The perfect height for a woman is somewhere between 5' 2" and 5' 6". Most women think this is too short, but this is only because they misunderstand what men like about women. In this range, a woman can be sexy in heels without being too tall and cute without them. Men love women with the ability to be both.
Disclaimer: I am 6' 2" and this is only my opinion. The important part is the last sentence.
So what is your advice to those girl not n that range
ReplyDeleteIf you're shorter, you are much less threatening. He can be the big strong man. You can get away with being assertive.
ReplyDeleteLearn to work around any mechanical awkwardnesses of a large differential. Make it easy on him. Don't ever wear anything that looks like little girl clothes, except perhaps in the bedroom.
A tall woman makes dancing and other interactions more convenient. Competitive ballroom dancers and pairs skaters are often similar heights.
Don't expect him to lift you without checking and even perhaps testing it. On the other hand, you will be surprised at how much stronger he really is.
"So what is your advice to those girl not n that range"
ReplyDeleteSome unsolicited advice: height is one aspect of you, and rarely THE important one as far as guys are concerned. Work around it.
People to whom it's an issue that they can't ever get over were lost to you from the start. You can blame genetics or their mindset (just remember that demonizing someone for not falling for you is a rotten attitude to adopt).
With everyone else, you just apply the mindset of "this is not an obstacle, it's a speed-bump at best. And I'm going to roll right over it."
WRONG! Long legs are a total turn on!! 5'8" - 6'0" is perfect!!
ReplyDeleteSo just to clarify, if I am 5'6" naturally, then 5'9" or 5'10" in heels, this is the perfect height? Or do you mean 5'6" total, with heels on?
ReplyDeletehaha yes, technically speaking you are the perfect height - but I think you are missing the point. Pay more attention to the last sentance.
ReplyDeleteI'm 6'1'' female, 20 years old, play collegiate volleyball . I am very attractive and feminine. What advice to you have for me?
ReplyDeleteKeep doing what you are doing. Attractive and feminine is a winning combination (assuming, of course, that you have a good personality).
ReplyDeleteThere are guys out there that like and seek out taller girls; and anyway, it isn't anywhere near the be-all-and-end-all of attractiveness - quite the opposite. In another post, I estimated that it only counted for a total of 2% of female beauty, and deserved 0% of your attention.
hullo. so you've already half answered this, but i was wondering more specifically..i'm 5'7" and love to wear heels. that makes me about 5'9" or 5'10". if i'm dating a guy who is about 5'9" ... would the average guy mind this?
ReplyDeleteIt depends what you mean by "mind"... If you mean "prefer that it be otherwise," then yes, the average (not all) man would mind. If you mean "make him not want to date you," then I very seriously doubt it, but I suppose some guys might care enough for it to sway their decision.
DeleteIn this post I ranked height as 2% of overall appearance. Don't stress out about it (if you are).
got it. thanks!
DeleteI'm 5 feet tall. The genetic lottery failed me.
ReplyDeleteI think if you are way taller than average, or even taller than the average man, you'll have to pay extra attention to staying slim and feminine. Short girls can sometimes pull of a little bit chubby - taller girls risk looking 'butch'. I know some tall girls who practice a lot of sports which have caused them to become very muscular - particularly their arms, and it's not attractive.
ReplyDeleteIf you're tall and a guy is already turned on by your height, I think you can safely wear heels. I'm 5"9 1/2, and my legs are one of my best assets so I like to wear heels. I usually get a lot of attention from guys whom are my height or even shorter - some men like tall girls and if you're already in the "tall" category, the extra inches of heels won't be a problem. I think the positive effect heels has on a woman outweighs the negative factor of her being too tall. Although if a woman is 6" or more, I would keep the heels low.
I'm 5'6.5" and used to think I was a sawed-off freak, so thanks for this.
ReplyDeleteBeing 5'4", I was very excited to read this post :)
ReplyDeletei'm5'7''and of size 36 can i use heels?
ReplyDeleteIm a girl, 5'11 and i have been since i was 14. You're right about the need to stay slender so as not to appear masculine and chunky but ive been with a few smaller guys who think my height is great, almost in awe of it which i found really confidence giving as ive always been awkward about my height.
ReplyDeleteDon't let it stop you.
This is the only post I disagree with. I love your insight and love what you're trying to do, but I don't see the point of this. I see the point in telling fat girls to lose weight, telling girls with short hair to grow it out, and telling lazy girls to put makeup on and pay attention to what they wear. The thing is, they all have control over all of that. To say that a woman who is tall makes her less attractive is a moot point- what are tall girls supposed to do?
ReplyDeleteI'm 5'9" and consider myself attractive. I've never had a problem getting men to buy me a drink at a bar, and when I'm not in relationships, can always find dates in between. I've been told by all of the men that I've been serious with that they find my height to be very attractive. So, maybe I'm taking this a little too personally, but I need to stand up for tall girls everywhere!
At what point would you say a woman is too short/tall to be attractive
ReplyDeleteThere is no such thing
DeleteThanks. At 5'0, I feel like I'm too small to be attractive to most guys, but I'm probably being silly.....
DeleteAlso, thank you so much for the blog. it's really nice of you to put all these articles up here.
Sophia Loren is 5'8" and considered beautiful
DeleteThank you for writing this. I am 5'4, but I'm in a heavily Dutch circle of acquaintances. Most of my girlfriends are closing in on 6 ft. I have always been very self-conscious of my height, so I do often wear heels to compensate. I suppose women always assume that men would like to date models and that they will settle on a shorter woman if she's pretty enough to make up for it. Whether you are right, or just one opinion, I appreciate the affirmation.
ReplyDeletefyi: 5'4" is not short. I'm 5'4"and i consider myself to be tall, not short. 5'1" is short. not 5'4". duh
DeleteMaybe it is not short for your culture AhickH but for hers it may be shorter than average. HOWEVER, there are always a niche of men that prefer shorter girls. I am 5ft4 too and sometimes feel short however there are men who I have been involved with in the past who like that about me...particularly very tall men (6ft3+).
DeleteAnon: Comparing yourself to the Dutch is really outside of the norm, as they are the tallest in the world. 5"4 is average height for women in most Western countries (US, UK, Italy, France ++). It's not tall and not short - just the norm.
DeleteI really don't believe women who feel inadequate for their height. Short men have a disadvantage, not short women. And you're not even short.
There is no common belief that women should be tall, most Hollywood women are either average or petite (partly because smaller features work well on screen). Women are encouraged to wear heels, and they work best on those in the normal height range, like yourself. Short women don't need to compensate for anything, if anything she's advantage for making men feel more masculine.
I'm 5"9 and I have comments from petite women all the time saying things like "I can't believe you wear heels".
You ladies just don't get it with men. You ask for honesty but when there honest you get pissed. Of course men love women who are 5.2-5.6 who wants to date a giraffe. The only reason men like models is for the legs not height. It's all fantasy with men don't you women get that yet. Men like petite not large meaning height. Men are not that complicated no wonder they never tell the truth, when they do they are crucified.
ReplyDeleteI think the problem is in terms of speaking of "men in general". The last guy I dated sought me out (online) because of how tall I am (5'11"). The current guy I'm dating is 6'2" and he loves the fact that he doesn't have to bend way down to kiss me like he has with women in the past. The point is you can't lump all men together and say definitively what they like. Are all of us under 5'2" and over 5'6" supposed to just give up on love because we don't fit what you say is the ideal?
DeleteHello Andrew! I hope you can give me your advice on this topic.
ReplyDeleteI met this guy at a party and we have a "first" date planned (nothing to complicated,just have a drink).
I want to wear a classy dress or skirt, and I'd like wear high heels on to complete the look.
The thing is I'm a tall girl 5'10 (1.78m). The guy is quite tall himself 6'4(1.93m) and I sure wont be the same height as he with my heels on but I really want to be look feminine and delicate near him.
So should I put the heels on or not?
p.s: I do feel comfortable in high heel and they make my legs look incredible :) (I'm a model)
Thx for your (or anyone) advice.
It sounds like you can do either one and look good, but I think the heels have a slight edge since they will make you look more sexual.
DeleteWould 5'6 be lift-upable during dance routines or just a simple sweeping off of the feet?
ReplyDeleteDon't girls in that range have stubby legs? Is that not as unattractive as most women think?
ReplyDeleteThe high heels ameliorate the stubby legs.
DeleteThe taller the better, unless it's extremely tall. But nothing wrong with being short. Im 6'4" male and i like girls ~5'8"+
ReplyDeleteHow about "I like curvy hourglass/nice wait/hip ratio"?!
ReplyDeleteI think that's what makes shorter women better, but that could be just me... they do look more feminine and their weight gets sorted much better (right spots, proportions) than the taller ones. Their curves look much better, taller women are simply out of proportions.
Oh and when it comes to heels. You girls just don't get it. A big taboo is that feet/legs are the most common fetish in minds of many folks. When you wear heels, your feet get some specific shape that looks really appealing, that's first. Second, they also look "steep" in a way, and shorter. that's a huge turn on. You also look taller on overall without losing those proportions, so you're more in the eye-level. On top of that, your body gets into some specific shape that I can't explain... I just can't, you need to be a man to figure it out (your whole figure gets into that position). On top of that, there's the way you MOVE which is a turn on as well (combined with mini skirt to look at). And mere sound of you walking is appealing as well.
Tall women get it a lot harder because of all those proportions things and the fact that heels will do it all wrong for them. Plus, men generally don't find it attractive to have woman taller than them, not at all. They won't mind much if you're this or that height but not if you're VISIBLY taller (so even an inch taller than him isn't sometimes a problem). But men also have very bad experiences with taller women, just like with wealthier women and their attitudes and (un)conscious messages that they send to them. Women are the ones having the repel shield and men simply follow the suit - they see you're taller and even those that have that specific attraction to taller girls will avoid you, even if you might want or like them approaching you.
This is a load of bullshit. The majority of swimsuit models are both tall and have great proportions. They have longs legs which makes them taller.
DeleteI genuinely don't think height is all that important. I know enough men who are really into tall girls (not in a second rate sense). Tall women can look more striking because their beauty is more obvious, in an intangible sense. That's not something I can exploit, being 5ft 4".
DeleteI am 4'10 ..any advice here? :P
ReplyDeleteI am 4'8 what do us tiny women do?! I've never liked heels too...
ReplyDeleteVery small women have it easier than very tall women.
DeleteOften it seems like guys only want women 5'2 or taller. Do they see us almost like children?
DeleteWait! Are we seen almost as children? I'm only 4'10!
Delete@ Anon... I'm 4'9 and I can attest that I'm at times looked upon as a child. Everyone concludes my sister is older than me (when in fact she's 10 years younger).
DeleteI'm between 5'4" and 5'5". I'm very concerned about my height, because I feel short. Am I?
ReplyDeleteI'm that height..it's one of the things guys always say they dig about me. So no, definitely not too short.
DeleteThanks
DeleteI'm only 5'2 i'm 17 years old
ReplyDeleteand i really wanna grow taller i don't know how ?
I'm 5'1 and I have a thing for tall men (6ft and up). Just like men like smaller women so that they can feel like protectors, I like bigger men so that I can feel safe and protected. I have a very forceful personality in general, but when I'm with someone, I would like to be able to turn that off and just be a girl...Being short helps with that!
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