Saturday, February 14, 2015

Book Update

In July I posted an announcement that I’d finished working on a manuscript for a book about breakups. While I never committed to an exact release date, I mentioned that I expected to have it out within a few months. I certainly expected to have it edited and published before the end of the year. Clearly that hasn't happened, and I know from the emails and comments I receive that many of you are eager to read it, so I want to give you an update.

Let me start by saying that the book is definitely still coming out. Content editing took longer than I anticipated, but is now complete. At the moment, the manuscript is undergoing copy editing, which I expect to have finished in a few weeks. In parallel I am working on the cover design, but I already have a few solid concepts, so this should be finished before the editing, so hopefully this won’t hold things up.

Once all that stuff is done, I’ll need to order a proof copy, make adjustments as needed, and proof again. How long that process will take is a little unclear, but I expect it won’t be more than a couple weeks. All said and done, I suspect the book will be out in a couple of months.

To hold you over, below is a chapter list, which makes the content pretty transparent. The chapters are almost all very short, like a typical blog post, so don’t be intimidated by the chapter quantity. The full book will be about 200 pages.

It is probably also worth pointing out that although some of the chapters have the same titles as blog posts, and are based around those posts, most of them have been significantly expanded. A couple have been almost completely re-written, notably the first two.

More information is here in the original post about the book.

Chapter List
Introduction
Part 1: Understanding What Happened
Men Don’t Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do
The Analogy between Sex and Commitment
Why This Always Happens to You
Changing Your Perspective
Why You Didn’t See It Coming
Men Don’t Have “Commitment Problems”
The Difference between Liking You and Liking You Enough
Why Men “Fade Out”
You Weren’t Dating Him in the First Place
The Small Things Didn’t Matter Anyway
Why Your Ex (Who Dumped You) Is Still Contacting You
Your Ex and Guilt
Your Ex and Pride
Your Ex and Decisiveness
Interpreting His Emotions
What’s Going Through His Mind
Part 2: How to Handle the Breakup
The Importance of Silence after a Breakup
No, You Can’t Be “Just Friends”
How to Know If You Should Cut Him Off
Why It’s Never Too Late
Why You Should Tell Him That You Are Cutting Him Off
What to Say
Managing Your Expectations
When You Should Fight to Save Your Relationship
Exceptions to the Rule
How to Know If You Should Dump Him First
When He Cheats
The Anatomy of Missing Him
Part 3: Following Through with the Breakup
Making Him Jealous Doesn’t Work
Seeing Him at Work…
Keeping in Touch With His Friends and Family
Being Connected with Your Ex on Social Media
Returning His Things and Getting Yours Back
What to Do When He Contacts You
When He Says He Wants Another Chance…
Stop Sleeping with Your Ex to Prove He Likes You
Part 4: Moving on and Rebuilding
You Are Responsible for Your Own Romantic Happiness
Stop Letting Him Waste Your Time
Know Why You Want Him Back
Why Getting Him Back Won't Help
Why Getting Dumped Is a Good Thing
The Importance of Emotional Honesty
Dating Again
Putting the Breakup in Perspective
When You Can Contact Him Again
Reframing the Future
A Final Word

26 comments:

  1. I like a lot of your posts and would def support your book! Regarding your posting on color/complexions, I recently had a color analysis done and was wondering if you'd be willing to browse through a few pics and give me a male's opinion-?

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      REAL URGENT EFFECTIVE SPELL CASTER TO HELP BRING BACK EX LOVER AND SAVE MARRIAGE

      Hello everyone my is Elisa Keily am so overwhelmed with joy all thanks to Dr Raypower spell.my husband left me for another woman few years back and I was very devastated cause I never did anything wrong to him,I was left with my two kid and a job that pays little.i was almost giving up until I saw a testimony online about Dr Raypower and I decided to contact him.i explained my problem to him and he assured me I'll see a positive result after 24hurs,surprisingly my husband came back the day after the spell begging me to forgive him and promised to never leave.my husband has been back for 6 months now and we've never had any issues, am glad I didn't doubt Dr Raypower cause he sure can solve any problems with fast relief you can also contact him for help now

      Email: Urgentspellcast@gmail.com or Urgentspellcast@yahoo.com

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  2. Definitively interested in checking that out.

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  3. Are the Respective Chapters Really Going to Be Written in This (Quite Peculiar) Way?

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    1. It's pretty normal for book chapter titles to be capitalized.

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  4. This sounds like it's encouraging women to think about their ex way too much! If a guy dumps you, be done with it! All this analysing seems unnecessary. Where is the chapter on women improving themselves?

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    1. You say that as if we don't all think about our ex's way too much after being dumped anyway...

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    2. Daphne, read the excerpt on the original book announcement post. It'd not about the ex, or the end of the relationship. It's about understanding, and the new beginning that follows the breakup. Andrew's insight has helped me through my toughest breakup, and put me on a path that (years later) lead to my happiest relationship yet. I've referred many of my friends to this website, and it's helped them as well. Long live Andrew and three cheers for his book!

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    3. Daphne - if women actually didn't think about their exes waaaaay too much websites like this wouldn't exist and you wouldn't be on here yourself.

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  5. Looking forward to reading 'Why Your Ex (Who Dumped You) Is Still Contacting You'. Because yeah, why?

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  6. Andrew
    Are you still going to write a post on views on the "manosphere?"
    Looking forward to reading your book!

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  7. hi andrew! im a big fan of your work and was looking foward to the book, nontheless im a bit dissapointed as it deals only with breakups. Im 19 years old and have never had a boyfriend (not even casual flings :( )
    Im in good shape and take care of myself. I like to think of myself as aprochable and intelligent. The guys
    i have been interested on the past have either friendzoned me or made out with me and then didnt try to pursue a relathionship. (im still a virgin by the way, though that is not so rare for the country i live in, Chile) I think maybe its a personality problem? what do you suggest to "improve" my personality? or is it that i´ve been too easy by kissing the guys before they´ve asked me out?
    thanks in advance
    a very thankful reader from South America

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    1. There will still be things in the book that you'll find useful, though of course a lot of it will not apply to your current situation.

      Being 19 and never having had a boyfriend does not mean there is a problem.

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  8. This looks like a very original book on a very common topic, and I think it will stand out against its competitors. I like how you have each stage of a relationship broken down into relevant subsections. Although I am in a happy relationship, I find your blog before my relationship started and continue reading it because it is absurdly insightful. I will plan to buy your book. You've worked hard on it and I wish you the best of luck, Andrew!

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  9. We cant wait for the book to come out so we can know your real name, stalk you and find you *evil laugh*

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  10. Are you publishing it under your real name or an alias?

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    1. I'm nearly positive his first name is Andrew and his last name is an alias. As useful as his advice is for us, he mentioned somewhere on here that he doesn't really want to be known for writing relationship books for women. This is more for him to hone his writing skills. Plus he'd be appalled if women he dated found this website :)

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  11. I look forward very much to your book and to future blog posts as well!! Thank you so much Andrew!!

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  12. Whoever writes this blog is effin retarded.

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  13. Andrew, this must have been requested before: since you write so much about the importance of being fit/ playing up one's appearance, when are you going to upload a photo of yourself? a "before and after" perhaps?

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  14. Andrew, I have following your blog since you first started blogging, and I have to say I am looking forward to you releasing your book. I have been through many ups and downs in my relationships and I feel like your insights and advice were helpful. I definitely will be checking out your book.

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  15. i hope it goes international or could be shipped international:) im from the philippines and I'd love to read your book :)

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