Saturday, September 1, 2012

Don't Wear Sneakers

I keep seeing girls wearing Chuck Taylors, or Vans, or even some more modern high-tops, and I always cringe. Sneakers are intended for function, not form; they aren't attractive. Unless they are paired with athletic clothes (i.e. for the gym or running) they look clunky or awkward. The fact that they are "comfortable" or "quirky" or "classics" might be perfectly true, in some cases might be a good reason for wearing them; but don't fool yourself into thinking they make you look good. While it would obviously be unrealistic and probably unhealthy for women to wear high heels every day, there are many more elegant compromises than sneakers.

If you see a woman who you think is more attractive because she is wearing sneakers, ask yourself whether it is because of them or in spite of them. You'd be better off never wearing sneakers than trying to pull them off.

36 comments:

  1. I'm assuming you mean not to wear sneakers on dates, or on any other occasion when you will be focused on trying to attract "the right kind" of male attention?

    Wearing high heels too often is very bad for your spine. Over the years, it can have disastrous effects on posture and spinal alignment, lead to back pain, etc. Not too sexy.

    There are also many times when wearing heels is just not practical or even safe. I've seen more than one woman roll her ankle walking in heels on un-even terrain, (not while hiking or something equally ridiculous, but just rough cobblestones, etc.) and all but snap her foot off.

    I realize that for men attraction is primarily a visual thing, but surely a girl who put too much emphasis on vamping it up all the time, and showing a complete disregard for practicality in the process, might be a bit of a turn off for men who aren't trolling for a ditz?

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    1. Absolutely agree. High heels have bad health effects. There is no need to damage our health because of a society created picture of "sexy" look. Wearing them on a special occasions only is the sensible thing to do.

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  2. What are the compromises that you find attractive?

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  3. What do you think about loafers, like the girl on the left is wearing?

    http://elainedtruong.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/tods1.jpg%3Fw%3D760

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  4. As long as they aren't being worn on a date or to a business function etc, then sneakers are fine. Particularly chuck taylors and vans. However the latest trend of female sneakers are hideous - the ones in the photo is them, the wedge sneakers. But even still she doesn't look particularly unattractive.

    I think this is just your own personal opinion on sneakers Andrew. These days guys love it when girls can be laid back in sneakers.

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    1. Right. I was wondering this. I tend to wear Converse or other such shoes b/c they're comfortable and I like them. It seems to me that liking or not liking a girl who wears them is more a personal preference than a "man thing". Granted for a date or business function, I would have the sense to be more formally dressed, but on other days, I don't see anything wrong w/ wearing what I like. If anything, I would think it would attract guys who would prefer a more casual, laid-back personality, which is what I have. Obviously it isn't going to attract someone who wants a girly-girl, but that isn't me, so I probably wouldn't have been happy w/ that guy anyway.

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  5. boat shoes like sperrys?

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  6. If men ALSO wear them, then they are unfeminine, and should be avoided.

    The same way men look less masculine and more feminine in skinny jeans and women look less feminine and more masculine in baggy jeans.

    The point is to be very distinctively female.

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    1. Men and women were watches, rings, necklaces. In this case which of the sexes should stop wearing it because the other wears it too?

      Weak point you made.

      There are a plethora of feminine oriented sneakers. Whilst there are very masculine sneakers. Women should stay away from these masculine sneakers.

      There is a masculine and feminine counterpart of almost everything in life Be gender appropriate, that's all that matters.

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  7. Could you give some examples of alternatives? I recently discovered your blog. I never understood the fashion mags for girls and I love your direct analysis.

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    1. Check out this article:

      http://freenewfashiondesign.com/flat-shoes-for-women-increasingly-trendy/

      I am sure you can find even better examples, but this is a decent start.

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  8. absolute in love with your blog..i check it everyday for an update....hope you would write more frequently..

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  9. My cousin thinks just because she is cute and really thin she can dress like a scrub and wear boy style tenneshoes all the time! THANK YOU for making this point! I had been wondering about the male perspective on this for quite awhile!

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  10. American Women have lost touch with their femininity in many respects, especially dress. The contrast is obvious when you visit European or Latin American countries.

    The chick in the photo looks slovenly when, with even a little effort, she could accent her feminine features and be way more attractive.

    Take the hint ladies, sneakers and flip flops will most times take away from your look. They are almost always not "fine". Only in America will see women regularly sporting frumpy jeans, sneakers, t-shirts and ball caps. Sure there are exceptions to every rule, but get a clue.



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  11. Well Andrew, my boyfriend happens to LOVE the fact that I wear my Chucks. I think this is more of a personal preference. Also, I have had a hip replacement and cannot always be teetering around in heels, it's dangerous for me.

    If a guy decided not to date me just because he saw me wearing my Chucks, then he's not good enough for me. I don't like shallow men.

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    1. Given the analogy between confidence and beauty, this is like a man saying "My girlfriend loves that I get nervous around big men; she thinks it's cute. I don't want to date a woman that wants me to be strong and confident."

      Yes, some women will say this - just like some men will like the fact that you wear Chucks; but they are exceptions to the norm, and in the same way that the girl likes the insecure guy because of the character traits that accompany that insecurity, so too does your boyfriend like the things that come with the fact that you wear Chucks, not the Chucks themselves. I bet he isn't jerking off to pictures of girls wearing chucks any more than your fantasy man would run away from a fight.

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    2. I can't walk in heels because of the way my foot is shaped (my toes are freakishly long so they bend in the wrong places). Are ballet flats an acceptable replacement?

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    3. I agree about the personal preference thing I also think it depends on your style. I love my chucks and also they are NOT athletic shoes in anyway shape or form. I would probably never be caught dead in those shoes that you posted in another comment. I dont think they are cute and its just not my thing. Also they are perfectly fine for dressing casually. Shouldn't it be a good thing if a girl can be hot even if she's just kickin it in some chucks?

      On a side note, when you are 5'11 heels aren't exactly an option unless there is an event. I love heels but I dont like to go stopping around Japan on daily basis, knocking over skyscrapers while all the people run and scream in fear.

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  12. This is completely personal preference, I feel inclined to comment as you are sending out a very biased opinion. I am a fashion designer so it depends on the outfit in question!
    If the girl is well groomed and dresses well according to her body shape then she can wear converse, vans, hightops with jeans and a white T-shirt and she will still look great. I receive equal attention from men when I am wearing boyfriend jeans and cons as when I am wearing heels. to be honest the attention from the men when i am wearing trainers is much more genuine, and from the kind of guy who is cool, as opposed to the slightly sleazy kind who just stare at your ass when you're in heels.

    The picture is an example of black trainers not working on any level, especially with light coloured denim jeans. As with any dark coloured shoes, if your midsection clothing is lighter in colour, your eye is drawn immediately to the feet so it looks bottom heavy. It's not rocket science, just basic colour and proportion perception.

    *Note to guys* completely black trainers work on no level whatsoever, you look like a nine year old boy who refuses to wear proper shoes to school/ a member of a gang. Next time you are out look out for black trainers on men and you will see the kind of guy who wears them.

    So NO trainers are not just for the gym, unless they are the asics/ new balance kind.

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  13. I'm 5'9" and rarely wear heels as I dislike towering over everyone. I am also married, so I'm not trying to attract men, but I do like looking attractive in general when I'm in public (and sexy when I'm at home with my husband.)

    Any ideas for shoes that are flat but still attractive?

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    1. "I am also married, so I'm not trying to attract men"

      What about attracting your husband???

      Try this: http://freenewfashiondesign.com/flat-shoes-for-women-increasingly-trendy/

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  14. If you a fashion lady, then you must like various kinds of stylish and amazing shoes, click http://www.upere.com/upere-wedge-sneakers-c-1.html and you will find you favorite footwear.

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  15. This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard! Chicks in a good pair of sneakers, are HOT as hell!
    You do have to dress in the correct way though... And obviously, wear new looking, Clean, and attractive sneakers. No old dirty shabby ones... Ugh.
    But give me a sexy girl in a cute sporty outfit, and a pair of cool sneakers, ANYDAY, over a girl in a mini skirt and high heels.... Bleh!
    GO THE SNEAKERS GIRLS! ;P

    P.S. A funky looking Cap or Hat to top of the sneakers and outfit, is even better!

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  16. Based on your post about the heels, I understand why they make me more attractive.

    http://freenewfashiondesign.com/flat-shoes-for-women-increasingly-trendy/

    These flats are ugly to me. Can you please explain in detail why flats are more attractive then sneakers? They both don't affect women's posture, make the legs look longer, etc.

    The girl in the picture with the sneakers is wearing a pair of skinny jeans. Of course the sneakers will look chunky! Skinny jeans should only be worn with boots. If she was wearing a pair of boot cut jeans with the sneakers, the chunky affect will not be there.

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  17. This is the dumbest post ever. How about a woman wears whatever shoes SHE wants to and doesn't give two f**ks what someone else thinks is appropriate footwear for them? I wear sneakers ALL the time, I have some pretty awesome air jordans and if someone told me not to wear them because they were too "clunky" or "masculine" I would laugh in their face and wear them around them all the time just to spite them.

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    1. god you're stupid. you wanna wear sneakers? go ahead. no one's stopping you.

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  18. Andrew what would you suggest for comfortable everyday footwear in loo of sneakers/vans etc?

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    1. I'm sure Andrew would suggest heels here, so heeled boots or just a pair of courts can work well. If you're tall like me however, leather sandals or boots look feminine if you choose the right pair and won't add any extra height.

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  19. OMG what makes you think that women must dress to look attractive to men, if someone feels confident in trainers then the confidence is what makes them attractive, not the shoe!!! prat

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    1. so wouldn't confidence + attractive shoes look even more attractive? lol duh

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  20. This is a highly subjective thing.
    As a male, I love seeing the combination of skirt + low top chucks on a girl, and I find ballet flats ugly and unsexy...

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  21. Oh seriously...I'm 53, what am I supposed to wear for a nice walk on the beach ? Don't tell me sandals I don't want sand in my shoes...

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    1. Why would you wear any shoes at all for a walk on the beach?

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  22. this is so stupid. What do you expect ladies to do? wear Louboutins every day for 10+ hours straight?

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    1. Your comment is so stupid.

      Women, whenever you feel the urge to ask a stupid question like this about an article on this blog, answer it yourself with the following: "Only if you are trying to attract men."

      "Why should I wear makeup? Are you saying I should wear makeup every time I go out?"

      "Only if you are trying to attract men."

      "Why should I dress nice? I like to wear sweatpants and crocs! Are you saying I should dress to please men??"

      "Only if you are trying to attract men."

      "I like bragging about my job! Are you saying I should talk about other things instead??"

      "Only if you are trying to attract men."

      Damn. Think a little.

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  23. I'm a male,but I don't think the site u posted there is something that I would apprectiated,that shoes is so ugly,I rather see a lady wearing aneakers more than that

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