Sunday, January 26, 2014

5 Winter Fashions Men Like

Most men are familiar with the "75 degree rule," which refers to the fact that, in Spring, women seem to come out from their Winter hibernation once the temperature rises above 75 degrees Fahrenheit (for those of you not burdened by an archaic system of scientific units, that is 24 degrees Celsius). Spring comes, and hot girls are suddenly out everywhere wearing shorts, dresses, small t-shirts and skirts. When I first heard of the rule, I remember speculating that perhaps girls weren't actually indoors any more than men during the winter; it was just that we noticed them less when it was cold because they were all bundled up in clothes that hid their beauty.

I still stand by my speculation, because the simple truth is that the feminine figure is more attractive when it isn't concealed  (yes, even if the woman is overweight), and the more delicate and feminine parts of a woman's body - like her neck, jawline and breasts - add nothing to her attractiveness when they are covered by a jacket or scarf. So female winter fashion is all about minimizing the effect of the extra material. To this end, the fit of your winter clothes is more important than anything else. The more your clothes follow the natural lines of your figure, the better. This doesn't mean that you always need to wear tight clothes, but it does mean that the bulky jacket your mom bought for you last year probably makes you look like a man. Three tight layers are far better than one heavy layer.

Anyway, here are five female winter fashions/considerations that will make men find you more attractive in winter. There are obviously plenty of other ways to look attractive in cold weather, but these are good starting points:

1. A Jacket That Fits You. For the purposes of looking good in cold weather, nothing is more important than the fit of your jacket. Men should be able to see your curves when you are wearing your jacket. This means that it should follow the curves of your waist and hips. It also means having sleeves that don't add bulk to your arms. And then there are the general aesthetics related to having as few wrinkles as possible from excess material. Most popular clothes stores design and cut their clothes for "average" people, which in the United States, means fat people. So for many girls, getting a jacket that fits will mean having to buy something that is more expensive, or else having a cheaper jacket altered by a tailor. A draw-string at the waist can also help to achieve this effect.


2. Fur-Trimmed Hooded Jackets. I've often told my guy friends how much I like these, and they always agree. The fur is extremely soft, warm and playful = feminine; and if you choose the color to properly complement your complexion, it can be extremely attractive visually as well. Popular fashion seems to have caught on to this in the last year or so, and more girls are wearing them. Because of this, you might not stand out as much by wearing one, but it also means that it is much easier to find them in stores. Besides, "looking like every other girl" is only problematic when every other girl looks bad. Here is an example:



3. Tight Sweaters. A tight sweater embraces everything I said above about the importance of wearing well-fitted clothes. There is something both sexual and nurturing about a woman wearing a tight sweater. It is sexual for the obvious reason that it shows off her figure, but it is nurturing because it gives her an air of warmth and comfort. (Note: We left turtle-neck sweaters in the 90s for a reason: they are hideous on both sexes. Never wear one.)


4. Tall, Heeled Boots. Uggs are great if you want to look like a little girl; but if you want to attract guys over the age of 15, you will need to embrace a more mature look. Tall, heeled boots are sexy. They achieve all of the effects of attractive posture that you get from high heels, and their height draws attention to your thighs and waist. Heels are more important than height, but if heels aren't possible, tall boots without heels are still better than most other shoes - probably warmer too. All three of the examples below are great.


5. Leggings. Because they contain no vital organs, your limbs are the parts of your body least prone to the effects of cold weather; so most women are capable of going outdoors in leggings, even in the middle of winter. This is good, because they are sexy as hell. They make every woman's legs and ass look 10 - 20 % better than normal, and because they are so popular and reveal no skin, no one thinks they look slutty. Yes, they are hotter than a pair of tight jeans - probably because cotton can never conform to your body as well as synthetic, stretchy materials. And no, you don't need to be thin for them to make you look better. Black is obviously the most versatile color, but designs and patterns can work too, as long as they aren't overly obnoxious (e.g. cartoon characters or logos). Wear two or three pairs if it's too cold.

If any of these looks seem like they "aren't you" it is probably only because you haven't tried them yet.


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5. Sexy Versus Cute

44 comments:

  1. Interesting read. Have you ever considered hyper linking your clothing suggestions? You could make money like fashion bloggers. Just a thought, since I like the coat you recommend, but now don't know where to find the exact same one :)

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  2. That't a bit outside of the scope of this blog, but if you are interested, try doing an image search for that image. Just click and drag the picture into a Google image search box in a new window. That should find it. Like this: Image Search

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  3. I own and regular wear all but #2. The one I owned looked a bit childish so I ditched it. I naturally prefer tighter clothes because I have a very curvy body (large breasts, smallish waist, curvy hips/bubble butt) and I will look 'fat' if I wear clothes that are too loose. I find its effective to just layer my fall clothes to make them more suitable for winter.

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  4. I am so glad you posted this. I have a general question about dresses and skirts I've been wanting to ask you. I almost exclusively wear them because I like being girly, but some of the styles are more "flowy" than others and therefore might not show off my body as well as other clothes might. Is it ok to wear them?

    I do wear tight dresses and skirts too, I guess I am wondering if tight jeans and sweaters, or shorts and shirts, are better than the below options.

    During winter I wear outfits very similar to these:

    http://us.asos.com/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=1876935&r=2

    http://likealady.net/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/Deep-burgandy-sweater-and-feminine-white-skirt-worn-high-at-the-waist-paired-with-a-belt-and-leggings-cute-cozy-winter-attire.jpg

    Summer:

    http://asimplestatement.com/2013/06/03/fit-and-flare-frocks/

    http://www.oneaviandaemon.com/isabel/summer-skirt-1/

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  5. okay you don't know what you're talking about regarding leggings. a great pair of jeans makes you look way better than any pair of leggings will. girls, please do not take fashion advice from a straight man

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    1. Define better? If your desire is to show off and enhance the lower part of women's body for most of a day, then jeans are rarely going to be as effective as leggings. Maybe you are lucky and have a great fit in a certain style/brand but that's the exception. I can buy a brand new pair of skinny jeans, fit as perfect as possible and I will still look better in a too short sweater dress and a pair of wunder unders I have had for a year.

      And Andrew doesn't give fashion advice, he gives advice for clothes to wear to attract Alpha Males. There are plenty of fashion styles (fads?) that we cooo over that do nothing for guys...

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    2. I give fashion advice that the majority of Men like.

      And I agree - maybe a custom pair of jeans could make you ass look as good as leggings, but they're prohibitively expensive. Normal jeans definitely don't look as good.

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    3. Yes, I did mean expensive jeans make you look better than leggings. Everyone should invest in a pair of great jeans though, if they haven't already. I have asked "alpha males" and they all agree. Also, saying to wear THREE pairs of leggings is absolutely ridiculous. There is no way any girl will look good in three pairs of leggings.

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    4. I've got to agree with Rebecca. A great pair of jeans is something every girl should invest in. And, in fact, every man as well. Nice denim can make a ridiculously significant difference, especially if you don't have the best figure. Also, unless you've got an amazing body, always go for dark wash. I buy my premium denim on Gilt and other flash sale websites, so I get them for less than half price. I've tried several popular brands, and so far the best is AG Adriano Goldschmied.

      That being said, the best cheap denim I've found in terms of being figure-flattering is Urban Outfitters. I typically consider UO overpriced and low quality, and although the jeans supposedly don't last super long, they're pretty cheap and make your butt look AMAZING. Granted, I have a relatively slim figure; still, I hate my butt--I don't really have one. I got the BDG skinnies, $39 on sale, and I've had them for about a year now. The first time I wore them was on a night out at a college bar (so I was also wearing heels), and the guy I was hooking up with at the time noted his appreciation.

      As much as guys might like to see chicks in leggings, most girls would agree that wearing them out during the day comes off as trashy.

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    5. Trashy? No. Leggings definitely do not look trashy.

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    6. well, dark leggings make me look thinner and more toned. They are easily combined with many clothes to create different outfits. They are cheap. They come in many colours and designs. They can be worn all day and night, in gym, at school, at work or at a night out. they make you look fabulous when you feel sick or tired and don't feel like being squeezed into pants, They look good with any shoes, I actually love tucking them into my ancle boots. yes, they can look bad in a woman, in the same way a pair of pants or a skirt can look bad in a woman. They will look bad if they are worn tre wrong way (eg. see through leggings that allow everyone walking behind you to see your underwear), or in an unflattering colour or pattern (eg. leggings that instead of hiding cellulite they make it more prominent), or cheap-looking leggings, too tight or too big leggings (they should not sag on the knees).. It depends on the fabric they are made of, the pattern and colour..

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  6. leggings may look slutty when associated with "camel toes".

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  7. Quick question: my ex and I were friends for a while before dating, and we still share the same small circle of close friends. He broke up with me three weeks ago and said he really wanted to stay friends, and has messaged me on Facebook chat three times starting in the past week (I've responded but not really done anything to continue the conversation). How do I cut him off, maintain my self-respect, and avoid pining after him, without compromising my social life, since he is at a lot of the social events I would normally go to and has no desire to avoid me?

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    1. Just don't answer him on Facebook chat, and when you see him out, be perfectly polite. If he brings up you not responding to his messages, simply state that you are perfectly happy to make small talk when you bump into one another, but that you need to move on with your life. If he isn't a total piece of shit he will understand.

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  8. Can you wear leggings if the shirt you're wearing doesn't cover your butt, though?

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    1. I think you can. I often do when running errands or grabbing brunch on the weekends, but I also make sure I don't have any showing panty lines and that my butt looks good. I think having a great butt makes a difference.

      I have had trouble finding great leggings so I usually wear my lululemon workout pants which I LOVE LOVE LOVE. Does anyone have other brands they love and would recommend???

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    2. I don't see why not. Like Emily said, if you do it right, it can work. It's definitely more sexual, kind of like showing cleavage, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't or can't. It does mean some girls will SAY you shouldn't, but they're probably just jealous.

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    3. I like Express leggings and jeggings. And yes legging only look as great as your ass does. So while they are a win for women with nice bottoms it can be a miss for others.

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    4. Thanks Y, I'll check them out. J.Crew has some pixie pants I'm going to try. I hear those are good too.

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  9. These are also great recommendations, but some of them (like leggings) are kind of casual. What do you recommend women wear to work during winter (assuming business casual)?

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  10. There are a few age-related posts on the blog in regards to women's age, attractiveness and strategy. Have you thought about writing something about age gaps and men's age?
    Especially for those of us who are young (twenties) and interested in men quite a bit older. I am aware of some obstacles; men who are divorced/eternal bachelors, differences in life experience and maturity etc.
    I'm 23 and can usually have my pick with men but find so many players approaching me among men in their twenties. I've been out with a couple of guys in their early forties and they are both attractive, intelligent, successful and seem much more interested in something serious. I can also connect well with them conversation-wise.
    I am wondering if there are particular red flags to look out for or other considerations to make? (For all cultures I might add, am not American).

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    1. Good advice! I'm moving to DC, so this helps :)

      Would you wear a knee-length pencil skirt, tights, and heeled thigh-high boots like the ones on the left? Or would you find the combination of thigh-high boots and a skirt inappropriate for business casual?

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    2. oh my god Emily, no skirts above the knee? I couldn't do it. I work in a high powered biz environment, interact with a lot of CEOs, and my go-to outfit involves a black skirt a couple inches above the knee. It's form-fitting and elegant. I would feel dowdy in knee-length.

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  12. Oops- meant to post that questions here, so again :) ...
    What's your opinion on leg warmers? And boot socks, that kinda thing? I live in the Northwest & sometimes have to wear boots from October to June :P ... sooo I try to make them as feminine as possible (can't usually do heels in all the rain & mud though). Sometimes I wear leg warmers or boot socks (I prefer light-colored w/lace trim usually) & men have complimented them before, so I was just wondering the general male opinion. Thanks!

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    1. Majorly annoying that you have stolen my name. I am the only and original Lala.

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  13. What about fur coats in general? - political correctness aside.
    Like this:
    http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/originals/a4/0c/df/a40cdf2560ceb1d5e5a6f15f076b2d57.jpg

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  14. another benefit of leggings: they're so comfy! It's like you're wearing nothing at all, nothing at all, NOTHING AT ALL!!!! http://th07.deviantart.net/fs70/PRE/i/2011/008/c/b/stupid_sexy_flanders_by_thefightingmongooses-d36omio.png

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    1. I don't know what to tell you... I made the point forcefully for a reason, and that is that i really dislike them. If you want to post a link to what you think of as a turtleneck i can confirm whether or not were talking about the same thing.

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    2. Sorry Andrew, turtle necks are, and always have been sexy. The key is to wear them tight, or cropped:


      https://www.google.com/search?q=sweater+girls&rlz=1C1TEUA_enGB502&espv=210&es_sm=93&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=Db_1UuqkLZLwhQfhtIGAAQ&ved=0CAoQ_AUoAg&biw=1366&bih=643

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    4. Lala, I still disagree. If you took any of those photos and cut off the neck to leave a normal or low neckline (but kept the tightness), they'd look much better. Ask your male friends. I would be very surprised to find any guy that says that the turtle-neck itself (rather than the fit or color or design) makes the sweater more attractive.

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    5. cbwilfer, I'll admit that Jackie Kennedy looks OK in a few of those turtle-neck photos, but it is a case of "in spite of not because of" the turtle-neck. Especially when I see photos on the same page of her in normal sweaters, and it is clearly more attractive. Again, ask your male friends. But don't ask them if turlte-necks are hot or acceptable; ask them if the turtle-neck is better than a normal v-neck or crew-neck - all else being equal (tightness, etc.)

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  16. Perfect illustrative example of winter fashion, as described by Andrew:

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    1. How silly of me! I forgot to post the link...hahaha.
      Here it is:

      http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2554431/Shes-dotty-Michelle-Keegan-wears-polka-dot-shirt-dinner-fianc-Mark-Wright.html

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  17. THANK YOU for this post. It has been so cold :(

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  18. Andrew,

    May I suggest a similar post regarding makeup? I'm really interested to know what men think.

    For example, it is my understanding that many men don't find smokey eyes or glossy lips that attractive.

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    1. Cheryl-unlike clothing makeup is not seasonal but is more along the lines of whether it's appropriate for the occasion. Smoky eye may be permissible in certain professions for day wear, and even depending on the evening occasion it may not be appropriate at night. There are ways to do smoky and reverse smoky tastefully, but I've never heard of a woman not doing smoky eyes in winter versus summer. Same with red lipstick. I think it's more dependent on the occasion/. I'd be curious (and shocked if there is) to know if seasonal makeup makes a difference. I can also see things looking different/better on individuals with different skin tones, and my two cents is that it's more a matter of finding out what looks good on an individual. Some women also don't do their makeup properly. For a man to notice and not like smoky eyes or glossly lips...there may be more to it than just a like/dislike for it.

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  19. Not sure if this is on your to-write list, but would be interested to see a spring version of this post if you can

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    1. Agree with Emily L. Spring time and jackets are very confusing so please help us!

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