Saturday, December 22, 2012

Sex Ratio In New York City

In the spirit of the post I made recently about considering where you live and work, those of you who live in New York City will be interested to read this post on NYCEDC:

http://nycedc.tumblr.com/post/16175652438/ratio-of-single-men-to-single-women-in-nyc-new

It looks in more detail at the sex ratio in New York City, and attempts to debunk the "myth" that there are so many more women than men living there. A cursory look at the numbers across most of Manhattan, however, combined with the realization that leaving Manhattan isn't very common for those who live there, seems to actually support the stereotype. In any case, have a look:


If I were a single girl living in Manhattan, I would do everything I could to aggressively suppress my Sex-and-The-City-induced romantic notions of "city life" and get the hell out of there.

17 comments:

  1. I actually lived in Williamsburg for the past year but have recently just moved back to my home state of CA. You hear girls talking about how men in NY are so lucky that they have the advantage. In reality based off of what I have seen in NY as a female is that there are SO many attractive women in the city. You may think you're a 9 on a hot scale of 1-10 in the city you were born in (if out of NY state) but when you move to NY you drop down to a 7 and start using the excuse that you're at a disadvantage.

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    1. Wow, that's so weird because I'm from New York City, and I now live in Los Angeles, and on average the girls seem way hotter here.

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  2. Thanks Andrew, another thing that the data does not mention is that of the single man population who live in NYC, there is a large percentage of them who are gay so that leaves even less options for single straight women. I'm staying here for now but I totally agree.

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  3. I grew up in the city (grammercy), went to school in the west village, and didn't have a problem meeting guys. i did also look great and have a massive trust fund, which apparently doesn't hurt. well, i moved in dc and the prospects aren't great. all i see are short, unattractive men with little confidence. it's sad. i hear the prospects are better in europe!

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    1. not really.... trust me...

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  4. I was thinking of moving to NYC next year, as it is the place to live at least once in your lifetime, being the most important city and all..., but it looks like more inevitable dating distress, and therefore a life suck, so maybe Alaska, where men literally fight over women.

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    1. Honey, don't move to Alaska! You're damn right the men fight over women - it has the highest rate of rape anywhere in the US! No thanks. As a lifelong New Yorker and now a happily married girl, NYC is great for dating - IF you are VERY VERY attractive. I never had a problem finding quality guys but I have less attractive girlfriends who can't seem to get a break. The competition is tough. Just follow the advice on this blog. It's great.

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    2. I think that being VERY VERY attractive as a woman is a significant shift in any state, not just New York.

      But question, if your so attractive, have no problems with men, and are married, why are you on this blog?

      Also, what kind of things do you notice your less attractive friends dealing with that you didn't?

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  5. I'm not sure where you live but as a lifelong New Yorker, let me point out that the blue areas on the map showing where the most single guys are happen to be neighborhoods with guys that most girls would NOT want to date! (Staten Island guidos, ghetto guys, poor men, working class immigrants) I guess all the good guys ARE taken. :-)

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    1. Interesting point, thanks for this. While I am sure some readers like those guys, it is worth noticing that quantity and quality are rarely correlated.

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    2. Except in this blog where you tell us to appeal to the masses (of men) in hopes of finding quality :)

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  6. Juliette- thanks for the tip, I think you are successful because of your looks and because you are a native. That doesn't work for every body. http://www.forbes.com/sites/jennagoudreau/2011/02/10/are-new-yorks-savviest-single-women-in-crisis/
    I am gleaning my info from other NYC women- mostly writers. Edith Wharton wrote about how tough it was to find a good man- remember gorgeous Lily Bart 'The house of Mirth', she ODd in the end, still young. Remember hottie Candace Bushnell 'Sex and the City'? the book is DARK, she had to lighten it up A LOT to sell the screenplay to HBO, and those were all true stories. Yikes! Many beautiful, brilliant, connected women paying half their income for rent, and then netting worse personal life results than Ms. Average in Middle America? Is it really worth it? Is being a social climber the only way to live there? I would think there must be some "gettable" men- Just don't target NYSE traders, market makers, surgeons, etc...

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  7. HAHAHA. i just left manhattan and was looking forward to dating when i got back to cali.

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    1. Details....? Elaborate.....?

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  8. I'm a woman and a New Yorker and have NEVER had problems dating, finding decent guys and filling my social calendar. I credit this though to my willingness to date non-Manhattan, non-finance and non-wealthy guys -- my unfortunate mid-20s habit of dating Wall Street traders drove me to reconsider my approach and I'm so glad I have. While the guys I date don't have drivers and table service at the hottest club in the Meatpacking district, they also don't have 10 women like me following them around and vying for their attention. I date genuine guys who are grounded, stable and while they may not live the high life, they certainly know how to have fun and treat a woman well. It amazes me how many of my friends remain Manhattan and finance-centric in their dating lives and continue to meet with disappointment. Branch out, ladies! There are really nice guys in Brooklyn, Queens and the Bronx (and even Staten Island if you are adventurous enough to get on the ferry). They work in creative fields, are police officers or perform scientific research. Plenty of good guys out there when you don't limit yourself to the very narrow finance/socialite scene in Manhattan.

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  9. Wow, that's so strange because I spend some years here and and never thought the Manchester escorts the hottest girl here.

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