Tuesday, December 11, 2012

What Men Think About Your Pubic Hair

For whatever reason, the topic of female pubic hair is one that men discuss frequently. This probably has something to do with the fact that trends in pubic hair have been changing in the last few decades, and is most likely fueled further by the male obsession with vagina and sex in general. Whatever the case, I have had the "do you like it when girls have pubic hair" conversation dozens of times with dozens of different guys. The consensus is always the same:

  • A large percentage of men like women to have no pubic hair.
  • A large percentage of men like women to have a small amount of trimmed pubic hair.
  • A negligible percentage of men like women to let it run wild.

Unfortunately I haven't found any reliable studies that attempt to quantify these percentages, but even without them there is an obvious takeaway: if you aren't at least trimming, you are turning him off. Men think about your pubic hair the way you think about male facial hair: most women have a preference one way or the other, but very few are offended by a man's beard if it is trimmed and neat.

The men who like no hair usually argue that it is smoother, cleaner, softer, etc.

The men who like a "Landing Strip" or any of the styles illustrated on the right (other than "My Bare Lady") usually argue that "a woman with nothing down there looks like a little girl. It makes me feel creepy."

I have never actually met anyone who likes pubic hair completely grown out, but I assume this is the case because I've seen links online to pornography with hairy women, and the laws of supply and demand suggest someone is watching it. I'm going to step out on a limb and call it a fetish more than a preference.

Every man I've talked to has also agreed that a woman should remove as much hair as possible below the top of her vagina, since no guy likes flossing his teeth while going down on a girl. I imagine shaving that area is a difficult thing to do without drawing blood, but most women I've encountered seem to manage.

Stubble is a big turn-off, and it is worse when there is razor burn or ingrown hairs. Waxing is a good way to avoid this. It hurts, but you know what they say: "no pain, no gain." Pop some ibuprofen before you go for your appointment.

Laser hair removal in your genital area costs a few thousand dollars, and takes 6 - 8 short sessions to complete. I used to date a girl that had it done and the results were awesome. If you don't have a strong preference yourself, I suggest waiting until you are married and getting your husband's opinion before you go one way or the other.

It is worth mentioning that there is some debate about whether pubic hair prevents or causes the spread of some STDs.

142 comments:

  1. I take it by 'stubble' you mean when the hairs are starting to grow out again. There will always be a growing period between when it's smooth and when the hairs are long enough to wax again. Are you saying we should avoid sex at that time?

    Some people are prone to getting ingrown hairs, and that happens at the same rate whether you wax or shave. Waxing removes the root of the hair, the new hair will not be as strong and will have difficulties growing through the skin, which gives ingrown hairs.
    I use a product every day which takes care of about half of it, but when I DO have ingrown hairs, should I avoid sex or put make up on it (which is what porn stars do)?

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    1. ^Agreed. There is no way to avoid stubble. I seriously stress about it and feel self-conscious between waxings/shavings. So what's a girl to do after the blissful few days of smoothness? Avoid sex? If we try getting rid of the stubble there will be bumps galore.

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    2. Wax instead of shave. The more you wax, the finer the hair grows back in anyways, and the smoother your skin is.

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    3. They just said they wax.

      Either way you're going to have stubble.

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    4. Is that why there are open-crotch panties? I've seen pictures of them and they seem to cover most of the areas where stubble will appear.

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    5. I have been using an epilator device since 2005 or so when I got tired of shaving everyday. It works just as waxing does, but you can do it yourself, and it doesn't take that much stubble to work on. In fact around the pubic region due to the sensitivity and softness of the skin, it requires very little stubble to grab onto. Saves tons of money from waxing and shaving.

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    6. I tweeze my pubes. At first it was a little bit of a pain in the neck. Time consuming. After time the hair doesn't grow back. Although time consuming, I guess the time it takes to go to the salon and have the procedure done can be used tweezing.

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    7. I have been tweezing for some time now. It works just as well as waxing if not better. Very few pubes grow back and the ones that do are very easy to tweeze as they are so fine.

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    8. I don't really shave or wax I just use conditioner and lotion on it and it make it softer. -Olivia

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  2. It's not cleaner to remove pubic hair. The very reason it's there is to protect from infections etc. Also as said above, there will be about 2 weeks between not being smooth and having hair long enough to wax, I know I and many other woman wouldn't abstain from sex for such a trivial reason.

    I personally wax, because that's how I prefer it. I also refuse to go down on my man unless he is hair free - works both ways.

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  3. My concern is that neatly manicured pubic hair would make me seem like I'm too welcoming down there. Would guys think I'm slutty?
    I'd actually go out of my way to grow it out for my annual pap smear. I'm neatly trimmed rest of the year because I swim regularly.

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    1. Nobody's ever found anyone 'slutty' for waxing down there. I have never heard of anyone having such an idea.
      I rescheduled my smear test so that I could get a wax first.

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    2. Your gynecologist doesn't give a shit about how your pubic hair looks.

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    3. I'm a nurse and when I see a woman's neatly trimmed/absent pubic hair is "Great, less stuff to work around" and not "Wow, she must be easy"

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    4. Oops, that should have been:

      I'm a nurse and when I see a woman's neatly trimmed/absent pubic hair my only thought is "Great, less stuff to work around" and not "Wow, she must be easy"

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  4. Thanks for posting on this topic... I am going to schedule my first Brazilian ASAP

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  5. @Blogger

    "...the male obsession with vagina and sex in general".

    Both men and women are obsessed with the other's genitalia and sex. If you want to genderfy it and call it "male obsession" then your approach is no different in character to those who promote Raype Culture, in which male sexuality is demonised and female sexuality is celebrated. Women as a class are just as obsessed with the penis as men as a class are obsessed with the vagina, albeit in different ways. Why not call it "sexual attraction" and avoid the blue pill language altogether?


    "Men think about your pubic hair the way you think about male facial hair..."

    Maybe, but all the women I've asked about their negative feelings towards a man's facial hair, if they're truly honest, say they believe a man with a beard has something to hide. If it's a matter of trust, or more accurately what the rest of the lowing herd thinks is a matter of trust, the same can't be said about men. In men, sexual interest must be assumed if things have progressed to apoint where a womans free-range thatch is visible.


    @Anonymous December 11, 2012 10:43 AM

    "Nobody's ever found anyone 'slutty' for waxing down there."

    Nobody? Ever? How would you know?


    @Anonymous December 11, 2012 11:13 AM

    "Your gynecologist doesn't give a shit about how your pubic hair looks."

    I'd be more concerned about the obgyn nurses, given the number of bi/lesbian skulking around the clinics these days. You might think it's all in a day's work for a obgyn nurse, but lesbian/bi women do get horny and they're far more predatory than men when they are (who tells horny women to keep it in their pants??). When the majority of a nurses clients would be over 30 and a bit loose ripe and wrinkly, someone young tight and fresh may draw a bit of moisture down there if she's bare. In the feminist world view, where a woman's freedom of sexual expression is upheld as a virtue, and the rape of young girls by adult women is celebrated as some sort of 'initiation' (e.g. The Vagina Monologues), professional boundaries won't mean a thing to a horny feminist nurse. Thanks to feminism, I'd be wanting to make myself as unattractive as possible for any nurse if it were my feet in the stirrups.


    @Anonymous December 11, 2012 11:24 AM

    "I'm a nurse and when I see a woman's neatly trimmed/absent pubic hair is "Great, less stuff to work around" and not "Wow, she must be easy" "

    Fantastic. Now that you've eliminated yourself from the sexual predators register, the only thing vulnerable women need to concern ourselves with are the gazillion-minus-one nurses who are not you.

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    1. Jacob: Dude, your post reads like you have a fetish for lesbian nurses.

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    2. Jacob, you are an absolute moron

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    3. You have serious issues. Sexual behavior by Ob/Gyns is unprofessional no matter the gender of the medical professional, and thankfully it is very rare. I don't know any women, young or old, who are concerned about this epidemic of horny lesbian nurses you claim. That sounds more like a straight male masturbation fantasy than anything likely to happen on Planet Earth.

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    4. Ahh, shaming language from the peanut gallery...right on cue. One day something from the peanut gallery will influence the things I say do or think, but sadly it's not today.

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    5. Not sure what you are doing here. This post and the blog in general is for women to get tips/insight into men...Not for MRA-rejects to derail threads and vent their frustrations. Not "shaming language" just and observation :)

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    6. Y, I agree with you. This guy is an egotistical raging nut who thinks he is smart because he learned how to manipulate his words in an intelligent manor online somehwere.... I'll be watching for the "obgyn massacre".

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    7. women are definately not obsessed about a penis. Naked women are a work of art , naked men, well, not so

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    8. Sorry Anonymous @5:34pm - I completely disagree with your first and third statments. I do agree with the second, that naked women are a work of art, but so are naked men! I can't think of anything I'd rather look at than an attractive naked man. Seriously. And I know PLENTY of women, myself included, who *are* obsessed with a penis.....what is there that could possibly be better to obsess about than the opposite sex and their fun parts?

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  6. I'm happy to see this post! I've been waxing for years and I actually do it myself. Besides feeling sexy, sex is way better with nothing down there because you are so much more sensitive and can feel everything.
    I don’t think men find it slutty at all! Being slutty has a lot more to do with your attitude and how you carry yourself, not the fact that you take care of your body and wax down there. It’s great for the guy, sure, but trust me girls….we get a lot more out of this.

    Andrew, I do wonder, in your opinion (and your group of friends) which rates higher? No hair at all or a little strip?

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    1. And even if they would find me slutty: so what, thats not people I would want to hang out with anyhow

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    2. "Taking care of your body" does not mean waxing or shaving or whatever. I take care of my body by working out and eating healthy, not fixing my pubic hair.

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  7. I am not a fan of waxing for 3 reasons: 1. Some of the hair follicles will bleed when the hairs are ripped out. Then you have a nice little dotted pattern of scabs where your hard-to-yank pubes were. 2. Inevitably there are more ingrown hairs than with shaving. 3. The 'grow out' period of 2-3 weeks of bush defeats the purpose of the waxing.

    The best method I've found to manage female pubic hair is to shave it all off every other day, and always use a very sharp blade (change razor blade often!). This really prevents razor burn, irritation, ingrown hairs, and stubble. The other thing is, you can add an extra 'shaving day' if you know that you will be having sex or wearing a bikini on your 'off day' with no ill effects. Generally, the day after shaving there is no visible hair, it just feels a little less smooth if you rub 'against the grain'. I do find, however, that shaving every single day causes skin irritation and creates more problems than it is worth, so every other day shaving is the best compromise I can come up with.

    Waxing I'm just not a fan of though. The 'bushing in' period before you can wax again is unavoidable, and unlike shaving you can't remove the hair for a bikini day or whatever. You just have to have a bush for 2-3 weeks before it can be waxed again. Yuck. Laser hair removal might be cool, but for that price I'd rather buy boobs and keep shaving the pubes... As a cost/benefit thing it seems kind of spendy to do laser, when shaving is really effective and not a big deal.

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    1. I shave in the shower every day (leaving a tiny landing strip on top.) I do it after I shave my legs and it takes less than a minute, and there's no stubble unless I skip a few days. I don't understand all the drama around this, it's easily dealt with and my husband certainly has no complaints.

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    2. I have friends who are 'every day' shavers, and do just fine. I think it has to do with your personal rate of hair growth and skin sensitivity. I also shave my legs only every other day - there just aren't hairs to shave every single day, and if I try to shave daily I end up just shaving off my epidermis and getting razor burn/ingrown hairs. Certainly if my hair growth rate was faster, I'd shave every day. But waxing? F waxing. And I'd never go 'wild bush' - this is a personal preference. I started shaving bare at 14, same age I started shaving legs and pits, and long before I'd ever been exposed to porn or sexual activity. I've never had pubes, and don't ever plan to. If this is a turn-off for hair loving guys, they are welcome to seek out a hippy chic. There is someone for everyone.

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  8. I'll trim but I'm not waxing. It's painful and expensive and I simply cannot afford something so frivolous. My BF does absolutely nothing at all about his and he NEEDS to.

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  9. Waxing is the worst for ingrown hairs! And shaving, too. I have an electric trimmer to keep it all short- but soft, not stubbly. Most dudes dig it. It's clean and soft, which in my book trumps shaved, stubbly, and razor burned (which inevitably happens when your getting all wet and gooey down there).

    And for the chick who 'refuses' to go down on her man if he's not completely shaved. WTF? That sounds really lame to me.

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    1. That was me. He doesn't go down on me unless I'm completely hair free so I apply the same rules to him. It works for us.

      People are free to have a choice of when and under what circumstances they want to give oral sex, so no, it is not "lame".

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    2. I have a news flash for you: if the criteria for giving a blowjob is a hairless crotch then you need help seriously. First of all this trend of shaving it all off is already a warped and concerning issue all in its self. But to demand your man to be bald downstairs before engaging in sexual activity is baffling. Sure you say he goes hairless on his own accord, but you choose to shave your pubes off and I really wonder had he choose to stay hairy you would cut him out of oral sex or otherwise. Yeah all this talk about personal choice whether to shave or not to shave was not even done by most women and practically no men in the 70s and 80s. If men did shave it was because of body building and swimming competitively. Women trimmed slightly because of the bikini but very fewremoved it off. Along comes the 90s and the big push to ho bare down there, thanks mainly to the porn industry. Just that fact should make people rethink this whole shaving notion. By the way I am male and obviously am put off by the shaving rage. However, that aside I found your criteria and methodology to giving oral sex quite ridiculous.

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  10. Hmm, this seems like over thought. I wonder if any male would turn down sex only because the woman was not neat and tidy. I doubt the guys in prison would.

    I mean really would a guy say "I haven't had sex in over a year because I can't find a dame who shaves"?

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    1. No, definitely not. But who said or even suggested that a guy would turn down sex? All I said was that most men prefer bare or waxed.

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  11. Seems like I'm the only one who leaves mine wild natural and free. No man has ever complained. They were fascinated more like.

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    1. Anonymous, I agree with you and have had the same experience. I once had a photo on a dating website which showed my fully grown armpit hair, and no, I am not joking - I do not shave any hair on my body at all. Some people would write messages to me *begging* me to have sex with them and begging me to let them lick my armpits. It wasn't every single guy, but it was a very significant number of guys. They loved it. Armpit licking is very erotic as long as you don't wear any deodorant or antiperspirant, and people shouldn't be using those anyway because they contain toxic chemicals.

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    2. umm a man in the street scared me cause i didn't even know him and told me he liked really hairy girls down there so...who knows how many guys secretly like hairy woman down there....the men are scared of getting laughed at by others

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  12. Hi Andrew, can you please write a post about how to tell if a guy just want to hit and run, or whether he's really interested in dating you? Would love that. Thanks.

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  13. Can you explain why it's a 'fetish,' something wrong and abnormal and unusual, to be sexually attracted to something which evolved over millions of years and which has always been the norm until recently? It was only relatively recently in human history that the fashion of removing hair began. It doesn't happen in primitive cultures and it didn't happen in the distant past. Online porn videos are one reason why it's becoming more and more popular.

    Online porn is the reason why surgical removal of the female labia is becoming more popular, too, and this is becoming mainstream and normal to see in porn, women with no labia, because 'those loose flaps of skin are disgusting and dirty.' When people see something all the time, it seems normal, and anything else seems like a 'fetish.' It could someday be called a 'fetish' to be attracted to a woman with those 'dirty gross loose flaps of skin' still intact, if she was an ignorant backward rube who didn't bother taking care of herself and didn't bother to get those gross labia things chopped off.

    Same goes for the male foreskin. Is it a fetish to be more sexually aroused by the sight of an intact male foreskin, something which evolved on the human body, instead of an unnatural penis with the foreskin chopped off? Circumcised penises are thought to be socially superior in the USA, but not in other countries, and not by small groups of people who are fighting back against universal circumcisions for all infant males.

    Being attracted to an intact body is not a fetish. Body parts, including hair, which have existed on the human body for millions of years, are normal, and sexually attractive. Just because a culture disvalues them does not mean that they actually are objectively bad or abnormal somehow.

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    1. All I meant by "fetish" is an unusual attraction to something in a sexual way. We can split hairs (ha!) about semantics here, but in the end of the day I am not saying it is "unnatural" or "wrong" to like free-flowing, untrimmed pubic hair; I am just saying that most men don't.

      Why this is the case is interesting, but not very helpful when it comes to attracting men.

      Also, you cannot attribute male taste entirely to porn, because there had to be quite a large organic demand before the porn industry decided to create a supply. Granted, it might have (and I believe in part it did) created a cycle in which it began to promote the demand it then supplied with hairless porn, but to say that it started the demand doesn't quite make sense. It would be like saying that shopping malls create a materialistic culture. This might be true to an extent but if we didn't like buying things in the first place, no one would have built a shopping mall.

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    2. "Also, you cannot attribute male taste entirely to porn, because there had to be quite a large organic demand before the porn industry decided to create a supply."

      I see your point, but I don't completely agree. Were men really crying out for surgically augmented breasts and labia before porn/Playboy provided these as images of beauty? Did people really want to eat massive amounts of saturated fat and corn syrup before fast food advertising made it look more appealing than "normal" food?

      Women have had natural pubic hair for thousands of years and that never stopped men from getting horny, marrying, and having babies with them. This current fetish for shaved and augmented bodies represents our greater American cultural fetish for artificiality and convenience. European, African, and Middle Eastern men certainly don't prefer completely shaved female bodies - does that make them weirdo fetishists?

      (P.S. I am speaking as a woman who shaves her pubic hair because I like the bare look better. But I would never pretend as though that preference is "natural" and not subject to cultural beauty standards at all.)

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    3. European men largely go for the shaved or trimmed look, too. And I think asking one's partner to trim their pubes is entirely reasonable. I don't think I've ever been with a *guy* who just let it run wild down there. And yes, shaving is a cultural trend, just like how everything else about the way we present ourselves is cultural.

      I think the demand for breast or labia augmentation is small in reality. Women get these procedures because of insecurities, not because men want them to. I always got the impression that the average man doesn't like fake silicone breasts, and I doubt there are a lot of women who were dumped over the size of their labia.

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    4. Actually if you're taLking culturE then Middle Estern and Islamic cultures have a high preference for removal of pubic hair in males and females. This is independent of porn influences etc.Girls start to remove pubic hair from puberty onwards.

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    5. "Did people really want to eat massive amounts of saturated fat and corn syrup before fast food advertising made it look more appealing than "normal" food?"

      No, but the desire for those things (or for shaved pubic hair) doesn't need to be explicit. Someone might have published 10 magazines with hairy porn and 1 with shaved porn (for the hell of it or whatever reason - maybe the actress had just had lice, who knows), and maybe they just found that the one with shaved porn sold like wild fire - even though no one asked for it. But the desire for it was there already.

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    6. What do you think about guys waxing/shaving? ...and even beyond pubic hair. Chest, legs, keeping hair on their head neat? I think you should find out what women like as well; fair and balanced.

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    7. During Ancient Egypt it was a very common practice to remove hair. It was thought of as being dirty if one wasn't shaved. They would even shave their head. They were also big into perfumes and oils.

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    8. why should a woman shave,wax or whatever on her pubic hair when men can grow beards and expect to be kissed...I feel the same way..kissing a man with a stubbly beard and mustache as I think a man would in engaging in oral sex.....

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    9. i find it really strange that western women rebel against female genital mutilation happening in 3rd world countries...yet they like the idea of designer pussies, vajazzles, labiaplasty etc...hope it doesn't come to weird trends like suspending weights from them fanny flaps... the average men won't complain as long as he ain't faced with an unhealthy, sour smelling cunt.

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  14. @eagledove9 - Thank you for your pragmatic, thoughtful comment. I agree w/ everything you've written (particularly your last paragraph).

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  15. Thanks Michelle... I still have one more flame left in me:

    The presence of pubic hair indicates that a woman has gone through puberty and is physically capable of reproduction. Why on earth *wouldn't* pubic hair evolve to be sexually attractive? It is a signal saying that someone's body is mature, fertile, and able to produce children.

    Not only that, but pubic hair is closely associated with the sex organs. One might wonder how feet, in particular, are associated with sex and reproduction, and so one might call it a 'foot fetish' if someone is preoccupied with feet, but it doesn't make sense to call something a fetish when it directly relates to a sex organ. That would be like saying it was a fetish to be excessively preoccupied with thoughts of vaginas. Being sexually aroused by sex organs or parts of sex organs is not a fetish. Pubic hair is part of a sex organ. It is in the same general area. Just because you can physically remove it without causing pain (assuming you use a painless method of removal!) doesn't mean that it isn't actually a body part. It's still part of that organ. It's attached and it's something that grows from there.

    My ex-boyfriend was preoccupied with butts. He loved butts more than any other body part. He wasn't as interested in breasts. Did he have a 'butt fetish,' or was he merely a 'butt man?' If someone has a preference which is a numerical minority, that doesn't make it a fetish. I don't know the numbers of how many men are 'butt men' and how many men are 'breast men,' but whichever is the numerical minority should not be called a fetish merely because it is a minority. Some further argument needs to be given to justify calling it a fetish.

    Not everyone everywhere wants the same things. It's my impression that this blog's purpose is to help people become as normal as possible in every way, to tell people what is the largest majority group and then tell them how to get into that largest majority group.

    But what if someone has the rotten luck to be in some kind of inferior minority group through no fault of their own, because of something they can't control, and no matter what they do, they will never be part of the most powerful majority group? What should the 'underdogs' do? Are all the minority groups really actually inferior and bad, just because they are numerical minorities? Are all minority desires fetishes?

    Okay, that's my last flame for now.

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    1. "It's my impression that this blog's purpose is to help people become as normal as possible in every way, to tell people what is the largest majority group and then tell them how to get into that largest majority group."

      Exactly, which is why you're picking the wrong battle here. The blog is teaching women how to conform to current beauty standards in order to have access to the largest selection of male partners for dating and marriage. I've noticed very little moral judgment here - he's just observing current cultural trends and talking about how women can use them to their advantage. And yes, currently the shaved/trimmed look is more popular with American men than the natural look. So it would make sense that women looking for heterosexual relationships maximize their options by conforming to looks that are more popular with a greater majority of men.

      He also points out that if you're in an "inferior minority group" (wtf is that anyway?) you can still maximize whatever you do have by altering your looks to conform more to current American beauty standards. You may or may not agree, but it seems a bit silly arguing with a blog that only gives practical advice to people who are specifically seeking it out. There are plenty of other blogs that champion minority rights or challenge mainstream beauty standards.

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    2. Well said, anonymous.

      @eagledove9 - you rant about minorities, but also how "normal" pubic hair is. So... You just want to change what is normative. You want to decide how people can modify their own bodies, and you want to control what is deemed attractive by others. Yes, this blog is a mainstream, hetero normative guide for how women can appeal to a majority of high quality heterosexual American men. Maybe you should start a blog about how to appeal to armpit-licking, non-deodorant wearing, transsexual vegan men who like aggressive bossy feminist hippy women? There is someone for everyone out there. Why does it piss you off so badly that most of us agree on what is desirable? Please, go corner your market, but stop hating the majority of us who find similar cultural norms and aesthetics to be attractive.

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    3. @anon, I don't normally go around ranting about this topic. I've been ranting a lot more than usual in the past week because I am in a very bad mood over something in my personal life that has nothing to do with this blog or any of this at all.

      I usually don't feel like I'm doing any good for the world unless I am opposing something mainstream. My life would be a lot easier if I wasn't like that, but I am.

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    4. I actually agree with eagledove9 on the 'fetish' issue. I wax (brazilian - leaving only a strip), but I would never refer to 'full bush' as a fetish. It just doesn't seem right.
      Of course being comfortable with a full push or preferring it, is different from man to man. A 'full bush' looks very different on a Finnish woman and a Portugese woman. Some women's natural 'bush' looks similar to another's 'bikini line' (meaning she hasn't got anything growing up or to the sides).

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    5. It's okay to "oppose something mainstream", but I do get annoyed when people go to blogs that are very explicit and upfront about their content (in this case, teaching women how to appeal to the MAINSTREAM of heterosexual men, if they so desire) and then complain about the content. It's a free internet; if this makes you angry, there are thousands of armpit-licking, body hair-loving blogs to hang out on. And I agree with you on some of your points (I think it's ridiculous to call people who prefer the body in its natural state "fetishists", for instance) but you're still picking the wrong battle in the wrong place.

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    6. Btw something becomes a fetish by being a minority the fact that its not popularly liked means its more of an acquired taste so to speak therefore making it a fetish or something only a select set of ppl like butt man means butt fetish unless every or the majority of guys love butts then its a normality latex fetish is a fetish where ppl love and enjoy incorporating latex in to sexual acts typically its a fetish because only a select few or a minority of ppl feel that way about latex if you are going to choose to open your mouth and speak please at least give everyone who may listen to the courtesy of actually knowing what your talking about it keeps you from sounding ignorant and spreading ignorance to those who may fall susceptible to believing what you speak to be correct

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  16. I also heard recently that a full bush of pubic hair is supposedly designed to maximize your pheromones (they get trapped in there better, maybe?) - thus increasing your sexual appeal.

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  17. I know of a man who prefers the "wild" look. I have also come across men who would critique my "landing strip" in favor of the bare look. One man complained about 1mm or less of hair on legs (even though I shaved everyday.

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    1. Yes - I shave into a landing strip and the only comment I've heard was from one boyfriend who wanted me to grow it out "wild". Other than that, I've never known any man who cared or even seemed to notice.

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  18. I don't like having all my hair shaved off as it's annoying to keep up. I get rashes when it's growing out a bit. I also think women look like boys or young teenage girls when all is shaved off and it looks silly. A couple of times, guys have been keen for me to be completely shaved (including my long-term ex), but I don't care that much as I prefer to be comfortable.

    I usually go with a Mohawk because I'm lazy. I am not too concerned about the shaving, but if I have an important date, then I'll make more of an effort. I can agree that there shouldn't be too much hair over the vagina, but also because the hair if too long, gets annoying and uncomfortable.

    Think you just have to do what makes you feel best.

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  19. Laser removal doesn't keep one hairless forever. I had it done about 5 years ago. I'm not a very hairy person to begin with, and I had probably 10 sessions - my armpits too. After 2-3 years, new hair started to grow. It's pretty sparse, but it's there. I wax about once a year and maintain with shaving. I suppose I could return for annual laser maintenance, but my esthetician moved away, and it is very painful. And expensive - the hair free guarantee at most salons is not a lifetime guarantee.

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  20. Andrew, I've been following your blog and enjoy reading your perspective on certain situations. It's very rare for anyone, especially a man, to be able to identify and analyze the social interactions between men and women; however, I find this entry to be disappointing.

    I'm a high-end runway model and our director only recommends waxing off our pubic hair when we are showcasing lingerie and swimsuits, but for high-fashion nude photos like in Vogue (Not Playboy magazines), pubic hair is supposedly an indicator of maturity and beauty. I'm also currently attending medical school, and I can say with great confidence, that pubic hair for women protects the genital areas from dirt, bacteria, and viruses. The only benefit with shaving off pubic hair is less incidences of crabs. If you had done further research, you would also see that as more people eliminated their pubic hair, cases of chlamydia and gonorrhea increased.

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    1. And, as more people have eliminated pubic hair, divorce rates have gone up. And the national debt has skyrocketed. And life expectancy has increased. And average square footage of American homes has increased. And on, and on I could go. Your little false-causal statement about pubic hair removal and STD rates is unscientific and unimpressive. Plus, your entire story sounds like fiction.

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    2. Yikes. Even more reasons not to shave!

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    3. @ Anon Response (Dec 13, 2012, 6:38 PM), you're over-exaggerating the above person's statement on the correlation between STD cases and pubic hair removal, even though I am glad you're almost as cynical as I am. I have a question for you though: Do you shave your nose hair? Because your nose hair acts as a filter to protect the airway from germs, fungus, and spores. Moreover, if you parallel the function of the nose hair to the function of pubic hair, you would find that the pubic hair also functions as a filter to protect the vaginal canal from bacteria. Why do you think women get pap smears every year?

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    4. I mean "remove," not "shave," your nose hair.

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    5. "as more people eliminated their pubic hair, cases of chlamydia and gonorrhea increased."

      maybe it's because they are having more sex now haha

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  21. Just think about it. If pubic hair "causes the spread of STDs" or functions as a detrimental feature, then why do humans living on earth today still grow pubic hair?

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  22. Andrew, I have a question.

    I typically just don't deal with my pubic hair besides trimming it occasionally and sometimes shaving the top because I'm a virgin (in fact, never been kissed) and probably going to be one for a while (never get asked out, etc.). No one sees me naked or in underwear ever.

    I have no problem doing what my future BF wants with it when the time comes, but for now I just do mostly natural. If I get a BF, is it more okay to ask "so how do you like pubic hair on women?" or before we have sex, just trim it and shape it somewhat? Does a man want to discuss that?

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    1. Are u still single? O_o lol call me!

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  23. The guy I'm with now says he doesn't want me to shave because it will be stubbly, which is fine with me because I'd prefer not to. I trim very short and shave around the edges once a week but that's all. I do shave my legs and underarms.

    If he really wanted me to shave, I would though.

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  24. Okay, there will be a little more peace and quiet around here - I unsubscribed to this thread so it won't 'trigger' me every time there are new comments on it - I just won't see the new comments anymore. I'm not able to talk in a restrained manner about these kinds of subjects when I'm in such a bad mood. The subject of hair is pretty much my #1 pet peeve and I can't keep quiet about it.

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  25. I never really thought about doing anything beyond trimming, until I read this post. Today I shaved a landing strip and my boyfriend went totally gaga over it! Thanks for the tip. I'll definitely be styling it in the future.

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  26. Ahhh, pubes.

    I get insane razor rash, especially on my bikini line. Waxing yields a few days of reward followed by an incredibly unattractive ingrown hair situation.

    I used to put myself through the wax and shave routine for guys who professed to like the bald look before finally giving up a few years ago. I don't like being clean-shaven; it weirds me out to not have pubic hair. That said, I'm a scuba diving instructor, so I live in a bikini and have to do *something*.

    I use a Nair and electric shaver cocktail. There's a great little buzzer at Ricky's for about $10 that'll close-crop your bush. Like a commenter above said, the hair will stay soft because you're not shaving it, but it'll be there. The nice thing about doing such a close buzz is that there looks like there's way less / thinner hair because it's not curling into a tangled mess.

    Most women have strong opinions on Nair, but for me it's the only possible solution; I have to Nair my bikini line twice a week to look decent in front of my students. If I shaved, I'd look like I had a disease. My adverse reactions to waxing are usually irrelevant as well, considering how difficult it is to even find a wax in some of the backwater places I've called home. So yes, Nair: on all of the non-sensitive bits that my bikini might be in danger of exposing.

    Most of the guys I've been with haven't noted a preference, or have been accommodating. After all, I have a preference re: my own pubic hair as well, so closely trimmed and maintained is almost always an acceptable compromise between bald and bushy.

    I've met a few who have gotten uppity about leaving pubes, legs, or pits a day too long -- they're more than entitled to their opinion, but that (strongly stated) opinion usually persuades me to part ways with them. It seems awfully unforgiving to go off on a chick for having a hint of leg stubble. But then, I'm a mellow sort who wouldn't nag at him for facial hair, so -- it's probably an attitude incompatibility.

    That, and honestly: I live on boats. The less I shave, the less likely I am to get MRSA. If a guy doesn't sympathize with that incentive, I dunno what to tell him.

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    1. you sound like a cool chick

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  27. a negligible percentage of YOUNG men prefer the wild look. Among older men it isn't negligible at all; i.e there are plenty of men who either enjoy the wild look or really don't care one way or another. Nice try, Andrew, but I'll do everything I can to convince women they don't have to torture themselves on my account.

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  28. Ladies!

    Women have pubes, girls don't. Most men want to be with a woman, if they want to be with a little girl they should be in jail.

    Pubes are sexy, they are what women have. Trimmed is perfect.

    Cheers,
    jim

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  29. I personally love something there. I like my wife to be womanly. I could care less what she's doing as long as there is something there. I feel like my younger friends and my more immature friends love the bare look... my older more mature friends want at least something there. I think that is the divide I've noticed. I'm completely cool with stubbly legs and underarms. In my early to mid twenties I actually liked the bare look. Now that I'm 33 and a grown ass man... I'm more attracted to my wife being womanly. Much like a lot of our female married friends like men with hairy chests whereas 10 years ago they liked shaved chests and abs.

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  30. Andrew, I have a question on the often sensitive topic about breast size.. While i do have a pretty face and hair etc, I am also in a very good physical shape (UK size 8 clothes-wise), which for me at least actually means a relatively small breast size (~32B, maybe nearing 32C). They are soft, a nice shape and are proportionate to my body and i love them, but am self-conscious exposing them to guys. I am 21 but chose to not have had sex yet, so don't have much experience of men's reactions, so it's still bothering me.

    I know many girls who are of my physique that have the same breast size (or even smaller), even including many victoria's secret models, Olivia Wilde, Shakira etc and i know lots of people say size doesn't matter (oh please), but i want to know what real-life men REALLY think of them - are they at all important if the girl is generally beautiful, do they still turn a guy on just as much or are they likely to be a turn-off, is a guy likely to consciously/ subconsciously specifically choose a girl who may be no more pretty but has large breasts etc?? Thank you!!

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  31. A narration from Islamic sources:

    The Prophet (Muhammad) said, "If you enter (your town) at night (after coming from a journey), do not enter upon your family till the woman whose husband was absent (from the house) shaves her pubic hair and the woman with unkempt hair, combs her hair"

    Shaving was in demand even back then.

    Note: in this context, shaving does not mean with a razor, but probably chemical shaving.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_depilatory

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  32. AnonymousJanuary 4, 2013 9:17 AM:

    Sorry, but I do not want to burn my skin with chemicals for the sake of getting a man!

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    1. My wife use it, and it's perfectly safe. There is no "burning skin" involved if used properly.

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  33. I believe the reference to "stubble" is that period a few days(or next with women with fast hair growth) after shaving where the hair begins to grow in. Most "shavers" I've encountered don't shave every single day(and I don't blame them). For this reason(and besides my personal taste for some hair), I've never gotten the trend to go bald. Most women I've been with that shave have some degree of stubble unless they are diligent about it. Not to mention the not so nice sight of razor bumps. Yes, fresh out of the shower it looks smooth and has it's benefits, but in general I've found it to be stubbly, visually unappealing with the razor bumps, and slightly uncomfortable do to the friction of the stubble.

    This is certainly true with any couple in a steady relationship where sex is happening throughout the week. (as I can relate to with my current relationship) Let's not even get into how itchy it is if it's not shaven almost every day! I couldn't get what my girlfriend was putting herself through...not to mention I prefer the "groomed hair look" 10x better. So after some discussion she decided(with some apprehension) to sport the "landing strip". For her, there had been 10 years of social conditioning the the bald look was the status quo and she thought having hair down there was "kinky" in some ways. Kinda weird because just 15-20 years ago it was considered kinky to go bald???

    After it a few weeks it began to grow on her(pun intended) and she began to embrace it and actually began to become quite proud of her sexy new look. Over a few years now, she has become quite comfy with it and has expanded the look to a nicely trimmed tapered rectangle(similar to the Bermuda triangle above). I think it looks great and she loves the lower maintenance. Not to mention I feel it looks much more sexy! It also feels great during sex with the added friction of our two "muffs" rub against each other.

    A few times for special occasions and "old times sake" she shaves it all off but I believe her muff is here to stay.

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    1. I think the main reason people argument on stubble here is that Andrew advocates waxing, but waxing causes there to be a longer time of stubble or 'non-smooth' period. If you shave, you can at least shave every day. When waxing, it has to grow a certain length before you can wax again. So what the hell are we supposed to do? You combine this with the fact that we're not supposed to say no to sex. It's like saying "always say yes to sex, but know that sometimes you're putting us off and you can't do anything about it". Thanks. How useful.
      You can't have it all, although I don't expect men to understand (at least not the one writing the blog).

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  34. I don't mind waxing I actually really like the results but I can't really afford to do it that often. The next time I start sleeping with a guy I may ask him to chip in if I still can't afford it. Would that come off as really tacky?

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    1. I think we should pay for our own personal grooming. I bought a 12 visit pass at one of those waxing chains, so each Brazilian costs around $50. That is a not a lot for one month.

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    2. To answer Anon 4.47pm, yes that comes across as REALLY tacky.

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    3. The place where I got myself lasered is <$500 for 6 treatments. Not cheap, but once you're done--you might need a touch-up now and then--but mostly you're done. If a waxing is $50, and you go monthly, laser could actually be a better deal.

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  35. well then he will just have to deal with my bush sometimes haha. Choice is his.

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    1. Your attitude signalizes two things: 1) I don't take care of myself unless I absolutely have to, and 2) It's his responsibility to maintain my appearance.
      To be fair, if a man refused to shave his mustache, lose weight or wear clean underwear unless I sponsored his shaving machine/gym membership/underwear, I'd be out the door in a heartbeat.
      Most women enjoy looking good for the man they love. I suppose I can't really understand why some women don't...

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    2. You would be out the door because a man wears a mustache?? I pity the man who wants to date or be with you.

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  36. I am taking care of myself by considering my finances. I don't think its his responsibility to maintain my appearance but if it's something that we both take pleasure in I don't see why I should bear the financial burden. Plus I guess it kind of turns me on that he would give me money to do that. My ex boyfriend use to offer to pay for it and I never took him up on it and now I don't see why I didn't.

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  37. I get what you're saying. If waxing is a luxury, stick with trimming.

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  38. I'm white but the inner lips of my pussy are dark purple. I figured most women have that but then I was talking to my friend who is bi and she said she didn't like going down on her girlfriend because her lips down there were purple. Do guys have similar opinions about this? I know there's nothing I can really do about it. I don't care enough to but I would like to hear what men say.

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    1. It's never bothered me, and I've never heard a guy complain about the way a vagina looks.

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    2. I am really self conscious because my ex-husband said my vagina was ugly. Now I am very worried about being with a guy again. Before him, no one ever complained. It was all good. I hope you can help. I am very particular with taking care of my body and my grooming - shower twice a day, shave, manicure, pedicure, waxing, hair appts, lingerie, heels, etc. I keep myself bare to very closely trimmed on personal preference.

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    3. Well, your ex is your ex for a reason and I'm sure he just said that to be hurtful/make you lose your confidence, and it looks like it worked. It sounds more like a reflection on his personality than your physical appearance, so you shouldn't let it upset you or keep you from being with a better man.

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  39. my GF has a postage stamp, and I love it!

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  40. You mention that preferring a full bush is a fetish?? ... wtf?

    I think the "fetish" is a preference for having a grown woman look like a six-year old sporting a bald crotch!

    A woman with natural pubic hair is just that -- natural.

    And, may I add, usually both confident in her sexuality, and sexy as hell.

    I also think a statement like "most" men prefer less pubic hair is WAY off base.
    All guys are different, and many, many, many guys out there not only have no problem with natural pubes,
    but actually prefer things that way.

    It's sad to hear from women who are under the impression that it's some sort of cultural mandate to
    shave or wax or do so because they fear that "men like it that way."
    It's just not true.




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    1. Not having a computer, electricity and running water is also natural.

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    2. It is not because we want to look like young girls that we shave our legs/armpits/pubic. Men don't expect us to shave our legs/armpits/pubic because they want to feel like they are touching young parts. The few men I have been with never rejected me because of my bush, but no one ever complained either when I wiped the hair off entirely.

      For me, hair removal makes those areas neat. I go to my stylist to cut and trim my hair because I like what I see in the mirror when I wake up. I get Brazilians routinely, even when I am not dating anyone. It is just easier to clean, nothing (such as lint from toilet paper) can be trapped in the non-bush. And most importantly, that is the best way to deal with the occasional grey hair. Can't use root touch-up down there. :/

      It is a personal choice, we women should do whatever works for ourselves.

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    3. So, Brooklyn Dude, you like women with hairy legs and hairy pits too, right?

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  41. Ow ow ow ow ow ow ow... I am sensitive like a boss and refuse to do anything until I get married and ask my husband.
    How is cream, as an alternative to waxing/shaving?

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  42. Natural because boyfriend likes it totally natural. He hates shaved vulvas..and yeah guys it's not from the top of your vagina...it's from the top of your vulva. Please learn the words. I like my men natural...and they like me natural. I'm happy.

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  43. Is it normal for girls to ask what a boyfriend prefers? I have never asked.
    I have a "landing strip", the rest is removed by laser (everything, including the back). So my options are really to have it like it is or shave the last strip of hair as well. Is it worth asking or does guys' preferences don't vary THAT much in regards to a strip vs nothing? He's never said anything about it.

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  44. I'm not complaining about the use of the word fetish but I live in Japan and here it is quite normal for a girl to not shave down there, they may shave around the edge to stop it poking out of their knickers but other than that its a (very long) bush (I'm surprised that it doesn't poke out). I know this because public bathing is common and in porn it is not shaved either. So actually it can be quite normal.

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  45. Its up to the two ppl involved in the act if a male prefers the women to trim or shave then why can't the women do so to please him just as if the women prefers a man to trim or shave he should do so..... The fact is how often do women look at their pelvic to become aroused or how often do the have their face in their own crotch and as far as hand stimulation goes those women who masterbate idk about you but last i knew your pubic hair wasn't what you were focusing on but it can cause conflict for guys who prefer clean shaven pelvic regions it makes them less enthusiastic or eager to go there... so if your guy wants is shaved or trimmed and he is the one doing most of the sexual acts down there then typically he is doing them to please you (hopefully) ....so why not help him out and give him what he wants so he is more likely to want to be down there more... And guys that goes the same for you do is keeping your pubic hair or removing it really making that big of a deal for you if you want your women to interact with that region then you should be willing to at least do what she asks of you when it comes to the hair...... Same goes for homosexual couples and there partners..... Hair is something that we CAN change with relative easy so if your sharing those acts with someone y not make them happy and give them what they want or come to a compromise no one is weird for liking something.g a certain way ..... But if your going to do the one night stand thing you can't really be picky....you want easy uncomplicated sex you kinda lose out on that right

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    1. Sorry for the horrible grammar and numerous misspelled words my phone is new to me and likes to change my words on me and my screen is to small for proof reading

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  46. I'm glad to hear people debating this topic. I've been with my husband 13 years. All that time he has harassed me to go bald and never once have I complied! Waxing and shaving defeat the purpose when the horrible, itchy stubble and ingrown hairs come back with a vengeance. Waxing is worse in this regard than shaving. Not to mention I hate the bald look. And I find the landing strip equally ridiculous. I choose to keep a trim. But I look like a real woman with real pubic hair. I do it for myself. This is what makes me feel sexy and attractive. I would never change my appearance to please a man NEVER. The more I follow what makes me feel good about myself, the more men are naturally drawn to me. I don't like the sensitivity of baldness. It hurts. The hair gives me a sensual padding that feels better. And whoever said that baldness is cleaner must have never heard of a shower. I mean seriously people, don't you use soap? Cause I shower twice a day. And my husband complains that my lady parts are too clean and all he smells is the soap. And *gasp*.... I have hair down there. Plus I would never want to be with a man who makes demands about hair or would reject me because I have it. I want a mature man who loves and appreciates me on a deeper level. But no man has ever been put off by my pubes. They all seem ecstatic just to get me naked and they can't seem to stop going down on me. .... for hours. ..... hair and all! I like real men like that!

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    1. You've been with your husband for 13 years and you still have men ecstatic to get you naked and who can't seem to stop going down on you?

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    2. "...and never once have I complied!"

      Really? You have no interest in doing something that your man has asked for and that would please him? Don't be surprised then when he finds someone else who will.

      Further, while I'm all for being 'clean' (and I think most people are), don't discount the power of the natural musk we *all* have down there......we are [all] biologically wired to feel sexual arousal when we smell that, even if we're not consciously aware of it. Here in Arizona we have what are commonly called "cum" trees (I have no idea what their real name is), that smell like (yep, it's true) semen. It's amazing how many women exhibit frisky behaviour around these trees, although I'd bet that few of them realize the cause. Men get the same way when they smell our natural woman-musk. You're cheating your husband out of a sensory delight by keeping your lady parts 'too clean' and smelling only of soap.

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    3. lol dang you sound kinda bitchy. i'd shave my balls if my girl really wanted me to.

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    4. Really these comments here are so funny! Made me laugh!!!

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  47. The day my bf gets waxed or shaved, BACK, CRACK and SACK... is the day I'll do the same to my pussy.

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    1. Back hair on a man is repulsive. If I have to groom my body hair, I sure as hell expect him to have his back sorted. It's only fair.

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    2. Does it turn you on? If so, you should tell him. I'd shave my junk if it made my woman hot. What's the big fucking deal?

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  52. Hi!,
    Thanks for this informative and eye-opening post, it was a good read. You've done an excellent job here...I think that Pubes are sexy, they are what women have. Trimmed is perfect...

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  53. I just had the pleasure of getting together with my old girlfriend of 20 years ago. Back then she had the greatest bush I had ever seen. She was an incredibly beautiful woman with a big, full bush and I loved it. Today she is 47 and still incredibly beautiful and except for a slight age-related thining she still has a big beautiful bush and I still love it. I so prefer a full bush to shaved or excessive trimming. It was very exciting to see s woman look like a woman instead of a little girl. She is clean and fresh and I loved going down on her. I think all the males that prefer shaved or boys that are intimidated by women. I know I certainly prefer a real woman to a Barbie doll.

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  54. OMG! I don't like razors in the area but thanks to the post I decided try the epi for around the edges.... worse than taking tweezers to the eyebrows for the first time. :'(

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  55. I'm a full bush guy, and I'd say about 25% of my friends are in this category. The rest like it bald or very well trimmed. It's 70's bush for me, though. ;)

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  56. I like keeping myself bare down there simply for the fact its cleaner,to me it looks better, and I like the feel of it. My BF prefers me having hair but just keep it neat and trimmed but I seriously don't like having hair down there and I actually have more self esteem, esp in the summer, when Im bare. Like he doesn't make a big deal out of it and hasn't turned me down yet but he says it feels 'weird' being with someone who's completely shaved but I think it feels weird having any hair down there period on my end. him he can do what he wants, I really don't have a preference so long as he keeps it neat but please help :-(

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  57. removal of body hair on a woman started to enhance perceptions of youth. today's obsession with plastic surgery and porn has made going bald down there in fashion. To be honest, who knows what the fashion will be in another 20 years? However i will share with you my experience : I'm in my mid 30's now and all the guys who have been rigid/whinged about the hair on my vaginal area ( one even refused to go down on me after i'd spent ages giving him head) have been in their mid 20's who frankly had more experience watching porn than having actual sex. The other kind are "lads", who hide their insecurity and are all bluster. Now you may be thinking, omg, this hipster lady must have a really big bush! but i do not, i keep it close cropped and very neat ( thin enough that you can see my lips) and it has been this way for years. I was so insecure before i found a real man who actually loves running his fingers through whatever hair i do have down there. he has made me secure enough ( and this is all about feeling secure about your looks, dont kid yourselves about "hygiene") to think about growing it out! I would advise against waxing regularly ( if you have the money), it has the danger of making your labia skin looser in the long run and the ingrown hairs are PAINFUL. Doing it for a change is fine though, even fun! As for shaving everyday.... who honestly has the time to do that? Stepford wives, students maybe? I would rather sleep in those 10 minutes... cause you know, i'm not a porn star who gets PAID FOR THAT S**T

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    1. yes! Im glad that you have some one who appreciates ALL of you and thats what it really boils down to. and although I am in some ways in the adult industry I love knowing that YES! there are men real men out there who truly love an all natural woman! its not just a fantasy but the thing is most men that I have talked to who actually love a woman that doesnt shave- say that they could have never be so open with the fellas for a afraid of judgement and so I think its safe to say that,that is why we dont hear more men openly admitting they have a fetish for it. I have also had men say its because its not the "in' thing now a days. and even if they were to suggest to their girlfriends to let it grow , they would not be so ready to do so. why ? because again its not the " in thing". I even joke sometimes and tell guys I have a vintage kitty! a kitty of the 80's era! I thinks its a shame that we are living in a day that pornography and the media suggest that a woman has to be this way or that in order to recognized as sexy or desirable. but I guess thats why I love my Job because the very thing that most men seem to turn their nose up at I get paid to do comfortably so. lastly I cant tell you enough of how many men get this surprise look on there face when they find out that I am bushy girl they are surprised they usually say " oh wow you dont look like you would be a bushy girl" and im often taken back and wondering to myself umm what does a shaven girl usually look like lol ..is it in her smile, is it in her walk? lol anyway .. again glad to hear that you embrace your hairiness even if its not a bushy one! fore when you embrace your self then and only then will you find those people places and things that will embrace you right back! lastly unfortunately my bf again is not the biggest fan for the bush . and sometimes when he nags me to much about it, I begin to consider moving on to some one else who truly loves it why? because I know they are out there! God bless the bush! =)

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  58. Some of these comments were completely off topic and in the realms of heavenly and earthly which have no place with the human anatomy. I have actually matured from this blog thank you. I am glad a respectable term of "preferance" can be disassociated from a term of "fetish" as one is choice the other is consumption. At least where my thoughts are today.

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  59. Wow, I just trim the curls so that it stays clean down there. And I use tweasers to pluck my bathingsuit line because I'm a swimmer. I find shaving(other than my legs) to be itchy and uncomfortable. I can deal with my underarms being itchy, as my deoderant gets rid of that. But even with lotion, down there is just itchy after I shave. I've considered waxing, but I simply have a horrible pain tolerance and the idea of wax and tearing a lot of hair out at once just scares me.
    My method works for me, so I'll stick to it. If my man doesn't like it, he'll have to decide whether he likes sex with no pubes better than sex with me.
    Aw, that sounds so insensitive, but I really don't feel comfortable doing any more than what I already do.

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  60. I am an attractive and sexy very proud bushy girl! nicely trimmed around the edges bushy all the way through. I have it that way because for 1. its more comfy for me being that I have pretty sweet size clit and when I shave it irritates me while walking.. a very award feeling when not aroused. at first I use to feel self conscious about the hair because yes most men are not that "into it" but then I discovered one something amazing that changed my life for ever and allowed me to embrace all my bushiness and how did that happen well... for the past 4 year I have been a nude model and I am in the business of catering to men who are BIG on bushy kitties! I love my Job. and that's it its my Job. on a personal note. my bf prefers that I least keep it low, however he understands that my bushy kitty is my valued money maker! and unless he can compensate for my pay check than I dont see my self shaving anytime soon. the only times I have shaved or will shave is on special occasions for him. I also want to add hygiene some may argue that a woman's vagina is cleaner being shaved. in my non professional opinion but just by experience alone I have know many girls who get stds and they shave. I have known women who shave and complain about continuous yeast infection and the like. again its not rather a women shaves or not its the woman and the way she approaches cleanliness . so if a woman does not take care of her self she is more likely to have vaginal issues rather she shaves or not. =)

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  61. I shave once a week because I find it cleaner. I don't give a rat's behind what any guy thinks of it.

    You penis having folks won't even shave your armpits, and you think you can tell me how to groom everywhere, including my pubes? Silly boys. Your armpit hair looks ugly and is unhygienic. I repeat, it's ugly and unhygienic. Worry about the rat's nests sprouting from your own body before worrying about mine ya disgusting slobs.

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  62. Be hairy, be clean, be yourself and have fun ! Prejudices are the worst thing...

    Anthony
    http://hairysexfriends.tumblr.com

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  63. keeping it tidy is ok. But if you shave it all off women are more prone to get Stds and yeast infections. So it is not wise to shave it all off and if the guy is asking you to do that he is asking for the fish smell from the yeast infection. You should dump the guy if he is asking you to shave down there completely. You should not shave for health reasons. itation from products or razors also plays a role, but without hair the delicate vulvar skin is intimately exposed to a multitude of irritants (FYI, the symptoms of lichen simplex chronicus, chronic itching and irritation, are frequently misdiagnosed as chronic yeast infections)http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2013/04/03/shaving-pubic-hair.aspx

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  64. Bahahaha. I am sure that many of the readers of this site appreciate this post, but I do not understand why many people commenting here seem to be so worried about what the opposite sex wants. Don't get me wrong, if you have no preference yourself than whatever or if you are accommodating for your partner to show that you care or its important to them ok, cool. If you are not in either of these situations how about before considering if someone else will judge you, decide for yourself what you want and how you want to present your body.

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    1. I am not saying that you should completely neglect your sexual partner and ignore their preferences, rather I am making the point that what you want for your own body should be prioritised over what someone else wants for it.

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