Sunday, January 8, 2012

How To Look Good During Sex

It has often been said that women are turned on by what they feel, while men are turned on by what they see. There is a lot of truth to this. Of course it may not be so black-and-white; probably men are aroused by what they see only in proportion to how masculine they are, and women by what they feel in proportion to their femininity. But whatever the case, men are primarily aroused by what they see. While certain moves, positions or behaviors also play a role in arousing a man during sex, visual stimulation is the most important yet most frequently overlooked aspect of a woman's sexual performance. In addition to making yourself as attractive as possible by using non-bedroom techniques such as working out, doing your hair, etc. the following list of things should help to catch his eye. I've been careful not to list things that some guys like and others don't - this list should only be the things that apply to the vast majority of men.

1. Leave the lights on, at least enough so that he can see the form of your body, your hair, etc. Without light, nothing else on this list will be as effective. Dimmed is probably better than leaving them full-on, but darkness is not sexy at all to a man.

2. Arch your back. This is the single most potent bedroom posture a woman can assume. Most women do this naturally during heightened sexual pleasure, and he becomes more aroused by seeing you aroused. Do it regardless of being face down, face up, or on your side.


3. Point your feet down as if you were standing in high heelsI haven't figured out why this is sexy yet, but rest assured: it is. Do this when you are lying on your back with your feet in the air, crawling across the bed, or in any other situation in which your feet are free. Consider leaving your heels on during sex, as it assists and heightens effect.


4. Throw your head back. This is also done naturally during heightened sexual pleasure. Combine with #2 and #3. Also try turning your head to the side, as if the pleasure is too intense to look directly at him. In addition to demonstrating your pleasure, both of these actions slightly contort and accentuate the neck, one of the most delicate and feminine parts of a woman's body. Close your eyes or it will seem unnatural.


5. Wear matching underwear. This makes you more comparable to the supermodels he fantasizes about routinely, and generally looks a lot better on you (models do it for a reason). Simple colors and types of underwear are perfectly acceptable. Also, let him initiate the removal of your underwear. I am usually disappointed when a woman takes hers off too soon. It looks sexy and I don't get to see it very often, so I want to enjoy it for a minute before I rip it off.

6. Don't pull his upper body down towards you during missionary or similar positions (e.g. to make out or hold him while he penetrates you). This will prevent him from watching himself enter you, which is hugely erotic.

7. Put your arms above your head. This widens the upper portion of your body, accentuating the relatively small width of your waist and bringing out your curves. A small hip-to-waist ratio is extremely sexy to men, and by doing this you give yourself more of an hourglass shape. This is also an open posture - one which uncovers and "opens" the vulnerable front of your body, indicating your gift of yourself to him, and therefore your trust and love. This openness establishes a much deeper connection, which has all kinds of benefits, but is also sexual. The picture below (on top) illustrates the accentuation of the waist, while the photo below (on the bottom) shows a more natural instance of the posture. (Also see the right-most picture under #2.)



8. Make your movements slow, sexy and constant. The general idea is that you are slowly but continually moving in rhythm with and response to his sexual lead - in a sense, "flowing." The movement is something like squirming, but in a slower, more sensual (rather than uncomfortable) way. He will be turned on by watching you respond to the pleasure he is creating in you. The video linked in the postscript illustrates this best.

In some instances, the things above will feel strange and require a little acting on your part; but over time they will become your natural response to pleasure. In addition, it is likely to be self-fulfilling acting, since by doing so you will arouse him, and his resulting lust for you will ultimately arouse you more. If these things aren't natural for you, I suggest that you try to implement only one at a time, otherwise you will likely disengage from the sex itself by focusing too much about your body. It shouldn't be too forced.

79 comments:

  1. We pull the man down during some positions in order to create an angle that feels better against our clitoris, and because we get turned on by feeling his body pressed tight against ours. Sorry boys, our pleasure is important too :)

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    1. thats true i like pulling him on me i think i feel much more pleasure holding him closer than ever :)

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    2. Haha that's exactly what I was thinking. ^ This is clearly coming from a man who only thinks he understands.

      Andrew, thanks for replaying my natural responses in this article, but given that most of what you covered was just that--a natural response--this wasn't really helpful. :/ I can't speak for all women, but I know I can speak for many when I say we're detail oriented. I was looking for the little things I hadn't thought of to really turn him on, but I don't want to sacrifice what turns me on (i.e. what causes me to arch my back and throw my head back in pleasure and not have to pretend) in the process. I'm sure most women wouldn't have the heart to tell you, especially if they're getting from you something else they're likely after--the confidence boost that your approval will give them, which will translate to at least some pleasure the next time they'll have sex--but I will tell you. You've got a lot to learn about pleasing women. Many men think they know what they're doing, but only because women will often let them think that. We act when we need to, but we don't want to. We'll just never say so for fear of hurting your pride and ruining the moment. Some women don't even know that sex can be pleasurable because they haven't experienced it that way. I do feel sorry for you, because it sounds to me like you continuously picked those very women, but those of us with a healthy sex drive can gain nothing from this information. I know many women might find it useful, but my lover understands me and how my body AND brain works, so I don't have to act anymore. If you really want to please a woman and, as a result, yourself, then you have to think like a woman. Empathize, put yourself in her shoes, and focus deeply on your feelings for her. This is important, and if you don't have feelings for her to focus on, then you can hang up the idea of giving her an experience she'll never forget. She feels them much more strongly than you can know unless you really focus on them too. This is not easily contrived, nor should it be, unless you don't mind selfishly breaking her heart after you've "got yours" and no longer want her, therefore dooming her to bad sex until someone takes time to repair her broken spirit. I can't stress how much this process will greatly affect her pleasure, whether she's figured that out yet or not, and that's just neuroscience. I've given you a lot of information that many women never even know about themselves. We are vastly complex creatures, and it usually takes a man who cares enough to understand to help us figure that out. Unfortunately too many men are self serving, and don't want to know a woman enough to ever really give her pleasure. Thus, women remain a mystery to men and fellow women alike.

      P.S. I refuse to stop pulling my man down to me. I assure you he doesn't mind after I throw myself back from the pleasure of it, exposing my chest to him while he's still holding my lower back and pulling me close. This drives him wild. You see, he gives me pleasure, and I give it back. I don't act.

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    3. Great comment! I agree.

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    4. To the anonymous poster from Jan 27 2013 - excellent points all round! Completely agree.

      This Andrew doesn't really know what he's talking about does he?

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    5. Of course he does know what he's talking about! He is wise beyond his age and his writing could not be more concise given the complexity of subjects he wrote. In this posting, he was simply advising women from men's point of view - of different things (women's postures in bed in this case) that turn men on. Take the part(s) you can use. Ignore (i.e.don't criticize) the part(s) you don't like or disagree. He is doing many women a huge favor by writing and disclosing so much useful reliable and insightful information from men's point of view. I think he is brilliant to know so much and so deep for how young he is. Amazing!

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    6. Lonetha: for 30, Andrew is still immature. Unless you are more immature and more stupid, you would realize that he's trying to figure this stuff out. His hypercritical approach to life is not "rules" but him trying to find himself in spite of academic achievements. It's good that he's figuring out these things, but wise beyond his years, me thinks not.

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    7. Maturity can take a life time to gain. Some never comes close to having! I run into men and women in their 50s or 60s all the times acting like children! In no where here I suggested Andrew was mature. Not sure where you found that in my response above. I'm confused. It's not even the point I tried to make.

      It is his honest insightful advice (and not at all hypercritical) what I was talking about which is far helpful and that's why I said he's wise beyond his yrs to understand so much (of course he's still figuring things out but things he wrote he knows it quite well from men standpoint). For a 30 yrs old to know so much about men & women relationship dynamics and has the heart to share, I think he is pretty awesome. Without intelligence and sympathetic heart like his, one cannot share and write so well and so genuinely and so insightful. If you cannot relate, perhaps something of youreslf should be reexamined!

      Btw, to call him, me and/or other readers immature and stupid, that's just plain rude.

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    8. You're forgetting that the point of this blog isn't to tell men how to please women. He clearly stated that he's telling "women how to improve their chances with men".

      Why do you read a blog untended to share the man's viewpoint and and then criticize that it doesn't instead share the woman's?

      Maybe you missed the title of the blog, or the introduction posted at the top of each post.

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    9. The title of this post is "How To Look Good During Sex", not "How to Feel Good During Sex".

      As a man, I will tell you that I agree with all the points Andrew listed. Personally, I am especially turned on my #2.

      Anyway, any thinking person will realize that he does not mean you should focus only on these things and not your own pleasure. It's just little tidbits of useful knowledge if/when you wanna make your guy extra turned-on.

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  2. great stuff, thanks!

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  3. Feeling a man on top of you is in my opinion my sexual arousing then seeing it.

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  4. I am sure that is true for a woman (I am assuming you aren't a gay man), but it is different for a man. The angle of entry matters much less for us, and visual stimulation matters more.

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  5. I am just putting my personal preference out there. :P

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  6. Hey I just commented this on your high heels post, the shape of the foot in the 'high heel' position, signals orgasm, and what's hotter than watching a woman having one of those.

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  7. While we're at the sex subject (your blog tends to not get too explicit though);
    - are there specific things women have done in bed which makes them stand out? Or just some things which makes them sexier than others?
    I know main things: be comfortable with your body, be willing to experiment, keep the lights on etc. But is that it? Because you don't need a whole lot of experience to know that.

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    1. I actually do think those are the only guidelines worth giving. Beyond that, it is chemisty. Your question is akin to asking "who makes a woman's personality really stand out?" - which a number of readers have asked. There isn't really a unique answer. Of course you can tell a woman to be confident, fun, nice, light-hearted, and a number of other fairly generic qualities; but what REALLY makes her attractive to any given guy is going to be unique to him (and to her). Likewise, you can tell a woman to be confident with her body, playful, etc. but it is her personality (a complex mixture of so many different dispositions, experiences, etc.) shining through her sexuality that really "clicks" with a guy. I am sure it works that way with men too, so you can draw the analogy.

      I have a few more ideas about this that I will put into a post, but I need to think about it some more.

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  8. Honestly, I think men find these moves attractive in women because they are indicative that she is aroused. So I think it comes naturally to women (well it does to me) to do all these things IF we are aroused. And quite frankly, if I'm not aroused I'm not going to fake it.

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  9. id do anything to look better in bed my boyfriend is just not interested in me im 21 and iv got a reasonably good body i just feel so ugly all the time especially during sex, i leave the lights on becoz i know he likes it but when i lay down naked next to him he never touches me whats wrong with me? :(

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  10. i have no idea what to do im only 21 and im reasonably good looking girl i feel so ugly around my boyfriend its like he never wants to have sex with me i lay down naked and do all those sorts of things but he never makes a move or touches me. whats wrong with me? :(

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    1. Nothing. If he makes you feel that way, dump him. It really is that simple.

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  11. This is retarded.

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    1. Andrew, this post makes me suspect that you've never really given pleasure to a woman before.

      When a woman is extremely aroused, she'll actually arch towards her tummy... This is because she starts feeling deep contractions and bending forwards maintains them as well as the pleasure they cause.

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    2. Why do you people get so rude!!!?? Why are you even reading his blog then if you think his information is so retarded? Andrew is doing us women a huge favor by sharing his incredibly insightful advice. I can't believe anyone can get so rude just because s/he cannot relate to his information or disagree. Regardless of what it is, take the part(s) you can use or simply ignore (i.e.don't criticize) the part(s) you don't like or disagree.

      I personally think he is so wise beyond his age for knowing so much and so deeply. It takes a very bright person with incredible awareness and intuition to come to so much understanding of this somewhat very 'complex' topic. (I used the word complex for lack of a better word). And his writing is amazing!

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    3. sex is suppose to be fun and honest I believe that once your in the bedroom you will know exactly what to do and what not to do if your laying there pondering on what to do next then I my opinion I'd already be asleep from waiting

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  12. Is this a real post? Like did I just read this? I am flabbered and gasted . Flabbergasted.

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  13. whats going on with these idiotic comments advertising loans? cant you block them somehow? they are putting those comments on every blog.

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    1. I deleted them. Thanks for pointing them out, sometimes I don't notice them.

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  14. Andrew you do realize that sex is meant to be pleasurable for both genders right? I can't imagine enjoying myself if I was running a mental check through list of how to look better. If your man doesn't think you look good in bed you shouldn't be sleeping with him, end of story.

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    1. Do you know how many men take the time to Google "how to make her orgasm" daily? I just did a quick comparison on Google Trends (program that shows you how many people search for different terms. Check out the difference between "How to make a woman orgasm" and "how to look good in bed."

      So who is really being selfish?

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    2. So women are all selfish because men need to learn how make a woman orgasm? strange logic dude

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    3. I meant: if you think you are being too selfless by accepting advice on the internet about how to please the opposite sex, you clearly don't realize how much effort men are making.

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    4. Well I am sort of past the point of sleeping with men who need to google how to make me orgasm but I digress. Much of what you've described above is a natural body reaction to orgasm and orgasm is a very mental game for women. So you could be pulling out all of the trick in your hat, if in my mind I'm worried about how my feet are pointed and if my back is properly arched I'm probably not going to orgasm.

      What upsets me is that young women, who are sexually inexperienced are happening up your blog and taking it to heart. They are in affect giving away their own pleasure because of some guy who writes a blog. My advice to both men and women would be to be open about their needs and desires so that each person can enjoy themselves. If someone gets you into bed and you didn't just pick them up tonight, there is a good chance they think you are attractive so enjoy yourselves, that's what sex is about.

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    5. "Andrew you do realize that sex is meant to be pleasurable for both genders right?"

      Of course he doesn't realize this. A man who expects this from his lover (and based on what Andrew writes, most likely a short term lover or one night stand who has no idea that they are on his "Do not return call" list) is not concerned with her pleasure past the fact that it may turn him on to see her turned on (simply because it raises his own self worth)

      Andrew, have you studied the trend of women doing a web search for "How to give good head?" or "What do men like in bed?"

      "How to look good in bed?" is very generic. I would be surprised to see a large number of women google this. But a good strategy for you to take to prove your point.

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    6. Round of applause for both Julia and T here, you both hit the nail on the head!

      Many self-conscious girls COULD take this blog to heart far too much - what a shame that would be. This blog should be taken down really - it's useful if you want a woman to blindly follow the opinion of certain kind of guy rather than BE HERSELF and enjoy herself by doing what she finds pleasurable. Come on, guys get it easy as it is. The focus should be on women's pleasure, not men's.

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    7. Wow, ladies you really don't get what Andrew was trying to say in this post. He's really trying to help us women by pointing out what makes us look even greater in bed for our men when we are making love with them the ones we love and care enough for, from a guy's standpoint. How would we even really know without feedback (unless you and your partner are very good communicators!?). I was married for 13 yrs and had no idea what I should do to look sexier in bed. Of course, you should always be yourself but all those things Andrew advised, matching underwear, arching your back, throwing your head, dim light, etc., are all real stuff to make the moment more erotically perfect. Those sexy movements should come naturally anyway if great love was being made. If they don't and sex was more like a quick relieve then, your relationship is probably worth reexamined. Not to be harsh or anything. Everyone should experience making passionate love once to know the difference and appreciate making everything to make it possible.

      I'm with you Andrew. It's comforting to know that men try to please women by trying to figure out ways to give orgasm. Some women this doesn't come easy. I totally appreciate guys who do that. It just means that they care. He simply tells you that the men works hard too to please us women they care about. The work is not always on the women. And who doesn't want to look hot in bed anyway? Why wouldn't you follow Andrew's advice? Let alone stomping on it. This blog is amazing! He's a genius for understanding so much. Love this blog.

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    8. Julia

      Men face a lot more pressures and insecurities regarding pleasing women in bed, than vice versa.

      For the most part, women can usually just lay there like a brick and men will still get pleasure and keep coming back for more.

      Men face immense insecurities regarding penis size, endurance, and sexual technique. We are told that we have to outdo other men and basically stand out in bed in order to sexually attract women and make them want sex with us repeatedly.

      None of these issues are faced by women. There is simply no equivalent issue of penis size and 'performance' for women.

      Moreover, there are plenty of double standards regarding sexual performance. If a woman doesnt orgasm its usually a man's fault. If a man doesnt orgasm or cannot hold an erection its still his fault. It is far more politically correct for a woman to expect men to "make effort and please her" while a man who expects a woman to do the same is selfish and controlling.

      You women can be as mediocre as anything in bed and still find plenty of sex partners. So just try to look at the bigger picture before ranting about how sexist this blogpost is.

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    9. Yaaaaa Andrew I'm just gonna leave this right here:

      http://www.google.com/trends/explore#q=how%20to%20make%20a%20girl%20orgasm%2C%20how%20to%20give%20a%20blowjob&cmpt=q

      Now, who is really being selfish you ask?

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  15. This is ridiculous; Me thinks it is all that porn most men are watching, they want to find all those theatrics back in the bedroom again. I don't know about you but sex is best when natural and not staged, especially if the staging is spoiling the real enjoyment of the interaction. What would be the male equivalent for that? Flex your muscles why pushing up against her? Plus google that google search is bogus logic.

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    1. I feel you should go with the flow.when my man enters me I rock back and forth. As you and him are one.
      Bill Aka Cloie Edwards

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  16. Since men fantasize about supermodels, do they consistently feel disappointed by their girlfriends for not being supermodels? Do you see what I'm asking? It's like if you're not the best, are you still good enough? It just seems like this is hopeless for women. You're never going to be a supermodel, but he still fantasizes about them.

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  17. Why we don't teach this in schools?!!! It's the most vital stuff in the life :-)

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  18. Holy crap the self-entitled feminist culture is thriving more than ever. This is AN ARTICLE FOR WOMEN WHO WANT TO PLEASE THEIR MAN. As such, don't come in here preaching more girl power BS and don't criticize the article in a way that brings it right back to what women want and go on about how "Men have a lot to learn." Shutup, read the information and either use it to help your sex life, or don't because you've grown up in a greedy feminist culture which has made everything about you, princess. You don't have to believe it and you can ignore it all you want, but this stuff is attractive to men. Go ahead and call it retarded, but when you try to form a relationship with a successful, good looking MAN who knows what he wants, you will fail. He wants GOOD sex. He will leave your ass the second you threaten to use sex as a bargaining chip. Then you'll be left with little beta boys who bend over backwards like sad little puppies to sacrifice everything for you - have fun marrying that then getting divorced because your inner woman wants a man.

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    1. . . . You should tell anyone how to have sex or think that you know anything about another persons life because of their beliefs or ways. Just because a woman chooses not to use this information doesn't mean she uses sex as a bargaining chip and is going to get dumped. Little harsh much?

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  19. Women spend tons of money on clothes and make up while guys get to pull off ten dollar button up shirts and their one good pair of Levi's, why is this? Because girls care a lot more about how they look in general. True this article was not about how to have better sex (thought that may have been assumed) it was how to look good in bed. Sadly, girls, let's not act like we don't look up how to look good everywhere else. Really this article just pertains to women who have a certain idea of how they want to be in bed. While personally I would want to be my most natural self (mismatched undies and all) since I'm performing the oldest and most natural "event" with someone that I would hopefully love or care for, not everyone is this way and not everyone has to be. To each their own.

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    1. I think people find it silly because it is way too forced. The movements pictured are typical feminine movements which feminine women make without thinking about it. To me this is a guide to butch/masculine girls on how to transform themselves, but I cannot possible imagine it looking natural. Also if a woman is naturally masculine, she will not fit with a masculine man in the long run. As mentioned elsewhere on the blog, she will fit better with a feminine man. I get the thought behind it - a man sees a woman looking feminine when she does these things and thinks to himself "why don't I suggest all girls move like this". But if these things don't come naturally to you, they just don't.

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  22. I think that there is plenty here. Some of it comes naturally, but there is always a thing or two to learn. One of my favorites is to fuck him while he is lying down, and then reverse...suck on his toes while he enters me. Waist and ass look great!

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  23. Umm... just a note to all y'all...
    NOT ALL WOMEN ARE FIT & FABULOUS! Lol... there ARE some bigger gals out there. What can THEY do? And then there are people like me, who are tiny. Don't have much for hips or a big booty, thick legs or large, perky breasts... so how can I* look " good " during sex if all I have is a pretty face, but not-so desireable body?

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    1. Who says you don't have a desirable body? Plenty of men are in to petite women.

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    2. Honey, you look gorgeous and I LOVE petite women.

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  24. This article is ****! back arching and feet pointing is natural when a woman is aroused and feeling sexy! "wear heels" clearly you are talking about porn. No ones a feminist for sharing their opinion on this article.

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  25. Just lay back n enjoy

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  26. Most of it is quite true. I would mention that my bf is the one who pulls be when he is on top or in similar positions. He wraps his arms around me, grabs my head, starts kissing me and kissing my neck and he holds his face very tight to my skin. This is very arousing and we both get....well, where we're supposed to get :D But I guess there are no general rules when it comes to passion...

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  27. I've done some of this stuff with a guy that I already know likes me trying to get his attention he seems to easily ignore it. Is it only sexy when all your clothes are of or your in your underwear?

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  28. For instance if you were on the computer (in a bed) and your girlfriend was on her stomach back arched and touching your leg high up would she have your attention?

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  29. I'm willing to take these at face value.

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  30. I bet men would not even pay attention to these "moves" when they are in the act. All they pay attention to is the moan. And I agree with Anonymous Jan. 27. Just as you have to know someone to know what makes that person tick. It's not a one size fits all thing.

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  31. Here is the short answer: Men get turned on by turning their women on. I find it sexually gratifying.

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  32. I think this post was actually very helpful, I myself am a young woman and I think that most of what Andrew had said made perfect sense, I'd also like to pointb out that guys do have more insecurities when it comes to sexual acts than woman do and for us to at least do our best to look sexy or beautiful is the very least we can do. I honestly would like to ask all of the "haters" if you find that woman needing to do all this "just to look sexy and are things we do naturally " is a sexist and stupid thing. How did you manage to find this post anyways? Surely you must have searched how to look sexy in bed? If you dont like what your reading that doesnt mean you have to put down the author for it. -_-

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  33. I did the lights and the arching bits. Poor guy, he didn't know what happened! He was real,happy real soon. It's a bit scary the effect we can have....

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  34. And I threw my head back. Whammy !

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  35. As a 40-year old, happily married reader, I really appreciate this blog. I WANT my husband to be as happy as possible with our experience. I read the blog for a man's perspective and honestly while I think a woman does not have to agree with the advice or take it, it is ridiculous to attack it as women because we simply are not going to ever see things the way men do. I believe the ideas are a service to us and we should be glad someone took the time to write them down, even if every idea does not work for every person.

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  36. Okay for the women who said she wont sacrifice her 'turn ons' for her lovers turn ons and saying that Andrew is selfish for pointing out what really does make a man more aroused is selfishly stubborn. Thousands of women want to focus on just them, because this calms us down mentally , i know, but however, we need to focus on the man as well. I found this very helpful, and he did mention in this that it shouldnt be too forced... And do you know how many times a man will force him self to 'hold back' so that way the woman can finish first or like Andrew said how many times a man will look up how to make a woman orgasm and try that and try so hard to please that woman when in return all he gets is moaning and scratches on the back or being forced against her body. Yeah, I'm a woman myself and I can really tell that women are more selfish than men. I mean come on ladies... You love when your lover does everything for you to feel good, right? Than why not return the favor? My man tried so hatd for me in the beginning to make me finish and now that we 'connected' any position we do will make me finish fast and multiple times, and the whole time I'm also focusing on how he reacts to my reactions and if I see a pleased face, than I well use that more often and yes after a while it just becomes natural and still feels absolutely amazing. (Especially when I'm on top and I throw my head back... I look down real fast and sometimes see his eyebrow move up. Which, if you do the research, means hes intrested or pleased with what hes seeing). So, if your still to stubborn or selfish ir maybe even both.. You'll disagree, (maybe or maybe not) get mad and post "blah blah blah" ( not literally.. Its a sign of I dont care what you have to say it just sounds like a bunch of whining to me) or you'll be smart enough to take this advice and use it well. Wish luck to all.

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  37. Pointing the feet down looks sexy because it is also indicative of a woman coming to climax. When I have a really amazing orgasm my calves are flexed and will usually be sore the next day

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  38. I'm sure you know this, but the more you make a woman need to think about whether her damn feet look sexy, the more she's in her head and LESS focussed on sex. And you know what happens then? She's less likely to orgasm as a result. Any lover worth a woman's time gets incredibly turned on by knowing he's turning his partner on. So all these rules could have the complete opposite effect of what you are trying to achieve.

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  39. Guys, for everyone who's giving this place web traffic and preparing to go through a mental checklist before having sex, PLEASE don't. If you actually try to have sex like this, your partner will think you're weird. Trust me, I've tried to go into dating by being "the perfect girl" and all it did was allow my boyfriend to see me as a maid/cook/sex doll.
    It ruined our relationship because he couldn't respect a woman who was constantly trying to please and constantly trying to look poised and pretty no matter what I was doing. You want to make your man feel more pleasure during sex? Learn how to give him oral, learn how to tighten and relax the muscles of your vagina as he moves in and out, and find a variety of positions. If you always try to look like a porn star, you're only going to have sex in missionary, and no one's really gonna have fun!

    Anyway, if you want real sex advice as a woman, a great website is " http://mytinysecrets.com/ "
    copy and paste for sexual enlightenment, girls!

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  40. Thanks for the post. But how do u embrace your insecurity? I have tiny boobs, and I just couldn't be confident to show them at all. Would a man get turned off by how small they are lol?

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    1. Don't worry. A lot of men like small boobs. Me, for example.

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  41. The title of this alone should tell you it isn't about good sex or bad sex but simply things that women do or don't do in bed that are visually appealing to men. This isn't a blog for women's pleasure. There are articles out there that is about women's pleasure but this is for women who want to know what they can do to turn on their guy so she can drive him crazy in bed. Honestly he nailed it.

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  42. Took me time to read all the comments, but I really enjoyed the article. It proved to be Very helpful to me and I am sure to all the commenters here! It’s always nice when you can not only be informed, but also entertained!
    bed gets too warm

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  43. Re-link the video mentioned in the last lines, please! Or give us the name sow e can google it.

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  44. This subject is so boring. When it needs to be told like this.
    Tips and Tricks etc. I never wanted to read about sex when I was
    doing it all the time in my 20's and 30's. I'm actually totally bored of
    it now and reading this shows me that everyone else is doing the
    same old stuff. I'm glad to be single and not needing all this
    desire all the time. Zzzzzzz.

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  45. I'm as independent as a woman can get in most respects. Whether I just took off my leather chaps and helmet after cruising on my custom street bike or I just finished shopping with him at the adult store. I'm often suprised by him as he stops by a locally owned lingerie store who keeps my sizes and preferences of different types according to the effect in which to achieve. This gives him great pleasure to give me a gift that in turn benefits us both. He has guided control to choose to his liking and message he wants to send. Yes he love it, rarely a return needed and yes I do still suprise him with some he knows nothing about. Hear is the deal for both male and female that works for us. I can tell you I have forgotten more about mechanical vehicles than most men ever knew. I love the velocity channel and will fight you over the latest Harbor Freight sales ad than any other. I've owned both a motorcycle, ATV and watercraft store. I also own and operated a Hair Salon. I love to share my interest in and get my hands dirty working on our latest project. Our 1930 modelA ratrod complete with a NHRA approved custom frame with rollcage, tubbed and powered by a 359 chevy small block fully blown. The engine cane lull me into complete comfort, closing my eyes to enjoy it all late at night. Of course unless I'm driving. I most give him the honor however, as I enjoy watching my guys eyes sparkle in passion for us both. I do know the importance of looking my best as a Salon owner it's all about just that, right. Whether on the parts counter, Salon or quick trip to get toilet paper looking what Your personal best is builds confidence and lets him know it's important for you both. Now where is this going? Ladies learn confidence trumps perfection every time. Isn't it great when you pass a man and turn his head? Of course it is, so do it at home! Find that and confidence will build more. Turning his head, no spin it off his shoulders! Know our own desires is in feeling desirable. Learn how to be in common interest without taking away from his masculinity or your femininity. It just works. I'm not much on a spotlight, but soft lighting gives him his visual. Watch your man burn in desire for you! If you will use this to it's advantage you will begin to bask in his visual pleasure then crave it for yourself. Nothing is so hot than to be hot. Being hot makes you hot also. I mean you are now wet hot in your own desire. It goes nowhere but up from there. I'm am the hotest for him when I'm also hot to him. You can pull him close to your chest, but also open yourself to his world. Give and take. Live in his mind a bit. You will be suprised. I love my two worlds. I can hang out in both worlds. I don't lose any independent womanhood by still enjoying his WANTING to open my car door. I love it. He knows and appreciates my tomboy side. I heard some faint trashy engine noise over to loud engine of that blower motor last cruise. After he opened my door and saw I was safely belted in he wasn't anything but appreciative of my catch what he couldn't hear. "Hey Babe iy might be time to run the valves." My reward was his grin and being treated like a lady. It works and I promise you won't lose anything! Men for your visual remember it's her mind you must nourish. It ALL starts in her mind. Period! How far you get in give and take is endless! Gentleman in saying this I am speaking of that woman that may or is the one. Pay attention, care for her mind. Her mind may go places she never imagined and you always dreamed impossible. Be willing, be willing and do it. That is our purpose to one another. Read, study, try and be willing to understand you both have a purpose! Sadisfy each other. Get satisfaction by being it! Nothing better than feeling your woman enough and his bliss in his own manhood will see you are satisfied ladies! It's all good.

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