Monday, October 10, 2011

The Importance of Heels

Heels are the single most powerful item in a woman's wardrobe for improving her attractiveness to men. I routinely recognize this when I go to nightclubs, where almost all of the girls are wearing them. I also notice it at work, where some of the women occasionally wear them, and I find myself suddenly taking a second look (normally I wouldn't look once, as they have about 20 years on me and need to work out). While having a general knowledge of clothing fit and color (for example) matters more, it is not a single item than can be put on or removed with the same simplicity of heels. Heels require no instructions. Most women understand the effectiveness of heels to a degree, but too few realize why and how well they work, and therefore have trouble using them to their full potential.

Some women believe that heels are effective because they make a woman's calves look good, and although this isn't entirely wrong, it falls short of the truth. The majority of women think heels are attractive because they make a women taller. But men are not attracted to women because they are tall. This may make a girl look imposing or powerful, but any student of the most basic aspects of sociology knows that men are not attracted to power (women are attracted to power). Men are attracted to sexual pleasure and fertility, so it should not be surprising that the potency of heels lies in their ability to make a woman look sexual, even if only mildy so.

When a woman wears heels, it points her toes down in a more graceful manner, makes her butt stick out, and pushes out her chest. Most importantly, it arches her back, which emphasizes her feminine curves, and is an unequivocal sign of intense sexual pleasure. Look through the ads in magazines like Cosmopolitan or Maxim if you are skeptical. In many of them (and all of them intending to display sexuality), the women are posed in such a way that they resemble at least one of the postures I've described. All of these are strongly attractive to a man, but they are also very subtle, which makes them all the more effective. Most men have no idea why a women looks better to them in heels; they just feel it in their gut. Ask them. You'll probably get a shrug and something like "because they make you taller?"

For the taller women out there, yes, you are at a slight disadvantage. Despite how much heels improve your posture, I recommend you not wear them very often if they make you more than one inch taller than most of the men you want to attract. Find your other strengths and do what you can to highlight them (for example, height probably means you have long legs, so work them out a lot and make sure you are showing them off).

For all of the other women out there, and especially those of you who are short or the perfect female height, wear them frequently, and be liberal about deciding when they are appropriate. Just like a man that comes dressed well to a casual event, a woman stands out when she wears heels at a dive bar or in the grocery store.

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  1. Sorry, but this isn't "like a man that comes dressed well to a casual event" in that a man dressed well doesn't cause him a serious medical issue down the line. Be careful about this -- ladies in wearing them; men in recommending them. i sued to wear heels. That is, until I needed surgery. I never knew. And this isn't just a "me" thing -- my podiatrist says that heels should go under the "2 hour rule" -- meaning not wear them in excess of 2 hours. Do a little digging online (not difficult) and you'll see how damaging they are to women's feet.

    So while I agree that yes, they do make us look sexier, we definitely shouldn't be wearing them "liberally".

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  2. What's the aversion to tall girls in heels?

    Compare:

    http://in15mins.com/15blog/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/blake.jpg

    I think Blake Lively wins?

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  3. Em,

    Haha yes, Blake definitely wins (coincindentally, she is also the girl in the picture above). But I don't think it is because of her height. She has amazing legs and a short tight dress on, is turned sideways so that you see her curves, and is wearing colors that look awesome on her, among other things.

    Also, the girl in black has makeup on that makes her looked washed out, and her figure is no helped by what she is wearing.

    Check out this post. My argument is that Blake Lively is hotter in spite of her height, not because of it.

    Curious to see if you agree.

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  4. I think a huge part of Blake Lively's appeal is her long legs. They're long because she's tall. I don't think she'd be as popular if she was average height...so I disagree. I might be biased though because I'm a bit taller than average as well. But I've always found the long and lean look attractive, on both women and men.

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  5. You are right on about the heels. They are very sexy. They can be difficult to pull off where I work - the clicking of the heels on the tiles is so conspicuous!

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  6. this is again an informative post...I'd really be interested to know more about your thoughts on how girls can give off that flirty, playfulness on dates :)

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  7. Another vote in favor of tall girls in heels, but with a caveat: most tall women don't know how to walk in heels. Being graceful in heels is the key. While I have seen the two step shuffle with shorter girls (especially Asian girls, but that could be anecdotally), a tall girl that can rock a set a heels without me thinking of a horse clomping around immediately crushes all girls in attractiveness.

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  8. It's not about her height that her long legs are sexy, although her height does give her longer legs. The issue is that she has a great leg to body ratio; not all girls have legs that long relative to their bodies.

    I wonder if a graceful tall girl comes off as more attractive because her grace stands out more. There has to be a reason that taller women are often the model types, and I can't help but think it's related to visibility.

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  9. Tall girl chiming in here!
    First, I've almost never worn heels. You can get away with this by learning the cat walk -- pretty much walk like a model (1 foot crossing the other) with chest out, ass up, shoulders crossing naturally.
    By doing this I've capitalized on what my experience has shown is men's love of tall women. It seems to me that men fall into 2 camps -- those that love tall women and those that love them but are scared :-) Men seems to think of tall women as status symbols -- "I'm so alpha that I can rock this tall chick". Whether this is true or not, I don't care -- cuz I've never had a problem getting me guys that love the long legs!

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    1. I'm reading your comment 2 years later and must chime in... I am average height @ 5'6" and have a signature walk of my own. Runway, if you will. I have a male friend who told me that I have a strong strut but that I have to tone it down to look more feminine..you know, daisies, roses and cotton candy; Like I'm floating. Well, I've toned it down and now I don't use as much shoulder as I use to. It's a subtle sexy walk that STILL gets the attention of men and some women.

      And on your second comment about men using women as status symbols, rocking their latest woman like they're the latest handbag. That's lame. LOL It's just as bad as a woman going out with a guy simply because he has nice hair or big shoes/ feet.

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  10. I've definitely come across a couple guys with a thing for tall girls, but they are the exception rather than the rule. I have heard WAY more guy friends tell me that they love small girls that they can throw around in bed. Men like being dominant, and in general, the smaller the girl, the bigger we feel as men.

    I am turned off by female height. I am not intimidated in the least either - I just don't feel as much attraction. Height isn't everything, and isn't even a huge thing, so a tall girl can definitely overcome the small handicap it imposes.

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    1. Seeing as many models, like Victoria's Secret models, are 5"9 and 5"10, it seems heels are a handicap which a woman can entirely compensate for if she's hot enough. Or no?
      I've experienced also shorter guys enjoying a very hot taller woman - because women usually prefer a man taller than themselves, it gives off certain signals when she compromises. "I may be short, but it's obvious that I'm confident, cool, successful and wealthy, as I've got a girl who's both hot and taller than me".
      I've seen a couple of men who consciously go for that.

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  11. Heels are unhealthy & unpractical to wear. It's easy for someone else to say women should wear them, when that person is not the one having to function in them or deal with the myriad physical health consequences of it. Yes women can have flats with them to wear while they're in transit. Yes heels *look* sexy. But in reality, they're a practical hindrance most of the time, and a killer on health *in spite of* the fact that they *look* nice.

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    1. Some people forget about foot injuries that can happen while wearing high heels.

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  12. Impractical, for sure.
    Unhealthy, maybe (in excess, probably).
    Uncomfortable, yes.

    But this is the cost of beauty. You either suck it up and reap the benefits or you don't. Your attitude is actually an extreme instance of the one I was hoping to "conquer" with this post. I don't expect you to change your mind, but the point is that you need to make sacrifices in order to make yourself attractive.

    You need to wear clothes that are going to make you a little uncomfortable and you probably need to spend more time than you'd otherwise like getting ready each morning, or before going out.

    What I am trying to point out is that the benefit of doing these things is a lot greater than most women realize, so (knowing this) it should be a little easier to motivate yourself to do them.

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    1. Painful, a health hazard, but looking nice for men whose values are utterly superficial and dominated by their infantile egos is far more important. A young guy with a knife mugged me one night and fortunately I wasn't wearing heels so I could fight him off and escape. But maybe I should have been wearing heels, then I would have looked more attractive while I was doing it

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    2. And despite common perceptions to the contrary, not every guy thinks heels make the opposite sex more attractive. I personally can't stand heels. I don't think they do anything for the person wearing them, and they have a long list of downsides, including long term foot/spine damage issues. From a purely practical perspective, what if you need to run? Your only option is to kick off the heels and run barefoot, hoping there's no broken glass on the street. I was hoping heels would have died off by now as the 20th century equivalent of foot binding but they haven't. Sure, they may attract some guys, but most likely not the kind of guys you want to attract. I prefer the opposite sex in normal foot ware where they can actually keep up with me if running is a necessity, like maybe to catch a train.

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  13. Very funny! I actually went on a blind date once and since I knew he wasn't very tall I chose to wear flats. (first blind date, I know I know!!) The moment I arrived he looked straight at my feet and the sheer look of disappointment on his face made me wish I had chosen differently.

    We had a fine date but of course, he never called!! I blame the flats.

    You are so right about the heels. It will never happen again. :)

    Kate

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  14. Shoes now-adays have the heel stuck out on the end of the foot. That doesn't allow a rolling stride. More like CLOMP CLOMP.

    When I shop for shoes, I look for a heel that leans back to the center of the foot, or a sculpted heel that brings the impact area in to the arch area. It's amazing how natural and comfortable heels can be when they are designed properly.

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  15. I am curious, do you think Blake is close to a 10 in that photo in the turqoise dress?
    I personally find her very attractive, some of it is nature-given (pretty face, long legs) but a LOT of it has to do with styling (which proves your point on effort). Gossip Girl is about fashion, and she is always styled to make her figure look its very best. She hasn't actually got a nature-given "wow" body, a couple of the seasons of GG she was slightly on the chubbier side, but they always made it work.
    Her hair always looks great, and I actually think it's naturally full rather than extensions.

    The height + heels hing is difficult though. I am 5"9 1/2 and I am happy about it, as I also have long legs for my height. I do wear heels and often feel that I am towering over people. My close friend is 6 feet with even longer legs and men, often also short ones, love her. She has ultra-long hair and is very elegant though. However I think the height comes with an extra responsibility: you need to stay very slim in order to not appear massive, I keep my hair very long and try to bring focus to legs. My face is feminine which helps. I certainly get men's need to "throw a woman around in bed" and am afraid I cannot contribute to that :/

    I can add that the girl in black, Leighton Meester, is actually very pretty with a great body. Although she could have been styled differently, it is hard to match Blake here. Not only is she a blonde bombshell, she has made the most of it. Slightly cruel to Leighton, she is wearing both a short dress AND nude peep-toe pumps, which is the most leg-lengthening of shoes. (Because they are skin-coloured, open in the toe and lengthens the silhouette). Shoes that continues up the ankles, like Leighton's, shortens the legs. Despite men fancying smaller women, I think they still would benefit from dressing in a way that creates a long silhouette.

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  16. I've also read the the way a foot sits in the heel is what a womans foot is shaped like during orgasm.

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  17. Hi,
    I agree that heels look great on most women. I wore heels for years and now I have hammer toes, corns, calluses, etc. Heels are horrible for women's feet.

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    1. Yeah but you looked good for all that time. The price of beauty may be high but you do get something for it. It isn't like you lost your foot ;)

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    2. My mother wore heels every day for years and now she lives with excruciating pain every day for the rest of her life because of it. They caused her to need multiple, expensive surgeries on both of her feet. She even has permanent screws in one of her feet. She walks with a limp, and her feet are both turned out, giving her a "ducklike" appearance. They definitely have a high cost:benefit ratio, so I don't think that 'wear heels all the time' is good advice. Heels should be a "dress to impress" type thing, not an everyday staple.

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    3. Heels should be an occasional thing since they do mess up your feet. However if you have a sexy walk you don't need to wear heels all the time.

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    4. Yep, you get a lot for all that pain. The attention of mindless idiots

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  18. Heels don't work for me. I'm 5'8" and 112 pounds and I end up looking like a giraffe. Towering over a guy because you've got heels on is just not sexy. Added height also makes me look thinner, which isn't cute. I will buy kitten heels whenever I come across a cute pair, but adding 3-4 inches with a standard pair of heels only works for girls of a certain height. I like the catwalk comment above.

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    1. Put on some weight, then go buy some heels! ;)

      5'8" isn't too tall for heels. It's not as great as 5'4" but it's still doable.

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    2. Marissa Miller, megababe, is 5'8'', 110 lb. You don't need to put on some weight, honey. Maybe tone up your bottom and shoulders to increase the hourglass look, but lovehandles are never more attractive than none.

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  19. I'm almost 5"10. I've always gotten a lot of attention from men, some taller but also some shorter. The butt/legs part of me has always been one of my top assets, so I generally wear heels. One of my exes was the same height as me, so slightly below average for a man. However he loved me wearing high heels, even if it made him shorter.
    I'd say the rest of me (face + hair) is my main asset, so it is possible that I get attention in spite of my height when I wear heels. Am I at a height where I should preferably avoid it? In stilettos I'd easily be 6", so if most men want to be taller than their girl (?), I'd narrow down the pool of guys a bit. What do you think?

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    1. It's a balance that every girl your height needs to strike for herself. I can't tell you what size heels to wear because even if I could see photos of you, it would just be my opinion, not the opinion of every man. In this post I just want to make sure that women understand that heels are powerful, and that you shouldn't rule them out without considering what you lose in terms of posture.

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  20. I am 5'4 and I am used to dating men much taller than me. Recently I decided to give shorter guys a shot. I hate the idea of showing up to a date taller than a man, so I've opted for heels. As for the shape, I already have a butt that sticks out and my lower back curves like naturally, I feel like the only thing I am missing in flats are more defined calve muscles.

    Any suggestions when going out with men in the 5'6-8 range?

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  21. Leave off the heels at first so as not to get "disqualified" based on height, but definitely break them out if things progress from there.

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  22. All I have to say is the saying "It's not easy being beautiful." is absolute truth, along with the other addage, "The longer it takes to put on, the faster it comes off."

    Here's the thing ladies, you have to feel good about what you wear! And I agree with the poster above indicating that some women do not know how to walk in heels and consequently end-up looking goofy and akward!

    If you feel good, you look good. It's really about balance and being self-aware!

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  23. How do most guys (from your experience) feel about girls being taller than them?

    I'm 5"9 - I wear heeled boots sometimes during the day, which means I'll be 5"11. On nights out I wear higher heels, meaning I'll be around 6".
    I have never had problems with male attention, so I don't get the feeling I'm "missing out" on anyone due to heels. My last boyfriend was 6"2, the guy I am dating now is about my height - which means in heels he is a tad shorter.

    I don't know how guys feel about a tall, leggy girl in heels next to them. I sometimes see very short guys with very tall girls (almost without exception they are wealthy), and I get a strong impression they consider it a status symbol ("she's with me, so obviously I'm worth it"). Maybe they think they won't find a girl shorter than them, so they might as well go really tall?

    What is your experience with male friends in regards to a woman's height? I like wearing heels and feel like the benefit they give me in regards to posture/leg shape/appearance outweighs the "negatives" of my height.

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  24. what if you're 6ft 6'? Do i really want to make myself another 4 inches taller than the guy i'm into on top of the 10 inches taller I already am and make myself even more intimidating?

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  25. I have no problems with tall or short women who wear high heels. It's the ladies who choose to live in them everyday, morning, noon and night. I shake my head sometimes when I see women walking awkwardly in 4 inch+ heels at sporting events, concerts or any place where you have to stand for a long time. All just to look taller means taking the risk of falling on their butts trying to get around and past crowds of people. I know women are supposed to have a higher threshold of pain but it doesn't surprise me at the end of the night seeing hords of women walking barefoot or in their stockings carrying their deadly spikes in hand. I've seen chicks in winter leaving bars walking barefoot in snow because they would rather deal with the cold rather than the pain of their shoes.

    A buddy of mine has a theory about women who love high heels, especially the pointed-toe kind. They have the nastiest feet and I believe it more and more each time I meet a woman who's shoe closet is dominated by high heels. Dating experts say men who like taller women should approach the ones who wear flats. The suggested impression is that these women are trying to take attention away from their tallness by making themselves look more approachable to all guys, especially those who are shorter. Although not entirely true, I will say from experience that a tall woman who's comfortable in her own skin won't care how much taller she is than her man. I've seen couples arm in arm where the woman is easily more than half a foot taller.

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    1. Yours is a very American viewpoint.

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  26. Like heels but don't like the problems with your feet that go with heels ? Simple. Try Wedges or Chunky heels. They both have the same effects as pointy heels but allow more of the body weight to be placed on the actual heel than on the soles or front of the feet. I've been wearing heels my whole life since I'm only 5 feet 1 inch - I can run and do cross country in them, which lots of people, especially men, don't believe.

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  27. I have two things on this that go against me:

    1. I'm on the taller side (5'7") and wearing heels tends to make me feel too tall. I don't like that.

    2. They HURT. And I don't like pain.

    So I will just do the best I can. I have great legs, even without them. So I'll just have to remember to always stand up straight because heels is a no.

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    1. 5"7 is not that tall. I'm 5"9 and I wear heels all the time. The benefits are usually greater than the disadvantage of being taller than some men. I have taller friends who wear heels too.
      If all heels hurt, you should practice with small heels or wedges in the meantime. You should also get better quality shoes.

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  28. Women have achieved power in the workplace and wearing heels neutralizes that evolutionary anomaly. Evolution takes millions of years , social changes a generation. Men are attracted to women's power and women's tallness.The tallness
    is a tangible expression of female power and high heels allows men that fantasy to make a women like a goddess. Fantasies are not weird or strange.As long as there is no pain involved fantasy lets you explore the duality of your nature. General Petraeus was attracted to Paula Broadwell be cause in heel she was taller than him and overpowered him physically and that excited him. Now if he wasn't married and head of the CIA there would be no moral issue. But a powerful man like him was excited by a tall strong woman who overpowered him psychologically and sexually.

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  29. Read this post and it seems logical to me.
    Do men have a preference regarding the kind of heels? Chunky? Stiletto? Or "as long as it's high?"

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    1. Respectfully disagree. You lose the leg-lengthening benefit because visually there's now this huge "chunk" at the end of the leg, instead of a tapered foot. The other "boobs and butt" benefits are still there, though.

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  30. Hmm, I guess you would become even hotter if you did all these painful, costly things, but they are not strictly needed to attract men. Unless you're trying to attract top men. They are not the cost of beauty (that is, you can have beauty without them). Healthy lifestyle, good dress and makeup sense, staying out of the sun are the cost of beauty, for the most part. These don't have to be costly or painful.

    I'd save money for that costy dangerous stuff for an older age.

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  31. What's the best balance between attractiveness and safety? I tried moving around in heels before and almost effed up my legs, and I'm scared that if I wear the wrong height again I'll end up in a wheelchair. Is 1" acceptable?

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  32. My boyfriend is only 1 inch taller than me, but I get a large amount of satisfaction every day from feeling sexy- I want to experimentally find out if flatter shoes can be part of feeling fabulous every day, but also feeling attracted to and comfortable around him, which cannot work for me if I'm taller. I'm very toned (like, very toned) and 5'5''. Do you think the typical flats, like ballet flats or sandals, or 1 inch heels, would unavoidably lean me to cute instead of sexy? Or can such things be compensated for almost entirely by other outfit choices?


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  33. I live in Canada, and in my city, there is snow on the ground for about half of the year. High shoes, beyond a bit of height, are not practical and a lot of women at my university (they care about attractiveness, by the way; good-looking place) wear fashionable boots to school each day, most of them with a 1 inch heel, say. Winter, with on-campus walking, alters heel practicality. ... Have you ever considered sex appeal in boots? Winter boots or even rain boots, which my cousin told me are fashionable in parts of the rainy UK? I have a pair of winter boots that make me feel sexy, which is a big part of the battle itself, oui?, but they're getting ruined from wearing the same pair everyday, so I might seek another this season... In short, do you have any advice on choosing boots for sex appeal? Similarly, as summer rolls around, sandals come in. Have you heard of any sex appeal preferences (not individual, but common across men) in sandals- and bathing suits! (I'm in the market for a bathing suit, and want a one-piece, which, perhaps oddly, I think would be sexier on me, if it's cut attractively. Given that you're almost naked, could enhanced modesty in a bathing suit actually be more attractive? Do you have any tips?) I realize I've asked multiple questions here, but if you could enlighten any, I'd appreciate it. Clothing advice abounds, but it's mostly from women, and might be from a fashion, not attractiveness, point of view. ... Some day, I might have the opportunity and nerve to ask some guys I know for said info.
    Lastly, also unrelated to heels, but related to the beach (I'm suggesting a summer article by you!), I have fair skin (by choice- that is, I protect my skin from the sun religiously). I like it, I find light skin more beautiful than tanned/dark- this isn't self-acceptance, my brain just finds it much more beautiful. But, that doesn't mean most people, including men, like it. Most men's mag models and porn stars are tanned, which suggests that men prefer tans. I would never ever self-tan, because, frankly, I like being sexy for myself, first and foremost- I please myself first visually (honestly, have a somewhat bisexual-ish appreciation of feminine beauty, with my own taste)- however, I would like to know if you think being light-skinned limits the number of white men who would want to date me. I know it doesn't limit other ethnicities, as travel shows one, white skin is coveted. But among North American caucasions... the prevalance of tans on strippers, mens' mag models, etc cannot be chance. ... Or do tans hide skin imperfections, so they appear as a kind of airbrushing, separate from their aesthetic appeal, per se?
    Any reply is appreciated. Bye now, Andrew.

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  34. I tried an experiment this week,same outfit with Ugg boots or with high block heels of 3.5".I did this whilst grocery shopping,on the way to meet friends,going to the gym etc. Every time I got more attention when wearing heels, no approaches but many more looks from men.This is despite wearing a winter coat to just above my knees

    Andrew is completely right about the power of heels, block heels or wedges are a good idea if you're not comfortable with stilettos.

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  35. Stilettos are not that difficult to walk in. It takes some getting used to, but soon you will be able to walk at a safe pace.

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  36. Hey Andrew, do men find stilettos more attractive compared to the comfier platforms/wedges? Or do they even notice a difference?

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    1. Wedges make you look nice. Stilettos make you look NICE.

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  37. I do agree that heels look good but they are SO unhealthy.
    They slowly destroy your posture over time and give you knee, back, ankle and tendon problems. The strain and unnatural movement patterns in your muscles, joints and tendons is NOT good for you in the long-term! You won't be very attractive as a hunchback!
    Once in a while, on a night out, sure they look good. But otherwise there are plenty of nice shoes out there that won't ruin your joints and muscles.

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  38. I have to agree about the heels. I started wearing heels recently after losing weight but not the stiletto types. I'm still self conscious about pumps and sandals (toenail issue due to my workout regimen too soon after surgery OOPS!) but I've discovered heeled booties and I've been getting a lot of attention at work. A LOT! I buy high quality shoes instead of cheap. It makes a huge difference. Just have to buy on sale or clearance. Compromise a little on seasons.

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  39. Hi Andrew, what do you suggest if one's foot doctor says "Don't even think about it" due to multiple foot problems? Is there something I can do to compensate for the flats, or should I resign myself to sensibly shod celibacy?

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    1. Why don't you work on other things that could also attract men? (e.g., haircut, dress, smile, being approachable) Besides, you won't feel comfortable and relaxed on your date and in public if you are in pain.

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  40. I'm 5'8" and although I can't wear heels as much as I used to (10-12 hours a day 6-7 days a week!), I definitely feel more attractive in them than flats. Flats are pretty much just not female-sexy. That's why straight men don't wear them. If you want to appear more sexy then get some heels, stand up straight and learn how to walk in them.

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  41. Tricks to wearing heels from a shoe saleswoman

    Please get sized 80% of women wear the wrong shoe size.

    If there is a gap in the back you may need a halter to put in the front of the shoe to push you back.

    Look for a heel with a platform when possible, It helps make for a better angle.

    If you wear heels everyday you can actuality short your calf muscle and then it can me come painful to wear flats. Solve this problem by varying your heel heights you wear.

    Wear flats to walk to your destination and check them at the coat check then slip on heals.

    Keep in mind flats with no support can be just as bad as for your feet st heels. Our foot is designed to walk on grass on uneven terrain.

    Yes those $300 shoes are more comfortable and better for your feet then the $65 pair most of the time. Shoes are a lot like cars you get what you pay for.

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    1. Bull. Any heel at all is unhealthy. Stop peddling ignorance here.

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  42. Hi Andrew,
    This post is interesting to me because I live in Edinburgh, Scotland where it is typical for girls to dress like hookers for a night out. Literally, had to argue for ages with my mother about whether every girl she saw was a hooker or not. I'm American and I've lived in four countries and on both coasts of the U.S. so I have seen a lot of variation in the way women dress depending on their culture.
    Last night, I was at a night club and observing the women there with some of your posts in the back of my mind. I often try to look at women from a man's perspective so that I can understand what makes them look attractive, and what works against them.
    By the end of the night I came to the conclusion that, what I would usually think of as fake or slutty (the short dresses with no tights, fake tans, tons of makeup, and hair that I don't even understand) probably was in fact attractive to men, but the heels seemed to be the main thing that brought them into the territory of "tacky."
    This is why:
    1. If a woman does not know how to walk in heels, or they are not heels she can actually walk in, she will look less attractive. None of the benefits you mentioned above apply if the girl cannot stand up straight and walk properly.
    2. Some women I see walking home from the clubs have either been smart enough to change into flats, but the vast majority are disgustingly walking home, all sloppily drunk, not wearing shoes at all. Or they are walking with a guy and complaining. Men hate this.
    3. The shoes people choose to wear. Most of these girls are wearing these heels that are just too high for them to be able to dance in all night or even walk at all, and occasionally they have these tacky rhinestones on them, or something otherwise that just makes them look horribly cheap. Coupled with the short dresses and nothing in between the heels and the dress... it definitely leads them into prostitute resemblance territory. Then couple that with how sloppy drunk everyone is, and it translates to one thing: easy lay.
    I'm not saying I disagree that heels are attractive, it's just the way I would say the majority of women are wearing them.
    Most women do not know how to walk in heels.
    Period.
    I think it does more hurt than good if you end up in any of the above 3 categories.
    By the end of night, I was convinced that these girls can keep their fried hair and dyed skin if only they would wear flats.
    P.S. I actually wear ballroom dancing shoes to weddings (probably the only time I wear heels, yes) because they are high heels that you can actually dance in all night without being in pain.
    But I'm single so what do I know?

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  43. P.S. While in that same night club, a guy came up to me and started talking to me. He was wearing a kilt and I asked him where he had come from. He said he and his friends had all just graduated. He said they were studying to be teachers of physical education. He asked me what I do. I said I'm a Master's student. He said "You're probably a lot smarter than me. *awkward silence* Well, have a nice night." And went back to dancing with his kilted friends. Reminded me of your post on whether men are intimidated by female intelligence. Just wanted to share.

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  44. I think the reason that men are attracted to women in heels is because when a woman walks well in them, she is still just precariously upright, as in she is- between every step- slightly off-balance, and could possibly fall. That millisecond wiggle catches a mans eye because it is in his biology to protect and in this case, to catch her. When a woman wears heels, the men who see her feel strong. I enjoy this aspect of mens psychology. Of course, a closed, angular-moving woman in heels is not going to see the same response from men as an open, flowing one. The former looking like a lot of work, the latter looking like a lot of fun.

    I am 5ft7 and I like to wear heels, but I wear good quality heels and can spend about four hours doing grocery shopping and walking about carrying things, before my feet get sore. The rest of the time, I am barefoot (and at home with children), so my feet show no signs of high-heel-damage.

    Thanks to the commenter who recommended ballroom shoes! I would love some of those!

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  45. High heels are most certainly beautiful, but always more limiting than any other type of shoe. A girl in high heels is not up for much, she'll be extremely passive. She can participate in short walks or certain social events, but she will be more or less immobile, in a way that a flat-shoed lady won't be. She'll get tired easily, and from my own observations - have a funny walk (most females never actually master the high-heeled walk).
    High heels are a limitation, not to mention that they are frequently unhealthy (my foot arches are prolapsed due to wearing high heels for many years). It's probably best not to recommend heels to women, especially "in the grocery store" - that's downright silly.

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  46. Suffice to say I am 6'0 tall and I love High Heels! I have been wearing the publicly since 14 years old and at home since I was a toddler in my mom's High Heels. It was ♥ at first sight for me. As for pain, it usually revolves around, not buying the proper size and or style, far too many women refuse to admit their feet are a certain size and try to force their feet into a size smaller than they actually are.

    Sadly the shoe industry should realize today's woman has feet slightly larger than her mom or grandmother, but the sizes never kept up with the trend and made all sizes larger. Another factor are widths, the designer shoe industry should make their styles in wider widths, many do not, forcing many women that love designer High Heels into narrower widths. Lastly are styles, all women's feet are different women have long slender feet, others short and curvy, some long slender toes others with short toes.

    Women should vary heel heights, women unaccustomed to towering heels should start out with lower heels and gradually work up to very High... High Heels and the proper style slingbacks v pumps sandals with strapping and latices appropriate to their feet, proper pedicure of the feet also helps also avoid ridiculously long toenails, keep them properly trimmed.

    Believe it or not many communities have High Heel classes on how to walk properly in them, proper gait etc and what is called high-heel-aerobics, I kid you not! So try those tips. Never ever allow height to interfere with heels, so what if you are equal height or taller than your man put those old ideas away, enjoy your height, its a blessing!

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  47. Everything the author states about high heels is accurate. But if these are the reasons why women look hot in heels to men, then why are heels also attractive when a woman is seated? I would add that pointing the feet makes the legs appear longer, whether standing or seated.

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  48. What a load of b.s. Any woman who wears high heels is an idiot and is no different from women who resorted to footbinding in China years ago. Who the hell cares what men want? It's not worth ruining your health.

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  49. good lord how you all fall off the basic subject theirs no BS about the power of high heels I have been married for 20 yrs to a beauitful women and yes she can walk in them and no she does not wear them to the point of ruining her feet common sense right foot health is not the subject anyway thats what all the women that dont wear heels alwayes bring up and I dont believe the subject really is about hooker heels and wear is this city were all these cheep heeled women are staggering home in glitter ugly slut heels why are you their sounds like great place right hears the facts ladies its not your height its not your weight so to the point its simple my beautiful wife can go out without heels everything is good I see countless men checking her out smiling I can actually see some of them do the head to toe thing and still smile even when she is in quality flats or low heeled boots when we go out and she is wearing her high heels even in slacks or jeans with her brown spanish leather pumps little over four inch heel tapered stiletto very sexy heel no platform and off to town we go at this point I am half way to town and still thinking about how hot she looked gliding i mean walking out to my car could it possibly be the heels ya think I love her ether way but the heels really make it work its like framing the picture I love it cant wait to get to town and show her off now here we are in now mind you this is only about the three hundredth time in twenty years so dont listen to me what do I know well this is what I do know the difference when the instent her sexy stilettos hit the ground the looks start I call it the first look then thats not enough I know they have to see her walk in sexy pumps spinning around to get that second look they cant help it I not kidding they are willing to be caught by their wife or female friend checking out my girls hot heels again poor suckers dont realize they were caught the first time by their flip flop wearing wifes those kind of women can spot a high heeled threat a mile away and are watching their male counter part to see if his high heel radar is on and he is going to try the old sneek a peek trick on my hot wife in heels she has already spotted with keen sences minutes before her lover boy she does this because she does not own a pair nor would she ever wear them they could ruein her feet for life dont you all know this little does she know shes the one with the problem its called be insecure with ones self normal women like my wife that like heels are not bothered by the other high heeled women and will even check them out and if their hot or sexy she will point them out to me and ask if I like them I alwayes give a quick thought before I answer and say if I like the something like yes but they would look a lot better on you baby or Ill tell her you look twice as sexy in yours hon Ive even seen other normal chicks check out her heels and smile at her I have watched men taking pictures of my babyes heels with I phones pretending I guess with their heads down txting or what ever their trying to pull off as their following her from a distance and we havent even made it to the restaurant by the end of the night the end of countless nights with sexy not sluty heels complement after complement from men and women she has had incounters with the how do you wear those heels chicks only because they caught their date ckecking out her heels so my point is yes all the difference in the world when wearing heels I really could go on for a long while telling cool stories about her heels its true wake up dont thing for a second that it is not a factor didnt miss monroe once say give me a sexy pair off heels and I rule the the world remember high heel envy will eat you up every time you go out ladyes m

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  50. Heels are too impractical for most dates...at least for me; before I started reading this blog, I was looking up date outfits without heels on YT. I know I will have to cave and wear them more often than wanted but if I am to be relaxed and comfortable and myself...heels are out the questions. So I will be finding sexier styles that don't require heels or tall heels at least.

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  51. Only a man would advise a woman to wear heels all day long at work or at the grocery store. I wish you spend some time writing posts about what it takes to make a relationship last. All of your posts seem to be about how a woman can attract a man or handle him after he dumps her. I accept that men are simple, visual creatures who need to be turned on sexually to get things started, but high heels aren't going to keep a relationship going. Looks fade. Feet will start hurting....and while everyone on this blog is young, you're going to get older and hooking up at the club, wearing high heels, and tight, hot clothes can't go on forever. Men need to appreciate the women they are with because of who she is; because of her character not because of her shoes or tight ass.

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    1. I think Andrew's problem is that he is great at analyzing how to attract a man initially and how to proceed after a break up, and yet not how to stay in a long term, healthy relationship because he himself hasn't gotten there yet. He's still at that hunting, hooking up mode, even during relationship. He hasn't gotten to the part where you truely yet go, learn to be vulnerable arounda partner, and experience the joy of a real, happy, stable relationship.

      Sorry Andrew, don't mean to sound aggressive, but that's who you are, and I think it is only right if you acknowledge your limitation in the range of advises you can give due to limited experience. Just so you don't mislead women into people that think being hot and having boundaries while getting to know a guy is all there is to relationships.

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