Thursday, February 20, 2014

There Is Nothing Modest About Loose Jeans

Every now and then I meet or see a girl wearing loose jeans. By "loose" I don't mean that the crotch is sagging around her knees, I just mean that there are places on her hips, ass and upper legs where the fabric is not touching her skin. I suspect that girls do this for one of three reasons:

(a) They think their figure isn't attractive enough to wear tight jeans.
(b) The think that tight jeans are immodest.
(c) They don't care about their appearance and loose jeans are more comfortable.

I realize I won't convince group (c) of anything, so I am only going to address (a) and (b). Let's start with group (a)...

No matter how fat you are, or how badly your ass is shaped, loose jeans make it look worse. Tight jeans might not make your ass or legs look good, but loose jeans will make you look like a man.

As for the group concerned with modesty: you need a reality check. Tight jeans are not provocative; they are normal. Despite what your parents probably raised you to believe, modesty is not something objective. What looks "appropriate" or "slutty" or "conservative" changes significantly depending on two things: context and social norms.

If you were to walk down the street of your city in a bikini in the middle of winter it would shock people and look slutty. Any man who saw it would be turned on. But on the beach, bikinis are normal. Men are much less turned on by them because they are expected. They don't look slutty at all. This is what I mean by context.

In Victorian times, swimsuits were less-revealing than most women's dresses are today. Today, swimsuits are more revealing than most women's underwear in Victorian times. Dress-like swimsuits didn't seen slutty or over-conservative in Victorian times, and neither do bikinis today. This is what I mean by social norms.

Here is the thing: modesty isn't a function of the quantity of skin you show, or the tightness of the clothes you wear; it is defined by how much your outfit makes men (or people in general) think that sex with you is imminent. The more you incite in men the thought that they can bang you easily, the less modest your outfit is. This is why short dresses are so much more sexual than pants. Men see you in a short dress and part of their subconscious recognizes that your vagina is essentially exposed (i.e. from the bottom). Sex seems much more accessible and immediate because there is only one thin layer of clothing covering the most sexually intimate part of your body.

But the threshold for triggering a man's thoughts of sexual proximity - the criterion for immodesty - is entirely relative to social norms and context. The man on the beach doesn't think sex is imminent when he sees you wearing a bikini, because every woman on the beach is wearing in a bikini, and he knows it is for swimming or sunbathing. But in 1910, if a man saw a woman on the beach in a bikini, he'd be sure that she was a woman of loose morals - and he'd probably be right.

Anyway, the point here is that wearing tight jeans in everyday American life is about as shocking as wearing a bikini on the beach in 2014. And wearing loose jeans in everyday American life is far more similar than you think to wearing a Victorian bathing costume to a Las Vegas pool party. Perhaps more importantly, when you use your clothes rather than your behavior to be modest, you are far more similar than you think to the girls who use their clothes rather than their behavior to get sexual attention. Don't be so sure that you are more intelligent just because you made the mistake about modesty rather than sexuality.

Is there an opposite extreme, where tight jeans start to look like a bikini on a Victorian-era beach (i.e. slutty)? Yeah, probably, but that's not the point - there are always excesses on both extremes. Today I happen to be calling out the conservatives.

So remember: wearing loose jeans doesn't avoid the wrong kind of attention; it just makes you look terrible.


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59 comments:

  1. Thanks for making me laugh today. A solid post as always!

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  2. Interesting take on loose fitting clothes. I have known of a few modesty queens who look down on people who wear clothes that are tighter and expose more skin, and just looking at them males me almost sweat because they must be hot underneath all those clothes. But you have a pretty good point in all this. It's fine if someone wants to be modest, but they don't have to wear oversized clothes.

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  3. You should have posted an image of Amy Poehler in her "mom jeans" on Saturday Night Live.

    Even among all the unsophisticated fashion attempts I encounter in a rural area, I don't think I've seen this mistake. The fattest girls that I know are aware that they can stuff their asses into jeans like a can of biscuits, and this actually shapes their figures in a more desirable way for the most part. Except for the muffin top that is not always concealed properly. But there are plenty of tops that can camouflage that until they get to the gym.

    Denim is a very forgiving fabric, and there are so many different cuts of jeans now that there is a pair to flatter every frame. Anyone who is unsure of what cuts to wear and how to wear them should go to a store like Buckle where the staff will help you find different things. They'll know how to dress you.

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    1. I agree, most women these days insist on wearing the thinnest, most-revealing leggings possible. Even when they are fat too overweight to pull them off!

      In rural areas, I tend to see women still wearing bootleg jeans, which makes me laugh as they look sooo dated. They are usually tight though.

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    2. What's wrong with bootcut jeans :/ They make my legs look slimmer and longer. Most people I know can't wear them because their legs are on the shorter side.

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  5. Agree 100% on this post! Andrew-what are your thoughts on hats in warm weather? Although I think those swimming trunks are cute in a retro sort of way, your point is well-taken. ...when i'm on vacation in warm beachy areas my daily wear for sightseeing: 2piece bikini, and shorts. it's revealing, but very comfy and effortless. as a conservative dresser, i believe that sexy isn't synonymous with slutty.

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    1. @Emily L.:

      I'm going to make an educated guess on this. I'm thinking most guys, other than the "rural area type" who can be intimidated by high fashion, like hats on girls about 1/4 of the time at most, when worn in environments that call for hats. Like a day at the lake during the summer.

      I've frequently had outdoor summer jobs that call for hats (lifeguard, horseback riding instructor, etc) and once had a boyfriend that complained I wore baseball caps too often. I took his point and reduced the cap wearing, although I'm athletic, outdoorsy and have more appropriate reasons to wear caps than most.

      I'm also a frequent yoga pants/sneakers offender. I understand the points made against these clothing items in the name of "effort," but at least I'm slim and toned while wearing them. I legitimately work out, etc. Fashion critics of this look usually say smart assed things like, "What? Are you headed to the gym?"

      "Yep, as a matter of fact, I am." LOL.

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    2. I am not a fan of hats on girls. I've never seen one make a girl more attractive. If you can find a picture where you think it makes a positive difference, post a link and I'll try to let you know what I think.

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    3. @Andrew:

      Thank you for clarifying.

      I don't think anyone would argue that a hat "improves" a girl's look.

      I meant that hats are probably acceptable in an appropriate setting. Like a girl at the lake in a bikini and baseball cap.

      There is no appropriate place for mom jeans. They are unflattering and have no use at all times.

      My impression is that hats, like sneakers, look lazy and tomboyish, but are not the same level of fashion "mistake" as mom jeans.

      Is that about right?

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    4. Baseball caps are horrific and should not be worn by anyone over 12 years old, least of all a woman. I disagree with both of you though. I love hats, well, one type of hat in a particular. I love vintage clothing mixed with contemporary clothing, so I wear a clouche hat in winter.

      https://www.google.com/search?q=cloche+hat&rlz=1C1TEUA_enGB502&espv=210&es_sm=93&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=USsJU4ynDMGM7AbhvIGIDQ&ved=0CD8QsAQ&biw=1366&bih=600#q=vintage+cloche+hat&tbm=isch

      This is high fashion baby! Love it or loathe it - the hat stays. The hat commands attention, mystery and sexiness.

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    5. Hats seem to be one of those things that depends on personal preference. I'm not a fan of the cloche. It looks like an ugly helmet to me, but I can see it working for women with short hair. Baseball caps are practical, blocks sun, can keep hair out of your eyes, and is great with sunglasses on days you don't want to be seen. For the most part I don't like hats because I have long hair and it flattens my hair. I wear them to garden/tea parties (the more extravagant, the better), at the beach, or when the weather is too hot. But the hair flattening thing annoys the crap out of me.

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    6. @Emily L.:

      I completely agree with your thoughts here on hats.

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  6. This is off topic, but could I have some advice Andrew please?

    I'm seeing this guy who I initially thought was shy and geeky (how he came across to me!) but recently revealed that he is used to girls sleeping with him very easily, like on a first date. I'm confused because he didn't even try to kiss me until our third date. And I intentionally would not go for a player guy. He was surprised that I still haven't had sex with him yet.

    He seems to like me, as he said he was okay with waiting, and is starting to bring up relationships. Although has not asked me to be his girlfriend yet. He seems to be in two minds ... so is there anything I can do so he commits soon? And how can I not come across as a prude without sex?

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    1. ...find out if he's sleeping with any other women, OR maybe jsut ask him if he wants to date you, exclusively. include the word "exclusively" if you don't want to ask about who he's sleeping with.

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    2. @ daphne

      You want your man to commit? you need to give him a reason to want to (he has to WANT TO). hint - sex isn't the most important reason for a man to commit, especially in modern western societies, where sex is easily available outside of commitment.

      Best practice would be, engage him emotionally, while showing him you're a high quality woman, who has got options and doesn't settle for less than what you want.

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    3. @Digra - that's better advice, if she hasn't already done so.

      @Andrew, Digra - unrelated to that, what advice do you have for a woman about trying to emotionally engage a man she knows is having sex with other women? presumably he's just having sex with them but expresses interest in the woman similar to what daphne's asking about.

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    4. @Daphne:

      You don't come off as a prude for not wanting to sleep with a guy who has not committed. He is entitled to nothing. If he indicates otherwise, that is a sure sign to get rid of him.

      That is strange how he felt the need to share that women usually sleep with him quickly, and that he showed surprise that you have not yet gone to bed with him. That would kind of rub me the wrong way if a guy said that to me. I'm wondering if he is a player, or if he truly is a dork who is exaggerating his conquests. Either way, proceed with caution. It sounds like you're already playing it safe---good for you.

      Kudos to the ladies on here who are willing to go the extra mile to achieve that emotional connection with a guy who they do not feel is convinced. I usually get irritated with the perceived wishy washy behavior and just pull away. :/

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    5. @Bethany-I agree with your conclusion. Without being sure in Daphne's example, I'd rather not assume he's sleeping w other women.

      ...If a guy is sleeping with other women I'd have nothing to do with him unless he was some exceptionally amazing exception to everything. Even in that case I'd tell him how if felt, and if he ever wanted to date me exclusively, I'd be very open to it, but I don't know how I'd feel trying to emotionally connect with some guy who was sleeping w other women. In fact, it'd be impossible

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  7. Wow thanks for the replies guys! I really appreciate it.

    @Bethany - Yup I'm finding it hard to believe he really is a player! Haven't seen any signs of 'game' or charisma etc. I think he makes a lot of money in his job, but he's not flashy so ...

    @Emily L - the best advice I have read for emotionally connecting with a guy in 'Fascinating Girl' by Helen Andelin. I try the stuff on this guy and it's amazing how much he spills to me ;)

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    1. @ Daphne - thanks! If I have time I'll read it--seems interesting based on the table of contents.

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  8. @ Emily L

    You have answered your own question.

    And such a man may give the faintest facade of commitment to a woman that betrays her own boundaries (however she rationalizes it) but I shit you not, odds are stacked against it since the man already seen that the woman has poor self-worth.

    Result? Yeah, you guessed it.

    I'll say this in other terms.

    take two people aware of their own self worth. if they have a relationship grounded on mutual respect, good things can happen since they will see each other as human beings of value.

    This not being the case - the smartest one (with the most self respect) may either not be interested at all in any sort of relationship, or see the other person simply as a means to an end, a tool, little more.

    It's not what i'd like it to be, it is what it is. No amount of rationalizing or sugar coating can change the simplest truth.

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    1. @Digra - I did that intentionally, but hoped for a different option! I agree w you though.

      It amazes me too that men get a boost of confidence from dating women with low self worth. it also amazes me when some men don't recognize that a woman with self worth is the better choice to date over a women with low self worth and no class. and i'm even more amazed that a man will constantly date the wrong type of woman, complain about being single, go through all of the emotional highs and lows of slumming, and make poor dating choices over dating a quality woman who likes him but for the mere fact that she is attainable, makes him gravitate towards difficult/dead-end relationships because in his mind the unattainable is desirable. That's not a sign of positive natural selection, but just plan stupid. I am amazed :)

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    2. @ Emily L

      "It amazes me too that men get a boost of confidence from dating women with low self worth."

      Who says they do? Generally men do not date women who have poor self esteem. Unless they are very lacking in that aspect themselves.

      Yeah, I'll concede that some guys are stupid, and lazy, when presented with an easy source of sex. A self-assured man won't spend the time he could use to improve himself, or pursue better prospects, on a woman that 'sells' herself short.

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    3. @Digra-I don't disagree w ur conclusion, and i think it amazes me bc those men (and the same goes for women too) don't recognize (or maybe they don't care) when presented w an easy source of sex (for example). In my own experiences, it never felt natural to me for drop my panties for a guy simply because he had a fancy car or bought me drinks or spent a lot of money on me. Those things don't impress me. But I have female friends who do just that. At the slightest hint of attention a guy throws their way, they'll have sex with the guy, maybe a few times, and then they get the cold shoulder and wonder why. But while they're having sex and giving up sex, they're on a high, and probably in denial about the inevitable, which as I've seen usually involves them getting dumped. So people who value themselves and have self-respect, I would think, operate differently.

      I've always had a theory based on population trends and its makeup that guys, solely based on being outnumbered by women, have it easier than women do. As a guy in the dating world, do you think there's any truth to that?

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    4. It's a factor. however, even if the sex ratio was more evenly matched, this situation would probably still happen - women tend to want the confident, successful men that other women want. which are only about 20% of all men.

      No doubt, some of these guys may be spinning plates (I'm taking a sabbatical), while the women fight and undercut each other for the right to be with them - this ties up with what you were saying about female sabotage.

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    5. Digra-very true on the successful/confident, but damn, i didn't know the pickings were so slim, at only 20%. so, in theory, of the 80% of the remaining single man pool, an above-average woman could have her pick? ..or is this one of those areas of complex male theory XX's don't understand? on issue #2, what do men think about women who engage in sabotage?

      from my observations, i think women do it more, but men also do it often (surprisingly). there's a gf i HAD, and i found out she was sneaking into our gym without paying membership dues. it was kind o'surprising but upon learning about that (plus she was a bit psycho), i stopped associating w her w/o telling anyone why (bc i didn't want to embarrass her). she proceeded to bad-mouth me to a guy i liked, saying i used to sleep around, which was not true. in another instance there was a guy i lusted for, and on occasion his guy friends would invite me to hang out w them. but they also (out of the blue) decided to tell me one night that he was a man whore, which kind of shocked me. i eventually asked the guy about it and realized that they were jealous of the guy, and that it wasn't true. i know that these things happen, but why? are people that insecure? ...and more importantly, how can they think these are acceptable forms of behavior?

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    6. I'll take a guess that most men don't appreciate the unnecessary drama. the ones looking for LTR certainly are going to be put off women who sabotage (it's linked to lack of self worth). that said, players may not care about it.

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    7. @Digra, i would hope that a true player knows how to play his cards right and doesn't slum...or are these players-in-denial? Players, sorry, playas must not care lol

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  9. This post is very enlightening to me, as I sit here typing in my loose jeans. I have other ones I'm convinced make me look like a woman of ill repute but I may have to re-evaluate.

    Question, though: I'm 40, almost 41, in good shape, athletic figure, good proportions. Does the same still apply for those of us outside your targeted age bracket?

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    1. Yes, if not more so. Younger girls have a lot of other advantages in terms of looks, so older women should be paying more attention to the things they can most easily control.

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    2. Right. I do have a complex that people will think I'm an aging floozy but, as your post suggests, this is probably a mental misconception on my part.

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    3. @Danielle:

      Don't let those who haven't aged well shame you into not wearing attractive things.

      I've gotten negative comments from time to time, but the comments are consistently from those who do not go to the gym and eat more than they should. The dissatisfaction with their own choices shows when they criticize others for being healthy and having the ability to wear more youthful clothing.

      And sure, let's go shopping! Lol.

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    4. ...it's possible to dress attractively at any age. @Bethany-I agree on the point about not aging well. There are also ways to make cosmetic enhancements.

      Does anyone have any thoughts about gauging how a woman would look based on how her parents (maybe primarily her mother) looks?

      I'm banking on the fact that my mom is looks younger than she is, is attractive and has a perfect body. I've been told that I look 10 years younger than i am.

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    5. @Emily L.:

      Ha! I really hope that no one attempts to estimate my shelf life based on a glance at my mother. She has nearly drank herself to death and looks like HELL. And she previously was a gorgeous woman---better looking than me. But in my defense, environmental factors made my mother look haggard. I was so horrified at Andrew's post about men considering a woman's mother...unfair! Lol.

      On the other hand, I have already somewhat proven that I can stand the test of time after popping out two kids, at least. Most of my peers didn't survive that one.

      It is a fact, though, that genetics contribute to how one ages. But of course there are plenty of life choices that influence aging as well.

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    6. @ Emily L:
      “Does anyone have any thoughts about gauging how a woman would look based on how her parents (maybe primarily her mother) looks?”

      Yes, I will observe a woman's mother’s shape, as her mother's current figure often predicts the woman's future figure (I know this unfair).

      E.g. I dated a girl in the past who I suspected might be prone to developing larger legs and ass if she didn’t exercise and ate junk food. When I met her mother I was convinced it would happen. Lo and behold when she went through a stressful period she gained weight exactly where I thought she might.

      I tend to be quite forgiving on judging a woman by her mother’s other characteristics such as wrinkles, teeth, hair etc. as these probably correlate closer to lifestyle rather than genetics, therefore, I will observe her attitude to diet, exercise, smoking and sunscreen etc.

      I can’t imagine gauging how a woman would look based on how her father looks.

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    7. ^ This assessment makes perfect sense. Although diet/exercise habits are also lifestyle choices, they are frequently learned behaviors from previous generations.

      The women on my ex husband's side were all enormous and none of them ever exercise or eat healthy foods, even in spite of health problems caused by these habits. When you grow up eating a certain way, that is hard to reverse.

      It is fair and wise to consider that some forms of aging are caused by lifestyle choices such as smoking, but I would be surprised to come by a non-smoker with smoking parents. If one or both parents smoke, their children will likely grow up to be smokers.

      So while it's important to consider lifestyle choices made by one's love interest in comparison to their parents, these habits are almost always shared.

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    8. @Bethany - lol! Very true that some things go with age tho. and genes are a factor, but like you said, many things that can improve one's appearance are controllable.

      @Thomas - a guy friend of mine was mortified after meeting the mother of a woman he's dating (they've since broken up)...apparently her mother not only looked like a man but acted and dressed like one. I saw the facebook photos and it's true. The mother is married to a man, but it's sad altogether. He was on the fence about her and ran like mad after meeting the mom. I should have him send the mom a link to Andrew's blog lol I have my theory about ugliness, but a woman that looks like her father....to each his/ own....

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  10. @Danielle:

    I think this rule should apply to you even MORE in some ways since loose jeans could "age" you. You should be proud of keeping your figure into your 40s and dress accordingly. I'm like this also. I'm in my 30s.

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    1. Thanks Bethany! I think I look better now than I did in my 20s, for sure. It's a combination of inner and outer beauty. Want to go shopping with me for some jeans that fit? :)

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  11. Nice Blog to See the new trends in Jeans liked it so much
    Wanna have them for my girl friend.
    People Jeans For Women
    http://www.trendin.com/people/womens-jeans-jeggings-22

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  12. Old Navy jeans are some of the worst offenders of this category. Even the "skinny" cut ones. I read a blog post awhile back about how to give yourself a butt lift through buying the right denim. Ton of pictures and totally worth reading. http://www.graspingforobjectivity.com/2012/07/gap.html

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  13. I read a lot of the manosphere (it all started with your blog) and it gets a little out there. You always bring me back to the real world, 2014.

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  14. A little note on femininity:

    I was at a conference this week, sat in the back and to pass the time I started taking mental notes on the outward expression of femininity of women in the audience. With Andrew’s notes in mind about what types of outward appearance appeals to men.

    Ages of the women were late 30s to 50s. Professional women. (It was a mixed crowd of both men and women.)

    Out of about 50 women, two wore red, one wore the infamous salmony pink color, and the rest work black. Very few had styled hair (=neatly brushed and artfully tied, somehow specially groomed, highlights). None except for me wore slim-fitting clothing that showed off the shape of their bodies. Clothing was loose, boxy, higher necklines. Very few women were slim, actually. Very few women wore skirts. Some did wear high heels, but these were essentially thicker heels worn with black pants. Now granted this was a professional event so maybe they thought ‘why bother’ … but heck, my professional go-to outfit is a short slim-fitting skirt and heels. I will never ever wear pants when doing business. Many wore glasses with thick frames (as opposed to frameless or contacts).

    A couple of the women I thought were very pretty … but even they wore black blazers, black pants … the man uniform.

    I was puzzled by this, that the trend in the room was so uniform … and these women weren’t just from my city, there were women there from both coasts and the Midwest.

    Not a trace of the light girliness that you see in high school and on college campuses. I was probably the girliest one in the room with my orange-pink-peach-thingy scarf, tight short skirt & heels, hair, makeup, etc. I was really struck by this change … what happens to women? The weight of responsibility, raising a family, disappointments in life all seem to pile up and take a toll on how women present themselves or the effort they are willing to put in. Or they think they won’t be taken seriously if the dress more feminine? I’m not a man, but judging from what Andrew says, I can imagine a man would scan the crowd, as men usually do, and find not a single woman whose femininity would make an impression on him. I was really sad to come to this conclusion. It sure gave me a lot of encouragement to keep doing what I’m doing vis a vis appearance to stand out because of my femininity, and gave me a lot of food for thought about recapturing that light girlishness of high school and college.

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    1. @Juliet,

      I've noticed this, too, but I actually don't think it's "the weight of responsibility, raising a family, and disappointments in life" that's responsible. Think about it -- male executives don't often care that much if a woman is wearing pink or has some element of lace in her outfit. Female executives care. Many of the women who are now corporate bigwigs (or political bigwigs, or bigwigs of any other kind) started their careers in the 70's and 80's, when emerging feminist cultural norms were telling them, "In order to succeed like a man, you must dress like a man." Most modern feminists don't subscribe to that doctrine and do wear skirts and heels more than their 70's and 80's counterparts, but those older women haven't quite caught up.

      Another thing -- don't forget that women are jealous. If you are a 50 year-old female corporate executive whose beauty is fading and who was taught to be more masculine in order to succeed at the beginning of your career, the last thing you like seeing at the office is a pretty 20 year-old intern who styles her hair every morning and wears pink. There is some element there of, "If I had to go through dressing like a man to jumpstart my career, then so do you."

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  15. Lol great expressions in this post cracked me up!

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  16. @ Juliet,

    I'm a medical student and until recently I made sure to never dress in an overtly feminine manner. I was scared I'd be laughed off or, worse, be thought stupid (idk why) if I wore girly things to professional manner. It's interesting that when I started wearing skirts and earrings and let my hair down when I was rounding on patients, it was always the female attendings (supervising doctors that med students work under) who responded in a negative and suspicious manner. Their body language would be so negative. I think subconsciously women stop being feminine at work cuz they are too scared by their female bosses. At least that was my experience.

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  17. I am in my late twenties, events and marketing in the arts and music is my job. I am currently studying counselling. I've been apart of the trendy music scene I guess where the ladies don't dress as feminine. They don't look like dumps, but they are not I think perhaps because everyones still young baggy t shirts are attractive as a cultural reference because the guys know you'll be young and able. Odied underneath. Being part of the in is attractive in this respect. However mis shapely clothing is unattractive to both sexes believe me. Anyway I am finding that some of the most 'feminine' looking women who wear heals and tight clothing and are strongly career driven are repelling men, I have a few who I socialise with who make big efforts and they look good, but they're attitudes are very selfish and bitter towards guys. They reel them in but the guys dont stick around. Where as some of my more casual freinds who do make efforts, but not in the same way, have a warmer and friendlier approach with guys. They attract less dudes, they find that the ones who are attracted stick around. I keep seeing this pattern. The more effort made the more lilley she is to be perpetually single and

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    1. Yeah but hey one of your down to earth friends who normally wears baggy jeans/t-shirts to throw on some more feminine clothing and watch what happens...

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  18. I hate jeans! Jeans make you look poor and regular that's why I don't wear them.

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    1. This is a good point. I mean, they are rugged, blue-collar work clothes. I think women can look good in spite of the fact they are jeans, but not because they are jeans. Other materials are better, and skirts/dresses usually trump pants when it comes to looking sexy.

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  19. Wow this has got to be the most bullshit article I have ever read? Style is subjective you simple minded twit. Could it be possible that they like loose fitting jeans, and dislike tight jeans? The fact is that people are going to wear what they want to wear, there is no deep meaning to it. You seem like one of those annoying pretentious fashion gurus whom can't accept the fact that not everyone likes skinny jeans. Personally I'll be glad when skinny jeans go out of style, but that's just me. If you like them fine, but don't force everyone to share your opinion. There is nothing objective about your article. Get it through your thick skull.

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    1. Yo PK, you kinda missed the point. The blog (in general, not just this post) is about what men like and what you can do to attract them. The advice assumes that you have an interest in that. Otherwise, yes, I agree: wear whatever you want.

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  20. What is your opinion on the latest trend: The Boyfriend Jeans?

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    1. I think you already know my answer if you read the post.

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  21. What is your opinion on mom jeans, then? Myfavorite ones are from Topshop, and a pretty awesome grey pair from Urban Outfitters. I like skinny jeans as much as the next girl, and I wear them tight, although I prefer high waisted right now. Skinny jeans simply can't be the trend forever. Mom Jeans look mighty fierce with a long sleeved crop top, and some killer heels….or with a tucked in t shirt and some cool Adidas. You said yourself, that its all about context, and you are right, but skinny jeans are not going to be the thing forever. Now High rise flares, boyfriend jeans and mum jeans are kind of taking over.

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  22. OOPs, I had no idea you were some guy trying to tell women how to dress. i thought you were someone that knew about clothing. Never mind….but let me telly, guys don't care what you wear. If it looks good on you, and you have a strut and long legs, and you are confident, it all works out. Wear what you want.Never had a guy turn me down and I tend to like some rather fashion forward things.

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