that have that specific attraction to taller girls will avoid you, even if you might want or like them approaching you.

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    1. This is a load of bullshit. The majority of swimsuit models are both tall and have great proportions. They have longs legs which makes them taller.

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    2. I genuinely don't think height is all that important. I know enough men who are really into tall girls (not in a second rate sense). Tall women can look more striking because their beauty is more obvious, in an intangible sense. That's not something I can exploit, being 5ft 4".

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    3. I'm a tall Dutch American (5'10") and I LOVE being tall. It has never been a problem for me at all. I have never been made to feel unattractive for being tall. I am great at sports and many women seem to envy my height and men seem to find it attractive. I've dated men who are 5'7" to 6'4" and it never mattered. There are so many things that are much more important.

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  25. I am 4'10 ..any advice here? :P

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  26. I am 4'8 what do us tiny women do?! I've never liked heels too...

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    1. Very small women have it easier than very tall women.

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    2. Often it seems like guys only want women 5'2 or taller. Do they see us almost like children?

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    3. Wait! Are we seen almost as children? I'm only 4'10!

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    4. @ Anon... I'm 4'9 and I can attest that I'm at times looked upon as a child. Everyone concludes my sister is older than me (when in fact she's 10 years younger).

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    5. Shorter women are far more attractive... In fact I married a woman that's 4'8 and drop dead gorgeous

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    6. I read somewhere that it's scientifically proven that males are most attracted to short girls with an hourglass figure and long legs, like Scarlett Johansson.

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  27. I'm between 5'4" and 5'5". I'm very concerned about my height, because I feel short. Am I?

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    1. I'm that height..it's one of the things guys always say they dig about me. So no, definitely not too short.

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  28. I'm only 5'2 i'm 17 years old
    and i really wanna grow taller i don't know how ?

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  29. I'm 5'1 and I have a thing for tall men (6ft and up). Just like men like smaller women so that they can feel like protectors, I like bigger men so that I can feel safe and protected. I have a very forceful personality in general, but when I'm with someone, I would like to be able to turn that off and just be a girl...Being short helps with that!

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    1. @Phoenix... do you know what helps with being a beautiful woman that could be a supermodel? Being 5'7"-5'10" tall. The perfect attractive height for women. Being 5'1 is only attractive to men with pedophile instincts, hope you know that.

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    2. John - so I guess any guy who finds Eva Longoria attractive is a pedophile. You sound like a bitter douche.

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  30. Hey Phoenix, I'm with you, I'm 5'2 and I like tall men, I love being 'little' But having said that, everyone is different and has different tastes. I have a friend who is 4'10 and she is cute as, I also have a friend who is 5'11 and she is stunning. We all come in different shapes and sizes as do men, so at the end of the day it comes down to personal preferences and personality.

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  31. i'm 5'3 and i think my tall is perfect,with heels i can be 5,7

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  32. Well you're wrong. Most men want a trophy woman... a woman that could pass as a super model.

    5'7"-5'10" are the best heights for a woman. Just look at Victoria's secret models.

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    1. Sorry bro, you're not most men.

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    2. Yep, most men feel emasculated when dating a woman that is taller than them. The only men that I have met that have been satisfied with dating taller women are those that were short themselves. Since short men already have low pickings, they were okay with walking around with an awkwardly taller woman.

      Also, it is rare for tall women to be super attractive like Victoria Secret models. If she were that tall and attractive, I am sure she would be able to hook a taller guy as well.

      Most men like their woman petite and small on heels. That's the reason that most tall women feel insecure wearing heels. That is the reason why looking thin is promoted among women.

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    3. I'm a woman who is 6'1 and I wear heels all the time. I'm not super thin (I'm built similarly to Christina Hendricks, chest and all) and I think I look pretty fantastic, personally. However, the majority of the comments are correct in that men simply don't like women that are bigger than they are and the taller you are, the thinner and more 'waif like' you have to be to make up for it. I don't want to be super thin just because I'm tall, I like my boobs and I like my hips and butt and if some guy doesn't like it then that's his problem.
      Of course, I'm also not interested in dating or being in a relationship of any type so that probably factors into it. Maybe if I actually cared what men wanted I'd pay more attention and become a size 2.

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  33. hi i am 15 and i want to grow taller than i am right now. please help! btw i am somewhere between 5.1 and 5.2, but i don't know my height exactly because i cannot measure correctly. please tell me if i can still grow taller. my mom is 5.0 and my dad is way too tall, infact all my family members are taller..! waiting for reply. thanks!!

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  34. I am only 14 and I'm already 5'8". I consider myself too tall, it's quite ugly being so tall as a teenager. Especially for a girl. My friends and family often tell me that I'm pretty but too tall.. I don't know what to do. I'm 14 and I'd really like to have a boyfriend who likes me for what I am, but it's hard to attract boys with my height.. Usually at this age, boys prefer short girls or girls of medium height. What can I do? Please answer :)

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    1. hey wow thats great. you have a perfect height sis. i wish i could borrow a few inches from you as i am 15 and only 5'2. i wish i was very tall like you. i wish i can still grow.

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    2. I was jus like you growing up!. All of sudden i got tall at age 15 and felt VERY ackward and insecure about it because i didint know what the heck was going on and didnt know what to do with this new height. But once you get to say age 18 or so honey yu gonna love that height! Trust me! Height is beautiful. I think I get so much attention from guys and from females too of how gorgeous I am that i should go model. lol. I'm almost almost 5 "9. I feel extremely beautiful and powerful due to my height..

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    3. Awww!!! congrats Lorena dear! i fee so happy for you. i am 15 and i also want to hit a growth spurt like you did. I am 5.2. I want to grow taller. Do you think I can still grow? please do reply! Infact, anyone can reply plzzzzzz....! anxious..

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    4. You can grow until 18-20th age I'm 16. Actually I am 4'11 and I jump rope everyday or you can play basketball, voleyball or swim. İt's up to you. With these kind of exercise you can grow a little more and of course you should drink milk.

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  35. I am 5'6 and I really like my height.....I think this is the perfect height for indian girls.....

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  36. I am 17 and 5'4(162cm). I'm considered the taller one here in Indonesia but I wish to be 5'8 so I don't have to wear heels. Anyway, I'm still quite happy with my height :)

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  37. What an interesting website this is. Anyhow, some of it is about proportion. I am 6'-2", 210 lbs, and I am dating a girl who is 5'-0" tall and 88 lbs. She is basically a tiny version of a model -- very long thin legs for her size. Size 5 feet and long black hair. Likes to wear very high heels, so that makes her about 5'-5" tall, which is perfect. We'll see where this goes, but so far it seems ideal. And people are constantly telling us what a "cute couple" we are. Hint: it's not because of me!!!

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  38. Hello! can someone please help me as well. I am 15 and only 5'2. Wanna grow taller but don't know how. Help me please!!

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  39. I'm about 5"5, compared to some people I'm really small but compared to others I'm average. Would that be an attractive height or not in a woman?

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    1. I think its a perfect height for a woman :)

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    2. Come on Sammy please be grateful. Your height is the perfect. I am 15 and 5'2 and i really long for growing 2 or 3 inches more. You have a beautiful height. :)

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    3. Amy, you have a while to grow yet. Don't fret, love. And thank you. <3

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    4. Yeah sammy i guess you are right. And you're welcome ;)

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  40. God damn, I hate generalizations. Even if they are generally true.
    I'd just really like all these angry and/or confused girls and guys commenting on here to know that there are ALWAYS many exceptions to these generalizations, so don't go worrying about not being in the "perfect" range or if you are a man that likes women outside of the "perfect" range.

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  41. I think it really has to do with the height of the man, and with the beauty of the girl of course.

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